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Daily Habits for Increasing Grit & Resilience | Michael Easter & Dr. Andrew Huberman


Chapters

0:0 Daily Habits for Increasing Grit & Resilience
1:53 Taking the Stairs & Getting More Daily Steps
4:45 How & Why to Have More Silence in Daily Life
6:25 A Practice of Doing Small Hard Tasks
10:2 Why Long Walks Facilitate Deep Connection & Conversation
10:50 The Evolutionary Value on Boredom
12:23 Why Lowering Cell Phone Usage isn't Enough
14:1 "Raw dog" Flight Challenge

Transcript

I want to distinguish between daily self-induced discomforts and these larger discomforts like going to the Arctic. I want to get to the Masogi theme and this idea of taking on things that are truly hard that you might not finish. But if we were to shrink this down to the morning, wake up, you can scroll on your phone, or you can hop in the cold plunge, take a cold shower.

These days, there's a lot of discussion around doing the cold shower has numerous benefits, wakes you up, dopamine, norepinephrine, but also it kind of sucks. Nobody likes cold water. If you do, send me a note because I'll send you a neurologist's phone number. But we all like the feeling of getting out of it.

But what are some things besides cold showers and exercise, which I do believe everyone should do and get sunlight, et cetera, that we can do on a daily basis, morning or in the afternoon if we're feeling just kind of low, besides cold showers and exercise and sunlight that are hard?

Like, is it if I, like, I love eating strawberries and I hate putting, like, I leave the hulls in weird places without even realizing it. And I'll walk by a hull of a strawberry. And I'm thinking, and I, this morning I thought, oh my Easter is going to laugh at me.

Like, I'm like, I got to pick this thing up. I'm not just scattering them around my home, by the way. But I'm like, like, what is it? Like we create these barriers to doing the simplest of things. So what are some difficult things that we can introduce to our daily routine that have been shown to make us feel better besides exercise, sunlight, and cold water?

Yeah. So sort of my big picture answer here is my substack is called the 2% newsletter. And I'll tell you why it's called 2%. So there's this study that found that only 2% of people take the stairs when there's an escalator available. 2%. Now, 100% of people know that if they were to take the stairs, that would be better for them, right?

They get a better long-term return on their health, on their wellbeing. And yet 98% of people do the easier thing that could actually hurt them in the long run in the context of this environment where we don't move enough. So this tells me that we're sort of wired to do the next easiest thing.

But living better in modern life often requires doing these slightly uncomfortable things that are just so obvious and in front of us. And it's like, you have to get to the second floor. So which route are you going to take? You're going to take the one that's a little bit uncomfortable now, but improves your life in the long run?

Or are you going to do the easy thing that might actually hurt you in the long run? So that to me is just a metaphor for like, how do you improve in daily life, right? In the trenches of daily life, how do you improve? So I apply this, I try and apply this to as many different areas in my life as I can.

It's like, if I can make something just a little bit more uncomfortable, I'm not talking about extreme, do the slightly harder thing that I know will give me a long-term return. I got to take that. So for me, it's like, okay, if I'm in my office, go through some examples, and I have a phone call, I could sit here and take the phone call, or I could pop in my headphones and I could go for a walk and I could take that call while walking.

I would say for the vast majority of phone calls, unless you're like talking to the CEO, your big boss, right? Maybe sit behind the computer for that one. But like, you're getting in all these steps that are going to be beneficial. And steps are one of like the metric that is most correlated to better health.

Like people just need to generally walk more. And that's an easy way to do it. It's like, you got to take the call. Might as well get some steps in as you do it, right? Things like that. Things like, could you even just carry your groceries at the grocery store?

You get the basket, you're carrying stuff. You're getting in this like low load of carrying that's going to really help with back health, strength, all these different things. Even things as simple as like, I'm going to park in the farthest spot away. Like people go, roll their eyes and go, that's so obvious.

Everyone says that. It's like, okay, but no one actually does it. And if you look at just non-exercise activity thermogen, it's neat. This is basically a dorky way of saying all the movement in a person's life that isn't dedicated exercise. That often outweighs the benefits of exercise in many studies.

Certainly by calories burned. Certainly by calories burned. Also, some data suggests even health outcomes in the long run. There's some Mayo Clinic data that says that people who just move around a lot more in their daily life, they're burning like 800 calories just from moving around, this incidental movement.

It's like running eight miles or something. If you do some really rough back of hand math, right? And so I think looking for those opportunities, even beyond exercise, something like, so in the comfort crisis, I write about a value of silence, for example. We have increased the world's loudness fourfold as human beings.

And yet silence is actually pretty good for us in this context of noise. So you put someone in silence and like, yeah, it's a little uncomfortable at first. People will generally report being like, oh, it's so quiet. This is weird. Well, weirded out. But as time goes on, people tend to calm down.

It's sort of like a nice reset. And so can you even go, hey, like I go into my office and I just start blasting music immediately. Like most people keep the TV on, who keep the TV on all day. It's not that they're watching it. It's that they just need noise in the background or else they feel weird.

But if you can sort of cut that out, even though it's a little bit hard at first, it's probably going to improve you over the long run. Like how can we apply this to different areas? I did a post. It's called the 2% manifesto on my sub stack. So I'll link to it in that link I mentioned.

And it lists a bunch of different ways. I think it really is. It's just like this mindset shift. Like how can I take this thing I have to do and maybe make it a little bit harder and get a benefit. And once you start to stack those things up, like things start moving, things start changing.

Yeah, I agree. I, um, you know, my trivial example about the strawberry hulls, which I always put like next to the bowl of strawberries and they'll just sit there. Um, this is actually really beneficial for me because I do that too. And my wife, my wife goes, what kind of psychopath does this?

And I'd be like, well, there's two of us now. Uh, at least two of us. Um, if you are a strawberry hull, um, a non, uh, throw away or, um, definitely put, put a comment and we'll, we'll start a support group. Um, it taught me an important lesson though, because, um, it's less about the strawberry hulls, um, than noticing the feeling of resistance.

Like what is that? And then recognizing how trivial that resistance is, but how, um, pervasive it is. It's like the, the things that we resist doing, like, uh, I've got the making the bed first thing in the morning down. I've got the morning sunlight thing down. I've got, got all that stuff down, but it's the little things that we can get away with not doing for a while that I think are the, the ones that really erode this, whatever this, um, circuit in our brain is that, that you're talking about.

And, and I do want to talk about brain circuitry a little bit. Um, but I don't think we have a name for it. And, um, because it's, it's, it's a little bit of willpower. It's a little bit of tenacity. It's a bit of reflection, but what I, what I'm getting to here, forgive me, cause I'm stumbling through this a little bit because it's, it's something I'm just arriving to in this conversation is that there's something about the contrast between prior experience and current experience where we could say level of discomfort from, you know, one to 10.

Um, the more uncomfortable something is in our prior experience, the better the next phase of life is going to feel whether or not to hours or days later, as you said, a month, you go to the Arctic for how long were you there? 33 days. So more than a month.

And you got a month of zenned out blissed, uh, you know, super Michael to you and to everybody else. Right. And then the crazy start to slowly work their way starts to work its way back in. And I think that it's a, um, this is a microcosm for a lot of things about nervous systems.

They adapt and so forth. So when I think about the examples you gave, and I love the one of taking the stairs, I always think when I travel, I'm going to sit a lot. I don't like to sit too much. I always feel better when I've moved a lot.

So I'm a farmer carrying my luggage of big supplement bag, you know, hence the secondary screening and, uh, you know, security. And then the stairs are a great opportunity. So we can reframe, right? As humans, we can reframe, uh, tell ourselves that things are good for us. Um, but it's these areas where we, where we experience a lot of resistance to ourselves, I think that are the most challenging as opposed to resistance to the world.

As you point out, the world isn't, um, uh, lacking opportunities to, to walk on a call or take the stairs. It's all around us, but it's that internal kind of like, you know, shift towards what's more comfortable. What do you think about the, the more psychological things like, um, like God forbid, reading a book in paper form as opposed to listening to it.

And I love audio books, but, you know, forcing oneself to read, um, having the phone out of the room, um, read something difficult, like a hard book. Like if I want a really good hard book, I ask Mark Andreessen for a book recommendation. Usually I have to go find the book from a, like a special bookseller because some of these books are hard to find.

And then I open up the first page and I go, well, I knew he was really smart. He's one of the smartest people I've ever met. I've met a lot of smart people, but this is really challenging. And then I have to just start lathing through it and lathing through it.

And it reminds me of being a PhD student and learning about the nervous system for the first time. And that stuff feels so good when we like find a nugget of, of understanding. Yeah. But get through it and get through it. Yeah. But, um, so in the, in the cognitive domain, in the emotional domain, like do you intentionally sit down with your wife and go, let's have like a really hard conversation so that we can have a really great weekend.

Do you do that? Do you do this in all areas of your life? Um, well, I'm definitely not perfect. My wife and I actually, we go on very long walks and that's where all the magic happens. There's something about walking as a couple. We'll do like 12 miles on a Saturday, eight to 12 miles on a Saturday.

It was our long walk. Yeah. And you got like four hours together and you know, the first hour you're just kind of this and that, and you know, how was your work week? It was good. How was yours? And then like by hour two, you're getting into like the deep and the gritty stuff.

And I think there's something about forward ambulation, uh, with other people that is really, um, life giving. And there's something even sort of spiritual about it and the amount of connection that you can get from people. So that's something that we definitely do. And I don't think those conversations would come if we were like, let's sit on the couch.

Okay. We'll turn on this Netflix show. Hey, how are you? Like the shit just wouldn't happen. Right. Yeah. The walk's a little bit harder, of course. Um, but magic happens there. I would also say there's a, there's a section in the comfort crisis and I've written about this a little bit in my other book, scarcity brains.

Well, we're talking about the value of boredom. So boredom is effectively this evolutionary discomfort that tells us go do something else. It's neither good. It's neither bad. Simply tells us whatever you're doing right now, the return on your time invested is running thin, go do something else. So in the past, if you think of us, say, um, we're out foraging for food and we're in this one area and we can't find anything.

There's nothing. Boredom would kick in because we're not getting a return. And it would say, well, go do something else. And we'd probably go say, okay, well, what if we try fishing this river or something? Right. And I think what happens in modern life is that when that evolutionary discomfort that tells us to go do something else kicks in, that something else is this like really easy, effortless escape.

And it's in the form of a cell phone, it's Instagram, it's whatever, right? It's like this hyper stimulating content. But I think that sort of sitting with boredom and leveraging it to see where else it might take you beyond a screen can be really valuable. Yes, it's uncomfortable. Um, but I've found I've get my best ideas.

And I think that there's centuries of thinkers who would say the same, like my best ideas come when I've sort of removed myself from outside stimulation. And yes, like my mind wanders, I'm bored, but then bam, some magic happens. One point of messaging around screens today that I want to touch on too, is that like, there's so much media around cell phones and like, you got to use your cell phone less.

Here's a million different ways to use your cell phone yet less. Yes, that's important. Yes, we should all do it. But I think it misses a big point. And that is, if we take, let's say two hours off our phone screen time, what happens is that people often get bored and they go, well, shit, what am I going to do?

And then they turn on Netflix. Not much different, right? It's not an algorithm. No, but you're still just like taking this information that is being beamed into you rather than seeing what else the world can offer you and sort of coming up with your own ideas and creativity. So I like to say, rather than focusing on less phone, I like to think more boredom.

Get yourself in a space where like, boredom is going to kick on. It's going to be uncomfortable. Your mind's going to wander and you might find some good ideas. Yeah, you'll have some weird stuff in your brain. Of course, that's what happens when your mind wanders. But I think you can find some interesting things out there.

Does boredom include reflection or it's true boredom? Like, I think we need to be removed from the hyper-stimulating stuff that we often, when we get that moment of I've got nothing to do, like stand in a grocery line, right? What do people do? Everyone's on their cell phone. Like you can't just like sit with our thoughts for more than three seconds.

So I think even just having the moment where you go, okay, going to do nothing. Might get a little weird. Might get a little uncomfortable. Might be a tiny bit bored, but like your mind's going to go some interesting places I think can be productive in the context of today.

Well, I'm chuckling because what were your thoughts on the brief appearance of the raw dog flight experience that showed up last year? Did you see that? Where guys were posting online, it did seem to be guys, saying that they quote unquote raw dog, terrible use of language. Um, I didn't pick it.

Uh, they would do a 10 hour flight or a six hour flight with no media. Just sit there as a, as a kind of sign of their toughness. I thought it was kind of interesting. Uh, here's what, here's what came out of that is my wife said, the hell these guys are weak.

She's been doing that ever since I knew her. She literally sits in that seat and she turns on the flight screen map and she just zones into that. I'm like, you're a crazy person. Now it turns out she's just like the original raw dogger. I love it. That was not the answer I expected.

Um, yeah, that, that trend kind of came and went. Yeah. Came and went, I think that, you know, and there's the, there's a performative element to that. Right. And so it was kind of became a performance for the, for the algorithms and whatever, where it's, uh, I think maybe we need to get a little more nuance behind that and put some thought into it.

It's like how, it's like, okay, if I'm not on my screen, like, how am I going to use this time? Can I use it to go sort of deeper into my thoughts? And I do think people need time, especially when you're dealing, trying to chew off big ideas. Like I've found that a long walk where I don't take my cell phone.

It's like, I need that. And I think a lot of people, I think there's a lot of anecdotes historically that, um, good ideas come from these moments where you're just, that's all what you're focused on. Maybe you're on a walk and just kind of sitting and just peeling away the layers.

Not easy, but worthwhile. Thank you.