So a lot of people right now feel controlled by their technology. When they're at work it's just email, it's slack, it's zoom, all day long jumping from one thing to another. When they get home they're distracted by just a different category of screens. It's social media, it's video games, it's streaming.

These glowing rectangles are keeping your attention and making you feel as if there is no direction to your life, making you feel low energy, making you feel out of shape and unengaged. So long-time listeners know that my general prescription for this problem is not to try to directly treat the symptoms.

Don't just go in and say here's my plan for using my phone less. Don't just go in and say here are my new rules for my email inbox and I'm going to have an autoresponder and batch my email checks and that's going to fix it. You have to actually solve the root of the problem, which means you have to go in and overhaul systematically your life into something that is so directed and intentional and compelling that the allure of these screens dissipates.

So you say I am not going to just load up this video game or scroll social media all evening because I have things I want to get to that are more important. I am not going to just sit here on email all day in the office because I'm working on something here that matters and that's getting in the way of it.

You overhaul your life to be something deep and the allure of the shallows becomes a lot less intense. So I call this approach as you know the deep life. Earlier this year I introduced a step-by-step plan for cultivating a deep life. I called it the deep life stack. Since then I have been gathering extensive feedback from you my listeners and viewers.

I have also been extensively experimenting with this new construction in my own life and I have a major revision. It's what we can call the deep life stack 2.0. My new and improved evidence-based approach for how to cultivate a deep life. What you can use as your driving force to get away from a world lost in digital distractions and shallows.

So here's the plan. Let me just quickly re-motivate. I'll start by quickly re-motivating why this approach of life changing is important. Second I'll review what didn't work about the original deep life stack. So what the feedback told me wasn't quite working. And then we'll get into the new deep life stack 2.0.

I'll give you your step-by-step instructions for how in a short period of time to make drastic changes to the depth experienced in your own day-to-day existence. All right so that's our plan. Let's start by motivating this approach. Why do we look at screens too much? Well as I've said before it's often because you are trying to fill a hole.

There is some sort of psychic pain that the screen is helping to cover over or obscure. So maybe when you're at home after work there's something about your life you're unhappy about. You're saying I'm 30 now, I'm 40 now, I feel like I'm I've lost direction, what's happening here, I don't I don't like what I'm doing, I think I could be doing more but I'm not, I feel out of shape, I feel unengaged.

Or maybe some specifically hard bad things happen to you and you're having a hard time moving past that. Maybe you just have a really dark view or understanding of the world at the time. Screens can be a really good palliative in this case right. It's filling in, I don't want to deal with that psychic pain of these uncomfortable thoughts.

So I have a video game. I have this Instagram feed I'm going through. I'm just tick-tocking again and again and again and there's there's emotions happening, there's chemicals moving. It's a digital form of what a hundred years ago we would have dealt with with a lot of whiskey at a old-fashioned saloon.

And then we're at work there's something similar going on. I mean knowledge work in particular it was such a fast-moving field. It's such the wild wild west in terms of systems and processes that a lot of us just look up one day and it's like we're the character in the Mike Judge movie office space where we don't really know exactly what it is we do other than it involves a lot of screens and forms and we're constantly moving around.

And when that consultant says what would you say you really do here you don't really have a great answer. You strategize and synergize jumping on calls in between your email calendar appointments for the doodle meetings. Just busyness, pseudo productivity. And we don't know what else to do so we just engage in that.

I don't know what else work is going to be so at least I'm active. And so we just find ourselves on screens all day at work. We're filling in this case the psychic pain from I don't even really know what my job is. I'm worried about that. I don't build something I can point to.

I don't write something I can point to. So I just need to be really busy and anytime I'm not busy it's a problem. So screen, screen, screens. So solution is something deeper that gets at that psychic pain and gives us something to focus towards that is more motivating. Something that will prevent us from being on email all day because it's already clear what it is you need to be doing and you want to get after it and jumping on another zoom call is going to get in the way of it.

So you can say with confidence no this is what I'm doing. Judge me by my results. So at home you're not zoning out on social media because there are more appealing and important things you are working on in your life and your quest to have depth and make a difference and that would just be a waste and it's not that interesting anymore to you.

It's the psychological equivalent of in the world of health where after having really bad eating habits and you change the way you eat and your exercise and your fitness you look at an oreo that might have before been impossibly appealing and then you look at it after that overhaul and say this seems weird it's chemicals and sugary and I have no interest in it.

We won't get to the same place with your screens. So you want to cultivate a deeper life and again this is this was a fundamental understanding for me is that it was difficult for me to be a technology critic without being able to offer to people what it is that they could do instead when they began to unplug themselves from the constant distraction.

This took me a while to figure out that you can't just go to people and say being on email and your phone all day is a problem because if you take that away there's nothing else there to replace it. Full anxiety at work what am I doing here? Full anxiety at home I don't want to confront these ideas.

That I can't actually talk about things like the hyperactive hive mind and addictive attention engineering the type of things I talk about in my New Yorker articles that I talk about in my my techno criticism talks the type of things I talk about in my interviews and magazines on podcasts.

It's hard to just talk about those things without giving people the positive alternative that they should pursue instead. That's where the deep life came out of and that's what we're talking about today. So I invented earlier in the year what we call the deep life stack which was a step-by-step way to cultivate more depth in your life and I think now that I've had some time to think about it it has some problems.

But let's start with what that original stack was. For those who are watching instead of just listening I will draw a picture of one of the original stacks on my screen here. Again for those who are not watching but just listening everything I'm doing here is beautiful. I'm drawing layers.

These are the layers of the stack. I'm putting five of them on top of each other. Now there's a couple different small variations of the stack we talked about earlier in the year but they're all basically more or less in this shape. All right I'm now going to write inside each of these layers.

At the bottom, the first layer of the stack, the bottom layer, we had discipline. This was somewhat controversial but this is when I argued you actually have to start by injecting some regular discipline into your life because it changes your self-identity as someone who can do hard things that are important even if you don't want to.

Then we had values. Nothing like drawing on an iPad upright to get your best handwriting. Values was when you then next moving up the stack from discipline is where you got clear on what was important to you in your life. Then you went to service, fixing in your life how you could serve other people who are around you or important to you.

From there then came organization. It's going to be a long word for a small box. You had to get control over what's happening in your life, organize your obligations, organize your time. If you're going to have any hope of actually really aiming your energy in a good direction. Then finally you had vision which is where you get to the fun stuff.

This is where you build a vision for how to move your life towards something more remarkable. It is when you get to this final stack and the sequence that you do the type of stuff that we like to romanticize like changing your job or moving to a farm somewhere in the country.

There's a couple different variations of the stack but they're all more or less something like this. The idea was you moved up the stack in order starting with discipline moving all the way up to vision. What was the problem with this? It's missing some things. Here's what I discovered.

It's missing explicit mentions of some things that are foundationally important. I learned from you my readers and listeners for cultivating depth, physical growth, intellectual growth. These were things that we used to talk about on the show when we had the old bucket-based paradigm for the deep life. Keeping your body healthy, keeping your mind engaged.

This was not explicitly called out in this particular formulation. What about craft or learning to do things well? This idea of how do you learn to take on something difficult, deliberately practice it and get better at it. This is key to almost any direction for depth but doesn't have its own place in this stack.

There is also some pushback on a lack of ambition here. When we get to vision we were talking about overhauling parts of your life but when people think about the deep life zoomed out there's also this notion of some sort of larger scale legacy leaving type of initiative. That's at a scale that was too big for this.

Finally, and this was I thought something I found when I was just experimenting with this stack, is there's two different related initiatives that are mixed together in this particular stack formulation. There's the initiative where you're getting your life together. Hey quick interruption, if you want my free guide with my seven best ideas on how to cultivate the deep life go to calnewport.com/ideas or click the link right below in the description.

This is a great way to take action on the type of things we talk about here on this show. All right let's get back to it. Okay if you don't have your life together and a control of things it's hard to do anything values driven or interesting. Then there's the initiative of trying to do really cool things that mark a life as deep.

In this stack they're mixed together. Discipline, that's sort of getting your life together. Values is part of cultivating a vision of the depth. Organization is about getting your life together. Vision is more about how to cultivate depth and some of the feedback I was getting from my own experimentation is these are maybe two separate endeavors.

Get your crap together. Okay I'm done with that. Now we'll turn our attention to how do we aim this somewhere depth. So these were all things that came up when I was looking at the original deep life stack. So we're going to try to fix that with our new version 2.0.

Maybe I'll even type that. Let's see here I'm going to actually right on the screen here. Oh my. Jesse I have no idea how notability works. Oh I see. You know I've been thrown by, by the way this is not interesting, but I switched my note-taking software. To what?

Good notes I think it's called. You switched it off of? Notability I was using to teach my lectures and then it developed some bug where when it was projecting on the screen and I was typing into it, it would continually jump up and down where it was on the screen.

So I like the program but it had this weird bug in projection so I had to switch. Huh. All right here we go I'm typing on the screen the deep life, deep life Stacy, the deep life stack version 2.0. All right so what are we going to do here to fix all of those mistakes, not mistakes, but we'll call them shortcomings that we were missing in the prior stack.

And let me uh highlight this to show you how good I am. Look at that. I highlighted the word the deep life stack. It looks good. Yeah then look good. Professional operation here. All right so how are we going to update the deep life stack, our systematic plan for escaping the shallows.

To take in mind those flaws we had with the original version, I'm going to break it into two stages. So in the the first stage, called stage one, this oh man that's not how you spell stage. Stage one is where you learn to become a capable human being. We're going to make this its own stage.

So we're going to say become a capable human being. And we're going to isolate this. Let's do this stage, do everything involved in this stage first before we move on to what we'll call stage two, surprisingly enough, which is then cultivate depth. So we're not going to mix these together anymore.

Let's get our act together. Let's become a capable human being or what Jocko Willink called in his book The Code, imminently qualified human. I like that. Jocko talks about becoming an imminently qualified human. Well we're going to talk about becoming an imminently capable human being. This is going to have its own collection of four stack layers.

Once you're done with that, stage two, four more stack layers, cultivate depth on top of that foundation. All right so this is the first place we're changing things. All right so let's actually draw our four stacks, our four stack layers over here for becoming a more capable human being.

So we're going to have four here and then four for cultivating depth. You do stage one first, then you do stage two. All right so we're going to start as before with discipline, but now again this is coming from feedback. We are going to specify the three places where we're going to pursue discipline as the foundational layer of the deep life stack.

That's going to be body, mind, heart. So as before, what does it mean discipline? We're going to have you select some keystone habits, habits you return to every single day, habits that you track whether or not you actually accomplish them. They should not be trivial, but they should also be tractable.

Unlike before, I'm going to tell you specifically what the three categories are. You should have three habits and they should follow these three categories. Body, you need a fitness habit, something about making your body more healthy. This could be exercise, this could be involving food and drink. The second category is mind.

This is going to be making your mind sharper. You have an instrument here, but you have to train it how to think. So we need to lay down a foundational habit probably built around reading. It's going to be our best bet here where this becomes a regular part of your life that you're tracking.

And then heart by this I mean other people. There's something you're doing on a regular basis and it could just be calling or texting or emailing a different friend or family member every single day. It could be checking in with you know your partner or your kids every day and having a conversation with them.

Body, mind, heart, keystone habit for each. As we iterate through the stack you can make those challenges harder and harder. So if you're just getting started with this your body habit might be pretty simple. It's this 20 minute walk that you do to a coffee store and back each morning followed by 20 push-ups.

It might be simple but you're doing it every day. As we iterate over time that's going to get more and more potentially aggressive in its ambition. It could eventually end up a really rigorous workout routine for example. All right we go from here now straight up to control. This is what we used to call organization.

Same idea. Control your time. Control your obligations. You want to do this right away. Lay down this foundation of discipline. I'm practicing doing things that are important to me that aren't urgent. Very next thing you do let's get control of our obligations. Let's get control of our time. This is where you're going to deploy things like my multi-scale planning methodology.

It's where you're going to deploy things such as full capture. David Allen style full capture. Every obligation is written down in a trusted system not just in your head. Your time block planning your days. Those are based on weekly plans which are based on quarterly plans. No open loops.

Nothing you're just keeping track of in your head. You have a plan for your time. You have your obligations captured. You have a plan for executing the obligations that need to be done. There's a big part about becoming a capable human. I only have so much energy and time to deploy each day.

I want to do so with intention. So I'm moving this right up front in the deep life stack. Right after you got a taste of discipline you're getting your craft together. On top of this I'm then going to put craft. Just learning how to do something really well. This again is going to be at the core of almost any reasonable vision of the deep life is going to be quality.

You learning how to do something really well and or you learning how to really appreciate someone else doing something really well but an embrace of craftsmanship and quality. So craft is where you're going to begin practicing two things. One getting better and you could jump right in with a work related skill here.

As you go through this stack let me choose a skill that I am going to deliberately and systematically improve on but maybe it's going to be a hobby. You know I think some of the the more bro oriented really big podcasters that are out there have gotten some flack because they all seem to be picking up the same sort of seemingly anachronistic or arbitrary hobbies such as bow hunting.

Why is Joe Rogan and Jocko Willink and all these people bow hunting and it seems so random but you know what there's a logic behind that which is learning to do something really well teaches you how what it takes to do things really well. You can then translate that to other things to come up that are more important.

In other words learning even if it's learning how to play guitar or shoot an arrow but systematically building up that skill gives you the type of muscles you need mentally speaking to say okay now when there's something else I want to learn to help transform my career there's something else I want to learn to make a big impact over here you know what that feels like and what that takes.

So when it comes to this craft stack when you first get there you're going to learn a skill. It could be a hobby it could be professional. I also want you to appreciate other people who do skilled work because that helps motivate you to get better. I write about this a lot of my book coming out in March Slow Productivity this idea of being exposed to people doing really good work makes you want to do really good work so as part of your first time through this craft layer I'm going to recommend that you build up an appreciation of some sort of craft.

So I'll put two arrows here get better and then we'll say appreciate better. All right so then our final building block we're going to put for the first stage simplification. Final step to get ready to cultivate depth we got to clear out the dead weight. So this is where you go through now that you have some discipline you're in control of your time you have an appreciation for and trust and craft as the way forward now you can say let's start slashing some of these obligations.

Let's change the way you know what we're doing at work and I'm going to put all my chips onto this over here and no longer get involved in this or I'm going to simplify or shift laterally to something that's more focused or is more accountable. It is also critically where you can do your first attempt to simplify your technological life.

It's the first time you can step back and say okay I'm starting to get my feet under me why am I on TikTok all the time? Why am I on Instagram? What tools do I really need here? Maybe I should do some digital minimalism work backwards from what's important to me use those to select value so you can start simplifying out your habits.

Like the single most important techno-simplification small step you could take at this step would be let's do phone foyer method. When I'm at home the phone's plugged in. If I need to look something up I can go to the phone to look at it. It's not with me when I'm in front of the TV.

It's not with me when I'm trying to read. It's not with me at the table when I'm trying to eat dinner. I do not have the option of just looking at that. So you could begin to simplify these parts of your life as well. All of this sets the stage for stage two which is now let's start cultivating depth on top of this foundation.

So we're going to have four boxes over here as well. This is where the fun stuff happens. This is where the stuff that catches people at people's attention happens. You do the first stage people are going to say yeah you got your act together. Yeah they got their act together.

Stage two is where people say wow this person is interesting. All right so I'm going to put as the let me draw arrows by the way so we see the order here. Beautifully drawn arrows. Bob Ross does happy trees. I do crappy arrows. All right so first stack layer over here in stage two.

Now we get to the values. You figure out your code what you're all about. You figure out the rituals that connect you on a regular basis to these things you care about. This is where if you're religious or interested in being religious is you really lean into that. It's where you really recognize that faith traditions actually depend on action for you to gain insight.

You can't just figure out in advance is this religion right. You do the religion and say how does it make me feel. All that happens here. Now this feels really late but again I'm convinced that when you come to these higher order decisions in your life from a foundation of capability it's more meaningful and it's more effective.

So I push this later. People often say let's just start with this but if you have no foundation in a code or rituals or a faith-based tradition it's hard to start there. You're throwing darts at a board. You don't even know what you're capable of or have the capacity to follow in a disciplined way what's required to actually gain insight.

So let's become capable first. Now we're getting to the bigger stuff. So values now comes next. This is followed by service. You need to be a leader. You need to serve other people. Community. Without it you're nothing. Now you're ready to actually be a leader. Before you weren't capable enough.

You could kind of be a leader but you're going to drop the ball and people weren't you weren't going to have a big effect on people. You weren't going to move the needle. Now you're an exceptionally capable person. Let's put that to work. Serve other people. Non-trivial sacrifice on behalf of other people that are important to you.

Family, friends, community, larger civic society at large. You can move up these layers as far as you want. Make this a key one thing, a tier one thing now that you're starting to work at in your life. Then we get transformation. The crazy thing is of all of these stacks this is what the one place most people think when they think about cultivating a deeper life is this one stack.

Transformations where you make the big values-based changes. You get a clear vision of what you want your lifestyle to be like and you begin making concrete changes to move you towards this lifestyle. Preferably there's some element of remarkability in these visions. It's where you change your job. It's where you move to the countryside.

It's where you become the surf instructor in Tolfino on the west coast of Vancouver Island. It's where the big kind of cool stuff happens but look at how many layers. How many layers we had to go through. I even have a laser pointer I can show you right. All the way up, all the way up before we move to Vancouver Island, before we quit our job because you're not ready for that yet.

When you're not capable, if you try to make a big change, God knows what's going to happen. If you are capable but you're not have a sense of your values, if you're not sacrificing on behalf of other people, filling that deeply social leadership itch that all humans have, then your transformation is going to be shallow.

It's going to be selfish. It's not until this point that you're finally ready for that. Then we can add the final thing which is legacy. That's where you begin thinking about what's the impact I want to leave on the world even after I'm gone. The sort of bigger picture orienting mission for your life.

This is so big I would say you could probably go all the way through the stack and stop at transformation the first time through. You might go through this stack a few times iterating, tweaking, and improving each of these layers before you really get into legacy. You don't have to get there right away.

In fact you probably aren't ready to get there right away because you haven't done all this other cool stuff yet. So how do all these pieces come together? Well you actually move through this stack and give yourself one to three weeks for each of these layers to get that part of your life going and making sure it's going well.

You move your way through the stack you could end the transformation if you want at first. Legacy can come later. Then live with this for six months to a year then come back and iterate. All right let's go back to the stack. How are things going with discipline? I want to upcharge this.

I want more aggressive physical discipline. I want to do better with my relationships. What's going with control? Well it was going well but I left finances out of there. I want to fix that up. So you iterate six months to a year. You iterate through go through each layer.

Give it time to improve what's happening there. You iterate every six to twelve months and improve on each of these layers again and again. Each time you make it through to transformation maybe you're thinking about a different thing you want to transform in your life. After you've done this five years in a row you may have had several major transformations.

You've also tightened up all these other things and now your life is really humming. Now the idea that you're just going to go to a cubicle and check email all day and then be on TikTok all evening might seem laughable. Maybe you're ready to even really jump into this legacy stack at this point and start to have some really exciting long-term visions about what you're going to leave in the world.

So this is the DeepLife stack 2.0. Stage one become a more capable human. Stage two cultivate death. Then iterate and repeat, iterate and repeat. As mentioned it seems very far away at first from the the proximate concerns of I'm distracted by my screens but if you don't have a shining destination to aim towards that's more interesting than the glow coming off those pieces of glass those pieces of glass are going to win.

And so we have to talk about our lives if we're going to talk about our technology. So this is DeepLife stack version 2.0. Let me know how it goes with you. You can submit a question or case study or question at thedeeplife.com/listen or you can send us an email at jessie@calnewport.com if you want to tell us about it.

I'm working with this new version of stack right now in my life. I want to hear about how it goes with you as well. Let's all get deeper together. We got to get like a graphic artist Jesse. That's the you got it down though it's from your professor stuff.

I do write I use a tablet to teach. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So so uh you know I like this is geeky but it's a control control layer of the stack. I really like writing on my remarkable much more than on an iPad. Because remarkable was one of the big things they engineered was friction.

So you get friction. iPad's very slippery. There is a way I think to project your remarkable onto a screen. But I like having colors and yeah the other types of things. But that laser pointer was cool. Oh the the other note-taking program I'm using now the laser pointer leaves a trail for a couple seconds.

It's like if you circle something it like stays circled for a couple seconds and then it kind of fades out. Future is now Jesse. Officially arrived. All right so we got a bunch of questions calls and case studies about all this type of deep life deep work type issues.

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Interesting. It seems like prioritizing deep work means that to-do list can only increase as time passes because deep work can never be completed faster than shall work. If you agree that this is true how should we respond to this reality? I think we have a couple questions like this this week.

That when we're thinking about deep work as part of the our vision of the deep life it comes to mean some pretty weird things for people. It becomes this um amorphous extra demanding almost like selfish commitment that's in addition to all of your other normal work. It comes through that way so you hear a question like this it's like well if I'm doing deep work uh then that's taking away time for all these shallow tasks people need me to do that those will pile up.

Here's the thing about deep work it's not an extra thing you add on your plate it is an approach to how you execute the things that are already on your plate. If you have a non-entry level job in knowledge work there are some things that are cognitively demanding like writing a report or analyzing data or coming up with a new marketing campaign there's some things you do that are not so cognitively demanding it's you know answering emails or filling out forms.

What's the right way to do the cognitively demanding stuff? The deep work hypothesis says you should give it your full attention so you're working on something cognitively demanding give it your full attention and you'll be able to do it faster and better than if you instead interleave your cognitively demanding task with the shallower task.

If you keep going back and forth it slows everything down. So to say I I'm committed to deep work it doesn't mean I am now adding to my job these extra activities I call deep work it just says I'm going to be much more aware of how I tackle my work.

I'll do the shallow stuff all together deep work all together it'll all take less time. So your to-do list will get smaller if you context shift left less and better segregate different types of cognitive demands in your daily schedule. All right so deep work is not some extra thing you're adding to your normal life it's a way of taking what you're already doing in your working life and doing it more efficiently and doing it better.

Man the deep deep work really becomes a boogeyman for people sometimes. Yeah it's like you know I'd love to do deep work but I have to feed my children or something you know like people are like uh it's this thing I think people see it as like some ritual where you put on a hood and like your kids are crying hungry at home because you're around the fire in the woods with your hood like chanting uh making chants about whatever Hemingway's writing strategies I mean it's weird it it represents for a lot of people a lot of stuff that I think it's kind of boring I mean it's don't switch your attention back and forth when working on the hard stuff you'll do it faster and it'll be better.

Yeah. It's a better way to do the hard stuff than to switch it back and forth. All right well we got let's do I think the next question is similar so let's handle that one. Yep next question is from Eric. I want to ascend to a management position in order to have more complex challenges and responsibilities.

I've been told that I need to work on my soft skills. Are deep work principles potentially harmful to collaborate the soft skills needed to get to the next level and that they encourage a monk-like individualistic approach to work? Well as I point out clearly in the book Deep Work I say okay principle one of deep work uh when you're working you now have to make a a long pilgrimage to a monastery or a monastic-like location.

It needs to be not unlike Luke Skywalker that island he goes to in whatever that Star Wars movie is where they filmed it on Skellig Island in Ireland. So you're on some deserted island where you need to go and you need to be wearing a robe and you need to be there minimum and I just want to be realistic here minimum 135 days and during that time you may not speak or communicate with the outside world.

You can drink warm water and bread crust as all of your attention is focused on just summoning summoning from the spiritual depths the excel spreadsheet that you're trying to write. So yes I mean if you're going to do deep work we're talking about hundreds of days living on Skellig Island eating only bread crust because that's what the principles demand.

Now clearly I'm being very very very sarcastic because again deep work is about how do you handle cognitively demanding tasks when working on those tasks give them your full focus don't context switch back and forth. Now I think this is actually relevant here because there's a flip side to it that if you're giving work let me categorize my work into different types of cognitive categories so I can tackle work each type of work with the right type of environment or approach it goes the other way as well.

So the flip side of okay when I'm working on this complicated excel spreadsheet I'm just going to focus just on that without context switching. The flip side is okay but then when it comes time to do talk to people in the office let me give that my full attention and just focus on the soft skills and doing that really well.

Let me consolidate all of the sort of walking around and talking to people and planning so that I'm not doing that in a a harried way in between other hard things or I'm just trying to clear my inbox. I can actually give the attention necessary to come sit down with people look them in their eye.

So when you give each type of task its own time and therefore you can treat each type of task in the way that it best needs to be treated. You do everything better. So not just deep work stuff gets done better but the soft skill stuff can get done better as well.

And the logistical stuff it's less mistakes and it goes faster. Okay this is the time I'm doing logistical stuff now that's all I'm doing I'm in that context and I can I can go quicker and I can build some systems and and I can realize I don't need to do this.

I mean everything is better when it's done in its own context and not all mixed together and that's really what's being pushed for in deep work is the cognitively demanding stuff needs to be isolated from the other stuff. And you need to do that because it's the stuff that ultimately is going to matter in your career more to almost anything else because if you're not producing something valuable then where is your value for the organization.

So have a equivalent to the deep work mindset for your soft skills is what I would ultimately advise here. I actually talked to someone I know let me be very specific here who did this recently this exact situation Eric I forgot I forgot the name of the person asked the question Eric someone I know was telling me about this the other day where they got this specific feedback they're very good at the skills they the cognitively demanding skills to do they weren't their soft skills were lacking yeah you got to talk you got to be uh better connected to the people in the office 30-man office so he got systematic about it and I don't remember all the details but I believe he was doing something like um he was working remotely most days and I was like actually I'm going to come into the office three days a week and every time I come into the office these people this is a checklist this is the way I would handle it too I'm very introverted I'm going to talk to each of these three people I'm going to have a conversation with them and yeah it's a checklist that I'm coming into the office these days and during this time I'm going to go talk to people but day after day week after week those soft skills are getting better those relationships are getting better so by giving each type of task its own isolated context where you can tackle that task with exactly what that task needs to be done well you can get better at all the different parts of your job so not just your deep work gets better but your soft skills get better your logistical work gets done faster you find more efficiencies so no deep work will not keep you from your soft skills treat it with the same respect that you treat the the cognitively demanding work and I think you'll do better I could probably use some soft skills help professors are not known for soft skills because we have no feedback function well you talk to the students all the time that's true but we don't have to be good at that I mean we don't have a feedback function right so if you're like a normal job and acted in the way let's say 50 percent of professors act in a faculty meeting the boss would be like my god you're fired this is this is a crazy way to behave as like a grown adult but you have tenure you're a professor there's no feedback function right you're not being hired so there's no one to fire you so people just get weirder and weirder professors get strange let's put it that way not all I think I'm a pretty normal guy but we get strange let's be honest all right let's keep rolling here all right next question is from josh how do I deal with having to stop working on something that is still in progress and not a clean checkpoint and not at a clean checkpoint in my job I work on longer term less well-defined larger tasks which means that on many days I find at the end of the day when I'm still very much in the middle of solving a particular problem I'm stuck and don't know what to do josh I feel your pain on this because I was in that same spot earlier in my career the same spot where I found myself with essentially endless cognitively demanding work to do that had no clean shutdown points and the evenings were difficult the particular spot where this happened for me and I remember this clearly is when I was working on my doctoral dissertation at MIT it's a very large sort of mathematical project and I made the in retrospect maybe not so smart decision that when it came to my doctoral dissertation I was going to do all new work so typically in computer science if you're a doctoral student you're publishing a lot of papers and I was and when your dissertation comes around you're taking you know these five papers in which I explored this theme I'm going to build my thesis around it I didn't do that I said I already wrote those papers I want to do something new so my doctoral dissertation was all new mathematics I was doing from scratch because I thought it would be boring just to go back and stitch together papers I already did so it was uh happening again and again I would get to the end of the day I'd be in the middle of a proof like the big thing for me is I'm not getting this proof to work really hard to shut down there because imagine the train of thought I don't have this proof working what if I never get this proof to work if this proof doesn't work this whole approach for this chapter my thesis will fall apart if I don't have that chapter I'm not going to be able to submit this thesis I'm not going to get my degree you could see how the do right down the line so I was like man I need some way of quieting my brain when I'm ready to stop working for the day there was very rarely would I finish a nice proof at five o'clock that is when I invented my shutdown ritual the shutdown ritual we talk about all the time on this show the shutdown ritual that is encoded into my time block planner the shutdown ritual that I talked about in my book deep work I invented it for exactly this issue so there's two aspects to a shutdown ritual one I think is the more common thing we talk about and it's going to be less relevant for you Josh but that's the thing where you just close open loops this is was there stuff that came up today that I need to write down or put on my calendar is there like an urgent email I need to answer it's the making sure there's not something that you're just keeping track of only in your mind you get that all into a system it's where you check on your plan for the next day like okay everything is good I'm not missing something but the other aspect of my shutdown ritual which was very big for me then but I don't talk about as much now was reflecting on the work in progress putting a cap on it for the day okay here's where I am here's where I'm stuck here is two things I'm going to try tomorrow that might get me unstuck doing that work which could take anywhere between 10 to 20 minutes and when I shut down the work it's not that I had solved it but I had built from scratch a hasty checkpoint I this isn't working but let me write down I remember so clearly writing down here's why this is not working you know the summation has a xenos paradox issue here are two things I might look at tomorrow go read the the proof from such and such paper they did something similar maybe there's something there that could help me or see if there's you know talk to so and so about if there's like a simple uh concentration bound I could put here instead like you write down a couple things you could do you can't do them right now they're take an hour or so but you're writing them this is what I'm gonna do next that's all you need to get a clean checkpoint and your brain says okay we know where we are we have a plan we'll get back to that plan tomorrow it's just as good starting that plan in the morning as it is doing it right now and it will release that ongoing work in fact it's not even a bad thing to do this it's I mean it's not okay I'm dealing with a bad situation it's a bad situation that I'm not at a clean checkpoint and I have to invent this hasty checkpoint I wish it didn't have to happen but it did that's actually not the situation it's beneficial to have these hastily created checkpoints a lot of writers do this we joked about Hemingway earlier but but this is something that Hemingway himself actually did is he liked to be in the middle if he was in a role writing kind of in the middle of a paragraph even in the middle of a sentence and shut off so that the next day he'd be picking up in the middle of something where there was some momentum that was already going he could just read up to that point and get going much easier place to start than at the start of a new chapter so if anything what you're going to get by stopping in the middle of ongoing work is a fresh legs or fresh arm the next morning so you're going to be able to continue working on that with a fresh brain instead of trying to drag it through and perhaps some unconscious processing you've clarified the problem what you're going to work on you're not thinking about it because you have a clear shutdown routine but your brain might in the background and you get there the next morning you're like man actually yeah this works pretty well so see this as a feature not a bug do a clean shutdown routine every day work is done when the shutdown routine has been completed if your mind bothers you say i'm not going to get into your rumination we're not going to think about work because we did the routine i'll see you in the morning that routine should close open loops but also create temporary checkpoints where needed here's where i'm stuck here's i'm going to work on the next day let your mind take a breather you'll hit the ground running the next day josh it saved me so much anxiety that it turned off made the rest of my ill-fated decision to write a dissertation from scratch a little bit less onerous i was also writing a book at this time don't get me started the shutdown ritual really helped so add that component to it josh i think you'll find it's going to uh it's going to make a big difference all right let's see we have some calls right yeah all right i'm excited about calls uh here we go hey cal an issue that i often have during periods of deep work or attempted deep work is um dealing with intrusive thoughts about you know other things that i could be doing with my time so i might be reading an academic paper and you know these thoughts keep popping in my head like oh i should be working out or i should be practicing piano and it just feels that i'm always um you know thinking about the next task or something else that i should be doing so i don't know if part of the problem is that i haven't you know properly prioritize my activities during the day but um you know it i would describe it almost as fomo for all my uh given given tasks and activities in a day so just curious what you know your thoughts are and um you know if this is something that's common for people trying to engage in deep work thank you i'm glad you bring you bring this up because i i think it's a common issue that we don't talk about enough we talk about here's the mechanisms you use to plan your day but we don't necessarily talk about well how do you figure out the plan for your day that's almost always a given right like yeah you know what to do it's just a matter of sort of marshaling your activity better it's actually really hard especially when you're new to it especially if you're a student or you're new to the working world it's an endless array of things that you're trying to pull from both in work and both in life outside of your work and this idea of productivity fomo if i can coin a term is a real one so there's two different parts to my answer here one is just clarity right so i have a time block plan for my day that gives you clarity you thought about the plan you made the plan now your mind says it's not my job to do any more planning my job for the rest of the day is to execute this plan so clarity really helps that's why i'm a big proponent of time block planners it's why i have college students do this where they schedule out all the school work they're going to do on a regular basis i don't want you planning any more than you have to 10 minutes in the morning should be enough that's fine here's my plan and then all you're focusing on is following the plan the best you can fixing it if you need to so when you're writing the paper you're writing or reading the paper like in your example you're doing so because that's what the current block says on your schedule doesn't say work out workout is later it's not on this day now if you couple time block planning with weekly planning if you couple the weekly planning with quarterly or semester planning then you're going to get even more confidence in your clarity because you're looking at multiple time scales because your weekly plan is where you figured out here's when i'm going to work out this week so that when you get the tuesday and it's tuesday at 3 30 and you're writing your paper there's no reason for you to say should i be working out right now because you already know you're working out on monday wednesday and friday when you're doing it that's a part of your weekly plan and when you have the bigger picture FOMO like should i be uh working on a different research topic why am i even reading these papers your quarterly plan kicks in says no that's what i'm doing this season we're trying to learn this area of machine learning and see if we can write a paper and we'll check in at the end of the season so clarity at multiple scales gives you confidence in the moment of the thing i'm doing is as reasonable a thing as there is to do i don't need to be thinking about it again right now the second thing i want to throw in here is grace grace for yourself you say yeah i'm building a reasonable plan i want to execute it maybe it's the best maybe it's not sometimes we better than others sometimes it's a dead end it's okay i don't have to be a scheduling genius i'm not you know pushing 10 in an air traffic control center somewhere where if i make a mistake a 747 is going to crash into the golden gate bridge you're building a schedule for a college student you're building one week schedule for a 40 year career you're going to have in the world of work so you you do your best with multi-scale planning some some days are no better than others some plans will work better than others you'll get better at it through experience and just give yourself some grace the binary flip here that matters is reactive proactive disorganized intentional that's the binary flip you should be proud of i'm marshalling my energy i'm not letting it dissipate randomly or in other people's agendas i have a plan at different scales i do my best to execute it sometimes better than others the plans will get better as i go along and now i've done my shutdown routine and i'm gonna have a margarita get out of my face you know you just can relax a little bit about it so clarity plus grace and just trust over time you'll you'll be fine you'll get you'll do better at this just by having a plan at all you're doing much better than 98 of the other people around you you're going to get that cumulative it's like having you know aggregate compounding interest over time that advantage is going to build and build and build 20 years in your career you're just going to have control over everything where other people are still bouncing around frenetically from thing to thing and mad at everyone everything's not fair you're just going to be like i control my life you know you're going to have compounding interest of that intentional aim of your energy even if it's not always super accurate is better than random dissipation so it's a good question i'm glad you asked it clarity plus grace you'll be fine we have another call we have another call two call show yep two calls here we go hi cal i'm brett i'm an adjunct instructor at a private university in the southeastern united states and a long-time acolyte of your approach to productivity i'm hoping you can answer this question with the speed of hermes you've mentioned the working memory dot text file you use for impromptu ideas while concentrating on other work the question do you clear out everything in this file every day and start new the next day or is the file a semi-permanent collection of those ideas a good question also good greek reference just see i don't know if our new listeners know about this no i mean that's this is like a deep hole back when i used to do the call-in show once a week um i don't know how to describe it other than the callers back when we did a lot of calls decided that the more superfluous references to greek mythology the better so this is like a pull from the past i really do appreciate that it makes no sense to people listening now but that's okay that's between us and the uh the old timers also a really good question um if i'm able to do a full shutdown which is my goal almost every day some days i don't get there part of my shutdown routine is clearing my working memory dot txt so i am a huge believer of the working text working memory dot txt file just have a blank unformatted text file on your desktop that you add to things throughout your day no matter what you're doing is where you offload stuff out of your brain temporarily because you can only store so many things you're on a call that's where you're taking notes you're you're going through your inbox it's where you're writing the the things over here like the dates you go to your calendar and then you can see if those dates are free you're creating a task list for a task block you do it right there you're you're copying text that you're going to paste into something else you copy it into the working memory dot txt it's the most useful most commonly used digital tool i uh in my life in terms of my professional life and it's a it's a blank text file but yes you should clear it down to empty this is an extension of your brain it is not a storage system it's not a planning system you should have a separate place to keep track of obligations your priority obligation list you should have a calendar for appointments you should have planning documents for plans planners daily planners for daily plans it's not it's not part of your permanent storage uh systems think of it as like sand that's going to get shaken fresh at the end of every day and monica can use that when she's in deep work sessions too right yeah yeah yeah so if you have thoughts during deep work sessions like oh what about this what about that uh it's a great use for it drop drop drop drop drop and then once you're done with your deep work session and and shutting it down you can process hey what did i write down during the session yeah it's a fantastic tool all right let's uh let's do a case study i've done one of these or we've been doing these more recently is what i mean to say we have done these more recently a case study is where one of you my listener sends in a story of how they've been using this advice in their specific details of their own life this case study comes from logan logan says my wife and i moved from suburbs the suburbs of the denver metro area to build a house on my parents land in the foothills in a relatively rural environment we did this to have a deeper life and focus on raising our children in a slow and outdoor environment there's a lot of interesting deep life related trade-offs that went into making that choice but the actual interesting case study to me relates to slow productivity in order to reduce cost and be able to afford the house build without a mortgage we reduced the contractor scope to stop at texture drywall with us doing uh painting final electric final plumbing flooring door install cabinets kitchen all the trim ourselves an avid listener of your show i decided last minute to take a slow productivity approach that is for the month of april i am taking two hours off of work every day and have drastically reduced my other hobbies and commitments this has enabled me to get about four hours of construction done each day with my wife helping for two to three of that granted we are only halfway through april as i write this but i'm shocked and pleased at how much progress we have been able to make with this approach and how little exhaustion or burnout i have felt consider me a slow productivity convert one thing at a time no individual day is incredibly important and let the results stack up i love this because it is an example that is relevant to the world of work that's coming from the world outside of work the world of housework this is a very common experience among people who do big projects outside of their professional life man it was so fulfilling to just work slowly but steadily on this thing and i really love the way that logan described this no day is important but every day adds up so it's not there's no stress in this particular wednesday i'm spending three hours working on trim you could be sick and not do trim for three hours on that wednesday nothing bad happens but you have enough of those wednesdays and all the trim gets done and you have this concrete accomplishment that is what we are wired to appreciate as humans the slow sustainable aggregation of effort towards well-done high quality results that we're proud of now fast forward to the typical computer knowledge work job it's the opposite all day long frenetic back and forth activity we've taken all these different projects that we interleave with each other and we're just trying to keep the plate spinning by answering this email and sitting off this just in turn you can respond to this and jumping on zoom over here and back and forth and it's just as frenetic i can't even tell you all the things i'm working on i'm barely working on it work has been devolved to like emails back and forth or sometimes some you know decisions get made in a meeting and some drastic writing it is the opposite of the slow but sustainable work it's not slow it's very fast it's not clearly defined we have multiple things that we have unspecified roles on that are they're coming in and out of our scope of activity and it's not sustainable if i if i'm sick and i have these hidden projects i'm emailing all day it's a real big issue everything grinds to a halt so it's a constant source this sort of background anxiety so logan working on his house is the epitome of slow productivity my idea this is the idea of my book slow productivity that comes out in march is we need to port this over to work the world of our jobs the world of knowledge work this is what work should be slowly but steadily on wildly important stuff it's like this is what we're wired to do it's how you can maximize the value produced for yourself and for the world we're so far from that right now and we shouldn't be so i really 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popular the author has done a lot of interviews so people have been sending me clips of this author very interesting story very interesting book i want to talk about some of the ideas in the book and give you maybe my own take on these same themes which is a little bit different than where he comes down so i'll load the book here up on the screen for those who are watching at home the book is called burn the boats toss plan b overboard and unleash your full potential is written by matt higgins who has a really cool story let me read you a little bit from the book jacket in this gripping rags to riches instant classic matt higgins provides the blueprint he used to go from a desperate 16 year old high school dropout caring for a sick mother in queens new york to a shark on shark tank and the faculty of harvard business school told with raw emotion radical transparency higgins writes the definitive tome on the oldest life hack in history burn the boats from sun tzu to julius caesar the ancient israelites to ukrainian president vladimir zalinsky was vladimir zalinsky i say that wrong there's a bold and highly effective tactic seen throughout history when leaders want to motivate their troops for success they destroy all opportunities for retreat and fully commit to the mission they burn their boats its win or perish and the clarity of sheer desperation propels them to victory skipping ahead here the book jacket says burn the boats is the manifesto for anyone looking to level up their life while navigating risk each chapter includes clear actual advice that readers can immediately start applying to their own lives this book will give you the courage to confidently go all in on your life's true purpose so matt has a he's a very impressive guy and has a very cool story really came out of a hard situation to a lot of success and he used this idea and he's been telling this idea a lot and he's been getting a lot of play so i wanted to talk about this because a very similar concept came up as a major theme when i was working on my 2012 book so good they can't ignore you so so good they can't ignore you was a book that was looking at career advice and so the idea that i was in uh engaging with from the world of career advice in so good they can't ignore you one of the big ideas i was engaging with is what i called courage culture and at the time so this is the the 2000s the first decade of the 2000s when i was working on this courage culture had a really big footprint in the career advice space and that the theory behind courage culture was straightforward it said the most important thing in terms of transforming your work into something that you're passionate about is having the courage to go after that thing you love so courage culture uh prioritizes courage as the the key issue so look i'm going to draw a picture here and again my apologies for people who who are actually seeing this um but but in courage culture i'll draw this this rough picture um what it's saying is okay the the the path all right so i'm drawing a squiggly line here at the end of the squiggly line is a person smiling jesse will tell you for the listeners expertly drawn holding their hands in the air triumphantly um and what is the what is the obstacle here is you have this this obstacle up front this big jude is like a red squiggle and it's fear so this great illustration on the screen so courage culture said here's the issue is if you can overcome that fear which is built and there's all sorts of sources of it parental expectation conformity to society you can overcome that fear you have a pretty easy path to being very happy so we have to build up courage to find happiness i push back on this as i went out there and i studied people who were very passionate about their careers and i studied their actual lives not just what they said and what i saw was a different picture so the path that they took if you're looking at the uh screen now you'll see this the path they took was uh uphill so now my picture it's a pretty arduous uphill path right so it's like going up a mountain and so what is uh what is stopping them here so what's in the way of this uphill path is an expertly drawn brain oh god i'm getting creative here jesse an expertly drawn brain that is seen oh man changing color this is getting my i'm really impressed by my drawing uh is seen as drawn by these orange dots the hardness of this path and saying okay i'm going to preserve energy pretty good right jesse yeah it's great all right so if you look at these two different interpretations you get two different ways to go forward so courage culture says this first picture is what's happening so you got just get really inspired so you have this moment of courage and overcome your fear and once you leap over to the other side you have this easy path that was waiting there all along just going to get you to happiness this other uh approach which i said was more realistic is the reason why you're you're hesitating to get going is that often it is really really hard to get the success with something really cool and your brain recognizes that and it sees how hard it is and it says hey buddy i like the guy at the top of the mountain with their hands in the air but you're not ready to do this you don't really understand how to hike this long you don't know how your compass works you don't have enough water i checked your boots they're pretty bad you haven't checked the weather do you have a jacket and so your brain says we're not going to engage on this long-term plan until i'm more confident that you know what the hell you're doing now last week on the show we got into the neuroscience of this this actual process is called episodic future thinking or eft it is your brain actually trying to project into the future and understanding of what's going to happen based on your experience and expertise that you already have stored in your hippocampus and seeing what it projects and if it likes what it projects then it's going to give you motivation and if it doesn't it's going to withhold it so if when your brain that the centers that are working on the eft the episodic future thinking are looking at what you understand and your plans and your past experiences and says you don't know how to get up that proverbial mountain you're not going to get motivation so my approach was it's not about getting the courage to just go for it it's filling up that hippocampus with enough evidence-based expertise and understanding of what you want to do that your brain when it projects in the future says yeah i see how this is going to happen that's cool we're going to get up that mountain that guy's hands in the air that's going to be us that ties to our values let's get after it and you're not at war with your brain you're co-opting your brain to get on your side i think we we over emphasize this idea of part of ourselves being afraid and we're trying to overcome that i think we've we've given that too much power and we have not given in our culture enough power to how effective eft really is at helping us make decisions about what to do in the future and when we switch our attention from the courage culture to the episodic future thinking approach it really changes the way we the way we strategize to go after something cool we don't burn the boats we say how quickly can we learn enough about this make enough little bets get enough expertise talk to people who know what they're doing how quickly can we convince our brain that this is something we can do there's still a little courage after that that might be required if what you want to do is quite different than what's expected people are correct to point out as they did when i was researching my book that you know it could be hard don't leave your law job don't leave your tenure track position don't become an artist when you should become a doctor you know that that is hard but not nearly as hard as we think when your mind is on board with a plan that leads to something that's true to its values it takes a little courage to tell your parent i'm not going to med school but it's not as much as you think if your brain is really on board with the alternative that you're going to do so this idea that you're going to burn your boat so you have no plan b that that's going to motivate you motivation doesn't get you up the hill equipment does skill does training does so you're you should not be looking to get rid of plan b's you should be looking instead to build better plan a's a little bit of courage might still be involved but it's not going to be that hard if you've gotten your mind on your side so see your mind not as an arbitrary obstacle but as your ally it is really good at saying hey do we have a good plan for what we're doing that's why humans are so successful as a species it's why we can invent things and build the pyramids and everything else we've done trust a human brain don't avoid plan b write a better plan a that's uh that's what i have i have seen to be successful i don't know if you remember that rhetoric from like the 90s and 2000s jesse but man it was everywhere you see it a lot in sports too yeah i just have the courage to go for it yeah yeah well it's okay can i i'm going to bring up an old man rant this nothing makes me seem older than this i've said it before on the show but i'm going to bring it up again cars three the pixar movie cars three because the the whole plot line of cars three centers on the fact that the the one car anthropomorphic car who's helping whatever his name is lightning mcqueen lightning mcqueen um train for his return because so lightning mcqueen's an old style stock car and now they have these new uh sort of computer design cars they're just faster it's better technology and he's going to train like i want to train to like overcome these technologically more superior calls cars the the whole plot line is the person training you know lightning was someone she always wanted i don't know how you gender a car but whatever it's a she in the show um she had always wanted to be a race car driver but had you know didn't have the courage to do it because you know i i guess she was a girl car i don't know how this i don't know how car gender works um so that was kind of the plot line like okay that's you know that's interesting right there's this interesting dynamic of like this is something she always wanted to do but couldn't um and now she's helping this other person do it the way the movie ends is they're on the racetrack and there's a super computer design cars lightning mcqueen by the way is like was one of the top stock car racers like top of the heap before this new technology came in so like whole life training to do this and at the very end the uh the the trainer gets the courage to say i'm just going to get on the track i don't care what people tell me i'm gonna race and she beats all the high tech cars no training no like how did how did her old technology overcome it no like so it was the courage culture personified that the only thing that was holding you back from beating these like super precision cars that had been trained this really well was just having the courage to compete for it and they're completely missing the part where you actually have to become good good at the thing so it was like courage culture personified was the trainer from cars three beating the high tech hyper cars because she had the courage to actually get on the track like what message are we teaching what message are we teaching kids it's like rookie of the year you know like the secret you could be pitching in the major leagues it's if you broke your arm in a weird way then that's it and then you're gonna you can't throw 100 mile per hour fastball it's like where's the training so i'll tell you i mean i stood up and gave that room full of kids in that theater an earful i'm like let me tell you about deliberate practice you know how many hours it took on average for a chess grandmaster to get there it's not just about overcoming fear you have to learn like how to be the world's best race car like most people can't be and if you want to be your whole life has to be dedicated to it and while you're at it let me tell you about dr no and fleming's like misplot yes and like and let me tell you about the torture tunnel and dr no all right kids i got a problem with that as well so they stake this broad to the to the volcanic rock so the crabs would eat her but crabs don't eat people you see what i'm saying i'm not welcome back in that theater again uh yeah that's the that's the moral of that story i'm not welcome back in that theater nor have my applications to join the writing staff at pixar been responded to or approved i want like dark gritty movies where they train really hard and in the end it's like you really you gave it your best but like you don't have the right vo2 max for the sport and that's kind of the ending of it oh my goodness all right enough of this nonsense all right thank you everyone uh for listening or watching to this week's episode and we'll be back next week with uh another show and until then as always stay deep so if you like today's discussion about the new version of my deep life stack you might also want to go back and check out episode 252 where i introduce the original version of this tool for transforming your life check it out but i thought this would be a great time to beta test my my more complete understanding of the deep life so we'll call today's deep question how do i rebuild my life into something deeper