back to indexHow Self-Esteem Ruins Bible Reading
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0:0 Intro
0:39 Identity
2:11 SelfLove
2:56 Precious Daughters
3:38 The xanax approach
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We're joined one last time with our guest Jen Wilkin, a wife, mom, Bible teacher, and 00:00:09.320 |
the author of the fabulous book, Women of the Word, How to Study the Bible with Both 00:00:15.680 |
Jen, you once tweeted this, "Women teachers, let's shift the emphasis from 'Girl, you're 00:00:22.760 |
a precious daughter of the King' to 'Behold your King, lift up your eyes.'" 00:00:31.460 |
That sounds like it's right at the heart of your whole aim of what you're trying to accomplish 00:00:34.840 |
in equipping women to read their Bibles whole, cover to cover. 00:00:43.360 |
So the number one topic that I'm asked to speak on when people invite me to come speak 00:00:59.240 |
That's probably the most basic question that any human being can ask. 00:01:02.480 |
But the Bible is not silent on that question. 00:01:05.540 |
It says that we are image bearers, we're created in the image of God. 00:01:09.240 |
But we have a hard time understanding the implications of that. 00:01:11.640 |
And not only that, but because we as humans are so inward focused, part of, I would say, 00:01:19.800 |
the first step in becoming a child of God is recognizing that the center of the universe 00:01:30.040 |
And so I think that the reason the self-esteem messages that are common in women's circles 00:01:34.600 |
don't stick to our ribs is because self-esteem detached from any idea of who God is, is just 00:01:47.720 |
But what we lack is a vision of God high and lifted up. 00:01:51.720 |
That once we understand that the God who has thought relationship with us is a transcendent 00:01:56.360 |
God, it rightly orients us first to Him, and then it rightly orients us to ourselves, and 00:02:04.240 |
It helps to get the order right for us to be able to live out the great commandment 00:02:08.760 |
to love God and love our neighbor as we love ourselves. 00:02:12.200 |
It is accurate to say that our lack of self-love is prohibiting our love of neighbor. 00:02:21.080 |
But the root problem is not that we don't love ourselves accurately. 00:02:28.400 |
And when we begin to love Him the way that we should, then our self-love falls into the 00:02:34.720 |
We understand that we are accepted in Christ, that we have been given much grace, that God 00:02:41.440 |
is faithful to His covenant, whether we are faithful or not. 00:02:44.080 |
And all of these ideas, right thinking about God, then train us to love our neighbor from 00:02:50.840 |
a place of graciousness, because we understand we're loved from a place of graciousness, 00:02:57.240 |
The precious daughter of the king language is everywhere in Christian women's circles. 00:03:04.120 |
And while I want to point it out and ask some questions about it, I don't want to diminish 00:03:12.360 |
I just want the idea to be framed within the beauty of who the king is, rather than some 00:03:18.840 |
princess mentality, which I think we could all acknowledge has not done women any favors 00:03:23.680 |
in any variety, whether it came from Disney or whether it came from fairy tales or you 00:03:30.760 |
We are precious daughters of the king, but it is because of the king's preciousness that 00:03:35.360 |
we can understand the significance of that statement. 00:03:40.320 |
And I think this next question is related, or it seems to be to me, what would you say 00:03:45.160 |
to Bible readers who on a regular basis open their Bibles with some felt need in their 00:03:51.040 |
life and then they go and look for the one verse that applies to that felt need? 00:03:57.480 |
I'm not saying it's wrong to do that on occasion, but this almost becomes the default way many 00:04:05.440 |
I actually have a name for that method of Bible reading. 00:04:11.800 |
And it's where I just want to medicate my feelings with the Bible. 00:04:16.960 |
And so, you know, if I've had a week where I'm feeling anxious, then I'm obviously going 00:04:20.760 |
to write Philippians 4, 6 on a note card, be anxious for nothing, but in all things 00:04:26.040 |
through prayer and supplication, I'm going to write that down. 00:04:28.360 |
I'm going to repeat it like an incantation over myself and ask the Lord to give me comfort 00:04:35.640 |
If I'm exhausted, I'm going to quote, "Come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden." 00:04:42.000 |
And even though that's actually about soul rest, not about physical rest, but that's 00:04:46.240 |
not going to bother me because I'm just tired, man. 00:04:49.080 |
You know, if I and if I feel ugly, I mean, this is the one that the women, you know, 00:04:53.040 |
when we make pink parts of the Bible, if I feel ugly or my pants don't fit, I'm going 00:04:58.160 |
to go to Psalm 139 and tell myself that I'm fearfully and wonderfully made about 500 times. 00:05:09.080 |
When I find something like that, that I think hits me in a warm and fuzzy place, I'm going 00:05:13.400 |
to begin dispensing medication to all of my friends via social media with these verses 00:05:19.600 |
And I think the issue is that when we come to the Bible that way, we're asking the Bible 00:05:25.240 |
to operate according to our terms rather than asking the God of the Bible to speak to us 00:05:33.800 |
So I don't know anyone who's having a bad week who looks up Jeremiah 17 9, "The heart 00:05:41.240 |
There are plenty of passages in the Bible that don't deliver an immediate dose of emotional 00:05:45.280 |
satisfaction to us, but they serve a very important formative purpose for us. 00:05:50.000 |
So we end up when we read the Bible that way, we end up with spot knowledge of the Bible 00:05:55.840 |
that is ultimately unhelpful, because we have picked only those passages that yield something 00:06:02.960 |
You're never going to read the book of Leviticus if this is your approach to the Bible. 00:06:10.860 |
You know, you're going to stick to the parts that give you what you think you need from 00:06:14.760 |
the Bible rather than asking the God of the Bible to ministry to you through His word 00:06:24.280 |
Plenty of passages in the Bible don't deliver an immediate dose of emotional satisfaction 00:06:29.440 |
to us, but they all serve an important formative purpose within us. 00:06:34.960 |
So I'm tweeting that as soon as we're done, Jen. 00:06:40.440 |
Again, Jen's book, Women of the Word, four years old and has now sold 200,000 print copies. 00:06:47.520 |
It's a book, but it's a book not for women only, as you like to tell men, just rip the 00:06:56.800 |
You might have to Google rheumatites and just see what those are. 00:07:08.560 |
That was Jen Wilken, grateful for her time over the past week. 00:07:12.240 |
And next time on Wednesday, John Piper is back in the studio. 00:07:14.760 |
We have a question from a listener who says she doesn't want to waste her life, but she 00:07:18.040 |
also feels like she is only wasting her life because her life is trapped by unremitting 00:07:30.780 |
Pastor John, thank you so much for being here. 00:07:33.780 |
I'm going to be a little bit more quiet, but we appreciate you being here.