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I'm calling in sick again on the show this morning. 00:00:42.000 |
As you can tell probably from the sound of my voice, 00:00:47.000 |
I could barely get out a whisper this morning. 00:00:49.000 |
But I didn't want to leave you without something 00:00:51.000 |
thought-provoking for your Friday to take you into the weekend. 00:00:54.000 |
So what I've chosen to do is today I'm going to play you 00:01:00.000 |
And this audio that I've chosen, I found it on YouTube. 00:01:05.000 |
And this audio that I've chosen is from a speech 00:01:08.000 |
that Cal delivered at the World Domination Summit 00:01:12.000 |
The World Domination Summit is a project by Chris Guillebeau. 00:01:15.000 |
And he brings together a bunch of interesting people 00:01:18.000 |
for a weekend and they talk about how to change the world. 00:01:24.000 |
Now I have never had the opportunity to do this 00:01:26.000 |
and I have never had the opportunity to go in the past. 00:01:32.000 |
It was actually just a week or two ago, the 2014 version. 00:01:35.000 |
But I'm hoping that in the future that I am able to go. 00:01:38.000 |
Maybe next year. Maybe next year will be the magic year 00:01:41.000 |
because it just seems like what an awesome gathering of people 00:01:48.000 |
if you haven't read any of Chris' writing, you can find it 00:01:59.000 |
And he's written a book called The $100 Startup, 00:02:02.000 |
which is a very useful book for someone who's interested 00:02:04.000 |
in starting a business but put off by having the money 00:02:12.000 |
"Why follow your passion is the wrong career advice." 00:02:15.000 |
And Cal's written a book called So Good They Can't Ignore You. 00:02:20.000 |
Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love. 00:02:24.000 |
It's an excellent book. I would commend it to you. 00:02:26.000 |
You would notice if you listened to the episode-- 00:02:31.000 |
Jacob actually mentioned this book and mentioned Cal 00:02:37.000 |
so you can expect the show to be about 30 minutes long. 00:02:39.000 |
If you have the ability, you're in front of a computer, 00:02:41.000 |
just click through to the YouTube video and watch it on YouTube 00:02:47.000 |
It's nice to see him deliver the speech visually. 00:02:53.000 |
there's nothing that he talks about that you need to see the video. 00:02:58.000 |
I hope to be back with you ready to go on Monday morning 00:03:03.000 |
Thank you for sticking with me while I've been ill. 00:03:20.000 |
Most of you don't know this, but during that last break, 00:03:23.000 |
Chris visited three more countries on his list. 00:03:30.000 |
We actually shared for a brief moment the same publisher, 00:03:33.000 |
and I'm a little bit relieved that we don't anymore 00:03:36.000 |
because when it came to the marketing meetings 00:03:42.000 |
nothing made it harder than knowing that Chris was just in there 00:03:52.000 |
You know Chris was in there the day before with his plans 00:04:00.000 |
I'm glad I have left, and now I can feel a little bit better about it. 00:04:10.000 |
against some ideas that we have taken for granted 00:04:15.000 |
I want to replace them with some more nuanced ideas 00:04:18.000 |
that the evidence suggests might work better. 00:04:22.000 |
This is sort of my professorial approach to these type of questions. 00:04:28.000 |
who I think would be well appreciated by this crowd, 00:04:32.000 |
In particular, I want to go back to the early summer of 2005. 00:04:37.000 |
This is when Steve Jobs took the podium at Stanford Stadium 00:04:42.000 |
and he was there to give the commencement address 00:04:49.000 |
Jobs did not give a lot of these sort of touchy-feely speeches, 00:04:53.000 |
He may have been wearing sandals under his robes, which he was, 00:04:57.000 |
and by all accounts, it was a really good one. 00:05:00.000 |
Someone posted this unofficial video of it on YouTube, 00:05:06.000 |
Stanford then released their official version, 00:05:11.000 |
I would assume that the number of people in this crowd 00:05:16.000 |
I mean, we could probably fit them in this sinister cage thing 00:05:22.000 |
I sort of assumed when I came here for rehearsal 00:05:24.000 |
that he was going to have an investment banker trapped in here, 00:05:37.000 |
he had quite a few interesting points in this talk, 00:05:40.000 |
but there was one in particular that really seemed to get people fired up. 00:05:44.000 |
And that's when he said, "You have to find what you love. 00:05:48.000 |
If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle." 00:05:53.000 |
So judging by the news reports that came out right after this talk 00:05:59.000 |
it's clear that people interpreted him there as saying, 00:06:02.000 |
"Guys, if you want to love what you do for a living, 00:06:07.000 |
First, figure out what you're passionate about, 00:06:10.000 |
and then you have to second, match that to your work." 00:06:14.000 |
Now we are used to this idea in sort of common slang. 00:06:17.000 |
We summarize it with the phrase, "Follow your passion," right? 00:06:21.000 |
And we say, "Follow your passion. This is what we're talking about. 00:06:23.000 |
Figure out what you're passionate about, match it to your work. 00:06:27.000 |
Now Jobs, of course, was not the first person to have this idea. 00:06:30.000 |
You can actually go back, and I've done this, 00:06:32.000 |
and track its emergence in the American cultural conversation. 00:06:39.000 |
Which decade in the 20th century did the phrase, "Follow your passion," 00:06:43.000 |
first show up in the printed English language? 00:06:50.000 |
I heard a lot, but I heard the loudest was 1940s. 00:06:52.000 |
And that is actually right. I'm very impressed. Thank you. 00:07:02.000 |
And kids, that's the lesson. You know, cheat. 00:07:10.000 |
It was in a play, a short play. It was a bunch of woodcutters. 00:07:15.000 |
In fact, I would not recommend trying to base your life off of this odd play. 00:07:19.000 |
You actually don't see it being used in the context of career advice 00:07:23.000 |
until the mid-1980s, and then you begin to see it show up. 00:07:26.000 |
By the early 1990s, you start to see full career advice books 00:07:33.000 |
By the early 2000s, people stop explaining it in their books. 00:07:38.000 |
They stop trying to convince you it's good advice. 00:07:41.000 |
They just assume that you think it's good advice, 00:07:43.000 |
and they jump right in to just trying to justify it. 00:07:45.000 |
Or not justify it, but give strategies for taking action on it. 00:07:49.000 |
So when Steve Jobs stood up there and promoted the idea 00:08:02.000 |
We have this icon of American remarkable living 00:08:07.000 |
who is giving his seal of approval on this idea, 00:08:13.000 |
And I'm not surprised that it excited people, 00:08:15.000 |
because if you think about this piece of advice, "Follow your passion," 00:08:24.000 |
It tells you a life, a working life at least, that you love 00:08:33.000 |
You have to do some introspection to figure out what you're passionate about. 00:08:37.000 |
So you take a strength finder, you pour wax in the water, 00:08:41.000 |
and if it solidifies like a microscope, you should be a biologist. 00:08:47.000 |
A little bit of introspection, doesn't take long. 00:08:49.000 |
And then you have to go find a job that matches that. 00:08:51.000 |
Now you're going to have to read some blog post that will inspire you first 00:08:54.000 |
to get your courage up, but then you go and you get the job that matches it. 00:08:59.000 |
I mean, you could be here in this audience today, 00:09:01.000 |
you could be miserable about your life, and by playoff season, 00:09:04.000 |
you could have a Steve Jobs-like love for what you do. 00:09:08.000 |
But there is a wrinkle here, as Chris previewed. 00:09:11.000 |
And the wrinkle is, as it turns out, this advice is not only astonishingly appealing, 00:09:19.000 |
And that's what I'm here today to talk about. 00:09:26.000 |
researching and writing a book that looked at a very simple question. 00:09:30.000 |
Why do some people end up loving what they do, while so many other people do not? 00:09:39.000 |
I had just finished my very long career as a student, many years. 00:09:45.000 |
And I was in a sort of purgatory known as a post-doc. 00:09:51.000 |
And this is where, in theory, you're preparing yourself for an academic career, 00:09:53.000 |
but this was a very sort of uncertain time for a couple of reasons. 00:09:56.000 |
One, I was potentially about to do the only and last job interview of my life, 00:10:00.000 |
since professorship could be a lifetime experience. 00:10:03.000 |
And more importantly, it was a very hard job market, 00:10:06.000 |
so there was a very good chance I wasn't going to get this job, 00:10:08.000 |
and after all this training, was going to have to start from scratch. 00:10:12.000 |
So in a massive abuse of my post-doc contract, 00:10:15.000 |
I said, "What I'm going to do is go write a book instead, 00:10:19.000 |
And I wanted to have an answer to this question, 00:10:21.000 |
because I figured this was the time in my own life when I needed an answer. 00:10:27.000 |
In the first part, I make my case against why "Follow Your Passion" is bad advice. 00:10:31.000 |
In the second part, I talk about what you should do instead. 00:10:34.000 |
And in here, I chronicle this quest I went on 00:10:36.000 |
to find people from all walks of life who do love what they do for a living, 00:10:41.000 |
and to hear their stories and look for patterns. 00:10:49.000 |
The first story I'll pull right from the first part, 00:10:54.000 |
about why I think "Follow Your Passion" is bad advice. 00:10:58.000 |
The second story we'll pull from the second part, 00:11:01.000 |
and we'll draw some lessons from that about what I think works instead. 00:11:07.000 |
So I'll start with the first story, and I think we should pick up where we left off. 00:11:12.000 |
We heard Steve Jobs' advice later in his career. 00:11:15.000 |
I'm interested in going back and asking the question 00:11:20.000 |
So if we rewind the clock back to a young Steve Jobs, 00:11:24.000 |
who's about to go to college and is trying to decide, 00:11:27.000 |
"What am I going to do? Where am I going to go to college? 00:11:30.000 |
You would have found the young man who was certainly interested in electronics. 00:11:35.000 |
He had grown up in Silicon Valley's wirehead culture. 00:11:38.000 |
This was a culture where young men and women would tinker with electronics 00:11:41.000 |
much in the same way that the generation before would tinker with cars. 00:11:44.000 |
That's what was happening around Silicon Valley at that point. 00:11:47.000 |
So it was a hobby of his. It's something that he was interested in. 00:11:50.000 |
But I'd make the argument that if you asked him, 00:11:57.000 |
He wouldn't have said starting a technology company 00:12:02.000 |
And we know this because of his college choice. 00:12:04.000 |
He didn't go to Berkeley to study electrical engineering, 00:12:07.000 |
which is what you would have done in that time and that place 00:12:13.000 |
And he didn't go to Stanford or USC to study business, 00:12:15.000 |
which is what you would have done in that time and that place 00:12:18.000 |
if you were passionate about business or entrepreneurship. 00:12:21.000 |
Instead, he came up here to a college not far from where we're sitting today, 00:12:26.000 |
an elite liberal arts school known as Reed College. 00:12:28.000 |
He went there, he was studying Western history, he was studying dance, 00:12:31.000 |
and he started to dabble very seriously in Eastern mysticism, 00:12:34.000 |
which had just made its way to the West Coast around this period. 00:12:38.000 |
So he shows up to Reed College, he's studying these things, 00:12:41.000 |
he's asking these big questions, he drops out pretty soon, 00:12:44.000 |
he sticks around for a while, he wanders the campus barefoot, 00:12:47.000 |
he's sort of like a campus celebrity, he eats weird diets, 00:12:50.000 |
he's bumming meals from the local Hare Krishna temple. 00:12:53.000 |
Eventually he gets tired of being completely destitute. 00:13:00.000 |
and he talks himself into a night shift job at Atari, 00:13:04.000 |
whose sole--one of the most important things about it 00:13:06.000 |
was that it gave him flexibility so he wouldn't be tied down. 00:13:09.000 |
This was a period in which he went and spent several months 00:13:14.000 |
He was beginning to spend more and more time at the All One commune, 00:13:17.000 |
just upstate, and became more serious about Zen meditation, 00:13:20.000 |
frequenting the Los Altos Zen Center more and more. 00:13:28.000 |
Well, he and his friend Steve Wozniak, who he'd reconnected with, 00:13:32.000 |
had started launching what I think is best described as a series of schemes, 00:13:39.000 |
maybe sell it out of the back of a car, make a little bit of money, 00:13:44.000 |
while Jobs was seeking and searching and tackling 00:13:47.000 |
these deep philosophical and spiritual questions. 00:13:52.000 |
Apple Computer came out of one of these schemes. 00:13:55.000 |
They had been tinkering more whys than jobs on a circuit board 00:14:06.000 |
I say this lovingly, being a professional geek. 00:14:11.000 |
Jobs says, "You know, I think we can make a little bit of money off this." 00:14:14.000 |
So he walks over to Paul Terrell's Byte Shop, 00:14:16.000 |
which is this sort of pioneering electronics store over in Mountain View. 00:14:21.000 |
though we don't have evidence for that in the biographical record. 00:14:26.000 |
He brings in this circuit board, and he says, 00:14:30.000 |
We want to sell you 100 of them. You sell them to the geeks. 00:14:34.000 |
So, Andrew Young, one of his first definitive biographers, 00:14:37.000 |
actually did, through interviews, the numbers they had worked out. 00:14:40.000 |
And they said, "After he sells those, we get our cut. 00:14:43.000 |
The cost of manufacturing, me and Waz will make about $1,000." 00:14:48.000 |
And this biographer goes out of the way to emphasize 00:14:54.000 |
and they certainly weren't thinking about taking over the world. 00:14:57.000 |
Paul Terrell, fortunately, had more vision than Steve Jobs. 00:15:01.000 |
And he said, "I don't want to buy 100 circuit boards to sell to geeks. 00:15:18.000 |
"Ah, I think this is something big that I'm on to." 00:15:20.000 |
And they went, and they raised a little bit of money. 00:15:22.000 |
They built these, they raised some more serious money, 00:15:31.000 |
is that I don't doubt that Steve Jobs very quickly grew 00:15:39.000 |
simply follow his passion into Apple Computer. 00:15:49.000 |
If you had gone back in time, if we got in a time machine today, 00:15:52.000 |
we went back and we said, "We're from the World Domination Summit." 00:15:57.000 |
and we would have gone back and said, "Steve, you have to follow your passion," 00:16:00.000 |
he would have ended up an instructor at the Los Altos Zen Center. 00:16:06.000 |
And I'm sure he would have been an insanely great instructor, 00:16:09.000 |
and that the meditation mats would have been laid out 00:16:11.000 |
in a sort of beautiful but functional design. 00:16:16.000 |
But these were the type of things he would have said he was passionate about. 00:16:19.000 |
So the lesson I wanted to draw from this story here 00:16:22.000 |
is that the path to a passionate life is also, 00:16:27.000 |
than the simple advice "follow your passion" would suggest. 00:16:31.000 |
The person who I think said it better than me was Ira Glass, 00:16:41.000 |
This is someone who loves what he does, very passionate. 00:16:44.000 |
But you can find this video on YouTube, it's great. 00:16:46.000 |
It's a video where three undergraduates sit down with Ira Glass 00:16:49.000 |
to interview him for his advice on how they can build 00:17:03.000 |
"Well, you know, in the movies there's this idea 00:17:12.000 |
that you're not a pre-med anymore," or whatever. 00:17:14.000 |
You know, that's what-- you could see that expectation. 00:17:20.000 |
And then he talks for a while about how hard it is 00:17:23.000 |
And really what they need to be focusing on now 00:17:25.000 |
is sort of persisting in the effort to get good at something. 00:17:30.000 |
And at the end he says, "Really, the problem here, guys, 00:17:32.000 |
is that you're trying to figure this all out in the abstract 00:17:35.000 |
before you go and do it, and that's your tragic mistake." 00:17:40.000 |
And I thought that was a poignant way of putting it. 00:17:42.000 |
This notion that you can sit down there in advance 00:17:44.000 |
and figure out what's going to lead to a passionate life. 00:17:48.000 |
And the uncertainty and heartache that can bring 00:17:50.000 |
when you don't immediately love what you're doing 00:17:54.000 |
So that's the first lesson I want to draw from this story. 00:17:57.000 |
The second lesson is that we don't really have any reason 00:18:08.000 |
So my first inclination when I took on this project 00:18:12.000 |
And there is a lot of literature on workplace happiness 00:18:18.000 |
you would think that you would find lots of support 00:18:20.000 |
for this idea because this is one of the most popular ideas 00:18:26.000 |
In fact, finding evidence that matching your job 00:18:28.000 |
to a preexisting passion is good is very hard to do. 00:18:37.000 |
So one of my favorites is by a young researcher 00:18:41.000 |
At the time she was a graduate student at Michigan. 00:18:44.000 |
She took a group of people, a group of employees, 00:18:57.000 |
that a third of them saw this position as a calling. 00:19:02.000 |
So a third of these people were passionate about this. 00:19:06.000 |
It was an important part of their life, this position. 00:19:13.000 |
And the rest saw it as a stepping stone in a larger career. 00:19:16.000 |
And they could take and leave what they were doing right then. 00:19:19.000 |
So what I like about Rizinski is that she then said, 00:19:21.000 |
"I'm going to dive deeper and I'm going to try to figure out 00:19:25.000 |
"What was different between the calling group 00:19:30.000 |
And what she found was that one of the largest 00:19:33.000 |
predictive factors of being in the calling group, 00:19:45.000 |
the more likely they were to see it as their calling. 00:19:48.000 |
Which, of course, is a way more complicated story 00:19:50.000 |
than "Follow Your Passion" tells us, which is, 00:19:52.000 |
"No, no, no, you've matched this job to what you were meant to do. 00:19:56.000 |
And Rizinski's saying, "That's not what I found. 00:19:58.000 |
"There's something more complicated happening here." 00:20:01.000 |
Another study I like is by a Canadian psychologist 00:20:03.000 |
named Robert Valorant, who had developed this survey 00:20:07.000 |
that allows you to figure out what, if anything, 00:20:11.000 |
Not interested, but actually passionate about. 00:20:13.000 |
He has this survey, and he takes it and he administers it 00:20:22.000 |
He found less than 4% of these students had a passion 00:20:27.000 |
that you could realistically connect to a career. 00:20:32.000 |
Do you want to guess what the number one passion was 00:20:34.000 |
from among these Canadian university students? 00:20:38.000 |
It was a good crowd. It was exactly hockey, that's right. 00:20:44.000 |
And he was born in 1940, so you guys should know. 00:20:51.000 |
had one of the most astonishing concentration of hockey talent 00:20:56.000 |
and that they should all follow their passion 00:21:01.000 |
But it's more likely that for 96% of these students 00:21:06.000 |
to tell them, "Figure out what you're passionate about and go do that," 00:21:12.000 |
in figuring out what to do right after school. 00:21:15.000 |
So that's the second lesson I wanted to draw here. 00:21:18.000 |
When you look through the literature, we don't have much evidence 00:21:21.000 |
that this is generally a good piece of career advice. 00:21:30.000 |
That may be too simplistic, might not be what the research shows. 00:21:35.000 |
So as mentioned, I went around and I found lots of people 00:21:38.000 |
who do love what they do, and I spent a lot of time talking to them. 00:21:41.000 |
This is actually one of the dirty secrets of being an advice writer. 00:21:46.000 |
Our actual number one skill we have--we don't talk about it much-- 00:21:50.000 |
is the ability to find people and convince them to talk to us. 00:22:03.000 |
is you would actually read the news release from the college, 00:22:08.000 |
you'd then go search, typically the student newspaper, 00:22:10.000 |
and you would find the naming scheme on their email addresses. 00:22:13.000 |
Was it like first letter of the first name and then the last name? 00:22:16.000 |
And then you would guess at what the Rhodes Scholars-- 00:22:19.000 |
you basically have to be a stalker to be an advice writer. 00:22:24.000 |
So anyways, I was stalking people as I normally do, 00:22:26.000 |
and I tracked down a lot of these people, and we talked, 00:22:29.000 |
and we tried to figure out what happened in their life. 00:22:31.000 |
And I was looking for patterns, and I found a pattern. 00:22:40.000 |
And one of my favorite examples of this pattern 00:22:45.000 |
I think his story actually personifies it well. 00:22:48.000 |
So I want to tell his story, and then we'll look at it 00:22:51.000 |
and try to pull out some lessons about the pattern that he exemplifies. 00:22:54.000 |
So he did something that I think is smarter than just following your passion. 00:23:05.000 |
So the thing about Harvard is that it's an extracurricular shop. 00:23:11.000 |
I mean, the grade inflation at Harvard is so high 00:23:14.000 |
that you can get an A- for spelling 9 out of 10 letters in your name 00:23:20.000 |
So you have all of these type As who are here. 00:23:24.000 |
so they put all this energy into extracurriculars, 00:23:26.000 |
and they put down these extracurricular loads 00:23:28.000 |
that make our full-time jobs seem like we're idle. 00:23:31.000 |
So McKibben shows up, and he's like, "Well, what am I going to do?" 00:23:34.000 |
And he decides he's going to write for the Harvard Crimson, 00:23:38.000 |
So he goes, and it's hard, you know, it's really demanding, 00:23:42.000 |
he stretches himself, he gets better at writing. 00:23:45.000 |
By the time he graduates, he's an editor at the Crimson, 00:23:55.000 |
he's been recognized by some of the best writers 00:23:57.000 |
in American letters, and again, he's being stretched. 00:24:06.000 |
and he's getting better, and he starts to make a name 00:24:11.000 |
But what I like about his story is the twist that comes next. 00:24:30.000 |
which, you know, 2012 in Portland is sort of old news, 00:24:33.000 |
but back then, people didn't quite understand 00:24:39.000 |
to live there for however long it took to write this book, 00:24:48.000 |
but more importantly, it was an important book 00:24:51.000 |
in the environmental movement, and established him 00:24:53.000 |
as an important thinker and writer in this space. 00:24:56.000 |
And it allowed him to go on and have a career 00:25:01.000 |
but writing these sort of very cool issue books 00:25:03.000 |
around environmental issues and other types of issues. 00:25:06.000 |
He would come up with the ideas that were interesting, 00:25:08.000 |
he would go around and research and write them, 00:25:12.000 |
and he was having a real impact on the world, too. 00:25:17.000 |
but I've read a lot of the interviews people have done with him, 00:25:20.000 |
and it's fair to say that he's very passionate 00:25:25.000 |
So the question is, what lessons can we draw from him? 00:25:28.000 |
What did he do, if it was not just follow his passion? 00:25:31.000 |
Well, the first lesson I would draw from McKibbin's story 00:25:34.000 |
is that he got good at something that was rare and valuable. 00:25:49.000 |
to get to where he was, but he got very good at writing. 00:25:52.000 |
And this pattern is common when you study people like him 00:25:56.000 |
They tend to start by getting good at something rare and valuable, 00:25:59.000 |
something that the outside world says, "This is valuable. 00:26:02.000 |
You are valuable now to our economy, to our field." 00:26:05.000 |
The second lesson to draw here is that once he got good 00:26:19.000 |
So again, I'm extrapolating off of interviews, 00:26:21.000 |
but given my somewhat obsessive stocking of Bill McKibbin, 00:26:25.000 |
I can say that the three things that I think matter to him 00:26:27.000 |
probably are simplicity in his life, autonomy in his life, 00:26:35.000 |
Different people would have different answers to these questions, 00:26:38.000 |
but that was probably what was important to McKibbin. 00:26:43.000 |
he used that as leverage to get those traits into his life 00:26:50.000 |
By being a writer of nonfiction books, he had autonomy. 00:26:55.000 |
He comes up with the idea, and then it's, "Go write it. 00:26:59.000 |
And he was writing about an issue that was important, 00:27:11.000 |
Now, these two lessons come up again and again 00:27:19.000 |
But I'd like to point out that there are some pitfalls 00:27:22.000 |
that surround them that you have to be wary about. 00:27:25.000 |
This approach kind of makes sense, but there are some pitfalls here. 00:27:28.000 |
The first pitfall is that if you make the jump 00:27:32.000 |
to try to get some of these traits that really matter to you in your life, 00:27:36.000 |
if you try to make that jump without something valuable to offer in return, 00:27:44.000 |
So if Bill McKibbin had dropped out of Harvard 00:27:48.000 |
to move to Vermont to write The End of Nature, 00:27:59.000 |
Because first of all, he wasn't a good enough writer 00:28:01.000 |
to get the advance that could pay for him to live there, 00:28:03.000 |
and second of all, he wasn't a good enough writer yet 00:28:05.000 |
to write a book of such impact and importance. 00:28:08.000 |
It was important that he got good at writing first 00:28:11.000 |
so he had something valuable to offer in exchange 00:28:15.000 |
like making a living with a simple, autonomous, impactful life. 00:28:19.000 |
Another example of this I like is a computer programmer I met named Lulu, 00:28:24.000 |
and she had gotten this job out of college as a QA tester, 00:28:28.000 |
which is not the most glamorous of jobs in the sort of-- 00:28:32.000 |
you know, in the pantheon of Google writing the Gmail app on one end 00:28:38.000 |
and sort of cleaning the lint out of the keyboards on the other end, 00:28:41.000 |
and being a QA tester is sort of more towards the-- 00:28:44.000 |
you're basically pressing buttons and seeing if the software works. 00:28:47.000 |
But what she did is she made herself rare and valuable 00:28:49.000 |
by learning Unix scripting and automating most of their testing process, 00:28:53.000 |
saving them a lot of money, saving them a lot of time. 00:28:59.000 |
as soon as she had value in this company, she immediately leveraged it. 00:29:04.000 |
we want to put people under you, we're going to pay you more, 00:29:06.000 |
you're going to have lots of responsibility and stress, 00:29:08.000 |
and if you ever don't answer our email, we're going to panic." 00:29:10.000 |
This is the standard thing you do when you get valuable. 00:29:13.000 |
And she said, "Well, wait a second, you need me now. 00:29:16.000 |
I'm not interested in your promotion, I want a demotion. 00:29:21.000 |
which is the minimum at which I can still get health care, 00:29:24.000 |
because I'm going to go get a part-time degree in philosophy at Tufts." 00:29:32.000 |
If she had walked in her first week and said, "This is boring, 00:29:34.000 |
I want to go on a flexible schedule and go get a degree," 00:29:37.000 |
they'd say, "Well, how about you go to a zero-hour-a-week schedule 00:29:46.000 |
Number one is that if you don't have something of value to offer 00:29:49.000 |
before you go for these trades, it can be damaging. 00:29:51.000 |
The second pitfall, and they sort of work together 00:29:56.000 |
is that once you actually are valuable to a field or valuable to a company, 00:30:01.000 |
that is exactly when you're going to get the pressure 00:30:05.000 |
to stick on the standard path of moving up the standard ladder. 00:30:13.000 |
No one cares if you're outside of your parents, 00:30:18.000 |
you say, "I'm going to go write a book," or something. 00:30:20.000 |
But the editor of the New Yorker cares when they're rising star and you quit, 00:30:24.000 |
because you're actually valuable to them at that point. 00:30:27.000 |
So this is something I saw come up again and again. 00:30:30.000 |
As soon as you were valuable enough to actually take control of your life 00:30:33.000 |
and the pressure crashes down to take the promotion, 00:30:35.000 |
to take the more responsibility, to take the bigger house, 00:30:40.000 |
I'm sure all the pressure in the world was on Bill McKibben 00:30:43.000 |
to work up to be a senior staff writer at the New Yorker, 00:30:46.000 |
start writing those sort of Adam Gopnik-style books 00:30:49.000 |
that no one outside of the New York Review of Book Editor ever reads, 00:30:54.000 |
then get hired as an editor at some imprint or Harper's, 00:30:57.000 |
then work your way up to be an editor-in-chief 00:30:59.000 |
and be mortgaged for your apartment on the Upper West Side, 00:31:06.000 |
and that was exactly the point where he leveraged it. 00:31:11.000 |
As soon as you actually have some control over your life 00:31:14.000 |
is when it's going to be the hardest to actually take that control. 00:31:23.000 |
and this is often the most controversial when I talk about these issues. 00:31:27.000 |
What you do for your work is much less important than we think. 00:31:34.000 |
This is like a corollary of everything we've said so far. 00:31:40.000 |
Bill McKibben built a life he loved as a writer. 00:31:43.000 |
I would maintain that there are any number of other paths 00:31:49.000 |
that would have led him to a life that he loved just as much. 00:31:54.000 |
I argue what mattered for him was the fact that he had autonomy, 00:31:59.000 |
that he had simplicity, that he had impact in his life, 00:32:02.000 |
that he had these general traits that were important to him in his life. 00:32:08.000 |
but what was more important is that he got good at something valuable 00:32:15.000 |
in which he could have got leverage and got those traits in his life, 00:32:18.000 |
I would maintain that he would be just as happy 00:32:27.000 |
with the people I interviewed who loved their life. 00:32:29.000 |
I got this sense that, look, it was these general traits they had. 00:32:36.000 |
Some people want to be at the center of everything. 00:32:42.000 |
Some people just want creativity more than anything else. 00:32:46.000 |
But the sense I got studying these great examples 00:32:49.000 |
was that it wasn't the specific work that mattered. 00:32:54.000 |
And the get good and then exchange that value for these traits 00:32:57.000 |
was the most consistent formula for getting those, 00:33:00.000 |
the most consistent formula for loving what you do. 00:33:03.000 |
Now, when I give this advice, people often push back 00:33:06.000 |
and they say, "Are you saying that, you know, any job I take, 00:33:12.000 |
"I could be the guy at the zoo that shovels the elephant crap 00:33:23.000 |
that a position or a pursuit or a college major must cross 00:33:27.000 |
in order for it to be potentially the foundation of a life you love 00:33:35.000 |
"Is this, like, my one true passion that for some reason 00:33:38.000 |
"evolution has made my genes be wired for me to do 00:33:41.000 |
"and only be happy doing this type standard that we have now?" 00:33:44.000 |
Somewhere between that and shoveling the elephant crap, 00:33:47.000 |
in between, there's a threshold that's much lower. 00:33:56.000 |
and if it looks like it will give you interesting options 00:33:59.000 |
if you start to do well in it and start to become valuable, 00:34:05.000 |
That's all you need for that particular job, that field or that major 00:34:15.000 |
there's actually lots of things that match this criteria. 00:34:23.000 |
Because, again, it's not the specific work that leads people to love it. 00:34:26.000 |
It's not the fact that you're using the microscope 00:34:28.000 |
or that you're actually writing that makes you love that work. 00:34:33.000 |
that means you're going to be able to stick with it and get good. 00:34:36.000 |
If it gives options to people when they get good, 00:34:38.000 |
that means you're going to be able to leverage that ability once you have it. 00:34:44.000 |
So to summarize my contrarian take on this queer advice world, 00:34:49.000 |
my reason for you throwing Chris's book out in disgust. 00:35:06.000 |
Though I won't object if you want to throw out his book and buy mine instead. 00:35:33.000 |
we've been dominated by this idea that if you want to be happy, 00:35:36.000 |
you have to figure out in advance what you're passionate about, 00:35:45.000 |
where you can actually graph the occurrence of the word "follow your passion" 00:35:50.000 |
So as time goes on, you see this thing curve up 00:35:55.000 |
You can put on that same axis American job satisfaction. 00:36:01.000 |
In fact, let's just graph job satisfaction among 20- to 30-year-olds. 00:36:09.000 |
You see that plummet down starting in the '80s, 00:36:11.000 |
just around the time that "follow your passion" started taking up, 00:36:18.000 |
the rating among 18- or I guess 20- to 30-year-olds, 00:36:21.000 |
their rating was the lowest it had ever been. 00:36:23.000 |
It was actually the lowest rating for any group they've ever measured 00:36:32.000 |
"Figure out what you're passionate about and go for it." 00:36:37.000 |
It's one of the most unhappiest generations there's ever been 00:36:41.000 |
And there's other factors there, but I think it's sort of a poignant display. 00:36:44.000 |
Our 20-year experiment with "follow your passion," 00:36:47.000 |
I think we can say has concluded and has failed. 00:37:03.000 |
But that doesn't mean that we shouldn't have the goal 00:37:07.000 |
In the model I gave you instead, my hypothesis-- 00:37:12.000 |
my hypothesis is the model that works instead is pick something interesting. 00:37:15.000 |
If there's nine things that are interesting to you, throw a dart. 00:37:22.000 |
While your friends are switching jobs nine times 00:37:24.000 |
because they don't love it in the first week, 00:37:26.000 |
take advantage of that to get better, to focus down, 00:37:32.000 |
Once you have it, that's where you apply the courage, 00:37:35.000 |
at this point, to use it as leverage to gain the traits that matter to you. 00:37:41.000 |
I will summarize it for you to bring it back to where we started 00:37:44.000 |
by saying, I guess the easiest summary here is, 00:37:55.000 |
If you're looking for an exciting role in customer service, 00:38:03.000 |
Get started in a role that offers competitive wages, 00:38:06.000 |
consistent schedules, and fast-tracked management 00:38:09.000 |
while you work in a vibrant, exciting environment