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You need to live a rich and meaningful life now while building a plan for financial freedom in 10 years or less 00:00:32.740 |
My name is Joshua. I am your host today is Friday and every Friday at least every Friday that it can arrange a proper internet signal 00:00:39.760 |
We go live and today is no different live Q&A coming up in 15 seconds. I 00:00:53.440 |
Do really love to do these Friday Q&A shows any day any time that I can actually work it out to 00:00:59.600 |
Make it work then that's when I do so working out the details on how to do a live show 00:01:06.440 |
What with Q&A with video live streaming on the internet on Facebook on YouTube 00:01:12.960 |
YouTube and all over the place. That's today's challenge, but I think we got it worked out mark. You're up first 00:01:18.920 |
Welcome to radical personal finance. How can I serve you today? 00:01:23.180 |
Okay, we are going to go to the backup plan here real quick hang on the phone lines 00:01:42.160 |
We're gonna switch internet networks and see if we can fix the problem 00:01:49.440 |
A minute here guys. Thanks on the live stream. We'll get this going in just a second here 00:01:56.960 |
Just go into the backup network here, let's see if I can get my phones coming in 00:02:10.320 |
Let's try again mark, can you hear me mark? You're up. Can you hear me now? 00:02:37.400 |
Mark you're up in first plate. Can you hear me now? I can't hear you 00:02:45.400 |
Hold on a second mark. It looks like that's you over there. Try again 00:02:48.580 |
Okay, can you hear me now now I can hear you somehow I had to go to the backup internet network 00:02:55.760 |
And we're there but we're live now. Welcome mark. How can I serve you today, sir? Oh great. Excellent. I 00:03:03.040 |
Have two questions for you. I have a house buying question and a side business 00:03:14.340 |
First is we're preparing to buy a house in roughly a year 00:03:18.800 |
I spoke to you previously about this and so I'm trying to make sure my credit is in the right spot 00:03:23.160 |
we are around 770 and the main reason is just our 00:03:31.320 |
Frequent too young and so we just have to wait for that. But the secondary reason is our mix is 00:03:36.320 |
Not mixed they just I've only ever had credit cards 00:03:40.720 |
And so I was wondering or considering looking at taking out a quote-unquote credit building loan 00:03:46.240 |
It would not put a hard inquiry on my credit report 00:03:50.880 |
But instead would get reported as a loan essentially what the banks do is they give you a loan they put it in a 00:03:57.320 |
Certificate of deposit then you quote-unquote pay it back until the loan matures 00:04:01.680 |
And so it's a way to add in a little different kind of credit. Is that something you're familiar with? 00:04:07.040 |
Do you recommend it doesn't make any difference. I know it's only 10% of the mix. Yes 00:04:11.200 |
So yes, yes, and yes, it definitely is important to have a mixture of the different credit types 00:04:18.080 |
and so if all you have is credit cards and you want to 00:04:23.760 |
improve your credit score then you definitely want to start by going ahead and 00:04:27.440 |
Moving in the direction of adding in but more of a diversity add in a car loan add in a bank loan add in some 00:04:34.200 |
Kind of installment loan and that will improve your credit score 00:04:37.060 |
Excellent that's good to know excellent that was quick the second question 00:04:55.880 |
Kind of side business have a vision for where it goes and I'm debating whether to make it written form 00:05:02.200 |
a podcast or both and I was wondering your advice on how to think through 00:05:12.240 |
Did you hear at the end of last Friday's Q&A where I talked about 00:05:19.960 |
Kind of my new venture and I talked with a listener who was thinking about building some kind of local media platform to meet people 00:05:36.200 |
Because in the last Friday Q&A show I gave an 00:05:43.160 |
in-depth overview for a listener who was trying to come up with an idea of how they could connect with their audience in in a 00:05:51.280 |
How they could connect with their audience and build an overall platform that would help them to make connections 00:05:57.640 |
And I talked about the media strategy. I talked about things. I regret personally with regard to 00:06:02.400 |
Radical personal finance things I would do differently, but basically going forward if I were starting over again today going forward 00:06:13.440 |
I would start with one and I would try to start with where I'm best but going forward 00:06:20.640 |
multiple media that's obviously more difficult because 00:06:26.520 |
and the skills you need to be a good writer are not necessarily the skills that you need to be a good podcaster and the 00:06:32.120 |
Skills that need to be a good podcaster are definitely not the skills that you need to be a good video broadcaster 00:06:36.720 |
They're both they're they're all very different. And so what you've got to do is you've got to develop the ability to 00:06:47.200 |
Really good for building a close relationship with your listeners 00:06:58.280 |
Because basically either you are a podcast listener or you're not a podcast listener 00:07:03.280 |
And so people don't usually do a very good job of actually sharing whole episodes 00:07:07.240 |
So if I were gonna do one or the other I wouldn't writing certainly is gonna be good 00:07:13.040 |
The benefits of writing is much more shareable 00:07:15.040 |
It's much more findable. The SEO is gonna be a lot better people can connect with the content 00:07:20.080 |
They can look through it very quickly, which is gonna help you to attract a broader audience. So 00:07:24.320 |
The podcast will go deeper, but I wouldn't just do one. I would do all of the above 00:07:30.240 |
That's I think where we stand in May of 2020 is it's not sufficient to just do one thing 00:07:36.720 |
You've got to do all of the above because that meets people in different places 00:07:40.520 |
So to the extent that you're able I would choose where you want to start 00:07:44.880 |
But my long-term plan would be to expand into all the different platforms and the different formats 00:07:56.120 |
Go back and listen to last week's Friday Q&A and I cover it in depth on that Friday Q&A of a lot of details 00:08:05.600 |
You know build the different the different models and you can leverage what you're doing on different platforms 00:08:12.360 |
Okay, that'd be great. I will go back make sure I get to that. Thank you 00:08:16.440 |
Thank you mark and good luck with the new venture again 00:08:19.320 |
Mark's venture is called the prepared expat so you can find him 00:08:23.240 |
I know on Twitter if you want to find him there you can find the prepared expat and find his website 00:08:28.400 |
He's been writing some interesting articles there. All right, let's go to James in Massachusetts James. You're up. Welcome to the show 00:08:35.600 |
Said a question about buying property at a good price. So 00:08:45.940 |
property that we may or may want to you know, put a house on or just farm or homestead on and 00:08:52.840 |
essentially, I'm trying to think holistically like 00:08:54.840 |
I've heard you say that you are considering buying property if if 00:09:00.080 |
Or properties if the opportunity presents itself with downturn with distressed properties and good prices 00:09:06.880 |
What's your strategy for keeping an eye open? Are you looking for private sales? Are you looking at any specific? 00:09:15.760 |
Companies or how do you even think about like trying to be ready for when the opportunity comes? 00:09:22.480 |
And how do you even know when the opportunity comes? What kind of property are you interested in investing in? 00:09:33.880 |
Either a house on a little bit more acreage than we have now or just some acreage 00:09:39.720 |
Do you have a specific geographic location chosen that you'd like to pursue 00:09:46.480 |
New England. Okay, that's pretty broad anything more specific. Ah 00:09:54.280 |
Okay. So I think the answer to your question of where to look is going to depend on 00:10:03.520 |
So for me if I'm interested in buying rental real estate 00:10:07.240 |
My plan in buying that rental real estate is going to be to focus on the type of neighborhood that I want to buy 00:10:14.660 |
the city that I want to buy in and the region that I want to buy in and so 00:10:20.920 |
If you I'm laughing because as I'm recording this I've got Facebook comments coming in about my murdery eyes there was a 00:10:30.080 |
There was a listener in the the Facebook group this last week that says I like Joshua's new video 00:10:34.620 |
Feed but I can't handle it because evidently Joshua has murdery eyes 00:10:39.120 |
Slightly murdery eyes, so I'll zoom in so you can see my my slightly murdery eyes 00:10:46.120 |
Forgive me back to property. I'm still learning how to juggle all of these all of these interesting aspects 00:10:56.480 |
single-family rental houses in specific cities region and towns 00:11:02.200 |
And so I have a certain neighborhood type that I personally am looking for my neighborhood type 00:11:08.880 |
What I've chosen is the best type of of property for me is to focus on 00:11:16.000 |
Owners neighborhoods where there's more owners than renters on kind of older but not too old 00:11:21.480 |
Properties kind of the night in South Florida the 1980s kind of style of construction 00:11:27.900 |
1980s 1990s and to find houses where there's no HOA 00:11:32.400 |
Where you have three bedroom two bath two houses two car garage kind of just that middle 00:11:38.220 |
Slightly under slightly over the middle range of property 00:11:43.600 |
So there aren't a ton of neighborhoods that fit those markets 00:11:47.440 |
So what I've done is I've identified the neighborhood and they just simply gotten on an MLS list 00:11:52.560 |
So I can keep an eye on the MLS listings for those neighborhoods 00:11:56.080 |
And then what I have done in the past is gone out walk the neighborhoods 00:12:00.240 |
You can go walk the neighborhoods knock on doors find out if there's you know 00:12:03.840 |
Anything for sale talk to the neighbors things like that 00:12:06.160 |
But that's a very specific strategy based upon the kind of thing that you're looking for 00:12:10.240 |
Now if you're looking for farmland and you say I'd like raw land 00:12:14.640 |
That's maybe 50 to 100 acres. That's gonna be a totally different scenario in that case. I'd be on land watch 00:12:20.400 |
I'd be driving around in the counties talking to people getting on some real estate agent lists 00:12:25.480 |
Basically doing anything you can think of that's gonna lead to that property eventually coming to you 00:12:31.240 |
But there's a dramatic difference between finding a single-family house between finding a condo for sale between finding 00:12:40.120 |
You know a bunch of land and what I would say is the first thing you should do is 00:12:45.320 |
Work out your strategy of what you want to do and then if necessary 00:12:49.680 |
Talk to some real estate agents and say listen if you were looking for this kind of property, how would you find it? 00:12:55.000 |
What list would you get on where would you look for it and then follow their advice for your local network network? 00:13:02.520 |
Okay, cool, that's more or less what I was expecting I didn't know if there were any like 00:13:08.240 |
Special sort of like hand-to-hand techniques that you would recommend 00:13:10.960 |
But that I think going into the communities that I'm interested in and narrowing down makes a lot of sense 00:13:16.840 |
So, all right. Thanks a lot. Yeah, my pleasure. I do think what you should do for whatever your 00:13:22.600 |
Chosen area of focus is is look at the information that's publicly available 00:13:28.520 |
Look for the properties that are listed on the MLS 00:13:31.840 |
Look for the properties that are listed on land watch or on the internet on some random site 00:13:36.040 |
But I think it's also worth it to go and get involved in the community and try to find you know 00:13:42.360 |
Put shoe leather on sidewalk put rubber under the tires or I guess road under the rubber whatever 00:13:49.340 |
Idiom we want to come up with but the idea is your best deals are probably not going to be advertised 00:14:00.080 |
most real estate investors have developed their own source of 00:14:05.440 |
High quality property and they've figured out a way to gain access to that property before there's a lot of competition 00:14:12.520 |
So to this day, there are lots of people who go out and knock on doors and it really is an effective technique 00:14:19.680 |
So if there's knocking on doors if it's going to local 00:14:22.760 |
Auctions if it's going to the sale barn if and talking to farmers and saying do you know anybody who's selling their property? 00:14:30.720 |
But but you do want to use the lists, but you want to find the properties that aren't on the list as well 00:14:35.600 |
We go to Daniel Daniel. Welcome to the show. How can I serve you today, sir? 00:14:38.560 |
Well, Joshua, can you hear me? Yes, sounds good, sir 00:14:43.080 |
All right, so my question is concerning my parents right now they're in the early 50s 00:15:00.680 |
They have one apartment in Eastern Europe and also one piece of land that's been laying vacant for over a decade 00:15:13.280 |
Vacation homes, but they can't do anything with it at the moment 00:15:21.520 |
My question is basically they're not really financially 00:15:27.720 |
Like communist background and the attitude is basically well, the money is here right now. That's good and 00:15:33.760 |
We give we give handouts to the family back home even 00:15:39.440 |
Even if the relatives have like failing businesses for years and the money is never coming back 00:15:56.640 |
10 20 years where they could like right now. They're in the best position. They're earning well 00:16:05.000 |
How should I approach that what I did so far is over like half a year 00:16:08.920 |
I got them to go to a wealth center and make an appointment. They got some tips how to 00:16:24.960 |
I can tell them really how to do I can just tell them hey 00:16:29.880 |
There is much you can optimize because things are not going to stay the same and you are not going to earn 00:16:35.840 |
This much money in a couple years. So now you have the chance to set yourself up 00:16:43.720 |
in 10 years the world is going to be as rosy as it is right now and 00:16:51.960 |
Like handing out things as well in 10 years. So this is kind of the situation. I don't know if that's enough for you 00:17:01.280 |
Make some comments or should I ask anymore? Do they have any kind of retirement plan a government pension a pension from their job? 00:17:08.720 |
Not from the job but from the government, yes, do you have reason to think that that would be insufficient for them 00:17:24.880 |
How much money do you think they could save out of their income based upon their current lifestyle? 00:17:30.960 |
From what I heard they could save my dad's salary which is more than 10k a month 00:17:40.040 |
That's a lot. It could do that. They could they could do that 00:17:44.680 |
They could live off the salary of my mom, which is half of that or less than half. All right 00:17:50.480 |
But they're not doing it what are they doing with the money instead 00:18:02.640 |
You know handouts or just putting it in the bank or 00:18:09.680 |
Spending in the restaurants, they're not spending much. So they're thrifty and looking for cheap deals still like they did 15 20 years ago 00:18:21.640 |
were keeping book of everything they spent and 00:18:25.320 |
Since they were earning much more they didn't do that anymore because well the money's here. So now we can just do whatever 00:18:34.200 |
Well when you have somebody in a situation I think of it in a number of different different approaches so throughout human history 00:18:45.040 |
Retired the most common way that people have retired throughout human history has always been based upon people. It's been based upon 00:18:52.320 |
Living with your children. It's been based upon living with somebody in the community 00:18:57.160 |
And so just because your parents are not skilled at saving money doesn't mean that they're destitute 00:19:02.440 |
It doesn't mean that they are without options if they're building relationships in the community. They have friends 00:19:09.440 |
That's been throughout the millennia the primary solution that most people have relied on for their retirement needs 00:19:15.360 |
Now the second thing is they do have a government pension or a an employer pension or a government pension 00:19:21.720 |
And so that's good because it gives them some basic level of support all around the world 00:19:26.760 |
There are millions of people who without the government pension Social Security in the United States 00:19:32.640 |
Whatever the version is within your local country 00:19:35.640 |
Without that they would have no savings because they fundamentally not been trained to save money 00:19:41.680 |
and so they're probably gonna be okay between their government pension and also you and 00:19:47.240 |
Possibly other siblings that you might have you wouldn't let your parents, you know go homeless and starve on the street 00:19:53.120 |
What you do see however is an opportunity that if they could learn some skills of financial management 00:19:57.600 |
They could dramatically increase their opportunities 00:20:01.280 |
They have the ability to save ten thousand dollars a month and with this ability to save ten thousand dollars a month 00:20:06.760 |
They could become very very wealthy. So I would do a few things 00:20:11.840 |
I think that that there are a number of things that you could do and 00:20:15.760 |
To begin with what I would try to focus on is I would try to lay out for them 00:20:22.080 |
What they could do and how they could genuinely 00:20:29.000 |
Wealth if they actually invest it, so let's just assume that they're in their early 50s 00:20:34.520 |
Let's just say 50 for the sake of easy math. Let's say they have 15 years of 00:20:41.720 |
there could they could save ten thousand dollars of 00:20:51.080 |
If they wanted to they could do it per month, okay, so what I would focus on 00:21:00.480 |
If they didn't didn't want to cut too dramatically 00:21:04.440 |
5k is reasonable. Let's say between 5 and 10. Okay, so let's say 5,000 because it's a little bit more 00:21:13.000 |
Believable probably for them. So I would sit down and 00:21:17.280 |
Running on a financial calculator right now five thousand dollars per month. So we do five thousand dollars 00:21:22.360 |
per month 15 years and let's just say that they could earn, you know, six percent interest 00:21:29.360 |
Starting with nothing at the end of 15 years if they could save five thousand dollars per month 00:21:35.360 |
They could potentially have one million four hundred fifty four thousand dollars saved almost one and a half million dollars at six percent 00:21:43.680 |
So to me, I would sit down with them and start by saying listen mom and dad 00:21:49.520 |
I know that you grew up under communism. I know that you didn't start by focusing on 00:21:54.200 |
money and investment, but there's tremendous opportunity here and yeah, you think that 00:22:02.840 |
But if you could save five thousand dollars per month and if you could invest it at six percent over the next 15 years 00:22:08.640 |
You could become genuinely wealthy within the next 15 years 00:22:13.160 |
You could become genuinely wealthy within that period of time, which would be really really remarkable 00:22:17.920 |
So I would start by that and see if they're interested now 00:22:20.800 |
What I think you need to be cautious of with someone like that is by making sure they choose an investment 00:22:28.480 |
plan or an investment product that's going to be a good fit for them and 00:22:34.520 |
Those of us who are more knowledge about investing often go to the products that we would choose 00:22:40.440 |
Without realizing that these products or these plans are probably not right for them 00:22:45.000 |
So for example, we'll often go to an aggressive stock portfolio and a lot of times when you're in a situation 00:22:50.000 |
Like that for for your parents, they just they couldn't handle the volatility 00:22:54.680 |
And so maybe you would go into some kind of term deposit and just get them invested into bank accounts 00:23:00.240 |
Maybe you would go into some kind of bond portfolio what I would try to do 00:23:04.800 |
Especially since they already know own some property 00:23:06.960 |
I would try to get them to buy some more real estate if they bought a couple of simple flats in the middle of town 00:23:12.360 |
In a good area in the town that they live. There's a decent chance that in most places in the world 00:23:21.160 |
That's probably a place where they could break even and in time if they choose well and you guide them towards maybe like a city center 00:23:30.200 |
investment that could pay income and the nice thing about real estate is 00:23:35.200 |
It's it's more intuitive. I think for most investors where they don't have to worry about, you know 00:23:40.960 |
Figuring out how to hold on through the difficult times 00:23:43.600 |
They just spend the rent payments and so at five thousand dollars per month if they could say five to ten thousand dollars per month 00:23:49.600 |
They could probably just pay cash for an apartment every you know year two years 00:23:53.440 |
Depending on what market in Eastern Europe they're in or where you're living 00:23:56.880 |
And I think that would be really appropriate. So I would probably try to go in that direction 00:24:02.760 |
I would say mom dad look if you were to buy four or five apartments in 00:24:07.520 |
You know the downtown area or help them choose a good neighborhood where they already live 00:24:14.920 |
Figure out the prices of those apartments and then lay it out and show them if you could buy one apartment every other year and that 00:24:23.840 |
$800 a month or $1,000 a month or 15 whatever your market is 00:24:29.440 |
That's a really good strong financial plan and they have enough money that they could do it 00:24:33.600 |
So that's where I would go is I would try to keep it super simple save money in the bank buy paid-off apartments 00:24:41.640 |
Okay, one thing that the apartment they bought they bought it for 00:24:45.560 |
When they would go back to visit the family and I told him for like five years. Why don't you rent it out? 00:24:52.240 |
It's not like 98% of the year. It's it's standing empty and 00:25:02.080 |
so she could take care of people going in or out or whatever if it's Airbnb, but 00:25:07.360 |
They decided not to rent it out. So that's one thing that this like 00:25:12.840 |
This left to understand that that's the one thing and the other 00:25:16.160 |
That you talked about about choosing the right investment 00:25:22.720 |
Like they're Christian and my mom always says 00:25:28.320 |
Making money with money is unethical. It's like usually it's against against the commandments and stuff like that 00:25:34.700 |
I don't know if she really believes that or she just says that to not do the hard work of researching financial stuff 00:25:42.320 |
But these are like also some mental blocks that they have against these things. So maybe you're taking that 00:26:08.840 |
So it was down for like two decades and they always joke about that a little bit, but it was not much 00:26:26.360 |
That's just random stuff. So they don't really know what they're doing 00:26:30.000 |
And they burnt their fingers a couple times. So they're not really doing anything 00:26:36.000 |
Yeah, that's fairly common with people who are not particularly 00:26:42.200 |
Stock investing. What is the Christian tradition that they're a part of is there a denomination? Is there a tradition name of a church? 00:26:56.320 |
There are that's probably a bigger question than we can tackle here because 00:27:07.800 |
Convictions that are going to affect somebody and you've got to 00:27:11.800 |
Work within that now. There are almost two ways of working with that. The first way is you can say 00:27:25.080 |
So maybe if I had a different conviction and I'm sitting and talking with somebody and they say I'm Roman Catholic 00:27:31.960 |
This is what I believe. This is what I believe the Bible teaches and I'm gonna I'm willing to use 00:27:36.600 |
The authority of Scripture. Well, then I would go to Scripture and start talking through that of course 00:27:42.280 |
Roman Catholic there would be the authority of Scripture and also the authority of 00:27:46.920 |
The church tradition and the church teaching and so we would talk through that and and discuss it from a theological perspective and try to understand 00:27:54.320 |
If there were a way that they could change their theology, maybe it's possible. Maybe it's not I have friends of mine who are 00:28:02.840 |
Very fundamentalist and when for example, Jesus says do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth 00:28:09.880 |
They understand that to be a wooden Lee literal 00:28:14.880 |
Fundamentalist command of Jesus and they are very diligent about not laying up for themselves treasures on earth 00:28:21.260 |
They don't save money. They don't try to stack up wealth. I 00:28:24.640 |
Respect that, you know, and so I don't try to change them 00:28:28.520 |
I try to create a financial plan within that context and there you often go back to 00:28:37.280 |
In those kinds of traditions what you have is you have a community that works together to support one another 00:28:44.480 |
So it's not that people who understand that to be the the proper interpretation of the words of Christ 00:28:51.600 |
It's not as though they just go and spend all their money 00:28:53.920 |
What they do is they invest into the community and the community cares one for another and so there are ways to do it 00:28:59.920 |
So that's the second way is that let's say that I'm not gonna change their theology 00:29:04.080 |
I'm not gonna persuade them that you're wrong and I'm right or you just have a flawed understanding 00:29:09.480 |
I would just try to understand the extent of what do you understand? 00:29:17.880 |
There's no that I'm aware of there's no official Roman Catholic teaching against investing. Okay now there are 00:29:26.320 |
That's what it seems that they just use it as an excuse 00:29:31.560 |
Not to look into it that that's my understanding of it. They're not really saying well 00:29:37.080 |
This is a part of the scripture that tells it they're not praying every day 00:29:41.480 |
So they just go to church once a week so that I think they're pretty educated 00:29:45.400 |
And they would respond well if somebody laid out to them the numbers and all of that 00:29:51.920 |
So I think that approach would work. Yeah, what I would do is I would try to find are you Roman Catholic yourself? 00:29:58.800 |
Do you share that tradition? I grew I grew up like that, but it's more like a cultural thing 00:30:04.000 |
I am another fundamentalist. Okay, so what I would do is I would try to find some Roman Catholic 00:30:17.280 |
then I'm sure I have a listener that can and should but I'm sure somebody out there is 00:30:21.880 |
Teaching about finance from a Roman Catholic perspective 00:30:25.760 |
Who understands I'm not an expert on Roman Catholicism 00:30:29.400 |
I'm not Roman Catholic and so but I'm sure there is somebody out there who's done that 00:30:33.520 |
There are many Roman Catholic writers who would have written books on money 00:30:37.840 |
and so I would try to find that understand a little bit about where they're coming from and then work within the constraints of their 00:30:44.640 |
Doctrinal commitments, that's what I would do. But there's no that I'm aware of there's no 00:30:56.920 |
Lending money the the comments on usury you can go back and and and look at it 00:31:02.440 |
And and think about it, but I think probably there Gary North would be the best guy read his commentaries on usury 00:31:09.320 |
If somebody is actually interested in the biblical approach and in dealing with the Old Testament laws on usury 00:31:20.040 |
Writings there would probably the best place to start 00:31:21.960 |
But I would just try to understand what their constraints are and then try to build a financial plan that is sensitive to those constraints 00:31:30.920 |
For some people it may be just investing in other people and I think that that's a worthy thing to do 00:31:36.160 |
I think there are a lot of 50 year olds that if a financial planner came to them and said 00:31:41.620 |
What we're gonna do with your money is we're gonna use it and we're gonna open an orphanage and we're gonna invest your money 00:31:51.840 |
System of caring for the children who are fatherless here in our city 00:31:56.400 |
as far as I'm concerned, that's a great retirement plan and 00:32:00.560 |
The children in the community would be happy to provide for them on the other end of the day 00:32:04.720 |
So those are my answers anything else Daniel? 00:32:07.640 |
Yeah, I think that's a that's good, thank you very much thanks for the work you do my pleasure 00:32:17.280 |
Jason and Texas Jason. Welcome to the show. How can I serve you today, sir? 00:32:29.840 |
A quick question. I don't know if you've done a podcast 00:32:32.120 |
Children's insurance or adding a rider to your current insurance for a newborn 00:32:39.000 |
But we're expecting at first this fall and just wondering if you could expand on kind of your thoughts on 00:32:51.080 |
I've covered it in the context of Q&A shows here and there. I'll do it briefly. I intend 00:32:57.960 |
As soon as I can I intend to come out with a standalone course where I can teach through some of the details 00:33:04.320 |
But I'll go ahead and give you a short answer here and I'm gonna mute you out Jason for a minute 00:33:09.540 |
Just to keep the audio clear. So when it comes to children's life insurance, there are a few different reasons as to why 00:33:17.160 |
People would want it. The first reason that some people think about is burial cost 00:33:22.680 |
So I have a child the child dies and I need to provide for them. Well, I need money 00:33:27.800 |
to be able to pay for a funeral to buy a casket and to go ahead and 00:33:31.920 |
Pay for those costs. That's one thing another aspect would be maybe things like recognizing that I've 00:33:40.360 |
You know, there would be hard for me to go to work 00:33:43.280 |
If one of my children died, it's hard for me to imagine that I'd be here on the microphone the next day 00:33:50.020 |
Emotional adjustment for the family. There are other things that you can consider. So for example 00:33:57.680 |
Some people would say if a child died then my financial expenses are based upon the investments 00:34:04.280 |
That I have made into those children if I bought I paid for their early child education 00:34:11.240 |
I've invested in their schooling. I've paid for private school for 12 years of private school and then I paid for college 00:34:17.660 |
It wouldn't be unusual for a parent to have invested six figures or multiple six figures into their children 00:34:23.280 |
And then all of a sudden that child dies. Well, that's a real loss 00:34:26.900 |
Certainly an emotional loss, but there's also a real financial loss that's associated with that 00:34:32.720 |
And so people might say I've lost the money. I need to be recouped for some of that 00:34:37.440 |
in many cultures around the world children are a primary as we were talking about earlier children are a primary form of a retirement plan a 00:34:45.120 |
Security plan for the parents you'll see this if you're coming from the United States where you most often see this is in Indian communities 00:34:53.000 |
In the United States where it's like the mom and dad will pour out everything for their children 00:34:58.080 |
They'll pay for everything get their parents their children to the best schools possible and then on the flip side 00:35:02.480 |
They're expecting that their children will support them as they get older also very common in Latin communities 00:35:07.920 |
So all of these have a financial cost that's associated with it that you're actually talking about the money 00:35:15.240 |
Involved and so that's the first step of insurance now when it comes to these 00:35:24.000 |
Dealing with some of these costs most people it's such an emotionally heavy issue that they think if my child died. I 00:35:31.280 |
Appreciate that that might be important, but I'm not going to to want to profit off of that 00:35:37.440 |
I'm not so bothered by the emotion of it. I don't have any emotional, you know fear of death 00:35:42.320 |
It's a fact of life and I think it's important to point some of these things out now the burial cost to me seems not 00:35:49.560 |
Particularly important at least for most of my clients and most of my listeners 00:35:55.920 |
You know, it's not that much to bury somebody 00:35:58.440 |
It costs a few thousand dollars to bury somebody and you can save the money so you can easily 00:36:03.000 |
Self-insure through that an emotional adjustment same exact thing you can 00:36:07.760 |
Self-insure it's not hard to self-insure through that as well 00:36:12.520 |
if you have a three month emergency fund if you have a six month emergency fund and you can't work for a few months because 00:36:17.560 |
You're grieving the loss of your child. Well, you can self-insure through that as well 00:36:21.640 |
The financial investment side of it certainly is kind of more relevant 00:36:26.080 |
I I think it's worth thinking about but I've almost never met a parent who is excited about talking to me about you know 00:36:33.200 |
Recouping the financial investment on their child. So you there is it is valuable to have insurance on the child for those reasons 00:36:40.480 |
But most people genuinely can self-insure. It's not that big of a of a financial commitment 00:36:47.380 |
So insurance is not always the perfect fit for it. It's one of those optional fits 00:36:51.800 |
And so the other thing is what about insurance for the benefit of the child? 00:36:59.880 |
So that in the future in case something happens with the child that they can 00:37:04.480 |
That they can adjust that they can own their own insurance policy. Maybe they start working as a 00:37:09.120 |
Excuse me, maybe they start working as a professional 00:37:15.880 |
You know stunt pilot in their middle 20s. Well, they're gonna have a hard time getting life insurance 00:37:22.440 |
Well when you start to do this analysis what you'll find is that different types of insurance policies are appropriate in different solutions 00:37:29.660 |
So term life insurance if it were available would cover the burial cost term life insurance 00:37:36.000 |
If it's available covers emotional adjustment and term life insurance if available covers the financial investment 00:37:45.420 |
You can't buy term for those who are less than 18 years old 00:37:49.940 |
So I do think that term insurance makes a lot of sense 00:37:53.580 |
If you have a child that you're sending off to college when I used to sell life insurance 00:37:57.220 |
I had a couple of clients who they would be sending their child off to school 00:38:00.260 |
they knew where they were getting set up for a 00:38:05.780 |
$150,000 of debt and one of the things that we would do is we would buy a couple hundred thousand dollar term life insurance policy 00:38:11.980 |
On the child when the child is getting ready to go off to school 00:38:14.620 |
But the child has to be at least 18 years old if you want term life insurance for children 00:38:19.700 |
Under 18, it's generally only available as a rider on another policy 00:38:26.280 |
So this might be a group policy at your job where you can go into your job and you can add 00:38:34.340 |
Sometimes it can be available as a rider on an individual term life insurance policy or as a rider if you have like all your 00:38:40.680 |
auto insurance and home insurance and a little bit term life insurance with 00:38:43.340 |
With a company sometimes they'll offer those kinds of riders, but it's not common when you get into real term life insurance 00:38:50.740 |
If you got a two million dollar term life insurance policy with Guardian, they're not going to give you a term life insurance policy 00:38:56.120 |
It just don't they don't write them for children under the age of 18 now when you get to insurance for the child 00:39:02.740 |
That's when you move over into the world of whole life insurance and whole life insurance can also cover some of those same 00:39:10.620 |
Those same needs so you can do whole life and use whole life insurance for the burial 00:39:16.460 |
You can use whole life insurance for the emotional adjustment 00:39:20.660 |
what you often can't use whole life insurance for because just too expensive is if you're gonna buy a lot of it for a 00:39:26.260 |
Lot of it for the child. So what I recommend just to cut right to the actual recommendations for the vast majority of families 00:39:33.980 |
What I recommend is if you have access to a term life insurance policy 00:39:39.300 |
Then go ahead and put a rider on it. If they'll give you a rider then add a rider 00:39:46.020 |
It's just not going to be a problem and that will cover the needs that you have 00:39:50.100 |
For the burial fund and an emotional adjustment fund 00:39:54.220 |
There's no reason not to go ahead and have a rider if you do need something where you're trying to have something more 00:40:00.300 |
Permanent you're gonna wind up buying some kind of whole life insurance policy 00:40:04.760 |
And I really do like as long as you have other savings other investments as well 00:40:10.060 |
Where you're you're actually you're not just saying this is gonna be my ticket to wealth because it's not whole life insurance policies for children 00:40:17.020 |
Do not perform well for cash value for the first 20 years. It's brutal in terms of the actual cash value 00:40:23.140 |
They're much more they perform much worse than whole life insurance policies for adults do from the cash value perspective 00:40:28.660 |
But what I do is for all of my children when they're two weeks old and I can get a policy 00:40:32.900 |
I buy a small whole life insurance policy for them and 00:40:39.280 |
You can the the figures can vary if you have a million dollars of life insurance on you 00:40:45.780 |
25k on the child on each of your children if you've got millions of dollars and you have a lot of income 00:40:51.320 |
You know, you might get 100k something like that for each for your for your children 00:40:56.080 |
But with those I buy traditional whole life insurance 00:40:59.420 |
So it'll be in force forever. And what I do is I make sure that I add two important 00:41:08.100 |
The first benefit is an APB which is called an additional purchase benefit and what an additional purchase benefit allows is 00:41:15.820 |
It allows the insured to buy more insurance at a certain age 00:41:19.780 |
So for example with my children's policies at the age of 20 at the age of 23 26 29 00:41:28.540 |
38 and 41 they can buy additional amounts of insurance and I think I've got a hundred thousand dollars either a hundred thousand or a 00:41:35.380 |
Hundred and fifty thousand dollar APB on those policies 00:41:37.780 |
So that means that if my child turns 20 and maybe my child has some kind of disease 00:41:42.180 |
That they can't get any life insurance. They could buy another hundred thousand dollars of whole life insurance 00:41:47.660 |
It'll be expensive because it's whole life insurance, but it's better than nothing if they've developed some kind of disease more likely 00:41:53.220 |
They may have started doing something that's risky 00:41:55.420 |
So for example, I got a family member who's a pilot and started flying as a private pilot and became professional pilot 00:42:00.380 |
That kind of thing gets you some big ratings a lot of times on life insurance 00:42:04.060 |
And so the nice thing is that with an additional purchase benefit in this kind of insurance setup 00:42:08.400 |
Then your child is protected where they always have the ability to buy more amounts of life insurance 00:42:14.180 |
Caveat it is going to be whole life insurance 00:42:18.540 |
But that can still be work out really well for them to at least have some life insurance coverage 00:42:24.300 |
the other thing that I always put on the policies is a 00:42:28.980 |
disability waiver of premium and so what that means is if the child is 00:42:39.160 |
And so that's a big big deal because there are certain kinds of presumptive 00:42:42.980 |
Disabilities that the child can get and if they're disabled you don't have to pay the premiums 00:42:46.900 |
But with the premier companies the premium companies if the child is disabled 00:42:51.420 |
They'll actually keep on there the additional purchase benefit and they'll let the child buy the bail pay for the additional purchase benefits when they come 00:42:57.780 |
Available to them and so what I do is split the difference on these and I buy whole life insurance policies 00:43:06.100 |
So that they have some insurance if they die. I've got some money to cover burial costs, etc 00:43:12.740 |
I've got some cash value, but the cash value returns are really bad on these kinds of policies 00:43:21.300 |
That's good in terms of over the course of 20 years something like that 00:43:24.700 |
But they'll always have some insurance that's in force and with the additional purchase benefit 00:43:29.460 |
I feel like that's a really huge benefit and help because it 00:43:33.860 |
Allows me or my children to buy more insurance in the future. So that's kind of the the fast lesson on it Jason 00:43:41.380 |
Nope hold on this Jason I unmuted the wrong person any follow-up questions Jason 00:43:55.660 |
My wife will be quitting her job once we have kids 00:43:58.700 |
And we'll have a household income about 100 K. I currently have 250 00:44:04.560 |
On myself and 250 on my wife. Would you recommend upping that once we have a kid? 00:44:10.180 |
Do you are you financially independent? Do you have millions of dollars in savings? 00:44:18.620 |
You can do a needs analysis and that's the proper way to do it you calculate how much money you would need if 00:44:26.860 |
Died how much debt you would want to pay off how much income your family would need and then you subtract all your assets that are 00:44:33.500 |
Available. So the proper way to do it is to perform a proper needs analysis 00:44:37.980 |
And this is life insurance 101 talk to any life insurance agent. They can do that for you 00:44:42.060 |
What you will find out is it's gonna be somewhere between 10 to 20 times your annual income 00:44:49.860 |
If you actually sit down with a hundred people with 98 of them 00:44:54.720 |
It'll be somewhere between 10 to 20 times your life and you sorry your annual income 00:44:58.540 |
so you'll be at somewhere between a million to two million dollars of total coverage for you and 00:45:04.220 |
I would buy if your wife is going to be a stay-at-home mom. I would buy minimum half of that for her 00:45:10.820 |
I would buy more if she's still working and she can qualify 00:45:14.460 |
She won't be able to qualify as a stay-at-home mom for the same amount that you can qualify for 00:45:20.900 |
So what you want to do is at an early age while she's still working and can financially qualify for more insurance 00:45:30.180 |
you know where you're gonna wind up when you do that needs analysis with an insurance agent is you're gonna wind up doing a 00:45:38.380 |
750 or a million on her but the great thing is if you guys are relatively young non-smokers 00:45:43.540 |
This is a total net cost with you know for you to have a million and a half is probably forty dollars a month for 00:45:50.860 |
750 is probably you know thirty dollars a month and by I'm not gonna explain it right now 00:45:56.180 |
But by a type of life insurance called annual 00:46:00.140 |
Renewable term life insurance do not buy level term life insurance when you're under the age of about 45 00:46:07.600 |
So if you're in your 30s by annual renewable term life insurance and you can go and investigate that elsewhere 00:46:14.700 |
My pleasure, all right, that was Jason I've got too many colors here. Let's go to 00:46:24.000 |
The Florida Keys welcome to the show. How can I serve you today? 00:46:27.360 |
Hey, good morning, Joshua John here. I'm gonna stick with the theme of this episode. It seems like real estate. I got a 00:46:36.660 |
Decision to make and was looking for your insight. Okay 00:46:39.620 |
So I'm currently active-duty military and I just received what will be my final set of orders 00:46:47.060 |
Taking me back to New Orleans, Louisiana where I intend to retire 00:46:52.340 |
I was there previously during my career and I already have 00:46:58.720 |
Louisiana so the decision is is now we're looking at 00:47:03.540 |
The orders are three-year orders, but we know this is our long-term 00:47:09.720 |
So do we buy another three two for a second rental property? 00:47:14.000 |
Or do we go and look to make the decision to buy that longer five to ten year? 00:47:19.480 |
Forever home so to speak do you have children? 00:47:24.140 |
One children one child and one on the way, okay, how old is your child that you have? 00:47:40.780 |
The good thing is she's kind of right at that cusp where you're gonna start to appreciate some of the amenities 00:47:46.620 |
but I would I would buy the rental first and maybe even two over the next three years and 00:47:56.820 |
While you're while you're there live in them and then rent them out do the the nomad investing strategy read James Orr's book 00:48:05.480 |
But I would do yeah, I would do the rentals first and then you know, if you have another child 00:48:14.400 |
House when you have a seven year old and a four year old that would be really ideal 00:48:20.480 |
I would I would go ahead and build that rental property portfolio first and then 00:48:26.320 |
Have that ticking away there before I move to the forever home because you guys are used to moving 00:48:31.820 |
You know, you've got to move. You've got a three-year-old doesn't need that much space 00:48:36.120 |
You're gonna have a baby doesn't need that much space if you'll stretch it out for another three years 00:48:41.000 |
Purchase one or two rentals in the interim then you'll be much on a much higher 00:48:46.280 |
Financial independence trajectory than you would be if you go ahead and move to the big house you get comfortable you start 00:48:53.360 |
You know settling in doing that nesting thing defer it just a little bit till you have more houses and then go ahead and make 00:49:00.120 |
That lifestyle upgrade. That's what I would do 00:49:04.520 |
Sounds what we were thinking about doing and I appreciate your insight there Joshua 00:49:08.540 |
Yeah, I think it's important to acknowledge that you don't want to live like a pauper forever. Your goal is not to 00:49:15.680 |
Kind of always be stuck in this place where we're just gonna move and it's money money money money 00:49:21.680 |
It's nice to set up that home base that nest that forever home 00:49:26.320 |
Your wife is gonna be thrilled when you're done with the military 00:49:30.160 |
She doesn't have to be a worry about moving too much two years from now 00:49:33.200 |
But it's a lot nicer to do that if you've got a good solid financial base 00:49:39.040 |
And so I would definitely just defer it a little tiny longer and you'll get more benefits out of it 00:49:46.520 |
When you are settled what book I'd recommend if you haven't read it 00:49:51.360 |
It's available free online, but search for James or and it's called Nomad real estate 00:50:03.520 |
but it's basically the strategy of buy a house move into it live there for a year or so and 00:50:08.560 |
Then move out and do it again and you can do this with your VA loans 00:50:12.720 |
There's a little bit of trickiness with regard to the technicalities of how many VA loans you're supposed to have you can investigate that 00:50:19.960 |
But there are a lot of people who have used the VA loans 00:50:22.280 |
purchased a large rental state port portfolio of multiple properties and it seems that 00:50:28.480 |
It's something that they've been able to do. So that would be my approach 00:50:35.400 |
Charleston, South Carolina. Welcome to the show. How can I serve you today? 00:50:38.000 |
Hey Josh, my name is Steven. I was just tolerant actually on a 00:50:42.880 |
Somewhat similar topic. I'm 27 years old got two kids and a wife and we live in Tennessee actually 00:50:48.600 |
Okay, I'm joining the military in September as an officer and that will 00:50:53.480 |
produce a significant increase in salary just because uh 00:50:57.560 |
I've been I'm only just now getting into being physically 00:51:08.520 |
Adopt a child buy real estate back in Tennessee for when we get out of the military and begin savings 00:51:13.300 |
how do I do you have any resources you would recommend for how I 00:51:19.320 |
Considering I'm gonna see a pay increase, but I also I'm just trying to figure out how to how to maneuver on that 00:51:25.480 |
So well, the first thing I would do is save money. It's never a wrong thing to save money 00:51:30.200 |
So that would be priority number one. I would live on the minimum that is 00:51:36.320 |
Comfortable for your family and save the maximum amount of money now with regard to student loans 00:51:43.360 |
I would think carefully through my overall strategy. Am I gonna pay them off? 00:51:48.360 |
and is that gonna help me or is it more strategic for me to keep them and 00:51:54.600 |
Invest the money as well. Should I pay off the debt or should I invest? 00:51:58.760 |
I've got an entire episode on that just go back in the archives of radical personal finance and you'll find that episode and 00:52:04.360 |
You can you can think through that but I would especially in an environment like now where they'll give you deferrals 00:52:11.480 |
They'll freeze the interest etc. I would build up a big 00:52:14.520 |
savings account and if you're gonna move in the direction of buying real estate then 00:52:24.520 |
This is probably going to be a good time to buy now with regard to having a child 00:52:30.160 |
I would say this is time dependent not money dependent. So sorry with adopting a child so I 00:52:38.280 |
Would not wait on the money to adopt a child if I knew I wanted to have a child 00:52:43.960 |
We would adopt a child when the child is available when we see the opportunity and we say 00:52:50.480 |
This is the child that we want to adopt. I would do it 00:52:53.160 |
I think it's although I appreciate that it seems 00:52:57.000 |
Sensible to try to wait on big life decisions until you've got the money thing all figured out 00:53:03.060 |
You know, there's people who especially in the the fire community 00:53:05.960 |
It's all about I'm gonna be financially independent by the time. I'm 30 and have children. I 00:53:13.640 |
Those things are life decisions that are more important than money. Do you need to be able to afford it? 00:53:24.280 |
If I didn't have the money and I felt the desire to adopt a child 00:53:27.120 |
I would pursue the adoption and wait for the money to show up. Maybe I worked it. Maybe I did a deal 00:53:33.960 |
Maybe friends and family donated money. Maybe I was able to find some discounts 00:53:38.680 |
I just would not wait on money to get married would not wait on money to have children 00:53:43.760 |
I would make those decisions because I felt the time was right and then I would make the money 00:53:58.760 |
Adoption would be whenever it's appropriate number three would be real estate 00:54:07.680 |
Then number four would be student loans. And if you're gonna be 00:54:19.120 |
You have to do that when the property is available and when they're a good deal 00:54:23.600 |
Now if you can pay off the student loans quickly and be debt-free that can go now it can go after savings 00:54:30.480 |
It can go at anywhere along the line. That's the big question mark, but I don't that's how I would order them myself 00:54:37.160 |
Yeah, no that totally makes sense I'm tracking with you it sounds like a 00:54:42.280 |
It's almost more of a what are what are my personal? 00:54:50.920 |
Having savings helps to accomplish a lot of those so right 00:54:54.040 |
Great. Well, thank you very much. Good my pleasure. All right, we're gonna go a little bit faster. I've got, Indiana 00:55:00.080 |
Minnesota and Texas and then maybe back to Daniel. Nope, Daniel. We're done, Indiana. Welcome to the show. How can I serve you today? 00:55:12.960 |
They currently offer a 401k but no match on it and I was talking to him about that 00:55:18.760 |
They would like to offer a match to the doctors. I think it'd be too expensive to offer the match to everyone 00:55:27.840 |
Set up your 401k so that you can offer a match to certain positions. They're not others. No 00:55:38.160 |
Well that somebody in the Facebook group had mentioned something about setting up an affiliated services group. Is that something you're familiar with? 00:55:49.080 |
the idea being of an affiliated services group the idea is 00:55:54.440 |
that if you set up a separate company that is focused on 00:55:59.640 |
You know that employs the doctors but then a different company that employs the staff is that the idea 00:56:10.640 |
So is it technically possible? I would say most likely 00:56:15.640 |
It is technically Paula possible. But the important thing is to 00:56:20.480 |
Understand that there's still restrictions. So if you have companies that have common ownership, so let's say that I own a 00:56:28.960 |
Company called company a and my wife and I are the sole employees of company a we pay ourselves 00:56:36.360 |
$200,000 per year and then I also own and my wife and I own company B and in company B 00:56:42.460 |
We have five low-level staff that all get paid 00:56:52.720 |
We're not going to be able to just set up a 401k in company a but not in company B because the companies have common 00:57:00.460 |
Ownership, so could you set up some kind of affiliated services group where there was just an employment in that separate? 00:57:08.340 |
Company and there were different ownership than the low-level group 00:57:13.560 |
but you're gonna need to talk to a specialist who will follow the rules very carefully because the number one thing that's 00:57:21.520 |
important to the government with regard to 401k plans is 00:57:28.200 |
401ks used to set up extra special benefits for 00:57:35.440 |
high-level highly compensated employees to the 00:57:38.620 |
detriment of the low-level staff and so that's the 00:57:42.480 |
That's the doctrine that is hammered through every single part of the code in 00:57:48.760 |
Every qualified plan be it a 401k or some other qualified plan 00:57:53.080 |
You cannot discriminate in favor of highly compensated employees and key key owners. So 00:58:01.060 |
Is as long as you study those laws it is theoretically possible to set up multiple companies and do that 00:58:06.940 |
my answer to you is it's probably not going to be worth it and 00:58:10.500 |
You need to know that you better button it up 00:58:14.440 |
exactly in the right way because if you don't you're dealing in an area that that they're very serious about and so 00:58:22.860 |
You're gonna need professional advice. You need to make sure that you have all of the all of the T's crossed and the eyes dotted 00:58:36.300 |
I've got a separate question. Go ahead. It's completely unrelated if you've got time go ahead 00:58:42.780 |
So my wife and I are expecting our first child in December 00:58:49.840 |
you know, I've really appreciated a lot of your philosophies on child raising and you've kind of expanded a lot of 00:58:57.660 |
You know what I think about as possible new children give me recommendations on resources for a new parent 00:59:07.780 |
But you think a new parent should be looking into 00:59:14.060 |
With regard to having a new child is going to be to think about the birth of the child 00:59:20.340 |
I've got a lot about the child, but what I'll do for the sake of 00:59:26.780 |
What I'll do for the sake of the this Q&A show is I'll focus on the birth and I'll just kind of give you my 00:59:38.580 |
Let's talk about some things that you need to know and the things that you need to consider just purely from my experience 00:59:45.160 |
You're a doctor. I'm not but I'll give you some things from my experience. What I would say is your first priority 01:00:00.540 |
Safe birth of your child, but to work with your wife with a goal of having a healthy 01:00:12.660 |
That's one of the most important things that you can do for the child 01:00:17.220 |
one of the most important things that you can do for your wife one of the most important things that you can do for 01:00:21.780 |
Your family and there are a lot of things that you can do to work towards those goals 01:00:28.220 |
I think you're gonna have to what I've learned is you got to be a little bit countercultural because in the West we have a 01:00:37.100 |
Childbirth that childbirth is somehow a medical emergency and a medical event and therefore 01:00:43.100 |
We need tons and tons of medical intervention 01:00:45.820 |
The first thing that I would do if I were you is apply your medical knowledge and study 01:00:51.460 |
Childbirth and study kind of the different trends kind of the classic place to start 01:00:56.460 |
Would be there's an older documentary that I forget the name of the lady that that did it 01:01:02.340 |
But I think it's usually the place that I encourage people start the business of being born is a good documentary to start with 01:01:11.140 |
There's a book called the business of baby that might be interesting to you. And so you want to consider carefully 01:01:20.620 |
Basically, my summary statement is childbirth does not have to be difficult childbirth does not have to be painful 01:01:26.700 |
Childbirth does not have to be a horrific experience in 01:01:30.020 |
Most women's lives there are some women who do have significant medical conditions, etc 01:01:36.460 |
And so of course that's unique where you need medical intervention 01:01:39.300 |
But I'd encourage you and your wife to to really become educated and really become knowledgeable 01:01:44.300 |
About the process of childbirth so that you can understand 01:01:49.900 |
Kind of what you want and talk to her and think about what does she want? What kind of birth? 01:01:56.180 |
Experience does she want your three basic options that you're gonna think about is do we want a hospital birth? 01:02:03.140 |
I would guess that that's probably almost an automatic thing for you being a physician 01:02:09.140 |
But I don't think that it necessarily should be I think you should consider other options 01:02:12.900 |
there are birth center births all around the United States and then of course you could do a home birth and 01:02:19.500 |
So each of them has a different advantages and different disadvantages 01:02:23.420 |
What I would tell you is I'm convinced personally that a lot of times having a hospital birth 01:02:29.980 |
increases the risk of birth for the mother and the father because it takes what can be a really rich and and 01:02:38.900 |
Wonderful experience for the mother and father and it turns it into a very medical event 01:02:45.120 |
Now we chose with our first baby that we were gonna have a birth center birth 01:02:51.960 |
I wound up delivering the baby at home because when it was time to go the baby was already there and I've gone on and 01:02:57.840 |
I've delivered all four of my babies at home with a midwife assistant now 01:03:02.580 |
We had low low risk birth. We everything we looked great. But what we found through that experience is 01:03:11.740 |
Experience and our memories of childbirth are some of the most intimate really just wonderful 01:03:23.620 |
We did something that I would commend to you. There are a number of different childbirth methodologies that you can look into 01:03:36.140 |
But we really enjoyed it in terms of and and got good results from it in terms of the childbirth and basically 01:03:42.380 |
Hypnobirthing is all about how can you learn about childbirth to the point where you can? 01:03:47.420 |
minimize and to some extent even eliminate the pain of childbirth and 01:03:52.140 |
So by having a child at home or in a birth center where it's a non-medical environment 01:03:57.820 |
What I think that has helped is it made the the entire birth experience into an intimate and enjoyable? 01:04:05.420 |
Just experience rather than in a medical event and what what what my wife found is that she found herself much 01:04:13.180 |
feeling much safer and much more relaxed than if she were in a birthing suite at a hospital with 01:04:20.740 |
Nurses and doctors coming in and stuff strapped to her stomach and the fluorescent lights, etc 01:04:27.820 |
What they've done is they've they've stripped out all the old-fashioned birthing suites and they brought in more of a home like environment 01:04:34.340 |
And I think that can be a great great solution, but I would really encourage you to consider kind of some other solution 01:04:41.020 |
We never had the confidence to have a home birth with our first baby 01:04:44.100 |
We wanted to have a birth center birth and we chose a birth center that was very near the hospital so that if there were 01:04:48.420 |
complications we could go ahead and transfer to the hospital and have the appropriate medical intervention, but 01:04:53.540 |
Our experience has been that having a child with the use of a midwife rather than a physician 01:05:01.060 |
Sorry rather than just an obstetrician just lent 01:05:07.260 |
Experience because the midwives have so much more experience birthing a baby. It just completely transformed everything and from a financial perspective 01:05:14.940 |
While none of us would ever start with saying I'm gonna think about the money 01:05:21.180 |
I think it's also foolish to ignore the money 01:05:23.540 |
And so anything you can do to minimize the risk of having a $30,000 c-section 01:05:28.660 |
Which then generally turns into if you have more than one child multiple c-sections down the road 01:05:34.300 |
It's well worth the investment spending the money spending the time and really thinking carefully about it 01:05:41.980 |
And so what I'd recommend to you is don't don't just assume because you are a physician that you know 01:05:49.620 |
But don't assume anything about childbirth and really dig into it and work with your wife 01:05:53.660 |
You got plenty of time and figure out with her. What is going to 01:05:59.140 |
What is going to lead her to have the best experience I give you two more pieces of advice one mental and one physical 01:06:09.620 |
Especially first-time mothers the prospect of giving fear unless they've worked 01:06:13.460 |
Sorry, the prospect of giving birth for the first time can be a very fearful experience 01:06:17.780 |
I don't know how many birds you attended as part of your training and how many births you've been at 01:06:22.980 |
But for the average new father and the average new mother they've never been to a single childbirth in their life 01:06:28.580 |
And so all of their impression of childbirth comes from TV 01:06:32.800 |
It comes from some mother, you know splayed out on a gurney in a bright fluorescent hospital room with her legs 01:06:39.660 |
Splayed open a bunch of strangers in the room screaming your head off 01:06:42.740 |
Like that's the basic picture that most new fathers and mothers have childbirth, which is a ridiculous picture 01:06:48.700 |
but all that does is build fear and so one of the things that is 01:06:52.580 |
Extraordinarily valuable is if you can help to build a plan that helps your wife release all of the fear that she has 01:06:59.440 |
Associated with childbirth then it can help her to feel much more confident and when she feels much more confident 01:07:04.980 |
Then the whole experience can go much better now 01:07:07.420 |
Some of that is going to be related to understanding the process of childbirth 01:07:11.060 |
So for example, one of the things that we were taught when we had our first child that dramatically transformed 01:07:17.020 |
Our experience and also dramatically transformed has transformed the experience of other people 01:07:22.060 |
I've shared this with is just physically understanding what happens with the process of birth 01:07:25.940 |
So most women don't have any understanding of what a contraction is. They just feel like a contraction is this stunning? 01:07:32.980 |
Bit of pain where all of a sudden they just can't control it and they've got to go through all this pain 01:07:38.260 |
But a contraction is simply the natural process 01:07:42.420 |
Where the muscles of the uterus press the baby down through the birth path until it's born and it's a natural process 01:07:48.820 |
whereby the cervix thins and open so the baby can pass through the birth path and yet it's a physical event and so 01:07:56.420 |
When we understood that it was a muscular event 01:08:01.220 |
you know the muscles of the uterus that that are kind of 01:08:03.740 |
Crosshatch against each other and one pulls one way and one pulls the other way and that gentle process over time 01:08:09.060 |
Presses the baby's head against the cervix and then in time the baby passes through it 01:08:13.340 |
Transformed it because what we did was we started associating 01:08:16.700 |
Contractions with a workout we started associating the physical pain of 01:08:22.380 |
Contractions with the kind of physical pain that you have going into the gym 01:08:26.060 |
So if you go into the gym and you're in there pumping iron and you're doing you know squats or you're doing chest presses 01:08:31.460 |
Or benching and all of a sudden your muscles are screaming in pain 01:08:41.940 |
emotional overwhelming thing that you just can't handle and and the secret solution to 01:08:46.180 |
The the pain and your quadriceps from your squats is to stick a needle in your pen in your your quads and get rid of 01:08:52.060 |
The pain you understand this is muscular pain that comes for a purpose 01:08:55.580 |
and so once we started comparing the experience of contractions to 01:09:01.700 |
Something like a really intense really difficult workout. It changed the emotional experience 01:09:09.620 |
Allowed her to use some of the tools and skills to manage the pain and not be 01:09:14.740 |
Emotionally debilitated by it feeling like she had to have a needle stuck in her spine 01:09:18.980 |
To somehow, you know get through it and so little things like that 01:09:25.480 |
Expectant mothers and fathers and explained it and they come back later and said that was so valuable 01:09:29.980 |
Another simple thing that we did was and this was part of the hypnobirthing curriculum if you choose to go through that 01:09:35.820 |
but we did this kind of fear release exercise where I had my wife write down all of the things that she was scared about and 01:09:43.020 |
Then we made a plan for them. So I'm of course sharing intimate details, but it's not I don't think it's it's a bad thing here 01:09:50.860 |
But like my wife was scared of being pressured. She hates to be pressured or to be 01:10:00.500 |
And so she didn't want to feel any pressure about the baby coming especially on the due date 01:10:07.260 |
So to speak the natural range when a baby is expected is a four-week range 01:10:13.400 |
It's anywhere from 38 to 42 weeks. That's normal. That's the normal normal range. And of course, it's different for us first time 01:10:19.480 |
Childbirth versus a later childbirth, but what happens for a lot of mothers is they say hey 01:10:26.060 |
My baby is due on June 1st and all of a sudden on June 1st all their friends start saying is the baby here 01:10:31.260 |
Is the baby here then on June 2nd is the baby here and her mother-in-law says hey, is there any is there any news? 01:10:37.740 |
The poor mom is so freaked out by everyone saying where's the baby and what's wrong? 01:10:42.340 |
And is everything okay that she can hardly relax and and enjoy things when the reality is 01:10:46.780 |
The normal expected path time is anywhere from a 15 to June 15 01:10:51.200 |
And as long as you're getting appropriate medical care through that period 01:10:54.400 |
The baby's being monitored making sure the baby's okay. Everything's okay. That's normal 01:11:00.420 |
Once I understood that that was one of my wife's fears we did some some stuff that just to get rid of it 01:11:05.180 |
And so for example when we are expecting a child 01:11:08.060 |
We don't tell anybody the expected due date of the child 01:11:12.180 |
We just don't tell anybody the only person that needs to know is her me and the midwife and our backup doctor, right? 01:11:18.420 |
That's it beyond that. Nobody else has any need to know 01:11:21.860 |
So if the baby's expected due date is June 15, we say sometime in June or July 01:11:26.380 |
Then you buy yourself lots of time and is that a little bit annoying? 01:11:30.080 |
It is but it it was one of things that just completely released my wife from all of the the mental 01:11:37.260 |
Kind of fear and stress of the the event now there are other things as well 01:11:41.760 |
So just what I would encourage you is work with your wife to help her to understand 01:11:46.360 |
What she's afraid of and then when you release those things then it dramatically improves 01:11:52.460 |
the probability of having a comfortable healthy safe natural childbirth if you talk to start talking to doulas and midwives and they start telling 01:12:01.180 |
you about some of the things where the woman is is in labor and 01:12:04.120 |
Everything is advancing and all of a sudden it just stops. It's not 01:12:07.540 |
Always and then I would now I'm not a pediatrician. I'm not a obstetrician. I'm not a midwife 01:12:13.940 |
I don't know but I would say it's probably from listening to them 01:12:17.620 |
It's probably a majority of the time something in the brain something mental 01:12:21.800 |
where the woman is scared about something or there's a problem in a relationship and then the and it's and then the 01:12:28.880 |
childbirth process doesn't advance appropriately and so 01:12:33.540 |
Playing the mental game is super super important and whatever 01:12:37.800 |
Situation is gonna make your wife feel totally confident totally at rest 01:12:42.500 |
That's where you need to be and that's where you need to focus 01:12:44.840 |
Focus your time and attention last thing. I am convinced that one of the important things to do during the process of 01:12:56.080 |
Make sure that she gets regular chiropractic adjustments, especially that her pelvis is not twisted 01:13:01.600 |
So I'll show on the video, but if you imagine that this is if you hold up 01:13:06.300 |
If you hold up your hands in front of you and you make a V with your hands and you look through them 01:13:14.000 |
And so if you tilt that and you just push one hand forward and one hand back 01:13:17.900 |
What you see is that it makes a dramatically the dramatic difference in the amount of space that's available for the baby's head and body 01:13:25.440 |
To pass through when the baby's head is passing through her pelvis on the birth path 01:13:29.360 |
and so one of the things that we've always worked really hard at is making sure that my wife receives regular chiropractic adjustments during 01:13:38.940 |
Pregnancy, especially if she's carrying that weight, especially if it's pushing lots of pressure on her bones 01:13:44.000 |
And that's been one of the many things that we've done to try to focus on having 01:13:53.700 |
Experiences you can't I'm convinced. Of course, you can't guarantee anything. Every woman's body is different 01:14:00.360 |
There are many things that can happen that are out of our control 01:14:03.240 |
But we've always just worked and worked and worked and worked for months just really diligently to make sure that we've done 01:14:09.880 |
Everything possible to prepare for a really comfortable safe childbirth and thus far we've had four really awesome 01:14:16.660 |
Comfortable safe childbirths last thing and Joshua's kind of standard new father speech 01:14:20.600 |
You will spend a lot of time preparing for the childbirth 01:14:27.220 |
The thing that I wish someone had told me before we had our first child was it's not all done after the birth 01:14:34.740 |
The first few days in the first couple weeks of a new baby, especially the first baby are really really tough 01:14:46.160 |
What we were not prepared for was how difficult those first few days were going to be how difficult breastfeeding was going to be 01:14:52.360 |
How difficult just settling into the baby was going to be 01:14:56.260 |
We weren't prepared for that now second time third time fourth time around things were a lot better 01:15:02.960 |
Don't think that it's all over with the birth focus on the birth and focus on the new mom and making sure that you've got 01:15:08.620 |
Lots of help and support and care for her and then 01:15:11.400 |
After your baby is a few months old, then you can start thinking about all the other stuff all of the child raising stuff 01:15:17.620 |
But that stuff there's plenty of time right now focus on the childbirth and those first couple of weeks 01:15:23.080 |
It's a really special awesome time as a four-time father who has delivered all of his own babies. I 01:15:29.040 |
Recommend to you and that's one of the last things I would say to you is that get in there and 01:15:34.020 |
Receive your own babies. It's a it's a really 01:15:39.980 |
For a father. I remember after our first baby was born. I 01:15:43.120 |
Felt like the king of the world. I felt like I 01:15:46.640 |
Don't know how to describe it. I just felt like the king of the world. I felt like the most 01:15:54.040 |
Accomplished and successful man in the universe and it was a really special experience for us. So there's Joshua's standard speech 01:16:01.680 |
consider those things work them out do your research and 01:16:09.080 |
Experience for both of you and you really can in a majority of cases 01:16:14.840 |
Transform something that some people fear some people dread into some of the richest 01:16:24.160 |
Experiences that you and your wife can experience together 01:16:37.200 |
She's really not on board with that so, you know, so we follow what she wants obviously, but yeah 01:16:49.120 |
Good things to look into at the business being born hitting a birthing looking at some of these other options that are out there 01:16:54.680 |
So I'll definitely go dive on to her and let her look at some the other stuff 01:17:00.200 |
I love birth tourism birth tourism is awesome. I 01:17:03.920 |
Cannot imagine how we ever could have done it with our first child. I've talked to parents who've done it 01:17:13.800 |
But I would not even as much as I like birth tourism when I think back to what it was like for the first baby 01:17:20.720 |
Wouldn't want to be anywhere except home. I want to be at home 01:17:23.760 |
I'd want to be at home where our family can be there our friends 01:17:28.360 |
to me, I think that's just more valuable than a passport, so 01:17:33.960 |
Whatever is gonna make her comfortable is is where you got to focus but do the research and 01:17:42.960 |
I'm convinced that you'll find the right solution. All right, I am going to go rapid-fire here. Let's see 01:17:50.120 |
Cory in Minnesota, I'm gonna answer your question in two minutes or less if it's worse than that 01:17:55.160 |
If it's bigger than that, then we're gonna move it to next week's to go fast 01:18:03.960 |
All right, Cory is right there, oh Cory is that we just came back Cory go ahead I can't hear you go ahead 01:18:28.280 |
possibly some of it for real estate at some point, but I'm currently sitting in 01:18:33.000 |
Partially checking account partially like high interest 01:18:37.120 |
High interest 1.5% you know online savings account this morning. I 01:18:44.000 |
year your last show talked a little bit about 01:18:46.720 |
emergency funds with credit cards and life insurance and things like that just thoughts on kind of where to keep that money and 01:18:54.400 |
How to structure that I have a podcast episode in the history of radical personal finance 01:19:06.400 |
What number but it's called where should you keep your emergency fund and that will answer? 01:19:16.480 |
What I'm gonna do is I'm gonna take the next question and at the end of the show 01:19:19.520 |
I will mention the answer to that question, but go listen 01:19:23.020 |
I'll tell you the show number and go listen to that show good out of Pennsylvania. Welcome to the show 01:19:54.440 |
Yes, here's what I'm envisioning a little kid a very very young four two and one right now 01:20:04.340 |
Teach them life lessons through running into their own business teach them just what it looks like 01:20:21.980 |
Business or whatnot to have them have some earned income so I could start teaching them 01:20:27.820 |
You know money skills and investing and even having the ability to open a Roth IRA for the while they're under 10 01:20:34.560 |
What just is appealing to me? So I just kind of wanted to ask you from a I mean 01:20:40.920 |
We have some things that we do. We're not really bakers. I do beekeeping 01:20:46.980 |
High products generally that's honey and lip balm and things like that. So 01:20:52.340 |
Just kind of your thoughts from a from a structure standpoint and knowing the age of my kids 01:20:57.980 |
What would it look like do you think or how do you handle that? 01:21:00.380 |
to get your kids involved in a way that is then 01:21:03.800 |
business lessons life lessons money lessons, but also 01:21:07.300 |
Also the potential of saying hey, this is earned income 01:21:15.700 |
Then have the ability to convert that into long-term savings for them 01:21:23.040 |
Important to me. I think it is well worth doing 01:21:26.560 |
I've got a lot of ideas on it the short version that I would encourage you is 01:21:31.480 |
Start by thinking about the kind of business that would be fun to do 01:21:37.800 |
That would also be profitable and that would build in just some 01:21:43.300 |
Pathways where the children can genuinely be involved 01:21:50.520 |
Remind me at the beginning of next week's Q&A and I'll try to put you in the first spot and we'll try to 01:21:55.760 |
Flesh out some ideas that would be useful specifically for you deal 01:22:00.040 |
All right, Texas you're on how can I serve you 01:22:12.240 |
I'm interested in possibly converting my regular w-2 job as a director of financial operations at a health system to 01:22:22.640 |
Per diem consulting arrangement where I'd have most of my same duties, but just have more time off 01:22:32.280 |
some benefits tax-wise and being self-employed versus 01:22:37.560 |
Receiving a w-2 I can get on my wife's insurance. So my employer would be saving my benefits cost 01:22:42.880 |
I'm just trying to work out a way where I can have more days off during my not busy season 01:22:48.960 |
which is the non budgeting strategic plan time and 01:22:51.720 |
Not cost my employer much more because I'd want to probably hire an analyst at a lower rate 01:22:58.160 |
To do the more day-to-day things that I'm doing not during that business 01:23:04.360 |
the first thing to think about is the actual lifestyle benefits and 01:23:07.520 |
Things like having more flexibility with your schedule can be reasons in and of themselves 01:23:14.760 |
Why you would want to do this even if the tax stuff is a wash 01:23:19.160 |
When it comes to tax savings, there are two basic components. The first is possible savings on 01:23:28.880 |
The second is other tax deductions. Is there something that you would be able to deduct as an 01:23:44.440 |
You need to make more money and a substantially more money as a contractor 01:23:53.600 |
but if you can and especially if you can move to setting up an s an s corporation, then you have the 01:24:03.360 |
possibility of paying some of your income out of your company as dividends rather than wages and 01:24:10.640 |
If you can do that, you can possibly save your employment taxes, which would be fifteen point three percent 01:24:19.080 |
But currently your employers paying seven point six five percent. You're paying seven point six five percent 01:24:24.720 |
So you could possibly have some savings there 01:24:28.640 |
In addition, there are some businesses that would fit well to significant tax deductions 01:24:35.200 |
So for example, maybe you could go ahead and genuinely set up a legit home office 01:24:40.400 |
Maybe you could go ahead and start driving your old beat-up car the and take a 60 cent per mile 01:24:47.040 |
Deduction on business miles that creates thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars of phantom deductions 01:24:52.080 |
Maybe there are things you could do travel you could take or expenses for equipment or gear that as an employee 01:24:58.800 |
You can't deduct but you can deduct if you're a contractor 01:25:06.080 |
You need to make sure that you're gonna get a better lifestyle benefit and you need to make sure 01:25:10.800 |
That you're gonna get a decent amount more money 01:25:14.800 |
so what I would say is call in next week and let's talk about the 01:25:20.320 |
Your job and once again, like I said the previous guy 01:25:22.840 |
Tell me when I start and I'll put you up in the number one slot next week 01:25:26.280 |
All right, I'd love to do that, thank you so much good stuff. Thank you all for calling in for today's 01:25:33.680 |
episode what I want to close with is the thing that I mentioned as far as the 01:25:40.840 |
Episode of where to keep your emergency fund is episode 481 of radical personal finance from September 12 01:25:47.820 |
2017 it's called where should I keep my emergency fund and it's an in-depth detailed discussion of 01:25:55.880 |
The answers to that question of where you should keep your emergency fund 01:25:59.520 |
So I would commend that episode to you if you're interested in the question 01:26:04.280 |
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Thank you all for calling in and there was one comment 01:26:33.880 |
I wanted to add that I added on this screen as we go from one of the live watchers here on 01:26:42.800 |
Watcher says Steve to Steven earlier question joining the military gives you a number of monetary advantages that most civilians aren't aware of 01:26:54.200 |
Specifically off the top of my head the military will give you allowance to offset the cost 01:26:58.480 |
Along with paid time off for you and the adopted child reddit has a decent subreddit called our slash military finance is a good place 01:27:06.080 |
To start Doug Nordman through the bogal heads has a good book. He wrote to get you started financially with your career 01:27:10.800 |
Definitely read Doug's book. I should have recommended that myself 01:27:15.880 |
There are a number of personal finance bloggers that are exclusively focused on the military market 01:27:21.800 |
And if I were in the military, I would read every blog post and every book that any of those guys had written 01:27:26.400 |
That's it for today's show. Thank you all for being here and I'll be back with you very soon 01:27:30.240 |
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