I love to spend money on things that make my life convenient so you can just see people's eyes light up and then I ask them what if you could quadruple your spending on it people get kind of uncomfortable they get stuck they go oh I would eat out at Chipotle four times a week blah blah blah I go are you sure you'd still eat at Chipotle you wouldn't maybe invite somebody out and pay for their bill and they're like oh yeah actually I would love to do that so I start to show them how money can be multi-dimensional it's not just doing more of the same thing the whole point of this is to get people to realize that money is not something you just worry about it's also not something that you try to minimize as much as possible the hyper frugality world loves to look at cost only how much does it cost how much does it cost that cost too much I could get a 20% cheaper I'm like get a life there's more to life than just saving money on three dollar expenses there's also sometimes where you spend a lot of money because you just want to