what is the reason for some addictions and some seeking comfort in these things a lot of it is a inability to address the valid need so a lot of guys in your world they need escape so they and they do what nba guys do to dig into why do you feel like you need to escape that's not necessarily a bad thing let's dig into us find out what's a healthy way to do that you need to get space you need it to get relief the way you're doing it's killing you and so for me i think the first step to some of that stuff is just to dig in there and go like why did i cheat on my girlfriend in college why did i do that why did i expect suddenly to become a christian get married become a pastor and these things are going to vanish like because i'm praying more because i know more about jesus because i'm leading people because i'm a preacher no man like these things have to work together anybody can change but you got to really get in there and figure out the why