Mastering Communication: The ART of Thoughtful Speaking
00:00:00.000 | How much are you thinking about what you're saying?
00:00:02.120 | I feel like sometimes it can be easy
00:00:04.400 | to just speak off the cuff.
00:00:06.200 | Do you have any tips for kind of restraining
00:00:09.200 | to really hone and focus when you kind of know the answer,
00:00:12.160 | but if you took a minute,
00:00:13.400 | you could piece together an even more profound response?
00:00:15.720 | - When you're in a situation and you're listening,
00:00:18.180 | actually make sure you're listening to the person,
00:00:19.800 | not formulating your response in the moment.
00:00:22.120 | I think there's a point in time, you know,
00:00:24.240 | when you've kind of gotten the gist
00:00:25.980 | of what someone is saying, when you kind of turn to,
00:00:28.280 | okay, now I'm like, I'm listening,
00:00:30.000 | but I'm also creating the narrative
00:00:31.600 | of what I'm gonna say in my mind.
00:00:33.000 | But it's usually later than you think.
00:00:34.540 | Most people, I think, stop listening very, very quickly
00:00:37.200 | in someone's dialogue.
00:00:38.140 | Learning to like uncomfortably push that back a little bit
00:00:41.640 | and listen a little bit longer,
00:00:43.480 | I find that you learn a lot more from the other person.
00:00:45.600 | And then as a result,
00:00:46.800 | you end up coming up with more insightful responses.