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All right, so several people recently have sent me the same video, which seems to be everywhere at the moment on YouTube. 00:00:09.000 |
The video is called, "How to Disappear and Transform." 00:00:14.000 |
Last time I checked, it had 2.5 million views and counting. 00:00:23.000 |
Because when I first watched this video, to be honest, I was a little taken aback. 00:00:28.000 |
It seemed sort of Nietzschean in a vaguely unsettling way. 00:00:34.000 |
But as I looked beyond its aesthetics, it became clear that there is a deeper issue at play that goes beyond the immediate audience and topic of the video. 00:00:43.000 |
So we're going to extract some deep truths from this very trendy video. 00:00:47.000 |
All right, so to get started, I want to play the beginning of this video. 00:00:51.000 |
If you're watching instead of just listening, we're going to put the video up in the corner here as well. 00:00:55.000 |
But we'll have the audio for those who are just listening. 00:01:00.000 |
The more you open your life up for display, the more people find a way to drag you down. 00:01:10.000 |
There's something powerful about disappearing and working in the shadows. 00:01:15.000 |
Becoming unavailable and committing to become the next version of you in secret can be exhilarating, exciting. 00:01:23.000 |
Because you know that when you reappear, your transformation will shock the world. 00:01:31.000 |
First of all, I always love the music in popular videos. 00:01:42.000 |
Again, I think we put that music behind anything we say here. 00:02:07.000 |
So these are kind of like the steps of the process. 00:02:19.000 |
There's a big thing in this about don't talk to anybody about anything you're up to. 00:02:23.000 |
They make one exception for if you have a life partner. 00:02:27.000 |
Then we get step one, two, three, four, five. 00:02:38.000 |
And then reappear with a question mark, which is actually consequential. 00:02:43.000 |
Now, look, there's a certain feel to this video that is in the vein of like a young man. 00:02:52.000 |
Young man stepping away from society to grind through pain en route to some dream of becoming an ubermensch in a way that's going to awe all of their foes. 00:02:59.000 |
That's why I had that Nietzsche reference from before. 00:03:03.000 |
The examples of the goals that you might crush it in this video are also sort of very kind of young man online examples. 00:03:11.000 |
They talk about in the video that you should consider, for example, moving your apartment to be next to the gym so that you can more easily spend more time in the gym. 00:03:20.000 |
And then the other example is creating a business that "prints money." 00:03:26.000 |
For those of us who are in other stages of life, we're not sort of like an online young man. 00:03:30.000 |
This idea of like retreating to an apartment next to the gym and completely cutting ourselves off from other people, it sounds unappealing. 00:03:36.000 |
And it's easy to dismiss as like this is like a bro culture thing. 00:03:40.000 |
But as I was trying to digest this video with an open mind, I'm realizing there's a deeper issue in here that is relevant to many more of us. 00:03:52.000 |
So for the generation who is the target audience of this video, here's the thing we have to keep in mind. 00:03:57.000 |
Their online selves, that is the version of themselves that they present publicly online over various platforms, social platforms, bulletin boards, even like gaming platforms, discord, etc. 00:04:09.000 |
Their online selves is a major part of just their overall general identity. 00:04:14.000 |
And the problem that they are noticing is that their online selves attracts a lot of crap. 00:04:21.000 |
Like this is endemic and unavoidable in almost any major online space that if your online self, so your discussion of yourself, your ideas, what you're up to, your life in any of these online spaces is going to attract trolling, is going to attract people who are telling you to check yourself. 00:04:38.000 |
It's going to attract people who are going to put you down, make fun of what you're working on. 00:04:46.000 |
I was on a Reddit thread for Peter Attia fans because I met Peter and I read his book and I was looking up some information. 00:04:57.000 |
Like you can't post anything on there without like 10% of the people responding. 00:05:02.000 |
However, whatever you're doing, whatever fitness thing you're doing, whatever metric that you're measuring, whatever biomarkers, it's not quite right. 00:05:10.000 |
So for the generation where this online selves is actually like a major part of their selves, it really gives them this feel as if their social standing is always under threat. 00:05:23.000 |
And that they're constantly being judged and they're often being judged poorly. 00:05:27.000 |
So this is where you get this very strong push we see in this video, disappear, right? 00:05:32.000 |
Because to remove yourself from those spaces for someone whose online self is such an integral part of their identity is a major act. 00:05:39.000 |
It is is what requires the stranger things music and those big animations because it's a, it really is a major act in a way that. 00:05:46.000 |
For me to like not go onto the Peter Attia Reddit thread is not like a transformative decision in my life. 00:05:53.000 |
So rebuilding, uh, so what they're trying to do here, these people who are essentially born online is separate themselves from their online selves. 00:06:04.000 |
And this is actually a pretty traumatic to do. 00:06:07.000 |
But they are picking up in a very refined sense. 00:06:12.000 |
This is like a refined amplified version of a problem that I think is relevant to the rest of us. 00:06:17.000 |
So to explain what the general problem is here, uh, I want to clarify like a general framework. 00:06:22.000 |
I like to use when thinking about the topics we talked about on this show. 00:06:25.000 |
I primarily, I see myself when it, when it comes to a lot of my public facing writing is, uh, you would call it like a digital theorist or technology theorist. 00:06:35.000 |
I think a lot about how technology impacts our lives and what we should do about it. 00:06:39.000 |
Sometimes this gets obscured because the solutions to digital problems are often analog. 00:06:46.000 |
So we talk a lot about analog on here, but so much what I talked about has its roots in the digital. 00:06:51.000 |
So the framework I use, we're going to apply it to this particular problem. 00:06:54.000 |
The framework I like to use is I imagine that right now in the 21st century, homo sapiens exist in what I call the modern digital environment, the MDE. 00:07:03.000 |
Right? We're in this sort of new kind of novel, um, environment as defined by networked digital technologies. 00:07:11.000 |
The modern digital environment often conflicts with our paleolithic brains and bodies and our neolithic culture. 00:07:18.000 |
In these mismatches, we get what I think of as disorders, which I mean in sort of the literal sense of disorders as, um, ways of living that are notably negative. 00:07:31.000 |
So it's in these mismatches between our brains and culture, which are evolved in times long past with the modern digital environment, we get various disorders. 00:07:39.000 |
And then we have to figure out how to address them at different levels as individuals, as communities and larger up as like cultures and governments even. 00:07:51.000 |
The relevant aspect of the modern digital environment that's causing a disorder in this case, I think, is the introduction of large scale conversation platforms. 00:08:00.000 |
So any sort of digital platform in which a notably large number of people are brought together to have a conversation, that's what I call a large scale conversation platform. 00:08:12.000 |
The most famous examples, of course, would be like Twitter/X or, you know, Instagram, potentially TikTok, et cetera. 00:08:20.000 |
You have a huge number of people coming together for a conversation. 00:08:24.000 |
What makes it large scale is the fact that any individual user is seen, of course, just a teeny, teeny minuscule fraction of the actual amount of communication that's happening. 00:08:33.000 |
So that's very different, for example, than a conversation on like a WhatsApp group with 10 people where you see every message that everyone is sending. 00:08:41.000 |
So what is the mismatch between this corner of the modern digital environment and ourselves, our species? 00:08:52.000 |
So the problem is in a large scale conversation platform, you have a huge number of people saying things, responding back and forth, talking to each other. 00:09:02.000 |
The platforms have to curate that down to a very tractable conversation for each individual user. 00:09:11.000 |
The number of tweets per day is astronomical. 00:09:17.000 |
TikTok has hundreds of millions of videos that are being posted. 00:09:21.000 |
You can only see a couple hundred in a given day or whatever. 00:09:26.000 |
The curation brings down what you're seeing to seem very similar to a normal social conversation that you would have in a normal analog social context. 00:09:38.000 |
So you're kind of looking for some threads on like Reddit that look interesting. 00:09:41.000 |
You're jumping on or you're jumping on to some conversations on Twitter, for example. 00:09:46.000 |
The scale of those conversations is recognizable as your brain is like, yeah, we're chatting with people around the fire. 00:09:51.000 |
We're chatting with people at the town square because it's not that many people. 00:10:00.000 |
But in reality, of course, this is all being super curated. 00:10:07.000 |
The next store you have Madison Square Garden full of people all like yelling things and responses. 00:10:13.000 |
And someone comes through and it's like, hey, over there in section K in the 50th row, that person seems kind of like saying something fun or is catching our attention. 00:10:20.000 |
Let's bring them over and put them in front of you to respond to you. 00:10:23.000 |
It feels like you're just responding to one person. 00:10:25.000 |
But really, there's Madison Square Garden full of people and just the most engaging or interesting or attention catching responses are captured. 00:10:31.000 |
So what we get is the simulacrum of like a normal conversation. 00:10:34.000 |
We've been evolved to have it, but the conversation is not really real. 00:10:37.000 |
It's not with people, you know, there's no social stakes. 00:10:40.000 |
There's no tit for tat expectation as this is someone that you have to live with going forward. 00:10:45.000 |
So in your interactions, you have to keep that in mind. 00:10:49.000 |
It's instead sort of like algorithmically matched rhetorical bomb throwing. 00:10:54.000 |
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So the disorder this creates is that these curated pseudo conversations, as I like to call them, when we see them as real, we get very distressed. 00:11:31.000 |
You constantly feel like you're in a situation that in the analog world would be very rare and very alarming. 00:11:38.000 |
We constantly feel when we're interacting with these curated pseudo conversations on large global conversation platforms, we constantly feel as if we just offended someone at the town hall meeting. 00:11:49.000 |
We said the wrong thing around the Paleolithic campfire, and now we're getting cold stares from the tribal chief who's like a real beast and is holding a spear in both hands. 00:11:59.000 |
That is like a very alarming circumstance through most of our history. 00:12:03.000 |
And our brain doesn't realize that the curated pseudo conversation is different, so we are distressed at a level and a consistency that would have otherwise been a spelling disaster. 00:12:16.000 |
This is like you're about to get kicked out of Salem or burned at the stake type of disaster. 00:12:25.000 |
That is the trend that for these digital natives, these young men who are watching this YouTube video, is unavoidable because so much of their life is on there. 00:12:35.000 |
But the rest of us that maybe use these platforms less frequently but on a semi-consistent basis, we still suffer from this. 00:12:42.000 |
The dosage of the disorder is lower, but it is still a steady drip of this type of social distress, which just makes us less happy. 00:12:50.000 |
So we've seen this mismatch between the modern digital environment and our species. 00:12:55.000 |
Now that we know the disorder, we can think about the treatment. 00:12:59.000 |
We can take like what the video is saying, and we can simplify that to not be so hyperbolic. 00:13:04.000 |
You don't have to disappear and move next to the gym. 00:13:06.000 |
But here is my treatment for this disorder of curated pseudo-conversation-induced distress. 00:13:13.000 |
Don't digitally interact with people that you've never previously been in the same room with before. 00:13:20.000 |
So what this is saying, this simple heuristic, actually does a lot of work for us. 00:13:29.000 |
The too aggressive thing to do here would be like don't ever have interactions digitally. 00:13:36.000 |
Actually, like digital communication tools, these are pretty useful. 00:13:40.000 |
It's pretty useful if I can like text message a question to a friend of mine or kind of keep up with like what's going on with my family. 00:13:49.000 |
We could have like a text thread going back and forth or like the e-mail, some information about an upcoming, like we're going to the game. 00:13:57.000 |
Like there's all sorts of digital conversation. 00:14:01.000 |
Remember this like during the pandemic, the ability to see people in your family or friends face to face and how now we like we can still do that with distance relatives. 00:14:10.000 |
I mean I write about in my book Digital Minimalism. 00:14:15.000 |
So you want to be careful not to replace all analog interaction with people you care about with digital. 00:14:21.000 |
But there's nothing wrong with doing the digital. 00:14:23.000 |
It's only a problem with people you know if you let that replace other types of communication. 00:14:28.000 |
So there's no negative thing that happens being on a text thread with your friends. 00:14:33.000 |
The only negative thing that could come from that is if because of that thread you never actually go and do things with your friends ever again. 00:14:39.000 |
But there's no negative harm from the direct activity. 00:14:42.000 |
But what this simple heuristic does tell you to take a break from is the strangers online. 00:14:49.000 |
The post on whatever it is now Twitter or Blue Sky or threads where you're angrily replying to someone. 00:14:56.000 |
The performative posting on Instagram of something that you know whatever it is but you have the hashtag blessed after it. 00:15:02.000 |
You're going to get some crap for that because that's kind of annoying. 00:15:05.000 |
Like waiting for that that crap to come back in. 00:15:08.000 |
Where you're posting for people you don't know. 00:15:15.000 |
So again my treatment here and I'll say it one more time. 00:15:17.000 |
Don't digitally interact with people that you previously have not been in the same room with before. 00:15:24.000 |
Now of course look there's obvious caveats here. 00:15:32.000 |
I'm applying for a job and I can't respond to the new boss because I've never been in the same room with them before. 00:15:36.000 |
But just in terms of like casual leisure based interaction. 00:15:45.000 |
You're not posting in public places means you're not exposing your brain to curated pseudo conversations. 00:15:50.000 |
Which means the digital world is not giving you the steady dose of distress. 00:15:56.000 |
Now this is what I would even tell like the young men who are watching this video. 00:15:59.000 |
Is like I feel the pain that's driving you to this. 00:16:04.000 |
But you don't have to think about this necessarily through the lens of I'm going to temporarily disappear. 00:16:10.000 |
But really it's this ubermensch idea in this video. 00:16:12.000 |
It's like I'm going to come back so shredded. 00:16:21.000 |
I'm saying there's a more consistent solution here. 00:16:23.000 |
Just don't make this online self so important anymore. 00:16:31.000 |
And then like go get wheatgrass shots or whatever people who are in shape do. 00:16:38.000 |
Hang out together with some people and start a business. 00:16:45.000 |
Digitally communicate with people you've met in the real world. 00:16:47.000 |
Do not have this sort of shadow self who has to exist online. 00:16:53.000 |
And you'll realize your problem was not other people. 00:16:56.000 |
Your problem was not that you told people about your goals. 00:16:59.000 |
Or that people had heard stuff that makes you vulnerable. 00:17:02.000 |
The problem is you're telling people who don't know you and don't care. 00:17:08.000 |
So I think there's an interesting lesson in it. 00:17:14.000 |
Stopping digital interaction with people you have not met before in person. 00:17:20.000 |
You don't have to disappear but try analog mode out for a while. 00:17:25.000 |
I've been listening to these fights recently Jesse about these online platforms. 00:17:34.000 |
Because someone wrote me and said by the way. 00:17:41.000 |
My understanding is it's a Twitter style platform. 00:17:46.000 |
But it maintains the style of content moderation that Twitter had in like 2019, 2020. 00:17:57.000 |
And then Threads is also a Twitter style interface. 00:18:04.000 |
So it's trying to be more of like an Instagrammy type place. 00:18:13.000 |
Fortunately whoever this is hasn't posted incendiary things. 00:18:23.000 |
It's all these people who the assumption behind this conversation. 00:18:27.000 |
It's like well clearly we have to be on a global conversation platform having curated pseudo conversations. 00:18:31.000 |
And I'm like no the answer is you don't have to be on any of these things. 00:18:33.000 |
I wrote a New Yorker article about this two summers ago called We Don't Need a New Twitter. 00:18:37.000 |
That really gets into this argument about why global communication platforms. 00:18:40.000 |
Conversation platforms are not intrinsic to the internet. 00:18:44.000 |
They're not somehow synonymous with like digital expression and free speech. 00:18:52.000 |
It's the free speech equivalent I guess of like Amazon or Walmart. 00:18:56.000 |
I mean it's important that everything you buy comes from one giant company. 00:19:02.000 |
Like we liked when there was a Main Street and there was many other smaller shops. 00:19:05.000 |
So you don't have to have these digital selves. 00:19:09.000 |
I mean it's ironic because I'm very exposed online. 00:19:12.000 |
But the places I guess I'm exposed are not places people comment. 00:19:17.000 |
It's like in the people's ears and they read it. 00:19:20.000 |
It's not in these conversation platforms where people talk about it. 00:19:26.000 |
I think this is a great time to give that a try. 00:19:34.000 |
So I've heard him say post and ghost is his advice. 00:19:38.000 |
Meaning like if you post something, don't go back and read like the comments. 00:19:44.000 |
I think if I ever went on his show, my pitch to him would be like don't post. 00:20:03.000 |
I wonder if he even posts on there that much. 00:20:06.000 |
But I think it would be really influential if Joe Rogan said I don't post on social media. 00:20:13.000 |
There's just like more important things in lives. 00:20:29.000 |
Maybe that had some influence with some people. 00:20:34.000 |
But I never heard him complain about a problem. 00:20:41.000 |
Not to get into what Joe Rogan should do conversation. 00:20:56.000 |
He's been in the public eye since a young age. 00:21:03.000 |
Like I put some stuff on there I think is funny. 00:21:07.000 |
But the problem is most people can't do what he does. 00:21:14.000 |
Like it's not going to make his life much better to quit because he probably barely looks at it. 00:21:18.000 |
Him quitting would probably be a model to other people. 00:21:24.000 |
When like Cam Haines convinced him that hunting deer with a bow and arrow was like a cool thing to do. 00:21:31.000 |
Half the men on the internet started hunting deer with bows and arrows. 00:21:37.000 |
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Like this very specific martial art was like a cool thing to do. 00:21:44.000 |
Half the men on the internet started doing Brazilian jiu-jitsu. 00:21:47.000 |
So imagine if he's like yeah just stop using social media. 00:21:49.000 |
But I don't think there's any way to do it because he's boys with Elon and he likes going on X. 00:21:58.000 |
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How do you reset, not just reset, but come out of a disruption, 00:29:05.000 |
aim towards reconstructing your life to be not just deep as it was before, 00:29:14.000 |
First of all, I would spend at least a week or two using a single-purpose journal 00:29:19.000 |
dedicated to trying to capture and make sense of your reactions to the disruption. 00:29:24.000 |
So a single-purpose journal, we've talked about this in a prior episode, 00:29:27.000 |
it's a small journal that you use for one specific purpose. 00:29:30.000 |
So you're like, "I'm trying to figure out this one thing," 00:29:34.000 |
like an idea for a book or a life transformation. 00:29:38.000 |
I like to use the Field Notes notebooks for these 00:29:40.000 |
because they're very small and fit in your pocket. 00:29:42.000 |
They're about the right size for dealing with just like a single issue. 00:29:45.000 |
You have to make sense of your intimations about your life 00:29:49.000 |
that have been inspired, changed, or evolved because of the disruption. 00:29:54.000 |
What is it about your life that now, in light of the disruption, is feeling out of whack 00:30:02.000 |
What is it that's feeling like newly valuable in a way you didn't think about before? 00:30:09.000 |
What type of media is suddenly appealing to you in a way that it didn't before? 00:30:14.000 |
It's like, "Why am I suddenly listening to Surf Podcast?" 00:30:17.000 |
Or, "Why is it that I'm being really attracted to hearing about 00:30:23.000 |
It's a time to become attuned to how you're feeling 00:30:26.000 |
because—and this is a concept I talk about in the book I'm writing now about the deep life— 00:30:30.000 |
these types of disruptions often shake the sand loose 00:30:35.000 |
and reveal insights that were previously obscured. 00:30:43.000 |
Have it with you whenever you're walking the dog or you're just commuting to work. 00:30:47.000 |
You feel that like a particular rush of insight 00:30:49.000 |
because you had your first cup of coffee of the morning. 00:30:55.000 |
and you're sort of refining these intimations into actual insights, 00:31:01.000 |
it's time to try to update your lifestyle vision. 00:31:06.000 |
The Asheville area has beautiful hiking up there in those mountains. 00:31:11.000 |
And at the summit, sit there and try to work through 00:31:17.000 |
integrating these insights you found through your single-purpose journaling. 00:31:23.000 |
than whatever vision you had before the disruption. 00:31:26.000 |
And maybe you weren't doing lifestyle-centric planning before, 00:31:29.000 |
so this might just be your first vision you've ever done. 00:31:34.000 |
which for you, Tyler, is probably literal because you live in Asheville 00:31:40.000 |
now you do the whole lifestyle planning thing 00:31:43.000 |
to figure out how you can move forward closer to it. 00:31:46.000 |
And now you're talking to your partner if you're married. 00:31:52.000 |
Now you're having those sort of strategic and tactical decisions. 00:31:56.000 |
Do we want to really change something about our work situation? 00:31:59.000 |
Do we want to change something about where we live, our school situation? 00:32:01.000 |
Is there a big change we want to make in our lives? 00:32:04.000 |
That's kind of the fun part, also the scary part. 00:32:08.000 |
But what I'm sort of arguing for here is don't start there. 00:32:16.000 |
Don't start with sitting down tonight and saying, "Should we move?" 00:32:20.000 |
You want to get there after you've clarified your intermissions and the insights 00:32:23.000 |
and then use those to try to form a lifestyle vision that really resonates 00:32:28.000 |
That's how you'll avoid just falling into the trap 00:32:30.000 |
of just trying to do something big for the sake of doing something big. 00:32:34.000 |
That's how you'll avoid the trap of slamming your hand in the door 00:32:40.000 |
That's what I sometimes call it where people make major changes in their life 00:32:43.000 |
just because they feel stuck and at least there's some emotion in making a major change. 00:32:48.000 |
But if that change is aimless or random, when the excitement wears off, 00:32:53.000 |
you're not necessarily going to be in a better place. 00:32:55.000 |
So I think there's opportunity lurking in here. 00:33:02.000 |
I'll see if anyone recognizes where this is from. 00:33:08.000 |
One character from this anonymous quote says, "Dad, the Germans have the same word 00:33:18.000 |
And the father in this quote says, "Yes, Christ-a-tunity." 00:33:31.000 |
Actually, speaking of Brad, read his book as well, Masters of Change. 00:33:35.000 |
It's all about how to be resilient to change and come out stronger. 00:33:48.000 |
But thanks for giving us a chance to discuss this topic. 00:33:53.000 |
"I constantly use my AirPods during gap times throughout the day. 00:33:57.000 |
I listen while driving to work, doing chores, around the house, 00:34:02.000 |
I'm torn as I'm always listening to interesting stuff. 00:34:10.000 |
I think the easiest thing to do is to actually schedule the times 00:34:17.000 |
Like schedule the gap times, as you call them, 00:34:23.000 |
And then you don't have to worry about it the other times. 00:34:25.000 |
So in other words, you can make listening to podcasts or audio books 00:34:31.000 |
I'm doing the dishes. I'm, you know, shaving in the morning. 00:34:37.000 |
Just make listening to interesting stuff a default 00:34:40.000 |
and just schedule on a regular basis times to be without it. 00:34:43.000 |
That's easier than trying to just debate with yourself moment to moment. 00:34:47.000 |
Like, "Ooh, I should feel guilty. I've been listening to stuff a lot. 00:34:51.000 |
I should have time where I'm not listening to things. 00:34:55.000 |
Don't have this debate with yourself all the time. 00:34:57.000 |
Schedule the boredom because that's going to be less often 00:35:01.000 |
The key is to have a good mix of stuff you listen to. 00:35:03.000 |
It doesn't all have to be incredibly intellectually demanding, 00:35:09.000 |
Expose yourself to interesting ideas, listening to interesting books. 00:35:12.000 |
My one piece of advice is that if you have a regular time you listen 00:35:19.000 |
and I'm thinking in particular like a morning commute. 00:35:21.000 |
It's what I used to do where you're like, "I'm listening. 00:35:23.000 |
I have pretty good energy, and it's a bounded amount of time every day." 00:35:27.000 |
Think about using that for listening to like something really advanced 00:35:31.000 |
or complicated like a learning company great courses style course 00:35:35.000 |
where you can listen to like one lecture per morning on your way to work. 00:35:39.000 |
So you have some sort of regular listening session 00:35:42.000 |
where you're really trying to push yourself into something smarter. 00:35:46.000 |
But yeah, no, I don't mind listening, especially if you're listening to our show. 00:35:48.000 |
Schedule the time off instead of scheduling the time when you are listening. 00:35:53.000 |
I always lose this. I have – Jesse knows this. 00:35:56.000 |
We have many AirPods boxes because we lose them and then we find them again. 00:35:59.000 |
I have an AirPod with me. This case is probably at home. 00:36:03.000 |
I guess I just had one in, and so I have a single AirPod with me without a case. 00:36:09.000 |
That's kind of like story of my relationship to AirPods. 00:36:15.000 |
I lose these things all the time. Lost the AirTags, ironically. 00:36:20.000 |
I'm surprised they don't have AirTags for golf balls. 00:36:26.000 |
People are always spending time looking for their golf balls. 00:36:28.000 |
I agree. It could be a million-dollar company right there. 00:36:33.000 |
Not relevant for me. I know where to find my golf ball. 00:36:40.000 |
You know I'm a real golfer because I use the term duffer. 00:36:45.000 |
"As a recovering perfectionist," to use Oliver Berkman's term, 00:36:49.000 |
"I'm trying to take a just-start approach to my work 00:36:51.000 |
instead of thinking endlessly about the perfect way to get it done. 00:36:54.000 |
I used to get hung up on the right way to do it 00:36:57.000 |
to the point where I struggle with implementation. 00:36:59.000 |
Is there a way to adopt your discipline ladder idea 00:37:02.000 |
to incrementally getting better at frameworks like multiscale planning?" 00:37:07.000 |
This is a Newportian nerd question, which I love. 00:37:11.000 |
Perfectionism, Berkman's perfectionist framework, 00:37:20.000 |
Okay. Here's the first key point I want to make. 00:37:26.000 |
Frameworks and systems for organizing your work and effort 00:37:34.000 |
This was like the major trap of the productivity prong movement 00:37:39.000 |
This was, we've talked about on the show before, 00:37:41.000 |
this is where you got this marriage of sort of sophisticated 00:37:48.000 |
which was this very complicated productivity technique, 00:37:54.000 |
We're starting to get powerful personal computer software. 00:37:56.000 |
You had these two worlds of people who were in particular 00:38:00.000 |
like Mac aficionados and David Allen aficionados 00:38:05.000 |
If we build custom software tools to implement complicated 00:38:11.000 |
time management organization productivity systems, 00:38:16.000 |
Like work itself could become like relatively automated 00:38:19.000 |
where kind of just tasks will pop up automatically 00:38:29.000 |
that technology plus sufficiently complicated systems 00:38:40.000 |
and a productivity system can't make it unhard. 00:38:44.000 |
and nothing you can do makes you more likely to want to do it 00:39:10.000 |
It does not make the specific day you're in the gym any easier. 00:39:21.000 |
But over time, having a structure to how you do your exercise 00:39:30.000 |
but it doesn't make work not hard in the moment. 00:39:32.000 |
So first of all, we have to change our expectation. 00:39:35.000 |
No system is going to make hard work not hard. 00:39:39.000 |
That being said, okay, so we've lowered the stakes. 00:39:41.000 |
Then, yeah, I think it's perfectly fine to discipline ladder in 00:39:44.000 |
the systems you use to organize your task in time. 00:40:33.000 |
If in the gym, you have to spend five minutes 00:40:45.000 |
and it wants to track with diodes on your muscles 00:40:59.000 |
but the system takes very little of my energy." 00:41:02.000 |
So yeah, if you want to ladder up a little bit 00:41:10.000 |
keep in mind that system might be too complicated 00:41:18.000 |
and keep us working on the things that matter, 00:41:41.000 |
How can I build a system that helps re-anchor me 00:41:45.000 |
while also allowing for the flexibility I need 00:41:52.000 |
I'm empathetic with what you're talking about here. 00:41:55.000 |
A lot of people have experienced this in the short term. 00:42:15.000 |
or if you're recovering from a really bad flu 00:42:39.000 |
unless you have a certain type of temporal consistency." 00:42:42.000 |
Like, "It always has to be these things at these days." 00:42:51.000 |
"These are the things that are important to me to do, 00:42:54.000 |
and I have some flexibility about how I do them," 00:42:58.000 |
depending on what's going on that day or this or that, 00:43:03.000 |
I'm going to connect to people that matter to me, 00:43:27.000 |
and I do something towards this value every day. 00:43:29.000 |
Maybe there's a professional creative project 00:43:34.000 |
You're like, "I work on this every week or every day. 00:43:37.000 |
I'm making progress on this, serious progress." 00:43:44.000 |
I'm reading a few pages or writing down one idea, 00:43:50.000 |
"I work on this thing that's important to me every day." 00:43:54.000 |
I hear about this a lot from people with health issues 00:44:06.000 |
and again, just having flexibility in what that means. 00:44:09.000 |
I mean, you can imagine someone in their life 00:44:16.000 |
and then they get hip surgery or something like this. 00:44:27.000 |
"In my state of recovery, what can I do physically 00:44:54.000 |
It's a project I'm working on that really matters. 00:45:06.000 |
The general rule you want to apply probably is, 00:45:17.000 |
and that's the thing that you get pride out of, 00:45:48.000 |
but I just completely adjust what that means, 00:46:13.000 |
The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout. 00:46:17.000 |
after winning the S-A-E-B-W-S-B-A-S-A-B-E-W-A-B-E-S. 00:46:27.000 |
Also one of Amazon's best business books of 2024. 00:46:45.000 |
I've tried to eliminate one of the projects but can't. 00:46:53.000 |
and take a let's-see-how-things-line-up approach 00:47:03.000 |
Now, of course, I'm speaking as like the king 00:47:06.000 |
of doing too many jobs seemingly simultaneously, 00:47:23.000 |
doing all of those at like a reasonable level, 00:47:26.000 |
so if it's possible to sort of pause one of those, 00:47:37.000 |
I'm going to say lean into the slow productivity principle 00:48:01.000 |
My friend over there got their book done in eight months, 00:48:25.000 |
or the startup is going to start much slower. 00:48:31.000 |
and we're going to take two years instead of one 00:48:35.000 |
The number of articles I'm running as my journalist, 00:48:38.000 |
it's going to be fewer than I was doing before. 00:48:43.000 |
I can't volunteer for all the things for my kids. 00:48:48.000 |
so I'm saying no to some of these volunteer things, 00:48:57.000 |
at what would be the theoretical maximum pace. 00:49:14.000 |
There's something called the illusion of concurrency 00:49:17.000 |
that you see often when you look at the records 00:49:20.000 |
of what seem to be highly accomplished people, 00:49:26.000 |
You see this long list of things that people did, 00:49:29.000 |
and you collapse your understanding of their execution, 00:49:36.000 |
so you imagine them all being done at the same time. 00:49:39.000 |
I am often subjected to the illusion of concurrency. 00:49:50.000 |
I've written all these articles for The New Yorker. 00:49:54.000 |
People see that just written next to each other, 00:49:58.000 |
and imagine someone doing all that stuff at the same time. 00:50:03.000 |
You must super be hustling or something like that, 00:50:05.000 |
but the point is I don't do it all at the same time. 00:50:13.000 |
When I was publishing five papers a year to get tenure, 00:50:16.000 |
that was the main professional thing I was doing. 00:50:22.000 |
I had one book in that whole period that I wrote, 00:50:31.000 |
In the moment, it feels like hopeless levels of impedance, 00:50:37.000 |
But you zoom out to 10 years, and you're like, 00:50:39.000 |
wow, there's that startup you did and that book you wrote, 00:50:41.000 |
and you have your journalism career going well, 00:50:43.000 |
and we're like the room parent for your kid's school, 00:50:49.000 |
If you have to do these things concurrently, slow down. 00:50:52.000 |
Whether you slow down or not, also pause things, 00:50:55.000 |
be more sequential, do this and then do that. 00:51:06.000 |
at the theoretical maximum level I could be doing it 00:51:10.000 |
and I want to reach that level for all the things I'm doing, 00:51:12.000 |
and I'm going to do them all at the same time. 00:51:15.000 |
Because this other person had done all these things, 00:51:17.000 |
they must have done it, and I could do it too. 00:51:18.000 |
But you're forgetting they did that over five years, 00:51:21.000 |
and they did this thing before they did that thing, 00:51:41.000 |
was the paradox of the relaxed Rhodes Scholar. 00:51:54.000 |
I-haven't-slept-in-three-years type of locked in? 00:52:08.000 |
and then we have the illusion of concurrency, 00:52:12.000 |
But people are less concurrent than you really imagine. 00:52:16.000 |
- How many books do you think you'll have written 00:52:28.000 |
see, my first book came out when I was, what, 22? 00:52:44.000 |
because I'm gonna disappear and transform myself. 00:52:54.000 |
I'm gonna dictate multiple books at the same time, 00:52:56.000 |
and I'm gonna have voice recognition software, 00:53:06.000 |
I don't know, maybe I've written another 12 to 15 books. 00:54:33.000 |
I've been a director of graduate studies before. 00:54:46.000 |
I've done one or two sabbaticals at this point. 00:54:57.000 |
But my summers are kind of like sabbaticals every year 00:55:00.000 |
because I don't teach or do research on the summer. 00:55:09.000 |
really good creative progress on your writing. 00:55:20.000 |
That's just like another writing project as well. 00:55:22.000 |
You want to make good creative progress on those, 00:55:24.000 |
much more progress than you would normally make 00:55:50.000 |
the idea of like a weekly scheduling template, 00:55:55.000 |
for what you do on different days of the week. 00:56:00.000 |
weekly scheduling template I use during the summer 00:56:39.000 |
and the type of interaction with other people 00:56:42.000 |
that you still even have to do during sabbatical. 00:56:44.000 |
I might have more of this in my life than you 00:56:53.000 |
Like that could be your scheduling template, right? 00:57:09.000 |
and then it's all just like family household stuff. 00:57:12.000 |
So you don't even really need the time block. 00:57:51.000 |
You have to have time put aside for meetings, 00:57:57.000 |
and then when the inevitable meetings come up, 00:59:47.000 |
it's typically because you're working on a project 01:00:22.000 |
He's six, and I'm due for a sabbatical next year. 01:00:48.000 |
- We're going to move this studio next to a gym. 01:00:59.000 |
just me dictating chapters in one of my four books. 01:01:37.000 |
and people asking me to blast out announcements 01:02:02.000 |
and it was only possible because of deep work. 01:02:14.000 |
I didn't always feel excited and energized to start 01:02:19.000 |
Some of those sessions got cancelled or interrupted 01:02:32.000 |
was completed in a 10'x20' indoor storage unit 01:02:54.000 |
Inspired by my productive times in the storage unit 01:03:20.000 |
The desk was made from a massive hickory tree 01:03:26.000 |
All of this makes the studio feel very official 01:03:32.000 |
In addition, because building materials aren't cheap, 01:04:13.000 |
There's a piano and there's some drums, right? 01:05:08.000 |
All right, so a couple things to say about this. 01:06:43.000 |
I could record it in just like a small office, 01:07:24.000 |
So our two lessons are work at a natural pace 01:07:34.000 |
All right, so we have a final segment coming up. 01:07:35.000 |
I think we have another tech corner coming up. 01:07:41.000 |
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Especially, sometimes I feel dehydrated in the morning, 01:09:18.000 |
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That somehow is probably not compelling to their audiences 01:09:24.000 |
in the way that me saying that Bradley Beal uses Element 01:09:28.000 |
- You have been doing those preacher curls though. 01:09:44.000 |
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All right, Jesse, let's do our final segment. 01:12:58.000 |
I don't know if I should call this final segment 01:13:03.000 |
These are like the two things I normally do in this segment. 01:13:26.000 |
I have a sort of a rogue point to add to the discussion. 01:13:32.000 |
So the particular technology issue I want to talk about 01:13:45.000 |
Actually, I had an article in ProMarket not long ago 01:13:49.000 |
This is an article written by Tim Wu about Section 230. 01:13:58.000 |
It's not that this is a contemporary article. 01:14:15.000 |
even if you are moderating on your digital site, 01:14:22.000 |
so you are making decisions about what's on there or not, 01:14:25.000 |
you're still not liable for what this content says, right? 01:14:31.000 |
So what this was trying to address back in the day 01:14:38.000 |
that if you were just like purely a hosting platform, 01:14:45.000 |
for what people are doing on the internet through me. 01:15:12.000 |
and we're not responsible for anything that was on there? 01:15:26.000 |
of the legal immunity that social media platforms have 01:15:28.000 |
for you suing them about stuff that's on there. 01:15:54.000 |
There's another lawsuit about our child committed suicide 01:16:00.000 |
and this is sort of your fault. So there are some lawsuits, 01:16:08.000 |
of discussions today about technology regulation, 01:16:34.000 |
recently. I think the Biden administration has talked some about it. 01:16:58.000 |
"We have a huge problem with fascist disinformation 01:17:02.000 |
are a big part of it because they bear no responsibility 01:17:14.000 |
"bad information" they're allowing to be on their platform. 01:17:20.000 |
So here is Tim Wu summarizing the right's argument. 01:17:54.000 |
from the left. They said this is because these companies 01:18:06.000 |
against conservatives. So they kind of have this sense that 01:18:20.000 |
if it feels like you're censoring conservatives, it's like 01:18:24.000 |
230 disappears for you and you're going to be sued 01:18:36.000 |
both want to reform 230 but for different reasons. 01:18:48.000 |
not going to accomplish either of these goals. 01:18:56.000 |
can deny that Facebook and Twitter, not to mention 01:18:58.000 |
4chan had been the breeding ground for lots of 01:19:20.000 |
for you to stop the information you don't like because 01:19:22.000 |
there's plenty of news sources that don't have 01:19:24.000 |
that protection and you don't like the things 01:19:30.000 |
have a fantasy that potential civil liability 01:19:54.000 |
a figure like Donald Trump would almost certainly 01:19:56.000 |
be kicked off Twitter because he constantly defames 01:19:58.000 |
people. Alright, he was kicked off soon after that, 01:20:08.000 |
figures were saying, they would actually be more 01:20:10.000 |
likely to just kick the figures completely off 01:20:12.000 |
because they don't want to be sued about the bad things 01:20:18.000 |
kicking them off. He says you could get the opposite 01:20:26.000 |
it would be too expensive to keep anyone controversial 01:20:30.000 |
controversial would generate. So he's like, no, no, what you're 01:20:48.000 |
election fraud are actually decisions of the platforms, 01:20:58.000 |
it's like I'm looking at this from a lawyer's perspective. 01:21:08.000 |
a lot of people are pushing this reason, but it's interesting 01:21:20.000 |
idea that it's going to make these global conversation 01:21:52.000 |
dangerous, tinkering in the markets like this is dangerous, 01:22:22.000 |
environment in which we are surrounded, the modern 01:22:48.000 |
that actually have stakes in what each other has to 01:23:04.000 |
with the Internet through our phones and the domination 01:23:14.000 |
and have these massive global conversation platforms 01:23:34.000 |
hoping with some of these regulations that they're accidentally 01:23:42.000 |
no longer make a lot of sense. I think a smaller, 01:23:52.000 |
And so there's the poison pill interpretation of 01:23:56.000 |
many people share that, but I'm going to throw that into the 01:23:58.000 |
conversation as long as we're going to geek out. 01:24:00.000 |
Because I think it's another interesting way to think about 01:24:02.000 |
what might be happening with these particular 01:24:26.000 |
So you had corporate raiders in the '80s where you had these brands 01:24:48.000 |
all the stuff from the company and make a $2 million profit. 01:24:52.000 |
and business people out here are going to say, 01:24:54.000 |
"You got this wrong." But my understanding is what Board started 01:24:58.000 |
of their companies that have these rules in it 01:25:10.000 |
we're going to take the engines off our planes." They call them poison 01:25:20.000 |
we're going to burn all the printing presses. 01:25:28.000 |
Anyways, that's all the time we have for today. Thank you for listening.