Letting Go of Perfect Parenting (The Truth About Raising Successful Kids)
00:00:00.000 | There's just like so much pressure to try to raise the perfect child,
00:00:04.520 | be the perfect parent.
00:00:05.960 | What can people do?
00:00:07.320 | Because it seems like a lot of parents carry a tremendous amount of burden
00:00:11.960 | and stress about trying to make sure their kid has every opportunity,
00:00:15.080 | gets the perfect school, gets the perfect this.
00:00:17.400 | The amount of control you have over your kid's success
00:00:20.400 | and outcomes is quite a bit less than many of us think.
00:00:23.280 | So the corollary of a lot of the choices we make probably don't matter
00:00:27.280 | as much as we think is that, you know, you could do everything right,
00:00:32.120 | even if that were a thing.
00:00:33.440 | And then your kid might not turn out to be an Olympic athlete
00:00:36.800 | like you had hoped or whatever was your was your dream.
00:00:39.880 | And that loss of control, that's I think really that's really hard
00:00:42.600 | for a lot of people.
00:00:43.400 | And I think sometimes people would benefit by asking a little bit more.
00:00:47.800 | What do I want my life to look like with my kid right now
00:00:51.400 | rather than what am I trying to build?