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0:0 Cal's intro
10:32 Cal Reacts to the News: TikTok Dismisses Facebook
25:42 Cal talks about Blinkist and Eightsleep
32:13 Should I get a PhD in my 50’s?
40:14 Do I need two shutdowns if I work on my side hustle in the evening?
44:32 Good life vs. Deep life
49:46 Habit Tune-up: Process-Centric Email
59:6 Cal talks about Wren and MyBodyTutor
67:9 How can I succeed in an academic profession after a lackluster start?
74:55 Helping young men live deeply
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Jesse, before I forget, I have a unsolicited plug 00:00:32.480 |
He was on the show in an episode we did a while ago. 00:00:35.920 |
Him and Brad Stolberg, they do a podcast together 00:00:42.200 |
They came on my show and we talked about Matt Crawford's 00:00:49.000 |
Anyways, he has a new book out with a title that I think 00:00:52.000 |
everyone will quickly see why I like this book. 00:01:03.520 |
Steve is a world class runner and a running coach. 00:01:06.960 |
And so he brings an expertise from actually helping people 00:01:11.760 |
do demonstrably hard things to this question of how do you 00:01:24.960 |
And he has a much more sort of nuanced, sophisticated view 00:01:48.080 |
And they're always talking about their serious running. 00:01:50.360 |
And three of them have run on a semi-regular basis 00:01:54.320 |
with Gladwell, who's also a very serious runner. 00:02:04.440 |
to go on a run with Gladwell, I would be dead probably. 00:02:19.680 |
and then me and Brad Stolberg, the meatheads who hop and pop 00:02:42.560 |
Jesse crossed a milestone a month or two ago. 00:02:49.280 |
I always have a set of goals for each birthday 00:02:54.600 |
about halfway through the year, I start working towards. 00:03:05.760 |
It's tomorrow, the day after I'm recording this. 00:03:11.600 |
The big issue with my birthday project this year 00:03:18.840 |
which is June 23, is that as a professor on the semester 00:03:23.120 |
system, I'm usually done with my semester by early May. 00:03:33.040 |
And it's really a period where I finalize the things on my goal 00:03:55.200 |
maybe I'll try to extend the deadline a little bit past 00:04:07.240 |
I won't go through all of my birthday project goals. 00:04:16.200 |
There are some fitness goals I had, including the rower 00:04:23.720 |
These were just if you're going to be a grown-up in middle age, 00:04:29.840 |
But getting our estate and wills figured out, 00:04:34.920 |
that is going to automate a lot of the finances, 00:04:39.040 |
hiring someone to just go through and throw out 00:04:41.680 |
all my old clothes and just buy reasonable adult clothes for me 00:04:56.920 |
that emerged during this last year that you can't force it. 00:05:03.120 |
There might be some interesting configuration 00:05:07.320 |
shifts in my professional life that I'm looking forward to. 00:05:20.160 |
or getting close to the goals I had for turning 40. 00:05:27.520 |
Look, I don't want to give away my professional goals. 00:05:29.720 |
I'll just say it has something to do with professional HVAC 00:05:34.680 |
What's the matter with your current wardrobe? 00:05:37.840 |
I just had random clothes that didn't fit well. 00:05:51.880 |
And I'm on stages and cameras and TV and video podcast. 00:05:57.520 |
And I have to do publicity tours and stuff like this. 00:06:01.040 |
And I realized I should probably wear clothes 00:06:19.040 |
And then you show up and it's just like all of 00:06:21.560 |
It doesn't do this, not this, not this, do this. 00:06:31.200 |
Shorts, jeans, t-shirts, formal shirts, a new suit. 00:06:47.240 |
Did you talk to this guy about any of his other clients? 00:06:53.400 |
Well, so he specializes in men, which is more rare. 00:06:59.040 |
Most of the, if you look at "stylists" who work with men, 00:07:09.640 |
98% of it, if you find like, I am a stylist that works with men, 00:07:13.000 |
it is, OK, you just got promoted to CTO of your large Beltway 00:07:20.920 |
And you have to wear the right suits and the right shirts. 00:07:27.880 |
And I'm going overseas to sign a deal with a German whatever 00:07:34.160 |
is we will get you the right haircut and suit and tie 00:07:39.160 |
This guy is one of the few that deals with not just that. 00:07:44.320 |
I talked to, honestly, like a lot of his clients are tech 00:08:05.320 |
And they're like, I should probably dress like a grown up. 00:08:07.760 |
And I want to talk to girls, basically, or some of that. 00:08:11.160 |
And then also, he said, some of their clients are just-- 00:08:16.720 |
Maybe they're going through a transition later in life. 00:08:18.960 |
They're downgrading their careers or whatever. 00:08:28.040 |
So there's probably a lot of midlife crisis-y stuff 00:08:44.360 |
I do a little more TV now, this type of stuff. 00:09:09.600 |
By the way, hey, the one thing we did not replace-- 00:09:18.520 |
because it's just the color is just right for the backdrop. 00:09:21.440 |
And you don't notice the shadow of the microphone on it. 00:09:41.760 |
I did a Netflix show in the podcast shirt as well. 00:09:44.080 |
So the podcast shirt has been on Netflix and on here. 00:09:48.560 |
I may have wore it to do Charlemagne, the God show 00:09:56.920 |
It's funny, when I do the thumbnails for your YouTube 00:10:02.760 |
I'm telling you, man, you'd think it'd be easy. 00:10:04.800 |
But when you have a black backdrop and the type 00:10:27.640 |
I have a habit tune-up I want to do a little later. 00:10:31.120 |
But first, I want to do a quick news reaction, 00:10:35.400 |
because I find this article to be a confirmation of something 00:10:40.440 |
I've been talking about on this show, something 00:11:03.720 |
that is, to some degree, dunking on Facebook. 00:11:06.960 |
And I won't get into details what they're saying here. 00:11:11.560 |
If you're listening, I'll tell you what's on the screen. 00:11:15.360 |
All right, so they are quoting in this article 00:11:19.480 |
a executive from TikTok, their president of Global Business 00:11:27.760 |
between TikTok and Facebook that I have made before. 00:11:36.360 |
They built all their algorithms based on the social graph. 00:11:44.360 |
All right, he goes on to clarify, what is TikTok? 00:11:55.640 |
Now, this is something I've talked about multiple times 00:11:57.960 |
before on this show, this idea that TikTok and its popularity 00:12:04.680 |
in the landscape of these attention economy apps. 00:12:08.000 |
And I actually think it is a positive transition. 00:12:10.080 |
So it's easy instinctually, if you're a social media skeptic, 00:12:14.400 |
to look at TikTok and everyone looking at this 00:12:16.360 |
and the 600 million users and be like, oh, man, 00:12:20.560 |
And this is why, what this executive is saying. 00:12:23.080 |
TikTok is not playing the same game as Facebook. 00:12:33.640 |
It provides entertainment, straight to the brainstem 00:12:43.840 |
whatever the circumstance that wants you to get out 00:12:46.120 |
of your current moment, you pull up TikTok's app. 00:12:48.920 |
It's these short videos, algorithmically optimized 00:12:55.560 |
Slack jaw, drool coming out of the side of your mouth, 00:13:00.800 |
They are just optimizing, distracting entertainment. 00:13:04.400 |
No attempt to say, here's what your friend is up to. 00:13:07.840 |
Here's an article that was shared by your cousin. 00:13:09.840 |
Forget all that, just straight to the brainstem entertainment. 00:13:14.000 |
What the executive is saying is that Facebook, that's 00:13:16.320 |
not what they were, but they're trying to do this. 00:13:21.400 |
is that Facebook is trying to, as I previewed they were, 00:13:26.720 |
increasingly shift over towards this TikTok model. 00:13:30.760 |
Let me just put a quote here from the article. 00:13:35.640 |
to look more like TikTok by recommending more content, 00:13:38.200 |
regardless of whether it's shared by friends. 00:13:46.560 |
The parent company of Facebook, Meta's stock price 00:13:48.880 |
is down 52% this year, underperforming the Nasdaq, 00:13:55.040 |
In April, they said revenue in the second quarter 00:13:58.520 |
That'd be the first time that's ever happened. 00:14:04.080 |
I think as I've said before, that is the beginning 00:14:07.400 |
of the end for the social media platform monopolies. 00:14:18.080 |
the one thing it had going for it was network effects. 00:14:24.880 |
If the primary use of this network is to connect with 00:14:32.560 |
because no one is gonna be able to get everyone you know 00:14:36.320 |
Once we've locked in with our first mover advantage, 00:14:39.240 |
your cousin, your roommate, your brother, your sister, 00:14:46.520 |
because that's where the people you know are. 00:14:57.860 |
and move to the alternative game of brainstem manipulation, 00:15:08.440 |
when you're trying to escape the current moment, 00:15:12.480 |
It no longer matters that my cousin, my roommates, 00:15:21.660 |
is seeing content recommended by an algorithm 00:15:26.000 |
that has nothing to do with what's going on with my friends. 00:15:29.940 |
it'll help Facebook stave off some of its numbers drops 00:15:34.920 |
But as I've said before, and I wanna emphasize again, 00:15:37.240 |
the biggest conclusion of this shift among these players 00:15:42.000 |
where you don't have the powerful network effects 00:15:44.600 |
of people I specifically know need to be on there, 00:15:48.600 |
who's trying to provide entertainment and distraction. 00:15:53.560 |
and it is a pool in which I think it is gonna be impossible 00:15:56.380 |
for any one company to dominate in the way that, 00:15:59.040 |
let's say a Facebook or an Instagram or a Twitter 00:16:03.860 |
If you are just an app on my phone that can distract me, 00:16:16.560 |
investing billions of dollars in high-end entertainment 00:16:22.640 |
unlike anything else that we have seen before. 00:16:26.820 |
$200 million episodic series is competing with that, 00:16:35.560 |
It's competing with other activities you might do 00:16:43.320 |
where all we're offering is distraction entertainment, 00:16:47.000 |
all we're trying to do is to get eyes on screen, 00:16:54.900 |
There is no reason for there to be a dominant player. 00:17:03.160 |
It's popular, but there's no big issue if you don't. 00:17:09.760 |
towards distractions that they like in particular. 00:17:15.640 |
Well, you're listening to that type of sports radio 00:17:23.200 |
and you're over in like the Ben Shapiro ecosystem, 00:17:37.880 |
and getting away from the more distracted living. 00:17:44.480 |
have the binding glue of the activity you're doing 00:17:49.400 |
So I've been saying this, this article confirms it. 00:17:53.560 |
not the head, but an executive at TikTok saying, 00:18:05.640 |
If you try to become an entertainment company, 00:18:17.040 |
that so had us captured and had such a capture on our culture 00:18:20.800 |
is causing them to accidentally knock the legs 00:18:33.320 |
when there was three platforms everyone had to use, 00:18:39.480 |
It was bad for our ability to do anything else. 00:18:50.840 |
Beginning of the end for that era of monopolies. 00:18:59.760 |
You know what they said in this article, Jesse, 00:19:13.620 |
is when Google tried to compete with Facebook. 00:19:19.260 |
- Yeah, they put, Google spent millions and millions. 00:19:31.660 |
to all of these Google apps that everyone's already using, 00:19:34.460 |
Gmail, the calendars, and they did, and it still failed. 00:19:39.060 |
is because Facebook had been built from the ground up 00:19:44.460 |
Google had not, and they could never get over there. 00:19:49.660 |
You're gonna be the Google Plus of these short videos. 00:20:04.120 |
we need to get past this moment of two platforms. 00:20:21.820 |
- It's the problem with doing a tour like this 00:20:30.880 |
though I'm sure Tim's interview was good as well. 00:20:49.080 |
So I've been a big opponent of some of these services. 00:20:53.800 |
It's not because I think they're nefarious, right? 00:21:01.960 |
when we have to try to contrive these plot lines 00:21:04.460 |
of like they're purposefully ignoring all this harm 00:21:06.940 |
they're doing because they're so evil or this or that. 00:21:19.460 |
where everyone felt like they had to use the platforms. 00:21:25.100 |
I think if you have a platform everyone is using, 00:21:26.820 |
there's nothing you can do that's going to prevent that 00:21:28.540 |
from probably having lots of negative externalities. 00:21:32.280 |
I mean, I think Facebook, they try to solve these problems. 00:21:36.140 |
Like, we'll do anything you say we should do. 00:21:39.800 |
because if you have 600 million daily active users 00:21:44.140 |
from all sorts of walks of life all over the world, 00:22:03.960 |
- Do you think he wants to work for the rest of his life? 00:22:12.900 |
from that boom, that second internet boom period 00:22:27.460 |
With the investor pressure to stay in charge? 00:22:33.040 |
That is a hard Game of Thrones-style challenge. 00:22:57.100 |
as they're in the back room of the castle throne room. 00:22:59.420 |
That's not just you're a nice guy working hard. 00:23:02.780 |
there's some sort of business instinct there. 00:23:07.740 |
Gates is the only other person I can think of. 00:23:13.900 |
There's other examples, but Gates is who comes to mind. 00:23:18.660 |
And almost identical situation to Zuckerberg. 00:23:21.940 |
Dropping out of Harvard after his sophomore year, 00:23:33.060 |
So Gates and Zuckerberg, Zuckerberg is Gatesian. 00:23:47.620 |
how do we make a play for e-commerce and the internet? 00:23:50.860 |
And he had no connection to books other than he just, 00:24:22.420 |
It's kind of like what you were talking about 00:24:23.940 |
when you answered that question in an earlier episode 00:24:35.820 |
I mean, Zuckerberg does all these challenges. 00:24:54.180 |
Again, to stay in charge of a company like that, 00:25:00.460 |
Though I don't think Facebook is long for this world, 00:25:06.220 |
I mean, they rode that moment as well as you could. 00:25:11.500 |
And they did not successfully evolve beyond that. 00:25:22.820 |
on just being a social media platform monopoly. 00:25:37.780 |
before we get into the meat of our questions. 00:25:40.620 |
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where you imagine you wish this technology existed, 00:27:46.260 |
and then you find out that a company has done it. 00:27:53.540 |
So you know, good sleep is the ultimate game changer, 00:27:58.440 |
but one of the issues that people have with sleep 00:28:06.460 |
and temperature is one of the main reasons for this. 00:28:17.840 |
I would have a fan just blasting straight on me. 00:28:34.220 |
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then you have this mechanism next to your bed, 00:28:58.140 |
and there's these tubing that goes to the bed 00:29:21.660 |
Jesse, we need some sort of 8sleep technology 00:29:28.660 |
Jesse thinks that I keep this place like an icebox. 00:29:32.580 |
Like all the studios keep it cold for when people talk. 00:29:37.020 |
- I was doing a podcast once with a sports announcer, 00:29:44.660 |
And I was telling her about like, yeah, I overheat. 00:29:47.440 |
And she's like, you know what they do for college football? 00:29:49.840 |
Because you know, a lot of these college football games, 00:29:53.500 |
And the games, if you're in Ohio in September, 00:30:00.940 |
because they have to wear the suits to look nice on camera, 00:30:04.280 |
Because I overheat, I can imagine it being this real issue. 00:30:06.140 |
She said they have these air conditioner vents 00:30:10.920 |
And that's what allows them when it's, you know, 96 degrees 00:30:14.980 |
and they're, you know, trying to cover the Gators game 00:30:19.740 |
They have air conditioners like coming out up their suits 00:30:29.980 |
- I could just like wrap one around my shoulder. 00:30:34.940 |
but I like collecting other stories of people who overheat 00:30:46.180 |
he's learned a lot of times you're filming shows, 00:30:48.460 |
they're filming them outdoors in LA in the Valley 00:30:50.700 |
and it's super hot and like you're dressed for winter 00:30:52.780 |
because they're doing, you know, La Brea as stand in 00:30:56.980 |
for some Christmas time in Vermont or something like that. 00:31:03.040 |
it's basically an air conditioned phone booth 00:31:21.580 |
I want one of those for my classroom at Georgetown. 00:31:23.620 |
Some of the rooms don't have good air conditioning 00:31:25.420 |
and when like September, man, it's brutal in there. 00:31:29.220 |
I can just go and stand in and just sort of shine through 00:31:52.900 |
as well as select countries in the EU and Australia. 00:32:04.520 |
you need something to help you thermoregulate, 00:32:21.860 |
I had a plan to get my PhD in exercise physiology 00:32:29.840 |
Unfortunately, I allowed my significant other at the time 00:32:34.780 |
which led me down a path of ever changing careers, 00:32:44.180 |
and after listening to most of your Deep Questions episodes, 00:32:47.100 |
I now have the confidence and motivation to go back to school 00:32:54.680 |
I would be 60 by the time I graduate with a PhD, 00:33:06.360 |
a small human performance testing lab as a side gig, 00:33:11.900 |
while maintaining my day job as an office manager 00:33:27.820 |
for some sort of performance testing lab vision 00:33:49.520 |
at the specific school that you're gonna get it 00:33:51.340 |
is needed to unlock a specific step in your career 00:34:16.520 |
I mean, just based off of your question wording, 00:34:28.920 |
I would not spend six or seven years getting a PhD 00:34:31.220 |
with the idea that like maybe that will help me 00:34:34.580 |
I think your side hustle exploration approach 00:34:48.620 |
What you even mean by human performance testing lab? 00:34:58.540 |
One, using money as a neutral indicator of value. 00:35:03.280 |
Can you actually get people to give you money 00:35:06.520 |
That's a great indicator about whether or not 00:35:11.780 |
but they will only give you money if it actually is. 00:35:14.920 |
Two, it allows you to actually explore the contours 00:35:34.780 |
we're rocking and rolling and I'm being held back, 00:35:38.020 |
just being held back by not having this degree. 00:35:46.520 |
before you pull the trigger on any sort of higher education. 00:35:53.740 |
and don't get that PhD until you have to have it. 00:36:01.180 |
getting a PhD, like clearly elevating your career? 00:36:07.580 |
So obviously, academic, you wanna be a professor. 00:36:22.940 |
'Cause if you say, I would love to be an MIT professor, 00:36:27.420 |
you better be getting a PhD from a top two program 00:36:32.820 |
I have this issue also with a lot of military 00:36:37.120 |
and recent vets that I talked to who are using their GI bill. 00:36:40.520 |
And I think there's a lot of predatory online degrees 00:36:43.200 |
where they come in like, hey, get your online MBA 00:36:45.160 |
and we'll suck out your GI bill benefits for it. 00:36:47.760 |
And it's convenient and you kind of do it on the side. 00:36:50.500 |
And it turns out that the employers down the road say, 00:36:58.920 |
There's other fields that have specific PhD requirements. 00:37:02.920 |
So in biomed, biomed research, working for a drug company, 00:37:08.120 |
you wanna be on, I have a colleague whose wife 00:37:12.120 |
works on respiratory virus vaccines at Moderna. 00:37:17.120 |
So we always tell him, your job for the rest of our culture 00:37:22.960 |
is to make sure your wife is completely unburdened 00:37:30.760 |
that it's not an academic job, but you need a PhD for that, 00:37:40.760 |
I mean, this has shifted, but the traditional thinking 00:37:46.640 |
is if you're just looking at going to industry 00:37:50.100 |
and making salary, getting a master's degree, 00:37:55.500 |
where you just, you start your master's classes 00:37:59.900 |
So you do five years and you get an undergrad 00:38:03.140 |
From a pure economic perspective, it's probably worth it 00:38:13.500 |
And in the time it takes you to get that master's degree, 00:38:19.300 |
The math often, or at least it didn't back in my day, 00:38:21.960 |
work out for getting a PhD and going to industry. 00:38:32.260 |
than someone coming in with a master's degree. 00:38:38.160 |
the person who started with the master's degree 00:38:39.800 |
has been promoted enough that they're making a lot more 00:38:52.540 |
If you are able to get a PhD from a real star in the field 00:39:04.840 |
moving the avant-garde of the field forward type research, 00:39:09.360 |
like I'm moving forward what's possible with deep learning. 00:39:17.700 |
Those, some of those PhD students are getting close to 00:39:26.380 |
where actually being able to produce original research 00:39:34.320 |
But if you're gonna go into a development job 00:39:47.840 |
I know for a fact it requires a PhD to do it. 00:39:50.220 |
I know for a fact the quality and competitiveness 00:39:57.480 |
Never use graduate degrees as a delaying function, 00:40:15.080 |
We've talked about this one a lot, so I can go fast here. 00:40:19.980 |
"if you split your day job and your side hustle 00:40:24.140 |
No, you have a real shutdown after the first block of work. 00:40:33.720 |
your side hustle work you're gonna do in the evening. 00:40:45.120 |
you turn on, you do it, you finish, you turn off. 00:40:49.400 |
the reason why I'm coming back to this question 00:40:56.160 |
I recorded an interview and we were talking about this. 00:40:58.000 |
And there's a wrinkle that came up that I wanna add here, 00:41:01.600 |
which is if you're doing this two shift style work, 00:41:04.360 |
if you create new open loops in the second shift, 00:41:10.320 |
it's a problem and you're gonna need another full shutdown. 00:41:12.680 |
So for example, if you're working on your side hustle 00:41:26.800 |
who are mainly working on their day job during the day 00:41:29.160 |
and doing work on a side hustle in the evening, 00:41:35.000 |
or you're writing a novel or something like that, 00:41:46.200 |
Purify what you do during the evening second shift 00:42:00.480 |
So any type of open loop generating interaction 00:42:04.560 |
so that when you do your shutdown at the end of the day, 00:42:07.080 |
it also is closing down your second side hustle job. 00:42:11.880 |
You're looking at your plan for the rest of the week. 00:42:18.440 |
if you can keep the evening work just pure work 00:42:26.760 |
Don't create new open loops in the second shift. 00:42:31.800 |
you don't do shutdowns on the weekends, right? 00:42:34.480 |
- No, no, you shut down hard at the end of the week. 00:42:37.400 |
Here's where I'm gonna pick up again on Monday, 00:42:39.560 |
and you don't have to worry about that type of thing 00:42:44.380 |
like I often write on Sunday mornings, it's purified. 00:43:03.560 |
because we have a workman in our house this whole week 00:43:25.420 |
- There's a lot of different places to sit in there. 00:43:30.240 |
- Yeah, I sit in, because the inside's not as, 00:43:34.740 |
I don't know, people are pretty COVID-y around here. 00:43:44.200 |
But you know, it's just, our house is full of people. 00:43:56.360 |
- If Bevco had one of those, you could get in on that. 00:43:59.040 |
- I would say, and I would conservatively estimate 00:44:01.640 |
my monthly spending at Bevco, and this is just ballpark, 00:44:12.420 |
I think in the business plan, there's like a pie chart 00:44:20.280 |
Like it's at the core, at the core of their business plan. 00:44:27.280 |
- Yeah, it's fun. - You can refill your coffee 00:44:35.060 |
This is about the good life versus the deep life. 00:44:37.920 |
- Could you elaborate more on the differences 00:44:47.880 |
while the deep life is notable and remarkable. 00:45:05.600 |
But the last thing you said is a useful way, I think, 00:45:29.480 |
I'm thinking Aristotle, I'm thinking eudaimonia, 00:45:41.040 |
And usually these concepts had something to do, 00:45:43.040 |
obviously virtue was a big part of it, living life virtuously. 00:45:50.920 |
I guess you could call it temperance or moderation. 00:45:54.480 |
he often talks about on many of these character traits, 00:45:57.640 |
there's extremes and where you wanna be is in the middle. 00:46:06.120 |
but you also don't wanna be debt piling, spending freely. 00:46:12.640 |
So there's some notion of temperance or moderation 00:46:16.280 |
And then some notion of flourishing, eudaimonic flourishing, 00:46:19.080 |
which is taking the talents or abilities you have 00:46:30.400 |
You're athletic, you wanna harness that skill 00:46:44.720 |
in the sort of the ancient Greek definition of it. 00:47:03.760 |
where we wanna use this framework as a good life 00:47:06.600 |
that is augmented with some notion of remarkability. 00:47:16.120 |
That is not someone who is gonna go to their deathbed 00:47:23.480 |
of that people remark like, "That's very interesting." 00:47:28.120 |
at least provisionally I argue that the core of doing that 00:47:35.160 |
where you also make some sort of radical shift 00:47:51.200 |
towards fulfilling something that you really value. 00:47:56.640 |
in pursuit of your values that makes a good life, 00:48:01.400 |
That's why we're attracted to not just presence, 00:48:11.600 |
It's radical alignment in pursuit of this thing 00:48:22.560 |
and they have the craftsman workshop that they're in. 00:48:36.560 |
Barbara Kingsolver in "Animal Vegetable Miracle" 00:48:41.000 |
and only eat what we can grow ourselves or buy from nearby. 00:48:47.080 |
because it's a radical shift in pursuit of what you value. 00:48:52.040 |
So a deep life is not necessary to have a good life. 00:48:56.240 |
but it's an approach that right now in our current moment, 00:49:05.680 |
was people being very reflective of their lives, 00:49:20.880 |
and starting to care about what do I really care about? 00:49:25.520 |
is one in which this particular configuration 00:49:27.760 |
of the good life, one that's built around radical shifts, 00:49:31.120 |
is one that is catching more and more attention 00:49:35.680 |
And that's why in theory, I'll be writing a book about it 00:49:41.640 |
That's my second attempt to differentiate the good life 00:49:51.280 |
We haven't done a good old-fashioned habit tune-up 00:49:57.360 |
the habit tune-up segment is one where I take a piece 00:50:03.360 |
So let's get into the weeds, get a little bit technical 00:50:15.760 |
It's an idea that I first introduced in my book, 00:50:18.400 |
"Deep Work," where I gave it the incredibly compelling 00:50:35.760 |
is pushing for a little bit more clarity on the question 00:50:43.700 |
This is something I think a lot of people get wrong. 00:50:46.000 |
I get a lot of messages from people that say, 00:50:47.440 |
"Yeah, I love this idea of digital minimalism 00:50:49.680 |
"because I hate how when I go into my email inbox, 00:51:02.880 |
Too many newsletters is not your problem with email. 00:51:04.960 |
Other people say, "Yeah, I have all of these announcements 00:51:08.500 |
"and notices and promotional emails from every company 00:51:14.420 |
"My employer sends out 17 announcements a day, 00:51:27.720 |
Some people say, "Yeah, everyone is always shooting me 00:51:35.480 |
Like, can't we just talk next time we see each other? 00:51:40.600 |
two o'clock, the client's name is this, here's the link. 00:51:48.300 |
If all of email was a combination of newsletters, 00:52:06.120 |
just boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, right? 00:52:13.440 |
We don't get stressed out by questions we can answer 00:52:35.700 |
is messages that initiate back and forth interaction. 00:52:45.640 |
the source of almost every piece of cognitive distress 00:53:02.540 |
Or what are we gonna do to get this thing ready 00:53:08.640 |
The message that is gonna begin back and forth, 00:53:12.200 |
back and forth, like, well, when should we do that? 00:53:19.120 |
if he remembers when this has back and forth, 00:53:27.540 |
working towards trying to figure out something 00:53:30.360 |
That is the main productivity poison in our inboxes. 00:53:48.980 |
and we need that resolution by the end of the day, 00:53:52.060 |
I can't wait three hours for message number two, 00:54:01.440 |
'Cause I gotta see when the latest message comes in 00:54:06.740 |
And I have to see that pretty soon after and bounce it back. 00:54:10.160 |
not because we know there's new newsletters in there, 00:54:13.120 |
not because there's promotions from Levi's we wanna see. 00:54:15.880 |
It's because we have back and forth conversations 00:54:18.740 |
The second reason why these are productivity poison 00:54:35.620 |
And you're like, I don't know how to do that. 00:54:37.520 |
And now I guess I can afford this as someone else 00:54:44.060 |
just to get it off my plate and wait for it to come back. 00:54:48.760 |
You've created a, they create these major open loops 00:54:53.980 |
And it's a real source of stress and distress. 00:54:59.560 |
these are the type of messages that create that anxiety. 00:55:06.280 |
I don't even really know who I should talk to about this. 00:55:08.920 |
I guess I'm gonna have to start sending messages 00:55:17.180 |
So if you wanna make your experience with your inbox better, 00:55:22.440 |
ambiguous conversations that you have to tame. 00:55:25.000 |
That is what process centric emailing is all about. 00:55:32.600 |
that is initiating one of these long back and forths, 00:55:46.840 |
for the process by which this whole collaboration 00:55:58.120 |
You declare, this is how I think this should happen. 00:56:00.600 |
Oh, we have to figure out what to do about this client. 00:56:13.520 |
talk to Susan to make sure that we understand 00:56:19.520 |
for what we need to do to onboard the client. 00:56:22.240 |
We'll talk about this in the last five minutes 00:56:24.320 |
of the meeting and make a plan going forward. 00:56:37.880 |
Jesse, you then highlight the times that work for you 00:56:41.640 |
and then you forward it onto the third person 00:56:46.000 |
and put that just into an invite and send it to all of us 00:56:54.360 |
The thing that this conversation is gonna lead towards 00:57:00.280 |
and without having to just wait for messages to arrive 00:57:04.860 |
Process-centric emailing is a little bit stilted. 00:57:17.760 |
but then have the pretty detailed thing below. 00:57:23.440 |
I've been listening too much Cal Newport, but it works. 00:57:38.800 |
and you might have some extra work to do to set it up. 00:57:47.840 |
but it is almost always worth spending 10 or 15 more minutes 00:57:52.660 |
than it is to have 10 or 15 messages you have to respond to. 00:58:06.280 |
that's gonna be 50 to 75 inbox checks over the next few days 00:58:11.920 |
than you adding 10 minutes right now to what you're doing. 00:58:15.200 |
So I'm a big believer in process-centric emailing. 00:58:23.600 |
because the same type of work happens again and again, 00:58:31.120 |
Why don't we all just agree this is how we do it? 00:58:44.720 |
that is the thing that kills us in our inbox. 00:58:48.160 |
That is the thing you should be willing to do 00:59:03.520 |
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"by my unstable temporary residency situation. 01:07:39.260 |
"He is a nice guy, but not very knowledgeable 01:07:41.040 |
"and did not improve or increase my publications 01:07:43.180 |
"or contributed to my growth as a researcher. 01:07:48.340 |
"I managed to publish a few papers of uncertain quality 01:07:51.060 |
"and learned quite a deal through my own efforts. 01:07:53.400 |
"My question is, do you think I still can succeed 01:07:57.660 |
"in an academic world, even if my start was not the best? 01:08:01.520 |
"Where would you recommend to focus my efforts?" 01:08:06.300 |
Well, Lucy, academic world can mean a lot of things. 01:08:10.880 |
So if what we're talking about is a tenure-track position 01:08:18.660 |
sort of the classic image we have of a professor, 01:08:29.860 |
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That's what they're hiring you to do at your school. 01:09:00.840 |
because they know how to publish really impactful papers 01:09:14.040 |
that I got a private message recently from a student 01:09:17.120 |
who said, "Look, I wanna go to grad school in CS, 01:09:25.960 |
And he's like, "I'm kind of leaning towards Princeton." 01:09:43.500 |
And honestly, I came back to him, I was like, 01:09:48.260 |
"I'm 18 going off to undergrad year experience. 01:09:58.340 |
"the more intellectual literary atmosphere of Princeton." 01:10:00.580 |
Like live in Harvard Square, that's what I did. 01:10:02.800 |
Go to MIT, live in Harvard Square, buy books, 01:10:12.740 |
You gotta study with the very best people you can. 01:10:17.180 |
It's like training for a professional athletic job. 01:10:39.480 |
if you're not already coming out of a top place. 01:10:48.760 |
and kill it on the research in that first year as a postdoc, 01:11:01.320 |
I will go to a school that I don't wanna go to, right? 01:11:04.800 |
So it's a non-tenure track or it's tenure track, 01:11:11.000 |
and I will earn my way into a better position. 01:11:21.680 |
where they don't really care much about research, 01:11:24.120 |
it's gonna be very hard to distinguish yourself there 01:11:29.220 |
Because remember, the better schools have their pick 01:11:31.140 |
of the very best people coming out of programs. 01:11:43.340 |
It is just real, it happens, but it's really rare. 01:11:46.620 |
And the one exception is the very top schools 01:11:48.860 |
in some fields basically use an all-star methods, 01:11:53.140 |
like MIT will do this in computer science or mathematics. 01:12:20.360 |
to a non-research focused heavy teaching load school 01:12:26.900 |
because there's no time to do it, it's crushing. 01:12:29.380 |
And also be wary about letting your desire for academia 01:12:33.540 |
pull you into a exploitative adjunct type situation. 01:12:38.060 |
Again, it's also very rare that you're gonna jump 01:12:40.980 |
into a classic tenure track type academic position. 01:12:48.140 |
that for this very narrow definition of academia, 01:12:50.300 |
and it might not be what you're talking about, 01:12:56.060 |
tenure track at a well-known university doing research, 01:13:01.200 |
And you need to have produced really good research. 01:13:05.620 |
So if you have a way to do that in a postdoc, 01:13:10.140 |
writing the killer book, getting out those killer articles, 01:13:32.500 |
I hope that wasn't too much of a downer, Jesse, but. 01:13:36.780 |
With your break now, are you still writing papers? 01:13:43.560 |
Yeah, my doctoral student's presenting a paper next week. 01:14:05.660 |
- But like my doctoral student's working on his dissertation, 01:14:10.060 |
In fact, I'm talking to him right after this, 01:14:15.780 |
I'm really kind of locked into non-academic writing. 01:14:30.820 |
academic peer-reviewed computer science papers, 01:14:48.660 |
a four to five paper a year pace in computer science. 01:15:10.860 |
and I'm a Benedictine monk in the United States. 01:15:21.440 |
Part of my work is educating and forming young men 01:15:38.740 |
Do you have thoughts on how I might be a good mentor 01:15:43.160 |
and teacher for these principles to these young men? 01:15:58.340 |
are often in this day and age hungry for guidance. 01:16:10.220 |
And when they're not, when they're left adrift, 01:16:16.000 |
So I'm glad you're involved in being a guiding light 01:16:29.320 |
but when I'm thinking about the advice I give 01:16:39.480 |
So saying, okay, you're committing to this goal 01:16:43.460 |
You don't wanna live a life that is haphazard. 01:16:46.040 |
You don't wanna live a life that is arbitrary 01:16:47.720 |
or at the whims of distraction or the noise of our culture, 01:16:51.180 |
that you instead wanna live a life that is intentional 01:17:00.580 |
That is highly appealing to a lot of young men. 01:17:05.400 |
And making it clear that this is gonna require discipline 01:17:21.100 |
that I think is for good men, good for young men 01:17:23.660 |
is that it has these multiple elements to it. 01:17:27.340 |
We often get stuck on just one aspect of good living. 01:17:47.020 |
We're going through the process of becoming a monk 01:17:52.580 |
So this notion that we have various areas of life 01:17:55.160 |
that all require service, I think that is very useful. 01:17:57.860 |
And we know the areas I often talk about is craft. 01:18:01.000 |
So what you actually do and create is community, 01:18:04.900 |
being a leader and sacrificing non-trivial time 01:18:09.500 |
constitution, that is your health, that is your fitness, 01:18:13.820 |
that's gonna be theology, really making that important, 01:18:20.740 |
the ability to build up taste and kind of stewardship 01:18:23.940 |
and just gratitude for things that are good in the world 01:18:35.420 |
is a message that young people and young men in particular 01:18:43.700 |
and let's go through each of these one by one 01:18:47.100 |
and do a preliminary overhaul of that part of your life. 01:18:51.100 |
and get some real serious fitness going here, 01:18:58.100 |
You need to stop, you can get off that phone, 01:18:59.940 |
you need to read, you need a half hour a day. 01:19:13.740 |
Are you spending time thinking about it every day? 01:19:20.380 |
where you're sacrificing your own time and energy? 01:19:24.380 |
and it's all different areas you're focusing on. 01:19:31.660 |
and all of that comes into play, slow productivity. 01:19:33.940 |
So as you move through these different buckets, 01:19:44.580 |
to make my life into something deep and remarkable. 01:19:52.300 |
when we're talking about young men in today's culture. 01:19:56.340 |
So I think that's the way I would go about it. 01:20:05.200 |
And I'll tell you, there are so many positive side effects 01:20:08.440 |
of systematically trying to cultivate this life, 01:20:23.000 |
all of these things that can afflict the 23 and adrift, 01:20:33.320 |
you're getting that feeling of success on them. 01:20:37.560 |
You're getting that feeling of autonomy and meaning. 01:20:41.520 |
And it transforms the whole way you think about the life. 01:20:55.880 |
who ends up contributing something really interesting 01:21:00.160 |
so they can be there for their family, for their community 01:21:05.040 |
there's so many things good to come out of it. 01:21:13.440 |
break into the categories, do my whole framework there. 01:21:22.620 |
All right, Jessie, I think that's a good variety 01:21:29.600 |
So that's as good a time of any to wrap things up. 01:21:33.320 |
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