Turn Your Brain Into Your Best Friend (Not Your Worst Enemy) – You Only Need To Know THIS
00:00:00.000 | memory is never a retrieval. Often we think about memory as I'm going to go into the file cabinets
00:00:04.960 | of my brain and I'm going to grab this memory. I'm going to pull it out and I'm going to look
00:00:07.840 | at it. That's not how memory is. Memory is what they call a reconstruction. I'm always reconstructing
00:00:12.400 | my memory from the present. But there's one other really important part. So there's the whole
00:00:15.440 | framing of it, the big picture, the story, but there's also the filtering of it. That's the focus.
00:00:19.120 | So as an example, if I'm looking back on the last five months, as I gave an example, or the last
00:00:22.800 | even five weeks, I can look for the ways in which I've been a loser, right? I can look for all the
00:00:27.360 | ways in which I've failed over the last five weeks. And that's me filtering for and searching
00:00:31.920 | for certain things. And that's often what people do is they'll look for the ways in which things
00:00:35.760 | are going wrong. Instead, you can proactively look for the ways that things are going right.
00:00:39.360 | I can look for the ways in which I've made progress in ways, you know, and I've learned
00:00:43.120 | things that my past self didn't know. It's just ultimately up to your control.