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Welcome to Radical Personal Finance, a show dedicated to providing you with the knowledge, 00:00:03.880 |
skills, insight, and encouragement you need to live a rich and meaningful life now while 00:00:08.160 |
building a plan for financial freedom in 10 years or less. 00:00:12.080 |
Today we're going to talk about philosophy, philosophy of time and money. 00:00:18.160 |
Because I believe that if you have your philosophy right, and what I mean by right is right for 00:00:24.120 |
you, then you'll be more empowered to make appropriate decisions with how you use your 00:00:33.960 |
So in today's show I'm going to give you a menu of ideas that will lodge themselves in 00:00:40.040 |
your brain and you can use to analyze your actions and think about whether your actions 00:00:45.900 |
align with your values and with your personal philosophy. 00:00:50.080 |
I have found myself amplifying this topic more than almost any other topic in my private 00:01:07.200 |
I've mentioned the statement I'm about to make publicly at various times, but I haven't 00:01:11.400 |
really amplified it in the same way that I'm going to do now. 00:01:15.480 |
But I believe it's important and will help you to think about things properly. 00:01:39.120 |
There is no limit to the amount of money that is available. 00:01:46.320 |
There's no limit to the amount of money that is available in the world at large. 00:01:51.500 |
There are hundreds and hundreds of different currencies that have been developed throughout 00:01:57.520 |
Oh, thousands, I mean more than hundreds if we don't hit through all of history. 00:02:01.480 |
But there are hundreds of currencies actively in use around the world today. 00:02:06.160 |
There are many competing hundreds of new currencies being developed and lobbied for and participated 00:02:14.560 |
And most of these currencies have no literal end as to how much there can be. 00:02:20.160 |
Anytime we need more money, we just make more of it, right? 00:02:23.240 |
We just lend some more money out and manufacture some more digits on a computer screen and 00:02:29.720 |
There's no limit to the amount of money that is available in the world. 00:02:34.160 |
And even if you want to talk about money not in terms of the number of digits, but simply 00:02:38.800 |
in terms of a representation of value, there's no limit to the amount of value that can be 00:02:45.160 |
There's no objective limit to the size of an economy. 00:02:48.880 |
You could have a country that has a $100 trillion economy and there's no reason in the world 00:02:54.460 |
why a decade later that country can't have a $200 trillion economy. 00:03:02.760 |
And even if we bring things down to a more personal level, the amount of money that is 00:03:20.000 |
You bring more value to the marketplace and you can gain more money. 00:03:22.680 |
And you can do this at any time in your life. 00:03:28.160 |
The Motivational Speakers folders are full of stories about Colonel Sanders and Grandma 00:03:34.160 |
Moses and many aged people who hit upon that idea, that thing that they all of a sudden 00:03:46.320 |
And I would argue that your own personal experience mirrors this. 00:03:52.200 |
Throughout your lifetime, there have been many times where you haven't had enough money. 00:03:56.600 |
And at every single one of those times, you've just gone out and figured out how to get more. 00:04:05.440 |
When they don't have enough money, they go out and they figure out how to get more money. 00:04:12.140 |
And so I argue that money is the ultimate renewable resource. 00:04:24.340 |
My argument is that time is the ultimate non-renewable resource, both on a macro scale and on a personal 00:04:43.080 |
There was a point in the history of this universe when history itself began because time began. 00:04:53.120 |
There was a point when time began and there will be a point in the future at which time 00:05:06.000 |
Our entire life's existence is governed by time. 00:05:11.360 |
Everywhere in the world, we all have some system of a calendar through which we track 00:05:22.240 |
And every single one of us has exactly the same amount of time on a daily basis. 00:05:33.040 |
And while there are different ways of marking the time, there are different calendars that 00:05:37.360 |
we could look at to decide what year it is, the reality is that time is a fixed constant. 00:05:46.480 |
More importantly, once time is gone, it is gone. 00:05:53.560 |
You've now been listening to me for five minutes and 55 seconds. 00:05:57.080 |
And in the last five minutes and 55 seconds, you've experienced something that you will 00:06:07.620 |
You've experienced the passage of that specific set of five minutes and 55 seconds. 00:06:15.720 |
That's why the most valuable thing that you give to me on a regular basis is your time. 00:06:22.440 |
I do my best to be a good provider of things for good amounts of money because I recognize 00:06:32.520 |
But I feel the pressure every single day to do a good job with your time, to give you 00:06:36.900 |
something worth thinking about, because that's the most precious thing. 00:06:42.320 |
And once these 24 hours are gone, they're never coming back. 00:06:50.640 |
That the number of years, months, weeks, days, hours, seconds of your life are absolutely 00:07:05.920 |
There was a day on which you let out your first cry and you were born. 00:07:12.760 |
And that's the marker that we use to identify when time began for you. 00:07:20.680 |
And there will come a day at which your friends all gather to celebrate your life and they'll 00:07:29.800 |
And that's the marker that we use to identify when time finished for you. 00:07:37.400 |
Now the things that happen between those two dates are exceedingly important. 00:07:48.640 |
And it's how you use the time between those dates that will govern the meaning of your 00:07:59.600 |
For me, these concepts have become deeply important. 00:08:04.080 |
Just to recognize that money is unlimited, time is limited. 00:08:11.120 |
Now generally the direct application of this, the reason I find myself repeating this little 00:08:17.720 |
truth again and again, usually in a slightly more abbreviated format than I've just done, 00:08:24.520 |
is that there are times in life at which time and money change in importance. 00:08:34.480 |
First of all, we don't experience all units of time the same and we don't experience all 00:08:42.120 |
Let me sketch that out for you with an example. 00:08:45.520 |
I have children and one of the things that's fascinating about having young children is 00:08:49.120 |
watching how important the days of their lives are to them. 00:08:56.880 |
And I was recently reminded my five-year-old has been asking again and again and again, 00:09:09.520 |
And it's funny because this didn't begin a month before the actual birthday. 00:09:16.240 |
Rather, it was more like a month after the previous birthday. 00:09:22.120 |
We make a modest celebration of birthdays in my family. 00:09:26.080 |
I like to acknowledge the day and fet the child on that day. 00:09:30.960 |
But I wouldn't call it anything over the top. 00:09:39.300 |
We have a modest party and we give a modest number of birthday presents. 00:09:44.100 |
As an adult, you look at it and you say, "It's a birthday, right? 00:09:50.240 |
It's nothing that is really worth looking forward to for an entire year. 00:09:53.920 |
But for my children, their birthdays are very, very important. 00:10:02.640 |
And as I've watched that, I've reflected on why I think that is. 00:10:08.880 |
It's simply to acknowledge that for a child, the passage of one year, let's say you have 00:10:15.000 |
For your five-year-old child, the passage of one year, 365 days, represents one-fifth 00:10:23.680 |
They don't have a lot of previous experience to compare it to. 00:10:26.760 |
And so that year is a very significant chunk of time because it represents a large percentage 00:10:36.600 |
Whereas perhaps you're 50 years old, that same year is now only one-fiftieth of your 00:10:44.080 |
Instead of it being 20% of your life experience, it's 2% of your life experience. 00:10:47.800 |
So while that year is still important, it's a smaller percentage of your lived experience. 00:10:54.240 |
So to me, it makes sense why children have different perspectives of time. 00:10:58.000 |
But of course, it's also true that time, while fixed in objective reality, can change its 00:11:05.920 |
nature dramatically depending on how we're experiencing it. 00:11:11.040 |
The minutes flow very slowly when you're dancing up and down outside of a bathroom, 00:11:16.480 |
desperately trying to make it in the door before everything lets loose. 00:11:21.520 |
On the other hand, there are times when you're having a peak experience and the hours just 00:11:29.520 |
Now these arguments, I think, also apply to the field of money. 00:11:33.740 |
For example, the experience of somebody going from totally broke, zero dollars of savings, 00:11:40.160 |
to having a thousand dollars of savings, that's a very, very important event. 00:11:45.240 |
It can help somebody to gain a significant level of personal freedom. 00:11:49.480 |
Perhaps an adult-level version of that might be $10,000, right? 00:11:52.200 |
To go from zero dollars of savings to $10,000 buys somebody a significant amount of freedom. 00:11:58.480 |
That $10,000 means a lot more than going from $100,000 of savings to $110,000 of savings. 00:12:06.860 |
The first million counts for a whole lot more than going from $30 million to $31 million 00:12:15.200 |
And so our experience of money is different depending on where we are. 00:12:20.760 |
But because our experience, because of the way that we acquire money, generally speaking, 00:12:27.540 |
we always have to take into account the interaction, the interplay of time and money. 00:12:31.800 |
This is most commonly understood just simply that when you're younger you have more time, 00:12:35.840 |
but when you're older you usually have more money. 00:12:38.480 |
And so when you're younger you might do certain things, do certain tasks that are very time 00:12:43.080 |
intensive because you don't have money to solve them in some other way. 00:12:46.520 |
But when you're older, all of a sudden you realize the shortness of the days and you 00:12:50.480 |
don't want to spend your time doing that, but you probably have more money. 00:12:53.960 |
And so you buy those tasks done for you by someone else. 00:12:59.360 |
We're also accustomed to thinking about money as a representation of time. 00:13:04.080 |
When I was younger, my father taught me that time, sorry, money is simply stored up time. 00:13:09.680 |
That when you take your time and you spend it to gain money, then you can save that money 00:13:15.380 |
and now you have units of time saved that you can then use to pay other people to do 00:13:23.440 |
I think there's some usefulness in thinking about money as stored up time, as something 00:13:31.380 |
I think this is useful when you think about working and not working. 00:13:34.320 |
If you have somebody who works to earn their living and they earn $100 and they spend $100, 00:13:40.440 |
they need to keep working to earn their living. 00:13:42.900 |
But if you think of somebody who works to earn $100 and saves $50 of that, they can 00:13:48.160 |
now stop working for the same amount of time that it took them previously to earn the $100 00:13:54.160 |
And so having time, having money buys you time. 00:14:00.880 |
Sometimes I think we miss the elegant simplicity of this concept by simply acknowledging if 00:14:05.920 |
you'll save 50% of your money for every year that you work, you can afford to take a year 00:14:11.920 |
That's a powerful concept, extremely powerful. 00:14:17.200 |
But I want to go a little deeper because there are times in your life in which money is more 00:14:22.800 |
valuable and there are times in which it is less valuable. 00:14:27.360 |
And those times change, similar thing with time. 00:14:31.540 |
Time is more valuable, time is less valuable. 00:14:34.160 |
I don't have a perfect formula to teach you other than to simply point some of these things 00:14:38.640 |
The first thing I would point out is a lot of times in the modern conception of financial 00:14:46.160 |
planning, meaning the proper layout of a life, the proper ordering of a life, a life well 00:14:51.960 |
lived involves going to school, going to college, getting a good job, building a good career, 00:15:00.960 |
working at that good job, saving money, and then retiring when you're 65 in order for 00:15:09.520 |
That concept ignores certain things that are time bound, most importantly the raising of 00:15:15.600 |
I'm very conscious of this, of course, because I have four children. 00:15:18.680 |
And I think about this on a regular basis and I realize that just like I'll never get 00:15:25.440 |
back the last five minutes in my life, I'll never get back the last year in my children's 00:15:34.200 |
Once my eldest goes from five years old to six years old, he or she's never going to 00:15:47.640 |
Once your first child graduates from high school, he or she is never going to graduate 00:15:54.920 |
Once your first child catches that first touchdown, he's never going to catch that first touchdown 00:16:06.760 |
And so one of the things I find myself reminding people is, "Listen, why are you saving money 00:16:15.360 |
You're stockpiling money because you have these certain things in the future that you 00:16:20.320 |
But what you need to realize is the things that are the hardest for you to ever get back 00:16:27.480 |
So my little speech often to parents is, I just look down and I say, "Recognize that 00:16:33.120 |
you've got X number of years left with your child." 00:16:36.080 |
Even if you use the age of 18, I usually don't. 00:16:39.240 |
Because while certainly in the United States culture, the age of 18 is an age of legal 00:16:49.040 |
During adolescence, a child's attention tends to go from being focused on mom and dad and 00:16:54.880 |
their personal family to focused on their own life, their friends, more outward focused. 00:16:59.280 |
And so your relationship with a 10-year-old daughter is going to be very different in 00:17:03.720 |
nature than your relationship with a 15-year-old daughter. 00:17:07.640 |
Whereas your relationship with a 17-year-old daughter, I think, is in many ways going to 00:17:12.240 |
be very similar to your relationship with your 19-year-old daughter. 00:17:15.200 |
The age of 18 is not the age in which the changes happen the fastest. 00:17:23.880 |
In thinking about your family things, over the last weeks, I've been thinking a lot and 00:17:32.680 |
I'm thinking, "Okay, what are we going to do in the coming years?" 00:17:35.000 |
I'm intensely conscious of the ages of my children, recognizing that there are these 00:17:40.600 |
things that are happening due to time that I don't get to change. 00:17:47.880 |
And so I need to make the money fit the time, not the time fit the money. 00:17:52.340 |
In application, I think the time is often most valuable when you could be using that 00:18:05.760 |
I have thought through whether I regret not working more when I was younger. 00:18:15.680 |
Sometimes I read accounts of very young people who come across the concepts of fire and extreme 00:18:21.760 |
savings and such, and they're fabulously effective at it at a young age. 00:18:27.400 |
And I've often thought, "Man, if only I had known then, if only I had known then, if only 00:18:36.000 |
I had known what I could accomplish if I were 15 years old." 00:18:39.960 |
I've taught and consulted with people and they teach you how to be financially independent 00:18:52.440 |
How do you compare the value of being financially independent because you've worked a lot and 00:19:09.280 |
There's a man that I admire named Kevin Kelly. 00:19:14.920 |
And Kevin is just this eclectic person, really interesting guy, very eclectic, very well 00:19:23.320 |
But he writes and tells stories sometimes of his travels when he was younger. 00:19:28.080 |
And he writes and talks about the years that he spent in Asia, back in the 1960s, I guess, 00:19:38.360 |
And I always think about these stories when I hear people tell them of, "Oh, I spent three 00:19:42.820 |
years in such and such a place, and I was totally broke the whole time, but the experiences 00:19:47.320 |
that I had, the things that I learned from that." 00:19:49.960 |
I personally never approached my life in that way. 00:19:54.560 |
The idea of just going somewhere and hanging out was incompatible with my orderly life, 00:20:05.720 |
And I think, "Well, do I regret not living more freeform like that person?" 00:20:13.400 |
I remember one time I had a... when I was a financial advisor, I had a client, and he 00:20:18.680 |
talked about... he was in his mid to late 50s, and we were talking about his finances. 00:20:22.120 |
He said, "I chose to spend all my money when I was younger. 00:20:24.840 |
And I realized that I was going to have more financial problems down the road if I didn't 00:20:30.200 |
save money then, but I wanted to spend my money when I was younger. 00:20:37.720 |
And now I wonder if I did the right thing or not, because I don't have as much money 00:20:40.760 |
saved as a lot of my peers do, but I'm glad I did." 00:20:45.160 |
You think, "Well, is one right or one wrong?" 00:20:46.960 |
And of course the answer is, "Well, right or wrong for whom? 00:20:56.080 |
I don't regret the decisions that I made, but I also acknowledge the fact that I may 00:21:02.440 |
have missed out on certain experiences because I didn't engage in that more just exploration, 00:21:16.880 |
Is it valuable to have a lot of money as a young person? 00:21:19.360 |
Well, maybe, but then it's also valuable just to reflect on having time. 00:21:25.760 |
And if you use all that time and you gain a bunch of money, you can't necessarily go 00:21:33.240 |
My experience now, even if I had all the money in the world, my experience now at a different 00:21:38.120 |
phase of life of going to Asia and bumming around would be very different than if I had 00:21:47.640 |
The most important application for me though, and for many of my listeners, perhaps even 00:21:53.600 |
you, is how this stuff applies with our children. 00:21:59.600 |
See those most productive financial years are somewhat peskily in our modern economy. 00:22:08.920 |
They're somewhat peskily situated right in those most important years of parenting. 00:22:15.160 |
I've often thought, "Man, wouldn't it be great if when I was young, I could have just worked 00:22:20.160 |
when I was single, then got married, maybe worked a little bit more and then stopped 00:22:24.180 |
working for a job while taking care of children and then I'll go start working again." 00:22:29.400 |
I genuinely frequently find myself speaking to empty nester couples and saying, "What 00:22:38.400 |
Working 40 hours a week or 30 hours a week or 50 hours a week, these are not bad things. 00:22:43.480 |
An empty nester couple can move into a small apartment and love it. 00:22:49.560 |
Small apartment right in the middle of the city, all the nightlife all around, working 00:22:54.520 |
It gives a structure to life, a sense of contribution, sense of enjoyment. 00:23:01.600 |
So I don't want to elaborate too much on this, but just the point is when you think about 00:23:05.880 |
when the money is important, I often find myself saying to people, "Recognize that you 00:23:10.520 |
can always get more money, but you can't always get more time. 00:23:14.200 |
You can always get more money, you can't always get more time." 00:23:19.720 |
So don't trade those things you can't get more of unnecessarily or in an out of balanced 00:23:27.820 |
way for those things you can always get more of. 00:23:40.880 |
Now I think there is an appropriate element of balance in all these things. 00:23:49.640 |
I could go downstairs and be with my children, but is it just time that matters? 00:23:57.480 |
I don't think that my personal goals would be enhanced any more by saying, "I'm going 00:24:03.200 |
to spend this particular hour with my children instead of working." 00:24:12.160 |
I'm happy to take more time to be with my children when there's purpose in it, but I 00:24:16.560 |
also believe that what I'm doing right now is important and there's purpose in it. 00:24:21.520 |
And there's purpose both in the simple practicalities of earning a living, but also in the grander 00:24:31.040 |
It's important to have an appropriate perspective. 00:24:36.520 |
But that perspective needs to change at times. 00:24:42.560 |
If you find yourself out of balance, out of whack in something, then that perspective 00:24:51.200 |
For example, if you find yourself working nonstop, 100 hours a week, never seeing your 00:24:58.720 |
eight and 10-year-old children, you need a slap in the face to say, "Extra money isn't 00:25:09.160 |
You need to take care of your eight and 10, assuming that you have money already. 00:25:13.440 |
Now if you were totally broke, I would also, you're totally broke, you're sitting around 00:25:17.940 |
living like a bum, but you're with your eight and your 10-year-old, I would want to also 00:25:21.120 |
give you a slap in the face and say, "You need to go to work. 00:25:23.700 |
There's a balance here that you need to pay attention to." 00:25:27.040 |
But what about when it comes to living rich versus getting richer? 00:25:33.040 |
Well, to apply this to some of the concepts I spoke about recently, where I talked about 00:25:40.400 |
my ambition, which is to live less frugally and to live more richly, I think some of these 00:25:48.760 |
Where sometimes we've gotten so focused on the money that we've lost track of the value 00:25:55.200 |
of the time and the value of enjoying the time, gaining meaning of the time. 00:26:02.400 |
I think we see this often tragically when we hear about somebody who dies right on the 00:26:08.160 |
I heard from a friend of mine, there was a guy who worked for the government, local government 00:26:14.800 |
He was very much looking forward to retirement. 00:26:16.840 |
Of course, he'd worked for his 20 years to be enrolled in the government pension. 00:26:21.780 |
He had just bought his new RV to celebrate his retirement years, and he was looking forward 00:26:29.840 |
This particular guy was coronavirus, got COVID-19, and he died. 00:26:35.880 |
And so now that pension goes back into the system to provide a bigger paycheck for somebody 00:26:40.520 |
else and it goes back and his RV will go to someone else. 00:26:49.520 |
But what feels to me tragic about that story, which again, I heard about a week ago, is 00:26:56.560 |
a lot of times because of my perception of that kind of work. 00:27:00.800 |
I have several friends of mine who work for governments, and they're often not brimming 00:27:06.360 |
with enthusiasm about the great meaning and the grand scope of the impact that they have 00:27:13.600 |
I don't believe that you always have to have some kind of sense of passion for, "Oh, I'm 00:27:23.240 |
I think that you can be passionate about how you do work, and I honor anybody who is productive. 00:27:27.400 |
I honor a man who goes to work at a job that he doesn't love on a daily basis and does 00:27:34.520 |
That's an honorable thing, and it's worthy of admiration. 00:27:37.280 |
We shouldn't put someone down who engages in honest labor, even if it's working in a 00:27:44.560 |
But we also acknowledge sometimes that there are some people who work in a job like that 00:27:50.240 |
who aren't there because they chose to be there, but they're there because that's where 00:27:54.880 |
I have a number of friends like this, where they work in these jobs, and they just, "It's 00:28:02.560 |
And you get this sense that they're just looking forward to the day when they can get out. 00:28:07.360 |
They're looking forward to the day when they can escape, when they can retire, when they 00:28:12.560 |
And for that reason, it feels particularly tragic when somebody who's right on the cusp 00:28:21.000 |
I think, "Oh man, I don't want that to be me." 00:28:24.000 |
You think, "Here's this person that saved for years, and they scoped out this really 00:28:28.400 |
exciting time of their life, and now they're not going to get to it." 00:28:36.680 |
First, you don't have to defer to the future a sense of enjoyment today. 00:28:41.800 |
I think this is where we often are, I'm too extreme in how I talk about it. 00:28:46.920 |
You can enjoy your work, working for the local county government. 00:28:54.000 |
You can enjoy the fact that your job has meaning. 00:28:56.560 |
You bring order and structure to your local community. 00:29:04.960 |
You can find a sense of satisfaction from doing a job well, even if it's something that 00:29:10.720 |
There's a sense of satisfaction of doing something well, of solving, of cleaning your little 00:29:14.840 |
corner of the world, making something run smoothly, working hard, being effective in 00:29:22.420 |
You go out on the boat with your family on Saturday. 00:29:25.840 |
You gather with your friends at church on Sunday. 00:29:30.240 |
I want to not be one of those who dismisses the great sense of meaning and satisfaction 00:29:42.000 |
But then of course, it's also possible that the job could be changed. 00:29:46.180 |
If somebody really didn't find a sense of meaning and satisfaction in the common ordinary 00:29:50.240 |
things of life, then they can change those things of life and go in a different direction. 00:29:55.240 |
That's always been where my focus has been for me, because I always thought that can 00:30:02.820 |
Why wait to retire to do that when you could do that at ... Why wait to retire to do that 00:30:11.080 |
When I see it, people who do things earlier are in a different order. 00:30:16.220 |
To me, it seems really powerful, much more engaging. 00:30:24.120 |
There's an RVing channel that I enjoy called Keep Your Daydream. 00:30:30.260 |
They have this channel called Keep Your Daydream on YouTube. 00:30:33.340 |
They started it something like three or four years ago. 00:30:35.360 |
They had at the time a 16-year-old, I think a 14-year-old and a 12-year-old, something 00:30:44.160 |
They just had a half-ton truck and they bought a travel trailer, but they decided they were 00:30:47.240 |
going to go and RV the country with their children. 00:30:51.480 |
They sold their house, put their stuff in storage, and they went out and started RVing 00:30:57.840 |
A number of years later, their oldest daughter went to college, then they continued with 00:31:03.800 |
Then their second son went to a boarding school to finish out his high school career, and 00:31:08.720 |
so they're on the road still with their third child who's almost 16, who is probably going 00:31:15.280 |
to transition out of that and do his own thing at some point here in the future. 00:31:19.960 |
Now, along the way, they've been able to build a business that made them money in doing it, 00:31:27.640 |
but I've often wondered, what if they didn't? 00:31:30.480 |
What if they just took the money from their 401(k) and they said, "We're going to go RVing 00:31:34.640 |
with our children, and we're going to spend our retirement on this anyway." 00:31:41.440 |
You ask a financial advisor that question, and what are we financial advisors going to 00:31:50.960 |
Too risky to take the money from your 401(k) and go and spend it on three years of RV travel 00:31:59.680 |
After all, don't you know that your children don't want to support you when you're old? 00:32:04.420 |
After all, you can't be dependent on other people." 00:32:13.600 |
The other guy that I just talked about, I don't know his name. 00:32:17.320 |
The friend was talking about his friend, but the other guy, we'll call him Tom, Tom died. 00:32:22.900 |
He had all the money in his 401(k) and then he died. 00:32:26.440 |
How would his children feel showing up at his funeral if all they had to say was, "Dad 00:32:31.080 |
just worked and worked and worked and saved and saved and saved, looking forward to his 00:32:37.920 |
And yet, think about how Mark and Tricia Leach, the Keep Your Daydream family, what if they 00:32:43.600 |
did spend all their money on that trip with their children? 00:32:48.480 |
What if they didn't wind up creating a new business and a new career? 00:32:52.440 |
What if they did spend all their money and then the children went off to college and 00:32:59.480 |
Imagine you're a 50 year old parent, you're a 55 year old parent. 00:33:03.560 |
Ask you a question, how quickly could you rebuild if you needed to or wanted to? 00:33:15.120 |
If I were 55 years old and my children were all out of the house, I could probably do 00:33:20.400 |
and I'm not there yet, but if I'm coaching a 55 year old, I bet I could coach a 55 year 00:33:25.280 |
old to in 10 years replace what previously took them 30 years. 00:33:32.960 |
And I often felt that to myself when I walked away from my financial planning business. 00:33:36.080 |
I've thought, "Man, how long would it take me to rebuild?" 00:33:39.360 |
Today, I could probably rebuild in two years what I did in six years. 00:33:54.200 |
Spend the 401k RVing with the children, build memories that they're going to treasure, build 00:33:57.760 |
an actual genuine close relationship with your children or ignore the children to fund 00:34:13.600 |
I simply want to show you and focus on the fact that when you prioritize, recognize what 00:34:28.400 |
you're giving up and then plan appropriately. 00:34:32.080 |
It's perfectly fine for you to look at your children and say, "I'm happy with what I'm 00:34:36.640 |
doing and I don't need to go spend the 401k on RVing for three years." 00:34:43.880 |
Not everyone should do those kinds of things. 00:34:46.800 |
I simply personally happen to enjoy those kinds of ideas and think about what happens 00:34:53.920 |
And so those are the examples that I give, but it's perfectly fine not to do those things. 00:34:58.400 |
My dad never did that with me and I don't feel like I suffered. 00:35:04.960 |
The point is that in time between money, recognize that once your children are gone out of your 00:35:11.920 |
You can still have a relationship with them, but that relationship is going to be very 00:35:17.200 |
So don't miss the things that cost money that are going to dramatically transform what 00:35:23.440 |
you can do in favor of things that down the road will never be available to you again. 00:35:30.840 |
I want to give a few other examples because I feel like this is very practical and if 00:35:35.560 |
I give you some examples, you'll be able to assess your own life in an appropriate way 00:35:41.040 |
and make sure that you're living congruently with it. 00:35:47.200 |
When I talked about extreme savings, I realized my epiphany that extreme savings is a very 00:35:55.600 |
Frugality, extreme frugality is a very effective tool of escape for people who don't like their 00:36:00.600 |
job, but it's not necessary for those who do like their job. 00:36:05.920 |
There's an example that for me was important that I recently was touching into. 00:36:10.440 |
I've mentioned this particular individual before, not by name of course, but years ago 00:36:15.320 |
when I was a financial advisor, there was a new young advisor who joined the firm that 00:36:25.720 |
I thought this guy was going to be a total loser. 00:36:33.500 |
He was a kind of a preppy frat boy, not preppy, but like a frat boy kind of guy, big partier, 00:36:41.240 |
very good looking, dressed sharp, the modern sharp dress, came from a wealthy family, had 00:36:49.280 |
all his parents play things, had his dad's $1.5 million boat that he could take out on 00:36:55.540 |
Parents were wealthy lawyers and didn't really have much to worry about. 00:36:59.000 |
Here he comes in after college into my office and he's going to start as a new financial 00:37:11.080 |
I've nerded out about financial stuff for a long time. 00:37:16.320 |
You ask him a question, here he is a financial advisor, you ask him a question about a Roth 00:37:20.160 |
IRA, he can't explain a Roth IRA, has no clue how anything works. 00:37:34.960 |
And I've often thought, why did I get it so wrong? 00:37:41.880 |
Was I wrong about what made a good, a successful financial advisor? 00:37:48.220 |
Was I jealous of the fact that he'd had everything handed to him or I was, and I wanted to justify 00:37:53.120 |
my own perspective of, you know, pull yourself up by your bootstraps and work your way through, 00:38:00.520 |
All I know is that I was wrong, totally wrong. 00:38:03.200 |
Fast forward today, this guy continues to be an extraordinarily successful and productive 00:38:11.880 |
He makes a lot of money, drives a Bentley to work every day now, always drove fancy 00:38:18.040 |
Started in a BMW, but right now drives a Bentley to work every day, has been groomed to be 00:38:22.280 |
one of the leaders in the financial advisory space. 00:38:25.600 |
Very, very, very, very successful, makes a lot of money. 00:38:30.800 |
And I've thought a lot about that over the years because it was just such a striking 00:38:37.800 |
I was the guy who, when I was a financial advisor, I was uncomfortable with the image 00:38:49.440 |
I didn't dress sharp with all of the, a sharp suit I would dress in khakis and a blazer, 00:39:00.440 |
I had reasons why that seemed to me to be the right thing at the time, but it was congruent 00:39:06.800 |
But I've often thought, maybe I got it totally wrong. 00:39:15.080 |
I didn't want to pull up in front of somebody's house and then say, "Oh, look, you try the 00:39:22.800 |
He can pull up anywhere and basically say, "I'm a financial advisor, man. 00:39:26.520 |
I'm supposed to know what we're talking about with money. 00:39:32.440 |
But I thought, like, why was I trying so hard to save? 00:39:39.840 |
Why was I trying so hard to be frugal and save money? 00:39:50.960 |
Now the answer is that that particular job, at least the way I was doing it then, wasn't 00:40:03.880 |
Whereas, as I understand it from my friend, this guy, it's a good fit for him. 00:40:11.160 |
And that is one of the images that has really stuck with me. 00:40:16.840 |
If you're trying to get out of your life, if you're trying to get out of a job that 00:40:20.880 |
you don't like or get out of a life that you don't like, then saving all the money in the 00:40:25.960 |
world so you can change how you're using your time, it makes sense. 00:40:30.200 |
But if you like how you're using your time, then saving all the money in the world doesn't 00:40:39.240 |
Why go through years and years and years, scrimping and saving and scrimping and saving 00:40:45.520 |
just so that you can leave a bigger estate when you die? 00:40:50.840 |
Again, let's be careful of our false dilemmas. 00:40:54.720 |
Doesn't mean you may not leave a big estate when you die. 00:41:00.080 |
There are lots of people who are totally content with what they're doing, very productive financially, 00:41:03.760 |
have no desire to spend more money, and yet are going to continue to accumulate money. 00:41:12.040 |
I don't think it's morally superior to spend all your money. 00:41:15.200 |
Just saying from a practical perspective, why the excess focus on getting rich if it 00:41:21.240 |
costs you to be living today in a way that you don't like? 00:41:29.680 |
So my basic argument that I desire to advance is this, saving money has to have a purpose. 00:41:39.960 |
You get to choose the purpose, but there needs to be a purpose. 00:41:45.640 |
When you're saving money and you're building up more and more money in the bank, get clear 00:41:53.120 |
on what that purpose is and make sure that you've identified it and that it fits with 00:42:05.460 |
Without question, there are many people in the world whose lives would be dramatically 00:42:15.840 |
In my listening audience, though, there aren't many of those people. 00:42:21.880 |
In my listening audience, there are a lot of people's lives who would be dramatically 00:42:30.720 |
Don't let the blind collection and compounding of money keep you from doing something now 00:42:48.000 |
Don't let just a little bit more keep you from living well today, living richly today. 00:42:56.840 |
Up to you to decide what you want to buy with your money. 00:43:00.640 |
You can buy the satisfaction of paying off your neighbor's mortgage or your mom's mortgage 00:43:08.860 |
You can also buy the satisfaction of a fancy new car or anything in between. 00:43:17.080 |
But don't just think, "Oh, I just have to have a little more money for down the road." 00:43:20.960 |
Recognize that time is the thing that you never get back, whereas money itself is completely 00:43:39.680 |
Don't let your personal habits of life be those that have been forced onto you by people 00:43:51.680 |
This is kind of what I've realized has happened to me. 00:43:54.240 |
I've shared many times, and I'll share again, how shocking it was for me when I first started 00:43:59.360 |
talking to people personally about their money. 00:44:01.960 |
The question I always used in an initial interview with somebody was, "Is there a point in time 00:44:05.880 |
at which you'd like to not to have to work if you didn't want to?" 00:44:08.480 |
I didn't like to say retirement, but I would say, "Is there a point in time at which you'd 00:44:12.200 |
like to not to have to work if you didn't want to?" 00:44:16.880 |
Everyone would, the common answer about 50% of the time, "Well, absolutely. 00:44:31.320 |
A shocking number, I would guess, 75%, 70%, something like that. 00:44:35.120 |
The majority of people would say 65 or 60, 60 or 65. 00:44:43.560 |
I would go farther and I'd say, "Well, why 65?" 00:44:47.360 |
The vast majority of the time, it was like, "I don't know. 00:44:49.880 |
That's the Social Security retirement age, right?" 00:44:55.640 |
I realized we're all kind of group creatures. 00:44:59.320 |
This whole concept of retirement didn't ever exist in the context of human history. 00:45:04.860 |
It didn't ever exist in the context of human history until the modern age. 00:45:09.040 |
It was invented as a political experiment in the modern age. 00:45:14.320 |
Then it has been successfully marketed, but now 75% of the people that I talk to say they 00:45:22.240 |
I can talk about the fact that the majority of people at that time, according to life 00:45:26.240 |
expectancies tables, were scheduled to be dead by 65. 00:45:43.560 |
You continue this forward and then you get the power of the modern fire movement. 00:45:54.000 |
Five years, 10 years, seven years, by age 30, free at 40." 00:46:10.920 |
I believe that we should live well-examined lives to the extent that we're capable of 00:46:21.960 |
There are some people for whom the plan of working hard for a number of years, engaging 00:46:26.760 |
in extreme savings, and then living off of their investments, that seems to be a really 00:46:33.800 |
Had lunch with somebody yesterday who did that and enjoyed it. 00:46:41.120 |
But I think there's some of us, like me, who kind of fall into that way of thinking without 00:46:48.440 |
It's just as much a group herd impulse to say, "I want to be fi at 40," as it is to 00:47:09.280 |
A lot of the lives of some early retirees to me sound dreadfully boring. 00:47:16.720 |
Again, I'm not criticizing you if you like it. 00:47:18.840 |
If you want to sit and work in your garden, if you want to do involved in your local charity, 00:47:24.120 |
if you want to spend your time slow traveling the world, do it. 00:47:33.560 |
So each of us should pick our own path, and to the extent possible, we should do it in 00:47:44.200 |
Let's do our best to appreciate things from the examples of others, and then articulate 00:47:49.600 |
our own personal philosophies of why we do what we do, why we're living the way that 00:47:59.240 |
Recognize in that money is not the thing that's in shortage. 00:48:06.200 |
If you don't have any money at all, money is probably the thing that's in shortage. 00:48:10.280 |
I've continually found myself, I have friends and family members who, for reasons I can't 00:48:19.640 |
They just, "Oh, I'm doing my thing, doing my business. 00:48:24.280 |
I don't want someone else to have control over my schedule." 00:48:26.440 |
I look at them, I'm like, "Bro, you're broke." 00:48:31.920 |
To be broke, but to have all your time, to me, that stinks. 00:48:37.960 |
So going from zero to, I don't know, $10,000 in the bank, that would be a high priority. 00:48:50.200 |
Going from $100,000 to a million dollars, is that the ticket? 00:49:00.080 |
I don't know that there's a right answer, but there's probably a right answer for you. 00:49:11.080 |
Recognize that at the end, your time is limited. 00:49:17.120 |
Your feet will be in the casket just like mine. 00:49:26.000 |
Your money is going to have some importance at that point in time. 00:49:30.320 |
Your money is going to have some importance to your wife, to your children. 00:49:46.720 |
We all got together in a big field and there were little bubbles all around the field to 00:49:54.680 |
I just was thinking afresh about death, right? 00:50:11.200 |
The dash between the two dates, that matters way more. 00:50:17.360 |
And as I listened to the testimonies of the friends and loved ones who spoke at a friend's 00:50:22.320 |
funeral and talked about how the impact that he'd had on them, there wasn't a whole lot 00:50:30.560 |
of money involved, but there were a lot of activities. 00:50:50.880 |
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