back to indexLana Rhoades on the Dark Side of the Porn Industry, Why She Left and Where She's At Now
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- Welcome to another episode of Curious Mike. 00:00:20.880 |
but I actually came across one of your podcasts 00:00:23.880 |
'cause I was messing with one of your friends, 00:00:27.960 |
and you were talking about just the dark sides 00:00:30.840 |
of the adult film industry and the porn industry, 00:00:59.640 |
Was yours a usual upbringing, or how'd that go growing up? 00:01:08.400 |
that I didn't even realize were wrong in my childhood. 00:01:11.960 |
Like the past year, I have started going to therapy, 00:01:16.280 |
and I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, 00:01:31.420 |
I feel like if you don't have borderline BPD, 00:01:40.000 |
I had to go back and think when was the first time 00:01:43.680 |
that I had this feeling that no one loves me, 00:01:51.520 |
where it feels like you have to hurt yourself in some way. 00:01:56.040 |
And so that came from just like when you're a young child, 00:02:01.040 |
and you're developing your attachment to parents 00:02:09.480 |
if people invalidate you, like say you're crying, 00:02:12.160 |
and your parents yell at you to make you stop 00:02:15.200 |
or they hit you, and I'm talking two, three years old, 00:02:27.280 |
I actually thought that everyone's parents hit them, 00:02:33.640 |
I thought maybe it just started young doing it, 00:02:39.320 |
I was like, how old were you when your parents hit you 00:02:42.520 |
And they were like, what, my parents never hit me? 00:02:48.880 |
and then I have a sister who has schizophrenia too. 00:02:52.400 |
So I feel like I wasn't dealt the best hand of cards 00:03:01.060 |
which definitely contributed to the decisions 00:03:06.080 |
because if your brain is just completely warped 00:03:13.040 |
going through certain things can actually change 00:03:20.160 |
And so I don't think that I would've made the decisions 00:03:26.160 |
that I made if I was in a better state of mind, 00:03:36.840 |
and that was because I finally was able to get away 00:03:42.960 |
and live my own life, and experience the world, 00:03:45.600 |
and kind of heal, 'cause I wasn't in that constant. 00:03:49.440 |
- Right, did you have your father around, or no? 00:04:04.460 |
who also, she kind of ended up in the industry. 00:04:11.440 |
I don't think she had a father figure around, 00:04:15.480 |
and it led her to hanging around some people, 00:04:18.800 |
and she ended up in a really messed up situation. 00:04:29.320 |
is when you kind of started getting into the industry. 00:04:35.000 |
What was the steps that you took to even get into that? 00:04:38.440 |
- Well, yeah, it was kind of a progressive ladder effect. 00:04:50.680 |
And it's not that I don't know my dad at all. 00:04:58.600 |
but he signed the paper so that I could work there, 00:05:01.520 |
because it's a restaurant where you have to wear 00:05:09.360 |
where men sexualize you and look at you in that way, 00:05:22.480 |
And then guys coming up to me and giving me $20 00:05:32.320 |
but also validating, 'cause I didn't have that self-esteem. 00:05:36.040 |
So I kind of went further down the rabbit hole. 00:05:40.840 |
and I went straight to becoming a dancer at a club. 00:05:55.480 |
I think total, you said you filmed around eight months? 00:06:08.640 |
you had everything that any girl in that industry would want. 00:06:14.000 |
probably were making more money than most girls. 00:06:19.880 |
and now are kind of an advocate against a lot of this stuff. 00:06:24.160 |
And you speak openly, and you're very passionate 00:06:35.520 |
So what kind of brought about your change in perspective? 00:06:48.920 |
And I had an experience last night with another girl 00:06:52.600 |
that reminded me of how I felt in those times. 00:06:57.400 |
So it's like, I actually couldn't sleep last night 00:07:09.440 |
and I just recognized this facial expression that she had 00:07:21.520 |
So I wasn't expecting it, but I was like, "Are you okay? 00:07:29.120 |
And then she went off to the side and started just bawling. 00:07:32.480 |
And I turned the live off, and it's just such, 00:07:52.880 |
that she needs to make money for certain things, 00:08:00.600 |
And it's probably good that this experience happened with me 00:08:03.920 |
because I have been through that so much myself 00:08:06.920 |
that I was able to give her really good advice, 00:08:09.280 |
even though it's something that literally killed me inside 00:08:23.160 |
These girls, when I started, I looked like a little kid. 00:08:36.200 |
we don't feel comfortable saying no for some reason. 00:08:45.160 |
I think we're taught as children to be obedient, 00:08:55.040 |
it's always like, obey your father, stuff like that. 00:09:04.960 |
who don't necessarily have their best interest in mind. 00:09:08.960 |
And I'm doing a lot of things that really hurt them. 00:09:16.320 |
that I felt like I didn't say anything to them 00:09:20.320 |
because it's work and I wanted to be professional. 00:09:23.040 |
But for example, when the camera would be behind me 00:09:45.320 |
by the person that I was having to shoot with 00:09:49.400 |
So it's just stuff like that that can be very damaging. 00:10:03.720 |
to protect girls that are young and vulnerable 00:10:08.560 |
or don't have self-respect for themselves yet 00:10:14.200 |
because they've been through so much and taught not to. 00:10:20.520 |
I don't know if you guys received the backlash, 00:10:22.200 |
like, "Oh, you guys chose to do this," or whatever. 00:10:31.440 |
They know exactly how to get you to do what you want, 00:10:36.520 |
- And then you guys don't even really make much, I'm sure. 00:10:59.960 |
I thought $100 at the time was so much money. 00:11:08.640 |
not the guy that I ended up dating for a long time, 00:11:11.280 |
but I met this other boy that worked in YouTube and Instagram 00:11:14.720 |
and he shared with me that he was getting $15,000 00:11:21.120 |
And I was like, "I'm getting $1,200 for a sex scene? 00:11:27.840 |
- Yeah, and I think that's one thing like this industry, 00:11:30.560 |
like it continues to take off, you know, as time goes on, 00:11:34.880 |
you know, more people are exposed to it at a younger age. 00:11:37.440 |
It's like, like porn is a real life addiction 00:11:40.600 |
for a lot of people, but a lot of these young men 00:11:43.880 |
that are introduced to it, they don't really know 00:11:46.360 |
kind of behind the scenes what you guys deal with. 00:11:48.720 |
They look at these girls on camera and think like, 00:11:51.880 |
oh, they're enjoying it, this is what they like, 00:11:56.840 |
And I think that it's important for people like you, 00:12:03.040 |
that decided to leave, like to kind of educate young men. 00:12:06.680 |
And I guess young women now, I saw a lot of young women 00:12:10.640 |
watch porn too, but just, it's not, that's not what it is. 00:12:15.200 |
It's not, it's glamorous and it's not like these, 00:12:22.760 |
It was like, you could probably could not tell at all 00:12:26.560 |
that I felt the way that I did in the certain scenes 00:12:36.520 |
like facial expressions that I was gonna make, 00:12:39.120 |
things that I was gonna do because it's fake, it's fake. 00:12:43.760 |
And I also think like the point that you made 00:12:54.720 |
and like you get backlash for talking out about it. 00:13:00.960 |
and they don't wanna feel guilty for consuming it. 00:13:07.600 |
And they refuse to believe that I'm not like a giant whore 00:13:11.360 |
that wants to get like fucked by like a bunch of big dicks. 00:13:21.120 |
because I know a lot of women that are in that industry, 00:13:29.840 |
sometimes the only way out to them may seem like suicide. 00:13:36.360 |
where it was like the average life expectancy 00:13:39.000 |
of someone in the sex industry for a woman is about 37. 00:14:10.960 |
I started having panic attacks, like before scenes, 00:14:15.200 |
And I didn't know how to say, no, I don't wanna do this. 00:14:21.640 |
It was either like probably going to kill myself 00:14:25.600 |
or just do anything to like make something else work. 00:14:30.600 |
And this is what I was telling my friend last night, 00:14:33.080 |
'cause she was saying that she's not really happy 00:14:42.760 |
if they just work towards anything that they wanna do, 00:14:45.600 |
just a little bit every single day, like you can get there. 00:14:51.240 |
to like work every single day and put in the effort. 00:14:57.640 |
I only had like 200,000 followers on Instagram. 00:15:05.880 |
And I grew my account to over 10 million in one year, 00:15:14.080 |
And just always posting, like working on my Instagram. 00:15:19.440 |
which sustained me so that I didn't have to do any sex work. 00:15:30.040 |
Like I ended up doing YouTube with my boyfriend, 00:15:35.560 |
So I really think like it doesn't really make sense 00:15:43.240 |
And I think it's really just believing that you can 00:15:47.160 |
and putting in effort every single day to get there. 00:15:50.600 |
- Yeah, I mean, I find that kind of inspiring 00:15:55.800 |
you hear the term selling yourself for fame or money, 00:16:05.000 |
and then you chose to kind of like let all that go. 00:16:07.200 |
Like I know I've talked to some rappers who do the music, 00:16:10.680 |
and they talk about how they don't really want 00:16:15.160 |
They don't wanna talk about the violence or the whatever. 00:16:21.640 |
But the reason that they talk about these things 00:16:28.880 |
and they know if they change their message or whatever, 00:16:45.840 |
I feel like that obviously takes a big like leap of faith, 00:17:00.400 |
- And that's kind of why I wanted to talk to you about this. 00:17:03.360 |
But yeah, I think one thing that my sister mentioned 00:17:11.200 |
you also see like an increase in just the human trafficking, 00:17:21.780 |
why they grow together, but have you seen that? 00:17:27.400 |
also equals the rise in the human trafficking? 00:17:33.720 |
- I personally haven't like experienced human trafficking, 00:17:59.500 |
and like their parents had been like pimping them out 00:18:13.260 |
And so they were pimping out their 11 year old daughter. 00:18:20.280 |
like there was like something on her butt or something, 00:18:26.480 |
And like, she bent over and she didn't have like underwear on 00:18:30.920 |
and like, because if girls like get raped very young 00:18:34.640 |
or like have to have sex, it can like ruin their vagina. 00:18:49.360 |
But that's the closest experience that I've had with that. 00:18:52.360 |
And I'm not like too educated on what's going on with. 00:19:02.600 |
so I guess a lot of girls are then going into this industry 00:19:06.400 |
So what advice, you know, being where you are now 00:19:19.680 |
One, my experience and other girls' experiences 00:19:31.700 |
And like, that's fine for them to like doing it. 00:19:34.100 |
The difference between me and those girls that I've noticed 00:19:38.320 |
is that before I did porn, I was only with one guy. 00:19:54.640 |
it's because they're already doing like gang bangs 00:20:11.700 |
And so they're like, why not make money off of it? 00:20:13.660 |
And it's something that they enjoy supposedly. 00:20:16.260 |
I mean, I'm sure like some of them have had like days 00:20:26.780 |
Do you feel like, so then what do you think contributes 00:20:40.280 |
that do feel like you or do you just feel like, 00:20:57.260 |
And so like the piece of advice that I gave her was just, 00:21:07.440 |
because that's gonna end up like fucking you up 00:21:11.580 |
Like, I know because I gave way too much of myself 00:21:16.740 |
And like no money is worth doing that really. 00:21:21.740 |
And I imagine like the girls wanting to kill themselves 00:21:26.720 |
or like taking drugs, like even just to deal with it, 00:21:45.820 |
to be having sex with people that they don't know 00:21:52.400 |
And also like, even if you do like doing sex work, 00:21:56.240 |
there might be a day where you don't like having sex 00:22:03.280 |
So it's a bit traumatizing to share your body in that way 00:22:15.780 |
- That stuff's like, imagine like you just meet someone 00:22:18.500 |
in the lobby and like you're not attracted to them at all. 00:22:23.060 |
you have to fuck them and pretend that you like it. 00:22:28.340 |
- It's crazy, no, this is definitely crazy to think about. 00:22:30.740 |
It's definitely, I mean, I think it's something 00:22:35.040 |
But I think, you know, I'm sure guys in the industry, 00:22:38.600 |
they don't, they probably don't process stuff 00:22:42.200 |
Like they're in their, living their best life, probably. 00:23:00.020 |
- Yeah, so they have to like shoot up their dick 00:23:01.800 |
with some sort of stimulant, I don't know what it is. 00:23:05.720 |
Or I did date one guy when I was in the porn industry 00:23:09.240 |
who was like a director and he performed in his own scenes. 00:23:12.560 |
And they get, which I've seen this with like celebrity men 00:23:22.680 |
or just women that they end up having like these 00:23:27.600 |
like really intense fetishes 'cause they can't like get off 00:23:35.620 |
who buy cookies with poop in them off the internet 00:23:42.820 |
because I, even in the NBA, like you talk about, 00:23:45.700 |
and this is why I think like porn is dangerous, 00:23:49.620 |
and because you get desensitized to the normal thing. 00:23:54.780 |
Like I hear wild stories about some of these dudes, 00:24:01.180 |
- Other celebrities too that their fetishes get so crazy. 00:24:09.780 |
but they've done so much stuff with so many pretty girls 00:24:14.340 |
that you know, now they're over here messing with trannies 00:24:19.220 |
- Or now they're over here messing with dudes. 00:24:23.900 |
And I think, obviously I think the porn industry 00:24:26.300 |
has a part to play in that because you watch a, 00:24:29.420 |
you know, when you first get introduced to it, 00:24:31.620 |
just seeing a girl naked might be enough for you, 00:24:36.340 |
and now you're looking at the craziest things 00:24:38.780 |
and now normal sex in real life doesn't do it for you. 00:24:52.360 |
like I think I probably was in like, I don't know, 00:25:04.140 |
- Yeah, like you like Google boobs or something. 00:25:08.140 |
I was like, but then like, yeah, so I understand like-- 00:25:17.460 |
and then you watch like a porn scene for the first time 00:25:25.000 |
Like I think one of the first sex scenes I saw 00:25:27.320 |
was like Sasha Gray and like she was like wild, 00:25:31.120 |
like licking toilet seats, doing like double anal gang bangs 00:25:44.240 |
which is the only person I slept with before porn, 00:25:52.160 |
which is like, oh, you have to like deep throat it, 00:25:54.080 |
like everything that I thought about sex was what I watched, 00:26:01.840 |
- Hold on, so you was married before you went into porn? 00:26:11.440 |
But now I feel you messes up kind of your perception 00:26:18.240 |
I mean, obviously some girls are into some crazy things, 00:26:21.200 |
but these dudes that are always watching porn, 00:26:23.680 |
they think that this is always what a girl wants 00:26:28.760 |
and not knowing really what they actually enjoy 00:26:32.960 |
and like I said, some of these girls are out here 00:26:35.160 |
and they're freaks, so they like all this stuff, 00:26:38.400 |
So I think it's really detrimental to young men 00:26:48.760 |
Like I know some dudes that would rather watch porn 00:26:52.600 |
because their girlfriend may not do all the things 00:27:05.920 |
they might have a wife that's ready in the bedroom, 00:27:08.560 |
but like she's not doing the things that you see on camera, 00:27:11.160 |
so they're going to sneak in the bathroom and watching porn. 00:27:14.120 |
As a woman, do you feel like that would be considered 00:27:19.400 |
- I personally feel it might also be a BPD thing, 00:27:24.000 |
like 'cause you're very sensitive to rejection, 00:27:37.800 |
So I can only imagine if you're a significant other, 00:27:46.240 |
and they're more interested in seeing something else, 00:27:50.600 |
- Yeah, and I feel like that happens so much nowadays. 00:28:10.800 |
I know you talk about how it's super frustrating for you 00:28:20.360 |
and you've been out of that for so many years now. 00:28:26.680 |
And did it take you a while to not be triggered by that? 00:28:32.720 |
You're doing your thing outside of that industry now, 00:28:40.800 |
Like when I started my podcast with Olivia and Alexa, 00:28:43.780 |
I kind of did it in a way to like make myself, 00:28:51.720 |
like I wanted to use it in a way to like show people 00:28:55.720 |
how I actually was or like really like focused 00:28:59.800 |
on like speaking well to sort of beat the stereotype 00:29:05.000 |
Like I used to really, really care what people think 00:29:07.680 |
and like trying to prove that I wasn't this stereotype. 00:29:30.600 |
- Oh, you guys get hella bullied, bullied so bad. 00:29:39.640 |
And you really eventually reach a point where it's like, 00:29:41.440 |
man, I don't care what these people are talking about. 00:29:47.960 |
- And also once you start to like truly know who you are 00:29:54.640 |
how can they tell you who you are if you know? 00:30:03.800 |
everybody says there's speculations who the baby daddy is. 00:30:09.240 |
- Yeah, people are gonna say you're the baby daddy now. 00:30:12.080 |
They're gonna like put side by side pictures. 00:30:14.760 |
- I know, but like when we were in the playoffs, 00:30:20.080 |
we were all, we're kicking it somewhere out here in LA. 00:30:22.780 |
But, you know, like during the playoff we would clap, 00:30:26.080 |
we were just like, bro, your picture, is this your baby? 00:30:33.080 |
you're keeping that like on the low for a reason. 00:30:36.840 |
But how has being a mother kind of changed your life 00:30:43.780 |
- It's kind of like you win some and you lose some, 00:30:48.380 |
you know, my pregnancy caused a lot of like health issues 00:30:53.040 |
that I finally like have gotten under control 00:30:55.480 |
and like sort of those also diminished my mental health. 00:30:59.080 |
Like probably for the past two years until recently, 00:31:06.720 |
However, because I grew up in a house with a sister 00:31:20.520 |
And to always make sure that whether I'm depressed 00:31:44.880 |
- No, I was just curious how just being a mother, 00:31:46.480 |
like, has this changed your life or perspective? 00:31:50.200 |
- Well, recently, so I started taking medication, 00:31:52.560 |
like going to therapy and the relationship that I have 00:32:07.400 |
Actually, recently, 'cause he usually goes to school, 00:32:13.360 |
'cause I'm like, I need to spend all the time with you. 00:32:25.080 |
And after that, like, the dad wasn't super nice to me. 00:32:38.040 |
- Was he more mad about the fact that you had the kid? 00:32:41.000 |
Or like, did he not want you to have the kid? 00:32:46.320 |
even if it was like a girl who I messed up with 00:33:14.160 |
that I didn't know about, which might be like part of it. 00:33:22.440 |
I actually wrote like a poem about this on my Tumblr. 00:33:27.760 |
He never asked me to get an abortion or anything like that. 00:33:46.040 |
"Hey, like, I'm worried that you're gonna like, 00:33:53.880 |
And I did for so long, just like out of love. 00:33:57.000 |
Like, everyone's like, "Oh, he paid her money 00:34:04.120 |
Like, I'm not trying to do anything bad to him. 00:34:11.080 |
I automatically will always have so much love for him 00:34:18.240 |
that's every dude who gets a girl pregnant's dream 00:34:20.600 |
is you could just tell her like, "Yo, can you..." 00:34:34.760 |
or just pay the girl to take care of the baby. 00:34:39.040 |
you never have really come out and criticized the father 00:34:46.400 |
- I mean, I've made some jokes online about it, 00:35:01.200 |
and I was like, "Well, I did have NBA DNA in me 00:35:26.480 |
- So if you kind of like, have you ever considered 00:35:29.880 |
just going and leaving the Lana Rhodes, like behind 00:35:41.400 |
- Yeah, sometimes I think my real name is Lana. 00:35:43.640 |
- Yeah, I was doing some research before this podcast 00:35:52.080 |
- So you just, that's just, that's just the name? 00:35:54.040 |
- It might be like going back to like the BPD thing. 00:35:57.000 |
Like you really don't have like a sense of identity. 00:35:59.640 |
So I've never really resonated with like having a name. 00:36:03.080 |
Like even when I was a dancer, I had Farrah as my name. 00:36:22.280 |
And sometimes I actually do think that my name is Lana. 00:36:27.480 |
So what going forward for you, like, is your, 00:36:30.480 |
like going forward, where do you want to go from here? 00:36:36.800 |
with the OnlyFans stuff and influencer stuff? 00:36:39.720 |
Or do you have other goals in your life going forward? 00:36:51.840 |
just keep having something that I'm like impassioned about. 00:36:57.440 |
and just like even designing my own furniture for my house. 00:37:06.280 |
'cause I dropped out of school in eighth grade. 00:37:08.440 |
But I wrote a few poems on Tumblr and people were like, 00:37:36.960 |
- Have you ever thought about writing a book? 00:37:44.600 |
I mean, I don't know if you'd write fiction or nonfiction, 00:37:52.120 |
Just because I feel like it helps a lot of people. 00:37:59.920 |
but has so much to say about what it's really like, 00:38:07.880 |
And I feel like a lot of men like objectify women, 00:38:24.880 |
Like men objectify me, this is what I'm gonna do." 00:38:33.440 |
- Or you live in LA and it's even like these girls, 00:38:36.200 |
like I know these girls out here doing anything 00:38:44.040 |
- Or even like a guy like flies around there, 00:38:55.480 |
I've had a guy buy me a private jet to go somewhere 00:39:03.360 |
I have some of the most attractive men I've ever seen. 00:39:10.480 |
I'm not doing something that I don't wanna do. 00:39:46.160 |
like going back to like giving someone something 00:40:08.920 |
'cause we had this conversation with some of my teammates 00:40:13.280 |
We were talking about like a girl who we would view 00:40:18.720 |
versus a girl that you would just hook up with. 00:40:20.280 |
And we were like, "Okay, if she's giving it up 00:40:24.000 |
"the first night, like how would you view her?" 00:40:30.240 |
"'cause if she's giving it up on the first night, 00:40:31.580 |
"then she probably has done that multiple times." 00:40:34.520 |
Then we were like, "Okay, then when is the right time 00:40:40.780 |
- And it really is, I think, for these girls out there 00:40:52.640 |
but they really don't have that connection yet. 00:40:54.740 |
Like, dudes aren't gonna view you as a girlfriend, 00:41:27.140 |
But none of these guys have gotten upset with me 00:41:44.860 |
- I think, yeah, and I think that these girls nowadays 00:41:49.220 |
They get pressured, or they wanna make a dude happy. 00:41:56.300 |
They think that they gotta make this dude happy. 00:42:12.660 |
like an object, like we've been talking about, 00:42:36.900 |
You can't force it from having sex with them early. 00:42:46.740 |
because you actually got to know them as a person. 00:42:48.780 |
- Or you could decide that you don't wanna sleep with them. 00:42:53.780 |
and on the fourth time, I know if there's someone 00:42:56.260 |
that I'm going to be in love with and wanna have sex with. 00:43:13.660 |
- Dating was easier after than when I was younger, 00:43:24.740 |
but I ended up getting pregnant two months after. 00:43:47.380 |
I'm not gonna go out and leave my child every night 00:44:08.460 |
do dudes try to hold things over your head from the past? 00:44:12.500 |
'Cause I know me, I could be messing with a girl, 00:44:16.340 |
and I hear something about something she did in the past 00:44:22.780 |
I don't know if that's, that's probably not good, 00:44:31.660 |
I don't know why, I don't know why I do that. 00:44:54.540 |
And I personally, if I ever was to be in a relationship, 00:44:57.100 |
I would never be, even though I don't wanna sleep 00:45:04.380 |
'Cause I personally think that it's way more powerful 00:45:17.980 |
like they have the options to do whatever they want, 00:45:22.220 |
- You know, so that's kind of like what elite, 00:45:23.660 |
having that mindset got rid of like that jealousy 00:45:35.140 |
And actually I've had two boyfriends say this to me. 00:45:38.700 |
They would say, "No one's ever going to love you 00:45:49.700 |
they would still love you? - Well 'cause they try 00:45:52.540 |
"that's ever gonna love you, so you have to stay with me." 00:46:03.300 |
I think with, do you know a girl named Brittany Rayner? 00:46:12.940 |
I was watching the podcast and she was talking about, 00:46:17.060 |
just, you know, she's done some things in the past, 00:46:51.820 |
about something that the girl might have did in the past 00:46:57.980 |
- She had no idea she was gonna meet you in the future. 00:47:02.660 |
so if a girl was gonna hold that over my head, 00:47:08.460 |
And I've definitely been a dude back in the day 00:47:21.380 |
and you kind of like meet them where they're at, 00:47:38.060 |
- 100%, so I definitely think that's something 00:47:44.500 |
I don't like to keep people on here that long. 00:47:46.060 |
I just, you know, people that I find either inspirational 00:47:49.380 |
or people that I'm just curious about their stories 00:47:52.220 |
and just ask a few questions that I'm curious about 00:48:06.900 |
I'd always ask wild questions and just speak my mind. 00:48:14.020 |
because you know how people on the internet are. 00:48:16.420 |
And if you tweet something that's kind of like 00:48:21.540 |
you get like crucified and people don't even know 00:48:26.380 |
They'll take like a tweet or whatever and blow it up. 00:48:29.100 |
So I was like, what if I came out with a podcast 00:48:31.500 |
and I could have like unfiltered conversations 00:48:34.300 |
or conversations that people are kind of scared to have 00:48:38.900 |
'Cause I feel like, you know, that creates a space