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and I'm excited to spend some time with you today 00:00:20.180 |
that make homeschooling the adventure of a lifetime. 00:00:27.760 |
or deep into the daily delight of family learning, 00:00:31.940 |
I believe you'll enjoy thinking along with us. 00:00:40.540 |
you'll find even closer support in a local CC community. 00:01:01.200 |
I know that lots of you are thinking about the milestones 00:01:10.000 |
and the milestones that are coming up on your journey. 00:01:14.400 |
And lots of us are thinking about celebrations 00:01:17.680 |
that are ahead at the end of our homeschooling year. 00:01:24.940 |
some things that we are maybe reluctantly celebrating, 00:01:33.340 |
Today, I have one of my favorite podcast friends with me, 00:01:37.860 |
Kelly Wilt, and Kelly and I are going to talk about 00:01:42.180 |
how we celebrate milestones the classical way. 00:01:47.000 |
So Kelly, thank you so much for being with me 00:01:58.340 |
we should always be in a spirit of celebration 00:02:08.500 |
You know, when I started thinking about this, 00:02:15.300 |
because I know that you are a natural celebrator. 00:02:29.660 |
And so I have always, always been one for a party 00:02:40.980 |
that typically accompanies times of celebration. 00:02:55.260 |
So yes, I think I would answer that question. 00:03:05.100 |
that part of celebrating is the sheer joy of accomplishment, 00:03:14.660 |
what brought you to this point of celebration. 00:03:17.260 |
And let's be real, you and I have homeschooled a long time. 00:03:27.900 |
- I mean, I said that, and as I heard myself say that, 00:03:36.880 |
that brought us to these points of celebration 00:04:13.580 |
What kinds of things do you celebrate in your family? 00:04:18.380 |
Your family where you, maybe the family that you grew up in, 00:04:24.380 |
Well, I think that we've already locked into the fact 00:04:38.100 |
we tend to celebrate both big things and small things. 00:04:42.380 |
So for instance, when my children were little, 00:04:46.780 |
we would celebrate the end of reading books together. 00:04:53.540 |
which is, you're definitely not going to the store 00:04:57.220 |
and purchasing lots of supplies for something like that. 00:05:04.340 |
but we would also celebrate big things like birthdays, 00:05:12.780 |
Each of our children, when they were baptized, 00:05:15.540 |
we would invite family, and we would purchase a cake, 00:05:20.740 |
and we would celebrate that commitment at that time. 00:05:25.100 |
So we celebrate small things on a daily basis, 00:05:41.660 |
- My kids, I've had friends of my children come home 00:05:45.420 |
and look at us oddly, at some of the things that we do. 00:05:50.020 |
And I ever heard one kid tell my daughter one time, 00:05:53.380 |
"Your family celebrates a lot of odd things." 00:05:59.700 |
and that made me think, okay, what is it that we're doing? 00:06:03.100 |
And we did develop a lot of strange little customs. 00:06:09.940 |
we got a book from the library that talked about spring, 00:06:29.660 |
I love what you said about celebrating the big things 00:06:35.500 |
baptisms, and birthdays, and anniversaries, and Christmas, 00:06:41.300 |
but also the little things like finishing a good book. 00:06:46.300 |
Although I will tell you, Sarah cried one time. 00:06:49.780 |
We finished reading "Cricket" in Times Square. 00:06:54.100 |
And I thought we would celebrate the end of it 00:07:01.340 |
And I looked at her and tears were rolling down her face. 00:07:05.140 |
this is not the celebration I had envisioned. 00:07:20.060 |
And so for her, that was a celebration of a story 00:07:25.300 |
So celebrations look different for different families 00:07:32.340 |
I know that you have tutored and directed lots of levels 00:07:38.820 |
and that this year you are a Challenge 4 director. 00:08:25.020 |
And one of the ways that we chose to celebrate 00:08:28.820 |
was that we actually decided to have a senior thesis retreat 00:08:36.460 |
So there was lots of parent power behind this event, 00:08:40.420 |
but we got together and we pulled our resources 00:08:51.540 |
we got together and wanted to give this class as a gift. 00:08:56.380 |
we found a place where we could stay for a few days. 00:08:59.260 |
Every mom signed up to cook a different meal. 00:09:13.300 |
we had the best time and we made the best memories, 00:09:23.660 |
It just was an exceptional celebratory time for them 00:09:28.420 |
as we're thinking about the ending of one time 00:09:32.260 |
and the commencement of something wonderful for them 00:09:37.460 |
And you know, Lisa, with graduation coming up, 00:09:39.900 |
my friends, these moms, we've gotten together 00:09:52.540 |
That's one of those milestones that is both a joy 00:10:01.180 |
it's the beginning of something for those kids, 00:10:04.780 |
but it's the end of something for those students 00:10:10.980 |
We have been thinking and planning through ideas 00:10:42.620 |
to a different celebratory level for all of us. 00:10:45.780 |
We're not just celebrating what we've accomplished, 00:10:56.860 |
to see these young people walk down the aisle 00:11:10.220 |
And it really brings me right to this next question 00:11:19.060 |
you alluded to that a little bit in your last comment. 00:11:28.460 |
I would have had a completely different answer. 00:11:44.020 |
that we need to give honor to whom it is due. 00:11:51.260 |
because it rightly aligns our children's hearts 00:11:55.900 |
to have a soul and a spirit of gratitude to Him. 00:12:00.140 |
And so, you know, as we're celebrating these small things, 00:12:08.740 |
I remember the first time I read the picture book, 00:12:19.220 |
very busy foundations-aged students at that time. 00:12:24.060 |
And, oh, we just, they were fascinated by the idea 00:12:27.420 |
that this little badger would only eat bread and jam 00:12:30.340 |
and she wouldn't eat all these delicious things 00:12:46.900 |
those were the first awakenings in my mama heart 00:12:51.100 |
of, Lord, thank you for giving me this opportunity 00:12:55.060 |
to share this experience with these three young people. 00:13:00.620 |
it was bread and jam and we read a great story. 00:13:05.580 |
for this opportunity that you provided for me as a mom 00:13:29.220 |
for the good things that he's entrusted us with 00:13:44.180 |
And so being able to recognize that in our celebrations 00:13:52.060 |
Celebration is not just for hurraying the end of the year 00:14:02.740 |
I never have to do this again, or this went so well. 00:14:17.900 |
and recognize the guiding hand of a good father 00:14:26.100 |
Now, I know Kelly, you and I have both graduated some kids 00:14:32.300 |
but we have lots of families at all different points 00:14:42.260 |
You've had lots of CC milestones to celebrate. 00:14:47.260 |
Name some other ones that you had with your children 00:14:57.660 |
so we can all get in on this celebration conversation. 00:15:01.220 |
- Well, and you know, Lisa, just thinking about that 00:15:04.860 |
I just, that in itself is worthy of celebration. 00:15:08.500 |
Just thinking about all those stones of memory 00:15:13.260 |
And, you know, I think back to the very earliest days, 00:15:17.740 |
I remember our first day of classical conversations. 00:15:41.060 |
- And I remember that first day we even celebrated. 00:15:56.100 |
into greater celebrations for different things. 00:15:59.900 |
You know, I had children who were memory masters 00:16:03.020 |
and obviously that is something worthy of celebration. 00:16:20.220 |
And so, you know, we found ways to celebrate that at home. 00:16:30.580 |
and, you know, making desserts and that kind of thing. 00:16:46.140 |
you know, "I'm proud of you because you did this," 00:16:50.900 |
"I am grateful for God's gifting of this in you that I see." 00:16:55.900 |
You know, simple things like that are also celebratory. 00:17:00.980 |
I do know there were some very large celebrations 00:17:05.340 |
in our household when capstone events in Challenge 00:17:11.220 |
I think we celebrated the end of a refrigerator 00:17:17.100 |
- For our middle son who was about to graduate this year 00:17:28.780 |
I know I was glad to have the refrigerator space back. 00:17:40.700 |
And, you know, we really are in a season of celebration 00:17:46.220 |
who graduated from Challenge 4 several years ago, 00:17:49.100 |
is graduating with his undergraduate degree this year. 00:17:57.020 |
celebrations of graduation. - Oh, my goodness, yeah. 00:17:59.740 |
- So, you know, I'm grateful for that family culture 00:18:26.860 |
You know, I think if I was gonna have a celebratory party 00:18:29.980 |
when we get to the end of our homeschooling journey, 00:18:32.300 |
which, interestingly, is only three years away, 00:18:47.380 |
the best gift would be the collective experience 00:18:57.340 |
I can take out and I can enjoy time and time again. 00:19:20.300 |
telling one another what you're proudest of in someone else 00:19:27.580 |
I love that when we celebrate together, you said it, 00:19:39.620 |
it teaches, when we do that within the context 00:19:56.620 |
was not much of one for being in the limelight. 00:20:04.540 |
she thought it was lucky that everybody got to hear 00:20:10.380 |
She was very happy to tell what she was excited about. 00:20:23.340 |
she didn't really want to say it to a big crowd. 00:21:11.060 |
We celebrate one another with a hug and a smile 00:21:25.020 |
Are your kids natural celebrators too, Kelly? 00:21:30.180 |
Your family celebrates lots of things, I know. 00:21:46.060 |
I would say that one of my three, my youngest, 00:21:49.860 |
we jokingly say is a party everywhere she goes. 00:21:52.860 |
And her birthday happens to be on Cinco de Mayo. 00:21:56.780 |
So she fully embraces that as part of her personality. 00:22:00.860 |
And I look at her and the way that God has created her 00:22:10.740 |
I will be a grandmother and I will see her as a mom 00:22:36.500 |
what I want you to know is that you may be making 00:22:39.180 |
more of an impression on your children than you think, 00:22:45.900 |
or when they get out and they are responsible 00:22:48.620 |
in their own homes for celebrating, they will. 00:22:52.500 |
I have become a grandmother in the last year and a half 00:23:11.140 |
My daughter sent me a Snapchat one day of a picture. 00:23:14.460 |
She had spread a plastic tablecloth in her living room 00:23:22.980 |
and given my grandson all kinds of cups and things 00:23:30.740 |
and he can't really reach any of their sinks well. 00:23:39.020 |
for discovery and it blessed my heart to think 00:23:47.220 |
that you were thinking, talking about, Kelly, 00:23:49.500 |
the small moment of discovery that we can encourage 00:23:54.500 |
in our children and experience with our children 00:24:04.900 |
I have one other child who is not as inclined 00:24:09.300 |
But now that he is forging his own path in life, 00:24:12.140 |
when things do happen, he makes sure to let us know 00:24:19.100 |
And so, you know, I can't help but think you're right. 00:24:33.980 |
Because, you know, it's funny when we all sit 00:24:36.180 |
around the table and we say, oh, do you remember the time 00:24:42.140 |
it brings to mind all of those great celebratory memories 00:24:57.220 |
Because we do harken back, do you remember that? 00:25:02.220 |
And every time you celebrate with your family, 00:25:20.740 |
with our challenge class, with our broader CC community, 00:25:25.020 |
we are cementing those bonds that hold us together. 00:25:49.580 |
How might celebrating classically be different 00:25:56.900 |
What do we even mean by celebrating classically? 00:26:05.900 |
I don't think I specifically honed in on the fact 00:26:09.140 |
that I was using classical tools to celebrate, but I was. 00:26:14.060 |
And that is just further proof that it is a natural way 00:26:18.380 |
for us to embrace the world around us that God has created. 00:26:25.260 |
that we have as families, I think definitely, 00:26:28.860 |
we utilize all five of the core habits when we celebrate. 00:26:33.220 |
We are naming those things that have been accomplished 00:26:37.220 |
or that have been done and that we want to remember, 00:26:54.340 |
Hopefully we're committing to memory those things, 00:26:57.620 |
like we talked about before, that we're memorizing, 00:27:01.820 |
we're committing those acts of memory to our hearts 00:27:20.740 |
we're proclaiming what things have been accomplished. 00:27:25.740 |
And we're telling a story, whether we realize it or not, 00:27:30.300 |
we're telling a story of God's goodness to that individual, 00:28:04.420 |
I hope that I can use those tools more effectively 00:28:11.460 |
But when I think about celebrating classically, 00:28:16.580 |
I think those tools and utilizing them, wielding them well, 00:28:21.580 |
is a way for us to continue to push our children 00:28:26.020 |
toward this culture of just joyful remembrance 00:28:44.900 |
Here's the thing, and this I hope is an encouragement 00:28:56.380 |
is that God is educating us as we educate our children. 00:29:12.660 |
And I'm certain that they wish that they had had as a mama, 00:29:17.060 |
this woman that their children have as a lolly, 00:29:34.980 |
Keep growing in who you are and don't despair 00:29:42.620 |
or you didn't think celebration was important. 00:29:48.020 |
No, look at all that the Lord is gonna open up to you 00:29:59.540 |
and more aware of how to do it well and joyfully. 00:30:06.980 |
And, you know, when we were initially talking 00:30:10.780 |
about this topic, a part of one of my favorite books 00:30:14.380 |
came to mind and I had to look online for a quote 00:30:22.620 |
the last book in the "Chronicles of Narnia" series. 00:30:25.700 |
And I just, when I was thinking about celebrating 00:30:28.580 |
and, you know, thinking about how God has been so good 00:30:32.220 |
to our family over our years in classical conversations, 00:30:46.740 |
of the great story which no one on earth has read, 00:30:52.500 |
in which every chapter is better than the one before. 00:31:03.220 |
we can't get caught up in this comparison or OFI only. 00:31:14.860 |
and there will always be something to celebrate 00:31:22.220 |
And, you know, thinking about our homeschooling is just, 00:31:33.900 |
when we get together and we're all in the lunchroom 00:31:36.260 |
and we're all talking together and, you know, fellowshipping. 00:31:44.620 |
And I think C.S. Lewis just captures that idea so well. 00:31:50.860 |
I latch onto that so tightly as words of wisdom. 00:31:57.700 |
This is just the warmup party for what is to come. 00:32:08.540 |
That is what we need to do because here's the thing. 00:32:19.020 |
You know, my last child is finishing foundations 00:32:42.900 |
and feeling that it's a little bit bittersweet. 00:32:45.660 |
And some days that bitter feels more than the sweet does. 00:33:01.220 |
That is going to take me through a lot of dark days, friend. 00:33:04.460 |
So I appreciate that picture that you've put in my mind. 00:33:13.340 |
to remember that there are good things ahead. 00:33:19.620 |
And as much as we have loved all of the seasons 00:33:39.900 |
as we spend all those hours with them homeschooling. 00:33:45.620 |
All right, I want us to spend a few minutes thinking 00:33:48.940 |
about some of the milestones that our families might 00:33:53.820 |
be celebrating now and brainstorming some ways. 00:33:58.860 |
I have to tell y'all, Kelly has inventing in her blood, 00:34:07.620 |
with a situation that needed to be celebrated, 00:34:15.700 |
So Kelly, we are going to think about together 00:34:21.740 |
be getting ready to celebrate and then brainstorm some ways 00:34:32.420 |
There's always something to celebrate, right? 00:34:45.580 |
your first semester in Classical Conversations. 00:34:49.660 |
I would strongly encourage you to celebrate that as a family. 00:34:56.300 |
It can be something as simple as taking out your foundations 00:35:00.020 |
curriculum and having everyone sign a page inside 00:35:08.860 |
Let's order some pizza or have our favorite meal, 00:35:11.420 |
and let's just talk about our memories from this year. 00:35:14.420 |
What was the funniest thing that happened this year? 00:35:21.940 |
Because there's a lot of unexpected in our curriculum 00:35:38.540 |
celebrate the, quote unquote, "last day of homeschool" 00:35:46.740 |
and thinking of things that you can do together. 00:35:49.540 |
Take your little ones and a big bucket of sidewalk chalk, 00:35:52.660 |
go out and let them write their favorite piece 00:36:06.220 |
And after, when we were done, I would have them come inside 00:36:21.700 |
Quite often, it is the spirit with which things are done 00:36:33.060 |
we had a couple of homeschool families in our church, 00:36:40.060 |
And at the end of the year, you know what happens? 00:36:42.100 |
They have award ceremonies, and they have field trips, 00:36:53.180 |
What is field-- why do we not have field day? 00:36:58.380 |
And so we didn't do the shot put and the 50-yard dash 00:37:04.420 |
But we did silly field days, like throw a ball, 00:37:07.940 |
throw a football through this hula hoop suspended in the tree. 00:37:18.140 |
So you can make up silly end-of-the-year rituals. 00:37:23.940 |
Well, and I say rituals because you, as the parent, 00:37:27.180 |
might intend that this was going to happen once. 00:37:32.020 |
are going to think they're going to take that as a tradition. 00:37:37.620 |
or till they get too old to admit to liking it. 00:37:43.140 |
Be aware of what you might be committing yourself to. 00:37:51.060 |
if you do have a student who has been heavily invested 00:37:55.700 |
in preparing for Memory Master, whether or not 00:38:10.220 |
regardless of the outcome, take them for a scoop of ice cream 00:38:20.300 |
and love on them in a way that says, I'm proud of you. 00:38:25.700 |
I appreciate your commitment and how you are growing. 00:38:43.260 |
are my friends, who are also graduating children this year, 00:39:04.260 |
But I mentioned earlier the senior thesis retreat 00:39:09.300 |
that we took the class on at the beginning of the year. 00:39:12.300 |
They had such a good time that one of the moms 00:39:14.420 |
actually took it upon herself to organize a trip 00:39:17.100 |
to bookend the end of the year for all of these Challenge 4 00:39:24.500 |
Celebrating definitely should not be done always in isolation. 00:39:30.620 |
But it's also wonderful to celebrate with others around 00:39:42.180 |
quite often if you just open your mouth and say, 00:39:47.980 |
I guarantee you, you'll have a mom who will look at you who 00:39:51.420 |
may also be a natural celebrator who will say, 00:39:55.620 |
So definitely harness that community brainpower 00:39:59.300 |
so that at the end of the year, our students can look back 00:40:06.860 |
And I'm grateful for the people and for the experiences. 00:40:16.380 |
is what it's all about, recognizing God's goodness 00:40:20.060 |
And like I said before, it's all a big warm-up party 00:40:23.260 |
for that celebration that we'll have in heaven together 00:40:26.180 |
as one big community, which is also a beautiful thing 00:40:33.620 |
with your community and just brainstorming together also, 00:40:40.740 |
weaves that relationship fabric not only with your family, 00:40:49.700 |
And I guarantee you, Lisa, like you warned us, 00:40:52.460 |
it won't be the first time that you celebrate together. 00:40:59.420 |
There are so many ways to celebrate, both personally 00:41:10.140 |
to think about, Kelly, a lot of good reasons to celebrate. 00:41:14.420 |
It's not just a frivolous end to a serious endeavor. 00:41:22.300 |
There are real reasons why we should celebrate. 00:41:31.980 |
I loved that you brought out the five core habits so naturally. 00:41:37.620 |
I kept filtering everything you said after that. 00:41:42.420 |
Well, that is how we would do that classically. 00:41:56.340 |
And when we attend to the individual successes 00:42:05.580 |
that our students have, I think what it builds is honor. 00:42:13.660 |
Because child number one may not have any trouble reading, 00:42:19.140 |
but child number two may have had a lot more struggle 00:42:24.700 |
So celebrating you read your first chapter book 00:42:34.940 |
to the effort that was needed, that was really important. 00:42:50.500 |
to cement that in all of our minds is really good. 00:42:54.380 |
And of course, there are so many ways to express celebration. 00:43:00.500 |
We are expressing joy and relief and pride when we celebrate, 00:43:10.140 |
There are lots of ways to express celebration. 00:43:15.060 |
And then I especially loved that it was the story that God 00:43:24.900 |
And our lives are the continuation of God's story. 00:43:31.060 |
And we are just so blessed to be part of that. 00:43:35.700 |
This makes me eager to go find something to celebrate today. 00:44:06.700 |
Thank you for offering these great suggestions. 00:44:10.340 |
Kelly, I really appreciate your spirit of celebration. 00:44:19.020 |
And Lisa, today I celebrate my friendship with you 00:44:24.820 |
Thanks so much for letting me talk about these things 00:44:34.100 |
I have something that I think you might want to celebrate. 00:44:40.820 |
I know a lot of you may have one of our Echoes storybooks, 00:44:46.060 |
Ancient World Echoes and Old World Echoes and New World 00:44:51.260 |
Well, the Copper Lodge Library has a lot more volumes 00:44:59.980 |
a brand new volume that we've just come out with, 00:45:08.260 |
Now, you're probably not reading it to your eight-year-olds, 00:45:11.660 |
but let me tell you this, it is a required resource 00:45:18.300 |
And so CCMM has produced this Copper Lodge Library edition 00:45:25.340 |
to be a beautiful resource for you and your challenge student. 00:45:33.340 |
includes footnotes that give you word definitions 00:45:36.940 |
and pronunciations and some historical context that 00:45:43.700 |
and the conversations that you can have with your student. 00:45:47.260 |
It will also enable your student to get a little bit more out 00:45:53.740 |
have to run to the dictionary to find out the meaning of a word 00:45:57.860 |
or what in the world this means in the context of the times 00:46:13.340 |
going to use it as a basis of a writing assignment. 00:46:18.140 |
to find a deep love for this classic piece of literature. 00:46:21.420 |
And I think you would be glad to have an edition that you 00:46:24.220 |
can keep forever on your shelf as a family heirloom. 00:46:30.700 |
If you want to find out about this Pride and Prejudice 00:46:33.820 |
edition or any of the other Copper Lodge Library titles, 00:46:37.980 |
you can learn more at copperlodgelibrary.com. 00:46:45.620 |
whether that be a child, a book, or a frog somebody