RPF0435-Plan_Your_Weekend
00:00:00.000 | Hey, Radicals, welcome to the podcast.
00:00:03.480 | Today I have a very short coaching message for you.
00:00:07.640 | I'm going to take off my financial advisor hat for a moment, put on my life coach hat,
00:00:14.000 | talk to you about the power of planning your free time.
00:00:19.480 | It's been a busy week for me this week.
00:00:20.800 | I've been working, working, working on a number of important projects, trying to make measurable
00:00:26.560 | progress toward some of the goals that I have.
00:00:31.200 | This week's been busy.
00:00:32.200 | I've been working a lot because looking forward to the birth of our new little baby boy here
00:00:38.640 | in a couple of months.
00:00:41.240 | The birth of a child is a very special time in my life, in your life.
00:00:46.720 | It's extremely special in your relationship with your husband or wife.
00:00:51.000 | It's a time to pull back, and I intend to do that, pull back a little bit when our little
00:00:55.960 | baby boy is born.
00:00:58.080 | It's also potentially very disruptive.
00:01:01.240 | When our daughter was born, for the first few months of her life, first week she was
00:01:05.640 | great.
00:01:06.640 | For the first few months, she was extremely sick, basically would cry all day, every day,
00:01:11.160 | and it was probably the most trying few months of my life that I've been through yet.
00:01:17.360 | Being aware of that, I need to make sure that I've made progress now while our little baby
00:01:23.000 | boy is not crying.
00:01:24.160 | He's inside his mommy's tummy.
00:01:25.800 | He's not crying.
00:01:27.440 | He's maybe sucking his thumb and he's turning cartwheels.
00:01:30.080 | He's not turning cartwheels at this point.
00:01:32.160 | He's gotten big enough where he doesn't turn easy cartwheels, but he's not crying.
00:01:36.360 | This is the point in time at which I need to be making hay to mix my metaphors.
00:01:41.800 | It's been a busy week, and for you, I bet it's been a busy week as well.
00:01:46.440 | You're a hardworking person.
00:01:48.560 | You're a motivated, goal-oriented individual.
00:01:52.360 | You've been working.
00:01:55.160 | The question is here as I sit here on Friday afternoon transitioning to planning the weekend,
00:02:02.080 | do I spend as much time carefully planning my weekend as I do planning my work week?
00:02:10.480 | I have to confess that I'm as guilty as you are of placing more focus on my work week
00:02:20.200 | than on my weekend.
00:02:24.600 | I've changed this, and I've learned to intentionally plan my free time.
00:02:34.320 | My wife and my children and my friends and my family and all of the people with whom
00:02:40.440 | I'm interacting are the reason why we spend so much time working so hard.
00:02:47.520 | It's easy to forget that.
00:02:50.320 | After all, work is measurable, but shouldn't your days off also be measurable?
00:02:59.280 | Why would you spend more time planning your work week in order to be effective and not
00:03:03.440 | spend any time planning your days off?
00:03:07.760 | So as I sit here, I've made great progress in planning my days off.
00:03:12.080 | As I sit here working on my plans for tomorrow, Saturday, which is a combination of work day
00:03:18.560 | and family day and Sunday, which I don't work on Sundays, when I start planning these
00:03:24.160 | things I've found that I get a lot more juice from them, a lot more joy.
00:03:33.760 | Here's what I challenge you to do.
00:03:35.280 | Stop what you're doing.
00:03:37.720 | Pull over to the side of the road for a few minutes if you're driving or if you're listening
00:03:41.320 | to me.
00:03:42.320 | Just stop what you're doing and pull out a pen and a piece of paper or the digital equivalent
00:03:45.880 | of that and start thinking through your weekend days.
00:03:53.840 | Plan out your weekend days with as much focus as you do your work week days.
00:04:02.400 | I was on a coaching call with one of my coaching clients earlier this afternoon and we were
00:04:06.040 | talking about this and the recommendations that I gave to my client were to take out
00:04:13.040 | a piece of paper, start the day at the same normal time that you do.
00:04:18.400 | I don't know about you.
00:04:19.400 | I think I prefer to wake up at the same time on the weekends as I do on the weekdays.
00:04:24.240 | It's just more important and valuable for me to have my early morning time.
00:04:29.120 | But if you start the day at 6 a.m., start the day at 6 a.m. and sketch out each hour
00:04:33.880 | of the day and plan first your activities.
00:04:38.440 | So what activities are you going to do that are going to rejuvenate you and refresh you
00:04:43.760 | and strengthen you and revitalize you?
00:04:46.640 | What activities are going to make you really feel the zest of living?
00:04:50.540 | What activities are available to you that you often go past?
00:04:53.800 | What's the museum right around the corner?
00:04:55.520 | Don't just sit at home and start flipping through channels.
00:04:59.840 | Go out and live, whatever that means to you.
00:05:03.000 | That means working in your garden.
00:05:05.240 | Plan it out.
00:05:06.240 | What are you going to do in your garden tomorrow?
00:05:07.240 | What are you going to plant?
00:05:08.680 | What are you going to take out?
00:05:11.480 | If you're going to work on projects in the house, line them up.
00:05:15.920 | What are you going to do?
00:05:16.920 | What do you need to get done?
00:05:18.520 | If you're going to go and go out on the paddle boards or take the canoes out on the lake,
00:05:24.320 | plan it out and plan that day.
00:05:27.240 | Plan each and every hour of the day.
00:05:29.200 | Plan times with the special people.
00:05:31.520 | Maybe you're going to plan to get up in the morning, have breakfast together with your
00:05:35.160 | family, you're going to load up your bags and load up some water bottles and take your
00:05:38.560 | family out for a hike.
00:05:39.560 | You're going to hike out to the lake and have a picnic at the lake.
00:05:46.400 | Plan it.
00:05:47.400 | Maybe the afternoon you can take your daughter on a daddy-daughter date or you can take your
00:05:52.920 | son to something special and go and buy your son something special that he's been wanting
00:05:56.680 | to have.
00:05:58.280 | Maybe in the evening you can plan a special family adventure.
00:06:00.880 | Just plan a special date with your husband or wife and make it really special and thoughtful.
00:06:07.280 | Dress up, buy flowers, make it an event, especially when it comes to our family relationships.
00:06:15.920 | I'm not preaching at you about romance, but it's so easy.
00:06:20.760 | I guess I am.
00:06:21.840 | I am preaching at you about romance.
00:06:24.000 | The point of this is to plan your free time, but romance is an important part of that.
00:06:27.840 | It's so easy to take the people we care the most about for granted.
00:06:32.400 | It's so easy to slip out of the care that we once showed for them and to slip into the
00:06:40.520 | comfort of an old slipper.
00:06:42.200 | Take them for granted.
00:06:43.200 | Tell you what, you take your husband or your wife for granted, first year you'll just have
00:06:50.240 | a little bit of a dullness in the relationship.
00:06:53.960 | Second year, you'll just have a little bit of dullness in the relationship, but you do
00:06:58.460 | it too much longer and pretty quickly you'll be signing divorce papers.
00:07:04.220 | So don't take your husband or wife for granted.
00:07:07.100 | Plan your time with them as vigorously as you plan your work week.
00:07:15.780 | We all say that these things are important to us.
00:07:20.400 | We all say that it's important to spend focused time with the people we care about.
00:07:26.640 | Isn't it time we follow through and put our planning skills, our calendaring skills, our
00:07:35.600 | productivity skills, and our money where our mouth is?
00:07:41.440 | Get to it.
00:07:42.440 | My child arrived just the other day.
00:07:56.880 | He came to the world in the usual way, but there were planes to catch and bills to pay.
00:08:04.240 | He learned to walk while I was away, and he was talking for I knew it, and as he grew
00:08:09.800 | he'd say, "I'm gonna be like you, Dad.
00:08:13.520 | You know I'm gonna be like you."
00:08:14.520 | And the cats in the cradle and the sills roll, little boy blue and the man in the fold.
00:08:15.520 | When you're coming home, Daddy, don't know when, but we'll get together then.
00:08:16.520 | You know we'll have a good time then.
00:08:17.520 | My son turned ten just the other day.
00:08:45.200 | He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad.
00:08:47.280 | Come on, let's play.
00:08:48.280 | Can you teach me to throw?"
00:08:49.280 | I said, "Not today.
00:08:50.280 | I got a lot to do."
00:08:51.280 | He said, "That's okay."
00:08:52.280 | And he walked away, but he smiled, never did, and said, "I'm gonna be like him.
00:08:53.280 | Yeah, you know I'm gonna be like him."
00:08:54.280 | And the cats in the cradle and the sills roll, little boy blue and the man in the fold.
00:08:55.280 | When you're coming home, Daddy, don't know when, but we'll get together then.
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00:09:30.920 | When you're coming home, Daddy, don't know when, but we'll get together then.
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