Using Conversational Tactics Outside of a Business Setting | All The Hacks #shorts
00:00:00.000 | Do you use any of these tactics with family and friends?
00:00:03.320 | I do.
00:00:03.720 | I think the biggest one that I use is the word because the thing that happens in
00:00:08.160 | conversations is we say what happened is factual.
00:00:11.360 | It's interesting, but it doesn't tell me why you're doing something, why it matters.
00:00:15.880 | The problem is if I say, well, tell me why you feel that way,
00:00:20.520 | or tell me why you did that.
00:00:21.920 | I'm putting you in this self-evaluation mode that you can't
00:00:26.120 | really tap into in a conversation.
00:00:29.760 | Even with a therapist, you have a hard time doing it.
00:00:31.640 | But if you're telling me that you did this and you did that.
00:00:35.960 | And I say, because now I'm just handing you the next word for you to have to
00:00:42.000 | respond to it, I'm almost insisting that you tell me I'm creating a gap
00:00:46.540 | that you feel you have to fill in.
00:00:48.160 | I say, because you feel like you have to pick that up and say, well, because
00:00:51.960 | I wasn't feeling very good because I'm feeling this way that now you understand
00:00:55.960 | why, because it's an easy one to use with people.