back to indexBogleheads University 101 2024 Budgeting and Learning to Save with Jesse Mecham
Chapters
0:0 Introduction
3:22 Money is for spending
4:14 Evolution of YNAB
5:35 Defining money
7:17 The revolving door of savings and shame
9:10 Labels for money
11:45 The exchange Medium
13:27 Earning and evaluating the exchanges
16:5 Proximity to Money
18:28 Earning to spend takes effort
20:41 Spending differently
21:9 Buy now pay later
22:7 The danger of thoughtless spending
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Our next speaker, Jesse Mecham, is a personal finance expert seen 00:00:12.600 |
He is the founder of YNAB, which means you need a budget. 00:00:18.020 |
He is the founder of the YNAB app and money method 00:00:25.880 |
that has inspired millions to spend, save and live joyfully. 00:00:30.380 |
He's also the host of the YNAB podcast and author 00:00:37.360 |
Jesse started YNAB in 2004 with just a spreadsheet. 00:00:43.980 |
Back then he was cash-strapped, newly married, college student trying to cover the cost 00:00:50.660 |
So you're going to -- and by the way, you'd be amazed at the amount of people I speak 00:00:55.820 |
with that have no idea how much they're spending. 00:00:58.620 |
And it doesn't matter whether you're young or old, especially if you're going 00:01:03.180 |
into retirement, you really need to know what your budget is. 00:01:13.640 |
We could have saved Rick some time and told him that it's called YNAB. 00:01:17.160 |
So we lost about five minutes with him saying every letter, but I think we'll be okay. 00:01:23.080 |
Yeah, we actually don't -- we don't swear up here either. 00:01:29.320 |
It was a huge mistake, the biggest mistake of my life. 00:01:32.860 |
There was a while ago, I was driving north on Interstate 15 in Utah and we were on a road trip. 00:01:42.200 |
And I drive and my wife, she watches the road or naps. 00:01:47.580 |
And then I've got a bunch of kids in the back and they were all either asleep 00:01:52.560 |
or if they were like in the angsty teen age, they probably had headphones on. 00:01:56.160 |
They were just kind of doing their thing, you know. 00:02:01.700 |
And I distinctly remember seeing mile marker 318 go by. 00:02:05.840 |
And I was, of course, thinking about money because it's kind of all I think about. 00:02:13.180 |
And I don't know why, I'm just -- I'm wired that way. 00:02:17.540 |
And about mile marker 320, I had this epiphany that's the most obvious epiphany of all time, 00:02:25.740 |
not worth a story, where I realized that money, it's sole purpose, there is no other purpose. 00:02:39.900 |
And I would just say, "You're just talking about future spending." 00:02:41.880 |
And then you would say, "Oh, yeah, you're right." 00:02:44.100 |
You could say, "Well, what about when I give it away?" 00:02:46.760 |
And I could say two things, the next person spends it, the charity spends it, you know, 00:02:51.920 |
your neighbor spends it, whoever you gave the money to. 00:02:53.940 |
Or I could say, "You just spent it on the feeling of giving." 00:03:03.920 |
And when you start to think about money as only being, like the sole purpose of it is to be spent, 00:03:13.560 |
it -- all of the other cruft starts to kind of fade away. 00:03:21.860 |
So where this session was supposed to be about budgeting and learning to save, 00:03:38.300 |
Kidding. We just met, so I'm going to tease him, you know, 00:03:50.840 |
So we -- here's this next 25 minutes is me basically telling you my story of moving 00:04:01.320 |
from a company that taught people how to budget to a company that teaches people how to spend. 00:04:13.940 |
So the interesting thing about spending, and if we talk about meant to be spent, 00:04:20.180 |
I want to add one little bit to meant to be spent. 00:04:33.040 |
The main -- I'm curious sometimes when we think about money, 00:04:45.740 |
And I'll say, oh, that's not -- you didn't define money there. 00:04:48.200 |
You just told me, you know, what a government-sanctioned money is, 00:04:51.980 |
is called a dollar or a currency or something like that. 00:04:54.620 |
And so then an economist might come at us with a smarter definition that I quite like 00:04:59.440 |
where they would say, well, money is a medium of exchange. 00:05:08.100 |
Lately, I've been thinking that money is both nothing and -- I was going to say everything, 00:05:15.960 |
Money is nothing because until you spend it, you just don't know. 00:05:23.460 |
So if you could say, well, Jesse, I don't know what that is, then I would say, well, 00:05:26.520 |
then we can probably call it nothing for now. 00:05:31.300 |
And then you could maybe start to name it a little bit. 00:05:35.480 |
And so when people save, when they're told to save -- now, S.C., she taught us this saving is 00:05:43.960 |
Many times when people first come and we're working with them, they'll say, well, 00:05:53.520 |
And so when they set up a savings account, and they're feeling really good 00:05:57.000 |
about this savings account, and they put money in the savings account, 00:06:00.060 |
and they're maybe even smart, and they auto-deduct it so that it can do the smart thing 00:06:04.500 |
where they don't have to re-decide every time. 00:06:06.200 |
I thought two weeks was the right answer also on how long motivation lasts. 00:06:10.740 |
And so they're feeling good about their savings, and then someone smashes in the back window 00:06:17.480 |
of their Civic and steals their radio, or their cat spills a lot of water 00:06:25.520 |
And so they have to -- and this is a word they use. 00:06:29.420 |
They say they have to raid their savings like they're Vikings attacking it. 00:06:34.880 |
It's theirs, but they act like they don't even own it. 00:06:38.920 |
So they use very negative words to describe accessing, using their money. 00:06:48.080 |
We call it the revolving door of savings and shame, where they put the money in, 00:06:53.080 |
and then for whatever reason, they have to pull the money out. 00:06:59.480 |
This is a justifiable thing to spend money on, and yet they're like, "I just can't save. 00:07:05.800 |
And what they're missing here is a little bit of what Essie taught us already. 00:07:16.900 |
But when we label the money, it starts to give the money purpose and starts 00:07:23.100 |
to maybe bestow a little bit of resolve for that person. 00:07:28.360 |
So if I have lots of different names for my pile of money, let's just put it all 00:07:33.460 |
in my checking account, and I say I've got 10 grand in there and $1,000 in each 00:07:39.580 |
of these 10 places, and one of them is for the laptop, a Chromebook. 00:07:44.500 |
You get a Chromebook, especially with inflation. 00:07:47.220 |
My numbers are pre-inflation, so just go with it. 00:07:49.800 |
But when you need that new laptop and you see that this money is labeled new laptop, 00:07:59.520 |
It's just, honestly, you feel a little bit like a rock star. 00:08:14.520 |
But you kind of feel like, "Man, I'm handling things." 00:08:18.000 |
The only difference was two people with $10,000 of savings, one person that's 00:08:26.000 |
Now, you might be a little more dialed in, and you'll say, "Well, it's my emergency 00:08:33.480 |
You don't really know what an emergency is, and so the laptop thing happens or 00:08:40.240 |
whatever, and you're still like, "Oh, my emergency fund. 00:08:44.920 |
You just haven't given yourself the permission. 00:08:48.160 |
You haven't labeled the money with its purpose, and so until you label it, I 00:09:00.140 |
Because I can pull money out and just literally have it be anything, a villa in 00:09:09.000 |
But to go back to the medium of exchange bit, I was playing with my son, my 00:09:17.880 |
littlest, I have seven, so I have to kind of count on my hand and figure out the 00:09:24.640 |
Now, he's a fantastic little four-year-old learning to swim. 00:09:29.720 |
We're in the pool, and I was showing Brooks how if we both go underwater, kind 00:09:33.840 |
of trying to teach him not to be afraid to go underwater, right? 00:09:36.880 |
So I wanted to have a really good reason to go underwater, and the reason was I was 00:09:40.120 |
teaching him that snapping, you could hear it really well, and I'm no physicist or 00:09:46.840 |
whatever a person would be that knows about water and sound, but he thought that 00:09:52.400 |
was pretty neat, and I realized later, I was like, "Oh, water's a great medium for 00:09:59.720 |
I say, "Brooks, stick your head underwater," snap. 00:10:05.040 |
And if water is a good medium for sound, then money is a great medium for what? 00:10:15.640 |
Well, we say, "Oh, it's a medium of exchange," right? 00:10:22.040 |
The important part of that definition isn't medium. 00:10:24.880 |
It actually is the exchange part, and I mean, we don't barter anymore, right? 00:10:32.840 |
Maybe to optimize taxes, you might do a little trade here and there or whatever. 00:10:37.000 |
Maybe we barter slightly, but I didn't buy my house for 65 table saws, and a few 00:10:42.400 |
of you could figure out what brand, and I'd say SawStop, and you're like, "Oh, 00:10:51.120 |
I know how much that house costs in terms of dollars," right? 00:10:55.520 |
And if we were really to work hard, we could all get together and we could make 00:10:58.800 |
these massive lists, this item exchange for this item, this item exchange for this 00:11:03.320 |
item, and we're trying to figure out the denominator for all of these different 00:11:06.320 |
things, so a house is 65 table saws or whatever else it may be, but it becomes 00:11:11.000 |
unwieldy, obviously, and so all humans forever have always just gotten rid of 00:11:16.800 |
the bartering quickly, and they've recognized we've got to figure out a 00:11:20.000 |
medium of exchange, but the denominator is such an interesting question. 00:11:25.400 |
So when I exchange, like I've got a burrito numerator and then $10 or 20 in 00:11:34.320 |
this day for the burrito, right, and it's like, "You better have guac on that for 00:11:38.120 |
20 bucks," but the $20 is the denominator, and so we're doing the exchange, right? 00:11:45.080 |
Now, to kind of loop it back to money well spent, the spending exchange, 20 00:11:56.000 |
On the earning bit of the exchange, what's the denominator? 00:12:08.360 |
And you all, you know this, like we know this, I'm here exchanging right now, 00:12:13.680 |
right, all of our money, not money, our effort, our time, our energy, calories, 00:12:22.480 |
worries, stressors, all of our, "Hey, get good grades," the entire time we're 00:12:47.520 |
"Oh, have a good network, talk to lots of people, meet people that are further 00:12:52.040 |
along, have them help you move along in your career, you know, so go to these 00:12:57.560 |
So you're like, "Okay, so networking is important." 00:12:59.040 |
Yes, that network is important, all for money, right? 00:13:02.720 |
"Get good sleep so you can be more creative." 00:13:05.160 |
So, you know, "Don't be financially stressed at work so you can be more 00:13:10.680 |
This exchange we do, blood, sweat, money, tears, calories, it's all for money. 00:13:21.640 |
It's money at the top, numerator, and all those things I listed as the denominator. 00:13:27.840 |
And for shorthand, I would maybe say, instead of me having to, for the rest of 00:13:33.960 |
this presentation, I have to say blood, sweat, money, tears, it starts to sound 00:13:38.160 |
kind of gross anyway, I think we should just say you, I mean, you think about this 00:13:43.160 |
for a moment, like you all are here and all of your experience, this entire room, 00:13:46.520 |
all experience, whether you remember it or not, everything that formed you, formed 00:13:50.840 |
every thought, I don't know how well that works, not a psychiatrist, psychologist, 00:13:54.480 |
therapist, none of that, but all of it kind of rolls up into that moment. 00:14:01.520 |
So what else could we say besides you are the exchange? 00:14:08.840 |
And as uncomfortable as it might be, because not in this room so much, I don't 00:14:15.520 |
think, but in many others, money is a little bit taboo, as SC said, it's a 00:14:21.360 |
little bit dirty, it's, I mean, we were told like, even in the Bible, like, "Hey, 00:14:27.200 |
And we have to kind of make sure we tell people, "Hey, hey, it's the love. 00:14:32.240 |
We have to actually caveat even like, "Yeah, I like money. 00:14:46.720 |
For you, an obsession, but you guys are so rare, you know, compared to the norm. 00:14:53.200 |
Like you, you may be, you're wired a little bit different to, to enjoy the 00:14:56.960 |
pursuit, to enjoy the investing, the challenge, and it's, it's lovely. 00:15:00.960 |
But on the spending side, there's still just this little bit of, well, money's 00:15:08.760 |
You'll say, "Well, no, I appreciate the fact that I can buy a house with it and I 00:15:12.760 |
And yeah, I do have to drive around in a van and it could be a Porsche, but my 00:15:20.440 |
I think we both should and just see what happens. 00:15:25.800 |
Um, but this distancing from money, I, what we try and teach people is the 00:15:33.720 |
We try and teach them that money that you're trying to push away. 00:15:37.280 |
That is just, and only you, all of your effort, energy, expertise, network, 00:15:50.760 |
Why would you make it less than, why would you not treat it with, I 00:16:04.480 |
So when we're talking about money being spent well, and we have this, it is 00:16:13.720 |
dangerous to do public math, but if I recall, if you have two fractions, you 00:16:19.240 |
have numerator, denominator, numerator, denominator. 00:16:22.400 |
And I said, numerator over here on the earning was the money. 00:16:25.800 |
And then you, all of you are the denominator, the exchange. 00:16:29.640 |
And then over here, we put the burrito, right? 00:16:34.920 |
And if you have a numerator, denominator, the same, they're both 00:16:40.720 |
So now we have you and the burrito, which feels kind of weird, you know? 00:16:45.440 |
So I probably should use a different example besides a burrito, but I guess 00:16:49.800 |
what I'm getting to is the money kind of does cancel out and what you end up 00:16:55.080 |
with is you doing everything you can to earn this thing, and then you, not you 00:17:03.200 |
guys in this room, but most people telling me I'm just not good with money. 00:17:09.760 |
And the effort on the earning side, and then the disconnect on the 00:17:17.760 |
You have the brain surgeon that literally does surgery on brains. 00:17:25.040 |
Who's tells me I'm just not good with money and I'm just like, fix your brain. 00:17:32.120 |
Um, it just, it gets me because you see all of the sacrifice all 00:17:39.440 |
All of those things were perhaps trying to get back as we look to retire, maybe 00:17:48.800 |
Those very things are what we're giving up in order to get this money. 00:17:52.720 |
So what I say here is not anything to do with budgeting or saving, but when you 00:17:58.640 |
recognize all that you offer for the earning, all I want is for everyone to 00:18:05.280 |
also recognize that they need to put effort into the spending side of it. 00:18:11.200 |
And what's great about this is if that equation really is just canceling 00:18:16.360 |
down to be, you know, simplifying down to be you, the work necessary for you. 00:18:21.880 |
Is to figure out what you want to spend your money on truly. 00:18:28.000 |
And one fun thing that we do at YNAB is we never, ever tell people 00:18:38.240 |
How dare I, I'd be telling them to buy clamps for their woodworking shop. 00:18:44.440 |
Well, you know, but what moves me doesn't move you. 00:18:48.920 |
And my favorite thing is to hear people tell me the crazy. 00:18:52.440 |
And those that's Jesse saying crazy, the crazy things that 00:19:04.080 |
There's no such thing as a spending cut, a spending fast. 00:19:12.640 |
You're going to spend money on some stocks and bonds. 00:19:16.280 |
Yes, because you know, you're going to spend it on something even better later. 00:19:23.320 |
It might be, we were just on an Alaskan cruise in July and this lovely 00:19:29.040 |
couple won the event of how many cruises have you been on? 00:19:41.920 |
Three, I mean a year, it's a year of cruising, like on a boat. 00:19:53.280 |
They just love not for me once every 10 years. 00:19:56.800 |
I'll go not for me at all, but I could, I'm looking at their faces 00:20:05.760 |
And how dare I question at all their value placement on this is what we love. 00:20:12.520 |
How dare I, they spent all of that time, effort, and energy to earn that money. 00:20:21.280 |
And so what we teach people isn't how to save. 00:20:31.960 |
We want people to feel the trade-off of if I do this here, I can't do this over here. 00:20:40.880 |
Um, as you mentioned, buy now, pay dearly later. 00:20:46.280 |
You always have to say, buy now, pay dearly later. 00:20:48.520 |
And, um, we did a little funny April fool's video a while ago. 00:20:55.240 |
And so we, we launched a fake product called, uh, well, there it was called 00:21:00.680 |
before pay, you know, like, Hey, uh, save up for it and then buy it kind of a thing. 00:21:11.040 |
We have all of these things, all the FinTech, like people will 00:21:16.160 |
They'll say, well, you're a FinTech app because we use a computer basically. 00:21:20.840 |
Um, but we're, we're really an education company that sells 00:21:28.680 |
That's what keeps us afloat, but we're teaching people a way 00:21:33.040 |
And a lot of FinTech, if I can throw them all with a large, you 00:21:37.840 |
know, broad brush under the bus, a lot of FinTech is built for speed 00:21:42.040 |
because technology gives us speed out of the gate and it is built to. 00:21:46.040 |
Um, Distance people from their money quickly to have them not 00:21:51.680 |
understand what after pay does to have them, to have things be a little more 00:21:56.800 |
obfuscated, to have them not feel, to have them hear the Bing of Apple pay. 00:22:03.720 |
Oh, so delightful and to be fast and just to not feel it. 00:22:14.360 |
That was for me, but should you spend money at Chick-fil-A and should it be 00:22:17.920 |
fast and convenient if that's what you want to do, but if all of FinTech is 00:22:23.000 |
trying to have you be unaware, unintentional, thoughtless about 00:22:28.480 |
where your precious money goes, what we try and teach people is to have them 00:22:34.720 |
be intentional and aware and thoughtful about where their precious resource goes. 00:22:46.760 |
It deserves the neurosurgeon sitting down and saying, I spent 12 years learning that. 00:22:52.800 |
I think I can spend, you know, two or three hours learning this. 00:22:58.120 |
It really is helping people do the self work of figuring out how you will spend. 00:23:04.320 |
So while this is a beginner track where you're kind of saying, Hey, I'm just 00:23:08.480 |
getting started and I have no idea where you're all at on this bogleheads journey, 00:23:12.320 |
but make sure, you know, at the end of the day, as you accumulate this wealth, 00:23:20.120 |
As you accumulate this wealth, be very thoughtful, do the work necessary to 00:23:24.920 |
know exactly how you want to spend that wealth also, it could be for inheritance. 00:23:38.120 |
If it's resonant with you, you did all of the work to earn it. 00:23:42.800 |
You did all of the work to spend it on investing. 00:23:46.120 |
I'm going to say, and you need to do some work, important work to figure 00:23:51.920 |
out to make sure that resonance carries through where that money that