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- Yes, and we've been at Brandy's for a really long time. 00:00:29.680 |
We've been at Brandy's since I was in high school 00:00:40.400 |
We had seats before because there were only like 20 people 00:02:18.260 |
- I said I've been here for like a really long time. 00:02:29.420 |
- I remember when I first came, you were in overalls. 00:02:35.160 |
Well I'm not saying that she was like that young, 00:03:14.260 |
- Heavenly Father, Lord, we thank you so much 00:03:55.900 |
and what your son did in our birth in particular. 00:04:07.320 |
who we are, and shape how we are doing ourselves. 00:04:11.480 |
Our trajectory, really, for the rest of our lives. 00:04:28.200 |
Lord, oftentimes it can seem like a logistical matter, 00:04:31.760 |
but I pray, Lord, that you would help us, Lord, 00:04:34.460 |
to really convey with the Spirit why we go over 00:05:06.260 |
in you, God, that they would really do their best, 00:05:10.500 |
Lord, in their walks, God, and to be intimate 00:05:16.660 |
through their service, God, that the children 00:05:30.420 |
I pray that you would be with us in Jesus' name. 00:05:34.500 |
So, first, we just wanna thank all of you guys 00:05:39.200 |
for coming, and we will try and get through it 00:05:50.280 |
and all of us as volunteers have a particular 00:05:56.920 |
And, I mean, we have kids, but we really see them 00:06:35.240 |
and that it's really setting an example for them 00:06:48.340 |
that is our goal, is that they would see Christ 00:07:02.500 |
So it's ministering to the children, praying for them, 00:07:08.460 |
who are primarily responsible for their discipleship. 00:07:12.260 |
So ultimately, it is our responsibility as parents, 00:07:20.340 |
and so we really do appreciate that as parents. 00:07:29.060 |
but that is such an important thing for us as parents, 00:07:34.660 |
and that is something we're working together for. 00:07:42.060 |
with an eternal destiny, either heaven or hell, 00:07:48.680 |
and that in the end, we want them to know Christ, 00:07:55.300 |
So just really having that kind of perspective 00:07:58.460 |
going into whatever service that you may have 00:08:01.780 |
with our children, just want to put that on there first. 00:08:19.100 |
and you guys are the ones who are watching our kids. 00:08:21.460 |
So in one sense, as a parent, that's really scary, 00:08:24.940 |
because you guys are the ones interacting with them, 00:08:29.860 |
And so we're trying to put these procedures in place 00:08:35.700 |
just so that we know at least people are members, 00:08:50.180 |
If you are a general, like one-time special events, 00:08:57.180 |
or our retreats, or VBS, family ministry events, 00:09:12.840 |
You have to be a church member for at least one year, 00:09:15.620 |
you have to fill out that general application 00:09:18.000 |
that is online, and you have to attend the safety training, 00:09:21.620 |
which we're still deciding how often you have to retake that 00:09:26.940 |
And the process is different than if you are a current 00:09:32.260 |
SO staff teacher or volunteer, like in the ministry. 00:09:36.700 |
So if you happen to already gone through the process 00:09:49.280 |
So you would have to go through a more rigorous process. 00:09:53.000 |
And that would be, you have to fill out, oh, oh, oh, okay. 00:10:00.080 |
like there are kids, like youth group volunteers 00:10:10.400 |
and I know that this person is babysitting with me, 00:10:14.880 |
they have to have followed all those previous requirements. 00:10:24.220 |
So you cannot recruit them to babysit for Bible study 00:10:30.340 |
unless you know that they meet these three requirements. 00:10:33.380 |
And if you're not sure, then you should ask Pastor Mark, 00:10:38.140 |
you can ask Jane now, you can ask me, you can ask Jen and I, 00:10:44.340 |
where they are not allowed to babysit children, 00:10:49.240 |
The same goes for youth and youth group volunteers, 00:10:57.840 |
by their parents, and then they have to be supervised 00:11:03.320 |
So if you have a youth group volunteer with you 00:11:12.660 |
And especially for junior high or children junior high, 00:11:18.440 |
And they cannot have any kind of supervisory role, 00:11:21.440 |
and they can't take any minors to the bathroom. 00:11:33.000 |
and they're like, oh, I'm gonna take this kid 00:11:34.640 |
to the bathroom, they're not allowed to, okay? 00:11:40.480 |
Then if you ever wanna become part of the SO staff, 00:11:43.740 |
teacher, TA, or volunteers, you have to be a church member 00:11:47.140 |
for one year, if they have a more rigorous application. 00:11:51.380 |
You have to fill out a background authorization 00:11:57.420 |
and Officer Joe does all of the reference check, 00:12:00.340 |
background checks, and he keeps them very safe 00:12:09.820 |
and there's CPR training for any nursery leads 00:12:18.020 |
They also have to renew their commitment every year, 00:12:23.140 |
and re-sign the background authorization form, 00:12:25.260 |
so that if at any time we feel like there's something weird, 00:12:36.740 |
And just for your personal, you know, peace of mind, 00:12:41.020 |
all information is confidential, nothing is disclosed. 00:12:48.980 |
and usually, unless Officer Joe sees something like that, 00:12:54.460 |
then he will tell the proper pastor or leader to, 00:12:59.940 |
Okay, so I'm gonna go into the children's health 00:13:06.260 |
that we have all students within our ministry, 00:13:15.500 |
And it must be filled out either electronically 00:13:19.820 |
I think for seeds, we have it all in Google Docs. 00:13:28.420 |
So the only times that we have it in paper form 00:13:31.060 |
for our students now is if they're a newcomer 00:13:54.300 |
that they may have where they can't, you know, 00:13:57.180 |
play on the ground, they might get in their head, 00:14:06.900 |
take their child to the bathroom, and that's okay, 00:14:14.020 |
We need to let them know, you know, about an emergency 00:14:23.060 |
some parents like to deal with the discipline directly 00:14:25.540 |
rather than have a teacher or one of our volunteers 00:14:31.340 |
You know, each family has their way of, you know, 00:14:33.380 |
raising their children, we want to respect that. 00:14:34.940 |
So it's really important, and you're gonna hear me say, 00:14:40.260 |
check the sticker on the back, does it say it's okay? 00:14:42.820 |
Did you check to see if there's any type of allergy to meat 00:14:56.940 |
And then that happens, so something to consider. 00:15:06.700 |
if you're there, you should probably ask the parents 00:15:09.780 |
or whoever to have them pack their own snack, 00:15:15.420 |
to pack their own snack so that you don't have any issues 00:15:18.300 |
with this, like, allergy, like, what they can or can't eat, 00:15:21.100 |
just like, each child has their own, like, stuff. 00:15:28.700 |
for our seats ministry, which is our nursery ministry, 00:15:37.020 |
sometimes they'll have this big white sticker on the back, 00:15:40.660 |
I know parents have told me they've laundered it, 00:15:42.700 |
and it's like forever, per box, stickers, right? 00:15:49.180 |
their children have to sign their children out as well. 00:15:57.140 |
if there are any parents that have been coming out 00:16:04.580 |
It's also important that children are only released, right? 00:16:07.900 |
On the sticker you'll see at the absolute bottom, 00:16:10.420 |
and you'll see on the sign in and out sheet for Sprouts, 00:16:21.100 |
to take them to their parent is if it's taking 00:16:23.180 |
a really long time, we don't know what's going on, 00:16:27.100 |
so it would either be Melissa Long, or it would be Sarah 00:16:29.180 |
that would take the child directly to their parent 00:16:32.980 |
A security camera, so in case you guys don't know, 00:16:37.060 |
we have security cameras in the main sanctuary, 00:16:47.660 |
because this kind of came from our old office 00:16:50.380 |
that pretty much had an open door all the time, 00:16:53.380 |
and then we found that there were some people 00:16:55.900 |
that were coming in to use our restroom, right? 00:16:57.940 |
And then suddenly certain things would go missing, 00:17:38.220 |
and they may not always know the exact health condition 00:17:43.100 |
So sometimes, I know for us in SEEDS at least, 00:17:46.260 |
we'll see a child that has really bad runny nose, 00:17:48.620 |
and we're not sure, but we check with the parent 00:17:58.280 |
Or suddenly their kid is laying on the floor napping, 00:18:01.040 |
and then we realize later they had hand, foot, mouth, right? 00:18:05.160 |
We don't know what they interact with outside 00:18:07.200 |
in their environment when they're in the playground, 00:18:12.560 |
So that's stuff that we want you to look out for, 00:18:18.720 |
'cause you don't wanna disturb their worship. 00:18:21.880 |
but they're also gonna wanna know if their child's sick. 00:18:29.040 |
So it's really important that you keep an ear out for that, 00:18:33.580 |
and that you inform the parents as soon as possible. 00:18:41.820 |
like whatever context you're in, babysitting, whatever, 00:18:48.100 |
because you don't want to infect everyone else that's there. 00:18:58.400 |
so when you infect one, right, it spreads like wildfire. 00:19:11.000 |
It means that at least two qualified adult caregivers 00:19:21.560 |
And this consists of one male and one female, 00:19:37.680 |
one male and one female, or two females, okay? 00:19:41.720 |
And we consider adults to be the age of 18 or older. 00:19:49.720 |
just as a caregiver for your own protection too, 00:19:57.680 |
and you're giving someone ever reason to question 00:20:03.400 |
So especially if you are babysitting in someone's home, 00:20:10.420 |
If you're in Sprouts or Seeds or wherever you are, 00:20:19.800 |
so that they are, it's just safer that way, okay? 00:20:30.760 |
So one can save the child, one can go or get help, 00:20:38.060 |
So this also has to do with the restroom procedures, 00:20:46.880 |
So for Seeds, diaper change must be authorized by a parent. 00:20:51.640 |
So if a parent did not say that you could change 00:21:02.960 |
you need to make sure that they've authorized it. 00:21:06.040 |
For Sprouts, for older kids that are kindergarten age 00:21:13.280 |
they can pull their pants down and all that stuff, 00:21:21.200 |
but you have to leave the door open, like a jar. 00:21:30.040 |
so if you're in this bathroom, the door has to be ajar. 00:21:32.560 |
They can go and use the restroom by themselves, 00:21:36.800 |
And again, you have to have authorization from the parent. 00:21:39.680 |
If they need help, you have to have gotten permission 00:21:45.320 |
And if they didn't, then you need to go and call 00:21:50.200 |
Youth group students, again, do not take children 00:22:08.840 |
to use those bathrooms while sew is in session. 00:22:16.840 |
No male volunteers are allowed to be using that. 00:22:19.800 |
You have to use the sanctuary or upstairs bathroom, 00:22:25.400 |
And non-sprouts adults, so like even me as a parent, 00:22:28.680 |
are should not be using those bathrooms, okay? 00:22:33.320 |
like, "Oh, I gotta go pee," just run to the other bathroom. 00:22:44.520 |
All right, so I'll go ahead and go over the accidents 00:22:55.520 |
and then they bump into each other's heads, right, 00:23:00.520 |
And so any type of injury, no matter how minor or major, 00:23:09.120 |
you can go ahead and talk to the lead within your ministry 00:23:11.600 |
and they'll go ahead and direct you to that form. 00:23:13.960 |
We always make sure that we fill that out in its entirety 00:23:24.760 |
what could happen from two people colliding, right? 00:23:29.960 |
a worse issue later, or I think I've actually, 00:23:40.160 |
And it was, like, really, like, frightening for me, you know? 00:23:42.920 |
So you wanna make sure that you let the parents know 00:23:45.160 |
right away, right, because they need to go and seek treatment 00:23:48.360 |
for their kid's mouth or for the head, you know, 00:23:51.580 |
Even with, you know, little things, minor things, 00:23:55.080 |
you don't know if it'll grow to bigger things, 00:24:00.640 |
I don't want you to write a major report for that, okay? 00:24:04.920 |
But if it's something that happens within our ministry, 00:24:07.800 |
and, you know, we need to let the parents know 00:24:12.520 |
Okay, so going over first aid and emergency procedures. 00:24:16.680 |
So if you don't know where the first aid kit is located, 00:24:22.680 |
because each ministry has it somewhere within that room 00:24:27.800 |
It's important for cuts, or not for cuts, I'm sorry, 00:24:30.640 |
for cuts or anything that requires any type of first aid, 00:24:37.800 |
in every, I think at the front of every ministry area. 00:24:43.160 |
'cause it really varies yourself with that as well. 00:24:45.240 |
And we have an AED, actually, for people who don't know, 00:24:53.200 |
and you see that table right in front of you, 00:25:02.600 |
- Yeah, it's like a red box. - It's kind of a small, 00:25:08.440 |
you can go ahead and get it off that wall there, okay? 00:25:16.160 |
where kids are not, where kids are and are not allowed, 00:25:19.320 |
they are not supposed to be in the kitchen at any time 00:25:23.000 |
we've got sharp objects that we don't want them 00:25:33.760 |
as much as possible, whether that's at the cafe area 00:25:36.480 |
or any type of general area where there's a lot of people, 00:25:44.160 |
It's really important that if you are going to have 00:25:46.160 |
your child's piece of playground that you make sure 00:25:52.560 |
make sure that you have an adult there with them. 00:25:54.800 |
We absolutely do not want children riding in vehicles, 00:25:58.000 |
and we'll get to that in a bit with the field trips 00:26:02.920 |
but make sure that they are not riding in your vehicles, 00:26:07.880 |
And make sure that you're staying in view of people 00:26:09.960 |
at all times, like you said, that two-caregiver rule, 00:26:12.380 |
that should be something that if I know that I'm alone 00:26:14.680 |
with the child, even though I've been at church forever, 00:26:16.800 |
right, I want the accountability just like I want 00:26:18.640 |
the accountability for everybody else, right? 00:26:20.240 |
So first thing I do is I make sure that another person 00:26:24.320 |
and then I notify the parent, hey, I'm here with your child, 00:26:26.320 |
'cause there are times when I come into a room 00:26:27.760 |
and I'm like, oh my gosh, you're young, right? 00:26:32.560 |
And that happens 'cause the kids love open space, right? 00:26:37.520 |
so make sure that you always stay in view of people 00:26:42.440 |
make sure you notify their parent right away. 00:26:44.480 |
- Yeah, and right now, it's like there's a lot of kids 00:26:49.200 |
sometimes they're out like right in front of here, 00:26:51.960 |
so if you just happen to see a kid by themselves, 00:26:54.700 |
like just as a, you know, helpful adult around, 00:27:01.480 |
and try to return them back to their parents, 00:27:03.440 |
because ultimately, it is responsibility of parents 00:27:13.040 |
running around by themselves, but they shouldn't be, okay? 00:27:16.480 |
So just, I guess, help them out, help us out, and yes. 00:27:21.480 |
- Well, for the seats, kids, I've asked the parents 00:27:33.240 |
All right, and last thing I wanna go over is field trips, 00:27:48.920 |
and especially if they're gonna ride in any vehicle, 00:27:57.040 |
I always say make sure you have authorization 00:28:07.400 |
Do not, try your best, I know emergencies arise, right, 00:28:10.680 |
try your best not to be alone with a student in the car, 00:28:14.120 |
because that is something that we don't want to have happen. 00:28:23.400 |
there's none of this one-on-one interaction, okay? 00:28:32.200 |
and we want them to not be put on these rides. 00:28:41.120 |
All right, so we kind of touched upon this in the beginning, 00:28:44.320 |
but, so there's that kind of character and conduct, 00:28:54.960 |
So this is within, like, on church on Sunday. 00:28:58.000 |
You'll notice that this SO ministry has orange name tags, 00:29:02.960 |
and that's to identify that they are serving, 00:29:07.720 |
And so if you are serving within one of these ministries, 00:29:10.920 |
you should always be wearing your name tag while you're there. 00:29:14.600 |
Use appropriate language and discipline with the kids. 00:29:23.920 |
and, you know, there are times when they are not behaving, 00:29:30.920 |
or they might talk back, they might do something, 00:29:40.800 |
exemplify forgiveness, and to just pray for them, 00:29:43.800 |
and really use that as a ministry opportunity to, 00:29:48.360 |
and then, like, sharing the gospel with them. 00:30:03.920 |
loving someone else, and those kinds of things. 00:30:07.240 |
So, really use those things as opportunities for ministry. 00:30:12.200 |
And, again, like, just politely ask all non-volunteers 00:30:15.560 |
to remain outside of ministry rooms during service, 00:30:17.920 |
which a lot of times happens that people wanna come in 00:30:23.040 |
"and I know that one," or, you know, whatever it may be, 00:30:33.160 |
so just tell them they can go play with them. 00:30:46.280 |
that no one ever wants to talk about, but it happens, 00:30:49.280 |
and I'm just going to preface this with the fact that, 00:30:52.040 |
you know, all of the things that we have in place 00:30:57.480 |
but we cannot perfectly protect our kids from everything. 00:31:05.960 |
but all the things that do happen that are bad, 00:31:08.440 |
and evil in the world, they are a result of our sin, 00:31:16.480 |
On Guard, Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church, 00:31:26.720 |
"that no adult can perfectly protect their kids 00:31:34.640 |
"can't avoid the long tentacles of the internet 00:31:37.400 |
"and social media that reach beyond the walls of our homes 00:31:41.600 |
"The sad reality is that no matter how careful we are, 00:31:46.480 |
"and it will likely happen right under our noses. 00:31:50.920 |
"that we were not with it enough to catch the perpetrator 00:31:55.360 |
"A realistic perspective on life in a fallen world 00:31:58.720 |
"is not that we can perfectly protect our kids, 00:32:01.520 |
"but that with wisdom, carefulness, and planning, 00:32:05.600 |
And that's really why if we're doing what we can, 00:32:09.880 |
we can put policies, but if things will happen 00:32:19.360 |
before we talk about inappropriate relationships 00:32:25.880 |
and in our church history, this has happened. 00:32:32.240 |
that if you are working with youth group kids, 00:32:34.720 |
if they're older and you can have deeper conversations 00:32:39.240 |
with them, but they are still children, they are not adults, 00:32:42.600 |
and your goal as a person who's working in ministry 00:32:45.680 |
with them is not to create this deep relationship 00:32:49.000 |
with them necessarily, but it is to be a minister, 00:32:54.040 |
and so not to abuse that kind of relationship. 00:32:57.840 |
And again, the whole thing is not to be alone 00:33:02.400 |
and create environments where possible things could happen, 00:33:07.720 |
just like as Jennai said, as an accountability. 00:33:19.720 |
to remove garments other than jackets or shoes. 00:33:31.840 |
because we may know their family or their parents, 00:33:36.480 |
and you are caring for them as a caregiver in the church, 00:33:41.100 |
refrain from doing that, 'cause then other workers 00:33:47.560 |
"because she's doing that or he's doing that," 00:33:53.380 |
we should not be doing that, so don't ask for hugs, 00:34:10.000 |
which is what a lot of kids seven through 10, 00:34:20.480 |
If you think it's okay and their parent's okay 00:34:38.480 |
So, on one end, it's possible that as caregivers, 00:34:43.560 |
people can possibly use that role in that relationship, 00:34:59.280 |
Saddleback Church, it just happened a few months ago, 00:35:04.720 |
The same procedures that I based all the things on 00:35:16.520 |
It happens, and it's sad, and that's the reality of it, 00:35:34.040 |
yeah, I don't know, you don't understand, okay. 00:35:37.840 |
So, I don't want it to be like we create this environment 00:35:41.280 |
where we're like always questioning, oh, this could be, 00:35:47.920 |
and that it could happen not only from other people, 00:35:59.800 |
may be inclined, or any, that someone is inclined 00:36:04.800 |
to abuse, molest, or otherwise harm any child, 00:36:07.880 |
especially when under the care of the church, 00:36:10.520 |
or any indication that a child under the care of the church 00:36:13.600 |
is being abused, molested, neglected, or harmed by someone, 00:36:24.000 |
but they don't know, so just privately, you know, 00:36:28.080 |
hey, remember that safety training, you know, 00:36:30.080 |
we went to, like, not to be alone, or not to, you know, 00:36:32.880 |
just, you know, just out of love, out of just, you know, 00:36:36.280 |
care for that person, you know, you can approach them, 00:36:39.160 |
and if you continue to see, perhaps, a pattern of behavior, 00:36:58.200 |
that you think that you can trust with that information, 00:37:11.360 |
All right, these are just special instructions 00:37:16.400 |
for, like, if you're working for BBS, or Reformation Night, 00:37:23.200 |
they're, like, running around, like, everywhere, 00:37:28.120 |
and they shouldn't be, like, running around outside, 00:37:30.400 |
or anywhere in the building, like, by the playground, too, 00:37:33.600 |
like, by themselves, so if you see that they are, 00:37:39.560 |
and for Bible study babysitting, which we talked about, 00:37:42.720 |
if you need a replacement, contact Pastor Mark, 00:37:52.160 |
I just spoke with the Pastor Mark and the staff, 00:37:54.680 |
is that the parents of that Bible study group 00:38:01.640 |
so if there's only one of you that showed up that day, 00:38:05.080 |
and you need someone, then you need to tell, like, 00:38:12.920 |
because that's our responsibility as parents, yes, Laura? 00:38:36.200 |
and whoever, I guess, is, like, kind of leading 00:38:44.000 |
is, like, finding volunteers and stuff like that, 00:38:46.400 |
like, you should probably coordinate with that person 00:38:56.360 |
and if there's not, yeah, enough babysitters, 00:39:02.840 |
because, you know, like, we wanna protect our kids, too, 00:39:08.920 |
like, you're by yourself with, like, 12 kids, 00:39:21.480 |
do this, but, you know, get another parent in there. 00:39:54.560 |
'cause if you did not get this in electronic form, 00:39:58.640 |
And so, give us back the paper copy if you don't want it, 00:40:20.280 |
and I literally kept all of these from every training, 00:40:35.320 |
and turn it in on the table before you leave. 00:40:38.640 |
And if you have any questions, comments, suggestions 00:40:54.920 |
We're trying to figure out what we need to do better, 00:41:11.240 |
I know that Sarah and I, we've been able to get 00:41:13.240 |
a lot of great suggestions from our volunteers 00:41:31.240 |
so, 'cause in the home groups I've been in so far, 00:41:33.840 |
they normally have, like, a room where the old kids are 00:41:40.400 |
somebody had to stay in the room with all the kids, 00:41:42.240 |
while one child had to go out to the restroom, 00:41:46.240 |
- Well, it's two, so it's one female that can take them. 00:41:59.440 |
would the male stay in the room with all the kids? 00:42:02.280 |
- So what I suggest is just keep all the doors open, 00:42:08.920 |
that you guys are babysitting in, just keep it open, 00:42:12.280 |
because really, what you're helping them to do 00:42:14.000 |
is put them on the toilet, but you can kinda step back 00:42:16.420 |
and let them do their thing, but also keep watch in both. 00:42:24.800 |
- So you only, like in here, we only need to leave 00:42:27.520 |
the door ajar if we're physically going into the bathroom. 00:42:31.000 |
- Yeah, but they can, yes, the kids should know themselves. 00:42:34.000 |
- They can do it by themselves, you just open it. 00:42:36.320 |
- And Steve's is different, 'cause we keep our bathroom door 00:42:43.520 |
- And our male volunteers have only step in there 00:42:58.640 |
- They do love it, they're like, "Somebody food!" 00:43:03.320 |
- One of the little ladies wants to step out. 00:43:10.120 |
Yeah, do we need to fill out a application for volunteering, 00:43:18.480 |
- Yes, for VBS, for Reformation Night, yes, we do.