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- Hello, and welcome to another episode of All The Hacks, 00:00:05.360 |
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- You went from a lawyer who didn't really run 00:02:21.880 |
What has been the biggest lesson you've learned 00:02:23.880 |
during that transformation that might be helpful 00:02:25.880 |
for someone who feels a bit more like your former self? 00:02:32.240 |
is the fact that slowing down is actually a strength. 00:02:35.400 |
I don't actually know if my former self needed that advice. 00:02:47.500 |
I think there's more nuance to my hustle now. 00:02:52.520 |
and have the confidence to pull back at points. 00:03:05.600 |
And I was like, wow, slowing down is actually a strength. 00:03:10.200 |
But my former self, as I was getting into it, 00:03:14.280 |
and getting into marathons and ultra marathons, 00:03:24.640 |
mentally, emotionally, in business or otherwise, 00:03:28.640 |
That gut instinct of, oh wait, this is new, this is scary, 00:03:36.500 |
either in the form of a Peloton workout with me 00:03:39.520 |
or whatever it is, however we ritualize discomfort, 00:03:46.760 |
Even if the stimuli changes, that is exciting to me. 00:03:50.920 |
or anyone who feels like they're in a plateau, 00:03:54.440 |
And I mean, literally, schedule it, keep showing up, 00:04:04.200 |
but she turns the shower on cold every single time 00:04:08.080 |
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So I know fitness was a big part of that transformation 00:04:23.320 |
because as an optimizer, and I think a lot of people are, 00:04:34.000 |
and that getting in the way of actually just going. 00:04:36.440 |
And I'm sure your advice to me would be like, 00:04:40.200 |
But maybe we could do like a quick 101, 201 on fitness 00:04:48.920 |
- The biggest question that I feel almost ridiculous asking 00:04:54.840 |
Sometimes I personally get lost in this world 00:04:57.220 |
of you've got two or three days, four days a week. 00:04:59.440 |
How do you even think about what to prioritize? 00:05:02.160 |
- Oh gosh, the answer, like a lot of these hypotheticals, 00:05:08.140 |
how somebody should be training, should be moving, 00:05:10.440 |
where they're starting from, where they want to end up, 00:05:12.960 |
But I would say kind of a general effective dose is both. 00:05:17.960 |
I personally prioritize as the ground floor strength training 00:05:22.840 |
and I mean going heavy with deadlift, squat, bench press. 00:05:27.440 |
So that's at least three strength workouts a week forever. 00:05:33.080 |
And the cool thing is that your body really remembers 00:05:44.420 |
And I love HIIT and Tabata and that kind of interval work. 00:05:54.220 |
and I recognize that I'm not necessarily the average person 00:05:58.660 |
but I have at least four days a week of strength training 00:06:02.460 |
and that includes Peloton classes also with dumbbells 00:06:11.380 |
And then I have at least four sessions a week 00:06:17.960 |
so that I'm getting kind of power and speed there. 00:06:22.060 |
I always have at least one or two speed sessions a week 00:06:27.100 |
And distance for me will be anything from 60 minutes 00:06:32.780 |
And then obviously marathon training, it's three hours plus. 00:06:37.060 |
a little bit of the bike when I'm not teaching. 00:06:42.780 |
and I try to carve out at least one day for recovery. 00:07:00.820 |
the more training you're gonna be able to get 00:07:05.380 |
is I would say minimum three days a week of strength 00:07:08.260 |
and two to three, ideally, sessions of cardio. 00:07:17.860 |
especially if you're doing it in a 20 minute HIIT session, 00:07:26.940 |
that is also really important for heart health. 00:07:28.820 |
But I think in terms of like training technique, 00:07:33.220 |
it's strength and HIIT Tabata at least twice a week. 00:07:36.340 |
- It's funny 'cause I had these roommates in college 00:07:40.580 |
And they're like, we wanna be huge, we wanna be ripped. 00:07:55.740 |
In the infinite movement game, I think strength, 00:08:04.660 |
You know, like I think your audience already gets it. 00:08:11.740 |
What I find is that people often go too hard on easy days 00:08:18.420 |
So that's another variable that we need to consider 00:08:20.460 |
that first of all, yes, strength does matter. 00:08:29.020 |
Like there are really basic tests that we can do. 00:08:33.820 |
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It's literally like, can you take off your shoe 00:08:40.620 |
in the blue zones, like one of the ways that, you know, 00:08:44.580 |
is literally just spending more time on the floor. 00:08:50.260 |
I get down to her level for a lot of reasons. 00:09:02.020 |
I'm a huge proponent of going to living in that 70 to 85% 00:09:17.820 |
Do you need an instructor to get the form down? 00:09:24.820 |
that are prescriptive and progressively overload 00:09:38.020 |
as you're learning the basic squat, chest press, deadlift. 00:09:41.620 |
But generally speaking, when you're getting into, 00:09:45.780 |
for example, let's say you're working for 30 seconds 00:09:49.740 |
By the last 10 or 20% of whatever it is you're doing, 00:09:53.580 |
either for time or for reps, should feel tough. 00:09:59.860 |
I mean, there are places for that in lifting, 00:10:04.180 |
needing to go there, especially not in the beginning, 00:10:20.220 |
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Okay, so we can dial things up to keep pushing ourselves. 00:13:14.500 |
or maybe I even find a Peloton strength class I like, 00:13:18.280 |
or is it really important to be doing different things, 00:13:22.600 |
but can I just do the same one or two routines each week 00:13:26.180 |
and not worry about having to change it up more than that? 00:13:29.780 |
and what you're changing in very small variables 00:13:32.780 |
are the number of reps, the amount of weight, right? 00:13:38.220 |
So the answer is yes, you can absolutely repeat workouts. 00:13:50.860 |
but the key is if you find a class that you really like, 00:13:58.940 |
for four weeks, for six weeks, and then change it up. 00:14:07.140 |
You refresh and you adapt something, some element, 00:14:11.940 |
in a given period, whether it's the amount of weight, 00:14:17.440 |
and a consistent repetition for it to start to respond 00:14:22.300 |
- And on the cardio side, you mentioned HIIT and Tabata. 00:14:25.180 |
How do you think about the I'm gonna go on a run 00:14:29.480 |
versus layering in some of those kind of accelerations, 00:14:44.580 |
but most folks aren't gonna start there and they shouldn't. 00:14:47.260 |
When I started running, it was actually a walk-run method 00:14:50.660 |
and I would literally jog two blocks, walk a block, 00:14:54.500 |
and it was like, okay, I'm just gonna go to the next light. 00:14:56.740 |
And I didn't know I was doing intervals at the time, 00:15:00.520 |
but I wasn't trying to demolish myself in the jog. 00:15:03.100 |
It was literally just slightly faster than a block. 00:15:19.860 |
And one way to start to amp it up in a run, for example, 00:15:24.620 |
It's 15, 20 seconds of an eight out of 10 effort. 00:15:37.020 |
of a 30-minute run where for the most of the workout, 00:15:39.740 |
you could talk, you could sing along to Beyonce 00:15:41.860 |
or whoever it is you're listening to in your ears. 00:15:46.940 |
But then at the end, in those last five minutes, 00:15:51.780 |
you're cooking and then you get back to that jog. 00:15:57.020 |
and they activate different types of muscle fibers 00:15:59.980 |
to remind your body, this is what it feels like to run fast. 00:16:04.060 |
and you have to get acquainted with that discomfort. 00:16:06.340 |
And then there's a period of time usually for folks 00:16:10.620 |
And then they go maybe a little bit too far into that realm 00:16:17.900 |
and you don't want the pendulum to swing that far either. 00:16:22.260 |
you wanna choose a run or a ride where you're like, 00:16:26.620 |
I'm working eight out of 10 when it's work time, 00:16:30.180 |
That is really important because we want that tempo pace, 00:16:34.620 |
It doesn't have to be all out, but there are huge, 00:16:42.540 |
is like competing with my own records or friends 00:16:45.060 |
or things like that, which is why Peloton's been great 00:16:50.900 |
be like out there saying, can I beat the distance I ran 00:16:54.780 |
Is it good to infuse some days where it's like, 00:17:00.220 |
If you think about the best athletes in the world, 00:17:06.420 |
When you're starting out, the PRs happen more readily 00:17:21.500 |
or actual physical ceiling, it doesn't really exist, 00:17:37.460 |
and you're like, I'm hard charging for so-and-so today, 00:17:39.820 |
I mean, do it, but I would rather somebody choose 00:17:47.320 |
So for me, I can throttle at 85% for a long, long time, 00:17:52.320 |
but I know my body, but I still choose workouts 00:17:56.340 |
If I'm laid out on the floor, I'm okay with that. 00:17:59.980 |
Most of my workouts, I'm hovering at that eight, 00:18:22.060 |
Is it dope if somebody has a hyperbaric chamber? 00:18:26.120 |
You are oxygenated as hell, but just go to sleep. 00:18:39.540 |
Fueling intentionally, noticing how your body reacts 00:18:46.700 |
to feel like you just can't get through the next hour 00:18:52.280 |
Those adaptations are, I think in some cases, 00:18:57.940 |
I mean, the act of eating, it's an intimate thing to do. 00:19:08.660 |
impacts almost every other area of your life. 00:19:10.820 |
- And what do you think some of the most common ways 00:19:12.640 |
people are not doing that well when it comes to food 00:19:18.420 |
'cause there's obviously nutritionists, dieticians, 00:19:20.020 |
all that could inform from a more medical perspective, 00:19:22.380 |
but the key for me is eating most of the time 00:19:28.100 |
And like most of what we have access to is processed. 00:19:31.740 |
it's been processed in some way, shape, or form. 00:19:33.620 |
I'm not saying, I mean, I get stuff from Whole Foods 00:19:38.580 |
Not everything is like a sprig of parsley and broccoli, 00:19:44.900 |
And I find that getting into a habit of preparing foods, 00:19:57.220 |
and making sure that I'm getting protein is important. 00:20:02.900 |
but it's making sure that I'm getting plant-based protein. 00:20:05.020 |
For me, it's at least one gram per pound of body weight 00:20:08.140 |
and if not more, and I'm able to do that with smoothies, 00:20:15.740 |
I batch prepare that, so I always have it in the fridge. 00:20:18.220 |
Tempeh, soy, my family is not gluten sensitive, 00:20:22.700 |
- And the only other thing we didn't talk about was timing. 00:20:24.460 |
How do you think about when to fit all these workouts in? 00:20:27.100 |
Is it personal or is it do it first thing in the morning? 00:20:33.020 |
And I mean, you schedule it like an appointment, 00:20:40.500 |
I schedule my workouts, and I mean my own personal workouts, 00:20:49.020 |
kids happen, stuff happens, but then you shift it 00:20:53.140 |
Maybe that 45 minute workout turns into 20 minutes. 00:20:58.620 |
been like, oh my gosh, the window that I had, 00:21:00.640 |
I've done burpees and then got onto a podcast like this 00:21:10.140 |
Important will always be put to the side versus urgent. 00:21:19.220 |
that are gonna come up if you don't plan accordingly. 00:21:28.440 |
you can listen to this podcast a million times in a row. 00:21:31.820 |
- I imagine that there are a lot of people listening 00:21:33.340 |
who are like, yeah, I can put it on my calendar, 00:21:35.280 |
but it's like, I need that commitment to myself. 00:21:42.800 |
or they go in spurts of, gosh, I was so active in September 00:21:46.780 |
and then things came along and now all of a sudden, 00:21:59.420 |
Like, that's probably gonna be a lot of work. 00:22:01.460 |
You wanna make it tougher to make the bad choice. 00:22:07.900 |
whose default behavior is your desired outcome. 00:22:16.300 |
You're taking the running class with me at Peloton. 00:22:18.340 |
You're following those folks on social media. 00:22:20.580 |
Your ecosystem, your entertainment media diet 00:22:24.580 |
also is gonna inform how you are feeling like you can act 00:22:28.740 |
because community is such a linchpin in all of this. 00:22:31.020 |
So is it literally finding your buddy down the road 00:22:33.780 |
and saying, hey, we're gonna get up in the morning 00:22:37.980 |
I see folks in the Peloton community all the time. 00:22:45.220 |
There are night shift workers that have found each other. 00:22:48.660 |
When you start believing your own BS, be wary. 00:22:53.100 |
I don't have time, replace that with it doesn't matter. 00:23:00.500 |
Especially most recently, postpartum, I had this idea, 00:23:02.900 |
oh my gosh, I wanna do this 60-minute workout, 00:23:04.660 |
and I had my schedule, and then my toddler and my infant 00:23:10.060 |
And then I would be like, okay, I've got a pocket. 00:23:15.580 |
90% of my workouts were completely interrupted, 00:23:20.380 |
it moved the needle until I could get back into my routine. 00:23:22.780 |
- It sounds like being flexible is the most important thing. 00:23:28.620 |
If you have set in your mind that your workout 00:23:32.220 |
and if you can't do that specific thing, it's off. 00:23:39.480 |
is you've gotta throw that out of the window, 00:23:52.960 |
but you're nimble in the form or the execution. 00:23:55.920 |
That all or nothing approach, that super binary approach, 00:23:59.000 |
and ambitious folks have trouble doing this, right? 00:24:15.440 |
It's your mental health, it's your physical health. 00:24:17.840 |
Maybe for that week or two that you're traveling 00:24:23.260 |
I'm so focused on my Boston Marathon training 00:24:26.520 |
Like, you gotta give yourself a little bit of freedom 00:24:28.320 |
and zooming out, but there is something that happens, 00:24:30.720 |
particularly over the holidays, that I call the avalanche. 00:24:35.820 |
you start eating things you maybe wouldn't eat. 00:24:44.440 |
becomes two weeks, and you're like, oh, whatever, who cares? 00:25:03.580 |
even if that movement looks very, very different 00:25:06.840 |
- You've posted about this challenge in December 00:25:09.760 |
I think it's run three miles or move for 30 minutes. 00:25:12.800 |
- Yes, every day from December 1st to December 31st, 00:25:17.920 |
- It's great 'cause I think so many people think, 00:25:19.400 |
I'll do it in January, I'll do it in January, 00:25:20.960 |
and you're like, no, no, no, let's back it up. 00:25:25.720 |
- Yes, if you can commit to yourself for 31 days 00:25:28.320 |
for what most folks is the busiest time of year, 00:25:34.040 |
yes, it's getting some folks moving for the first time, 00:25:39.640 |
are kind of aware of their routines and habit building. 00:25:44.360 |
These aren't new concepts to most of the folks 00:25:51.880 |
you choose yourself and you show up consistently. 00:25:56.640 |
It's been 11 years now that we've been doing this challenge. 00:25:59.040 |
Tens of thousands of folks have participated at this point, 00:26:04.600 |
I took the commitment to the exercise as one order, 00:26:11.160 |
And I wanna talk a little bit about like mental toughness, 00:26:21.560 |
and I wanna be the person that does what I said. 00:26:24.080 |
So it's like, it's actually the reason I'm gonna do it 00:26:26.480 |
might not be that I need to work out for 31 days straight. 00:26:34.520 |
I want them to know that if I say I'm gonna do this, 00:26:37.480 |
And I found that reframing things like a exercise routine 00:26:41.800 |
as making the commitment and holding yourself accountable 00:26:48.960 |
that works better than doing the thing just to do the thing. 00:26:59.760 |
You need to consistently engage in a habit for long enough 00:27:03.960 |
- I am now just someone who shows up and slays my workout. 00:27:16.000 |
the conversation that we're having with ourselves 00:27:17.640 |
is the most important conversation we are gonna have. 00:27:27.720 |
- Some people would say I can't make exercise 00:27:33.560 |
nope, as of tomorrow, I am the kind of person 00:27:38.200 |
You can make something your identity before you do it. 00:27:42.080 |
well, now I'm disrespecting my identity by not doing it. 00:27:50.360 |
I am the kind of person who's going to move every day 00:28:03.640 |
of being adaptable, of analyzing the roadblocks. 00:28:06.240 |
If you know that you're traveling two days before a holiday, 00:28:09.440 |
if you know you're gonna be on a long flight, 00:28:15.480 |
I've done miles on staircases and hotel rooms 00:28:23.040 |
looking like a wild woman and gotten my steps in. 00:28:26.640 |
I have been the person walking up and down a flight. 00:28:42.120 |
and it's figuring out who we are at the end of it 00:28:53.800 |
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My infant isn't able to go on the jogging stroller yet. 00:32:27.520 |
Thankfully, my husband and I are really, really aligned 00:32:40.400 |
I would love to go for a 60-minute leisurely run 00:32:43.300 |
followed by a core work, and then breath work, 00:32:59.860 |
So if I know, let's say, the workout that I'm gonna get 00:33:12.400 |
That way, on the weekend, if it's only body weight work, 00:33:26.280 |
in the bathroom, or it was an absurd hotel setup. 00:33:41.880 |
have her ready, and I literally just set a timer, 00:33:50.920 |
for three minutes of burpees because I was like, 00:33:52.480 |
I just need to do this for my own mental health. 00:33:56.600 |
if you only have a few minutes, take the few minutes. 00:34:03.320 |
even if it looks different than what you wished. 00:34:07.040 |
how important your movement practice is for you. 00:34:09.320 |
You know, if you can rely on a community member 00:34:19.000 |
It seems like all of this comes back to mental strength, 00:34:32.180 |
One of the reasons I wrote "Welcome, Hustler," 00:34:34.840 |
filled with my mantras and prompts and questions, 00:34:42.600 |
It's a visualization practice that I developed 00:34:44.540 |
when I was running a lot of marathons and ultramarathons. 00:34:48.960 |
It's like you are the star of the highlight reel. 00:34:57.720 |
as if you were watching a preview at a movie theater. 00:35:06.880 |
It can take a business context, a relationship context, 00:35:10.560 |
with a positive visual and mental and emotional trigger. 00:35:12.920 |
So that mental movie reel, I think, is really important. 00:35:19.840 |
It's remembering, especially for ambitious folks, 00:35:32.840 |
that you used to wish for, like you used to dream about? 00:35:36.280 |
And oftentimes, I am humbled by what I wrote to write down 00:35:41.880 |
is something that annoyed me just this morning. 00:35:44.360 |
We just lose perspective really, really easily. 00:35:48.560 |
But the mental toughness piece, a lot of it, for me, 00:35:54.160 |
When I'm lifting weights, when I'm running distances, 00:35:56.440 |
when I'm doing that stuff, you can't tell me anything. 00:35:58.840 |
When I think about my personal moments of pride 00:36:02.720 |
that's something that nobody can take away from you, 00:36:06.320 |
And it's that discomfort, it's that stickiness 00:36:10.560 |
Like, emotionally and mentally, I've been here before. 00:36:12.720 |
I have a toolkit that I know that I can keep going to, 00:36:15.480 |
especially as a parent, especially to the parents out there. 00:36:24.840 |
even if it looks different than it did pre-kids, pre-baby. 00:36:37.120 |
So now I'm gonna try to go for a little further, 00:36:43.000 |
while you're going on a run saying, keep going. 00:36:46.040 |
Are you playing that trailer back in your head, 00:36:48.000 |
or what are you doing to push yourself to keep going 00:36:53.440 |
- I mean, to go out the door, it's just start. 00:36:56.920 |
especially for folks who have stopped and are restarting. 00:37:01.720 |
'cause then you're comparing yourself to your former self, 00:37:04.960 |
The beauty of it is you know you can get back 00:37:08.880 |
even if it's not your quote-unquote glory days. 00:37:18.680 |
And I try to detail that as specifically as possible, 00:37:28.160 |
Literally write down the action words and make a plan. 00:37:41.760 |
I think action is actually a huge, huge antidote to anxiety, 00:37:47.600 |
And it doesn't need to be in grand, sweeping strokes. 00:37:52.720 |
Most of the inflection points that we have in our lives 00:37:58.720 |
and we are those thousands of small decisions. 00:38:05.120 |
when most people might just completely brush over them? 00:38:20.320 |
where you're so in that and so in the metrics 00:38:26.000 |
So, you have to decide your own relationship with that 00:38:30.200 |
- Are you setting big, ambitious goals for yourself in life? 00:38:42.760 |
I'm curious because I know you've written a lot 00:38:46.960 |
And it's like, how ambitious are you in that design? 00:38:56.560 |
And some people design where they wanna be next month first. 00:39:05.320 |
I do vision boards and very much like business planning. 00:39:18.080 |
as feels appropriate, but you better start with today 00:39:22.120 |
And then do it again and then move the needle 00:39:33.280 |
- How do you make sure that you're enjoying the journey? 00:39:36.040 |
Because sometimes these goals are really far out. 00:39:53.480 |
but I'll be walking down the street and I'm like, 00:39:54.920 |
all right, I know how long it takes to get to Sixth Avenue. 00:39:58.040 |
I'm gonna see if I can do it like two seconds faster today. 00:40:03.120 |
Literally nobody in the world is gonna know it but me. 00:40:15.720 |
but the training has always been so much more important. 00:40:18.960 |
- And I think about the way you talk about what you do now 00:40:25.440 |
And I'm guessing if you reflect on decades past 00:40:29.280 |
what do you think was helpful for you to find 00:40:30.920 |
that version of yourself now that might've been, 00:40:33.640 |
I don't even know if it was imaginable back then. 00:40:37.560 |
when I was wearing like ill-fitting Ann Taylor suits 00:40:44.360 |
Oh, honey, I don't know where the swagger was, 00:40:48.000 |
I started to befriend myself on the runs, frankly. 00:40:51.000 |
I was working 80 hours a week as a corporate litigator. 00:41:00.120 |
And I really liked who I was when I was doing those things, 00:41:10.120 |
You're really aware of those thoughts get loud. 00:41:12.680 |
And instead of trying to push the thoughts away, 00:41:29.080 |
And I started to turn the whispers into roars 00:41:46.000 |
- I think one of the most important pursuits as adults 00:41:56.080 |
And the flow state for me, how I can best describe it, 00:42:02.280 |
when you really feel in alignment with your skillset. 00:42:04.840 |
And it's not the doom scrolling loose track of time. 00:42:07.240 |
And it doesn't have to be a creative pursuit, right? 00:42:08.720 |
Like you could break code, you could be in spreadsheets 00:42:25.240 |
It's still an alignment with my skillset and my values 00:42:27.800 |
and the rocket ship that I'm trying to build. 00:42:29.440 |
- I mean, it's probably 'cause you care so much. 00:42:32.680 |
And I wanna live a life engulfed in those flames. 00:42:39.880 |
I made a commitment that I loved being in flow state 00:42:44.000 |
I remember one, I had a two-year goal of like, 00:42:51.480 |
And I got home from a long day at the office. 00:43:06.640 |
So getting specific, becoming more self-aware, 00:43:10.200 |
telling anyone who will listen what that dream is 00:43:13.680 |
and getting better at what you're already good at 00:43:17.400 |
- It's funny, as you were talking about that flow state, 00:43:19.080 |
it made me think, for people trying to figure out 00:43:22.480 |
it's like, what's a thing that gets in the way 00:43:32.640 |
And I'm like, I genuinely planned on cooking dinner. 00:43:35.520 |
It wasn't that I didn't think dinner was important. 00:43:39.920 |
where I more or less just lost track of time, 00:43:42.800 |
but not because I didn't care about the commitment. 00:43:44.920 |
Obviously, there are times where we don't do things 00:43:57.720 |
and then just relieve yourself from the expectation 00:44:04.600 |
- And is journaling a big part of all of this for you? 00:44:06.640 |
- Yeah, my journaling practice has changed over the years. 00:44:09.720 |
Since having kids, it used to be part of my morning routine. 00:44:12.320 |
Now it's kind of getting back to my morning routine. 00:44:32.000 |
I'll often use one of the prompts from my own journal 00:44:34.160 |
and that it's just planting seeds, planting seeds, 00:44:40.000 |
Your season of harvest might not be coming yet. 00:44:41.920 |
You might be right now just planting the seeds, 00:44:45.360 |
- And what kind of big goals do you have coming forward? 00:44:47.680 |
- Well, definitely as it relates to the food space, 00:44:58.640 |
So that's something that I wanna continue exploring, 00:45:07.840 |
- That's a lot of things to be excited about, 00:45:10.440 |
How do you balance all of that excitement and passion 00:45:13.360 |
and flow states with your other passion of your family? 00:45:16.200 |
How do you think about that as an ambitious person? 00:45:35.040 |
I don't mean like the stuff, like, you know, pay taxes. 00:45:41.040 |
of the social commitments, the agreeing to bring the thing. 00:45:52.920 |
I communicate very clearly what it is that I want and need. 00:46:39.640 |
So in creating my masterclass on mental toughness, 00:46:42.280 |
that was a way to create that educational hub 00:46:49.960 |
with some of the greatest minds in the world, 00:46:54.600 |
or whoever, you know, these folks who I'm just like, 00:47:02.480 |
is a great way for me personally to take in information. 00:47:09.240 |
to enrich growth mindset, entrepreneurship, parenting, 00:47:12.640 |
like stuff that I want to move the needle a little bit 00:47:16.520 |
- Where can people that want to stay in touch with you 00:47:24.440 |
Check out three for 31, the number three, four, 31. 00:47:52.160 |
and try to get yourself moving every single day of December. 00:47:55.160 |
Also, if you celebrated Thanksgiving last week, 00:48:06.560 |
I'm so often in that flow state Robin talked about